The (Complex) PTSD Guy

When we're mad that things aren't making sense, and we act out.

24 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Some points about feeling hopelessness and feeling like life is pointless. How this can lead to trouble and what I think a remedy might be.

Feeling lost vs feeling happy; and Low Self-esteem

22 May 2024

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The role low Self-esteem can play in regards to feeling lost in life, and how feeling happy can be a remedy.

Overcompensating when we feel incompetent

22 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are you trying to prove yourself, or overcompensate, due to feelings of incompetence?

How to stop blaming and move forward.

22 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

There's a key thing I recommend doing if you find yourself unable to move forward from your abuser and stop blaming them for your problems in life.

Procrastination creates stress, addressing it isn't as scary as it might seem.

22 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Addressing whatever it is you're procrastinating and how I recently did this and the result.

Reference for recent episode.

21 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I provide the dates of the podcast episodes that I referenced recently.

Interesting thing happened last night.

21 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

A very interesting thing happened last night. I wanted to share.

7 months alcohol-free

21 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I reflect back on how I approached being alcohol-free and what I'm doing to prevent going back to the companionship of alcohol.

When people annoy you.

20 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Why our response to annoying people might be a trigger for us.

Self-criticism and Comparing yourself to other people.

20 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Envy and self-criticism.

Camping as a stress reliever, specific points.

20 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I went to a camping store this weekend and noticed something that related to my points about camping as a way to relieve stress.

Happiness is not just a mindset, you have to GET happy.

19 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I talk about my recent experience with two different motivational people, and why I think they're missing something.

Symptoms that lead to boredom, and handling distractions.

17 May 2024

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I mention a few Complex PTSD symptoms that can lead to boredom and my solution for this. I also point out how to handle distractions.

Being highly impressionable, and Dissociation.

15 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you struggle with dissociation, it makes sense to me if you struggle with being highly impressionable.

"Self-Help" vs Solutions

14 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

A little bit of a rant, and a movie recommendation.

Internalizing other people's behavior.

14 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Don't internalize other people's behavior.

Fight or Flight thinking, and what to do about it.

12 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Why our physical brain can hold us back from handling problems rationally, and what to do about it.

Grieving vs Sadness

12 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Something to grieve about vs when you're sad.

The benefits of sharing your genuine interests with people.

11 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Some points on why it's nothing to be afraid of to share your genuine interests with people.

Being neutral and the PTSD brain.

11 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

A few more points about how our PTSD brain impacts us.

Opening up your perspective when you feel stuck.

11 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Feeling stuck in your own viewpoints, it's important to open up your perspective.

Somatization

10 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Somatization and stress

How denial is actually ignorance.

10 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How someone who is in denial is actually displaying ignorance. Sometimes they try to rewrite your reality.

Facing your demons isn't as scary as you think.

10 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are you called a "fence rider", or Switzerland? How our fear of confrontation, stemming from trauma, can rob us of sharing our true self. Facing your ...

When communities struggle with mental health.

09 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I wanted to share my thoughts regarding a recent news article I saw regarding a town struggling with mental health.

Comparing yourself to others?

08 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Some points on comparing yourself to others, and dissociation related to doing things for image.

Why getting a proper diagnosis is so important.

08 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Getting a proper diagnosis and not avoiding your symptoms.

Motivational reminder, the movie Miss Potter.

08 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

A movie I came across that might serve as a motivational reminder to engage with a hobby that is true to what brings you happiness.

Looking back at a past trigger.

08 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Looking back at a past trigger and seeing it differently.

Experiment with past triggers.

07 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How I'm experimenting with a past trigger, now that I've been building my resilience and confidence. Happiness is the key.

Shallow relationships and Complex PTSD

07 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How interpersonal difficulties and feelings of dissociation can lead to shallow relationships, and how shallowness leads to shutting out happiness.

Different ways of engaging with hobbies.

06 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Some details about engaging with hobbies and why being shallow is a fast route to unhappiness.

How to get HAPPY

04 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How Happiness naturally comes from Confidence, and Confidence comes from genuine hobbies that bring you happiness.

Quick note related to last episode.

04 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I wanted to share the channel where you can watch the show I mentioned in the last episode.

Adults bullying kids

04 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Adults bullying kids when they're claiming to care for them.

Constant worrying, how I'm defeating it.

02 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I recently realized my constant worrying has drastically reduced, and I think I unexpectedly am defeating it.

Examples of why it's important to know your triggers.

01 May 2024

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I give three examples of why it's important to know your triggers.

Combatting substance abuse through confidence building.

30 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How I used to combat substance abuse all wrong, because it was coming from a place of Low Self-esteem... and how I think confidence building is the re...

Two scenarios: Fear of Confrontation and Second-guessing yourself.

29 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Sharing two scenarios that happened today involving confronting a fear and the importance of not second-guessing yourself.

Facing your demons.

28 Apr 2024

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Remind yourself that your demons might not be as scary to face as you think they are.

The two solutions that helped me to stop desiring alcohol.

27 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I want to share how simply stopping drinking wasn't the full answer for me, I needed solutions to help me to stop desiring alcohol as a coping tool.

Handling personal situations differently.

26 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I have a real time situation happening and I want to share how I normally would respond (from a place of Low Self-esteem) vs how I now will respond (f...

Doing things to fit in, and feeling disconnected from yourself.

25 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Dissociation and feeling disconnected from yourself because you've been trying to fit in. Confidence is the solution, in my opinion.

When we feel wronged, but it turns out to be incorrect. Angry outbursts.

25 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Why I think people with Complex PTSD are more predisposed to feeling wronged, which can lead to angry outbursts, and then it turns out we were incorre...

Dissociation, Disingenuous and Low Self-esteem

24 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I had to redo this episode due to technical problems.

Dissociation and randomness

24 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How randomness can be a big part of feelings of dissociation.

Future episode about dissociation and low Self-esteem

23 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Update on my technical stuff and topic for my next episode... dissociation and low Self-esteem.

Technical update on podcast.

23 Apr 2024

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Technical update

Having patience when we're triggered.

21 Apr 2024

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A recent situation that reminded me of the importance of having patience when we're triggered.

The comfort of finding your routine.

21 Apr 2024

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A recent series of events helped me to see how comforting my routine of reading, to cure boredom, really is.

What happens when a rude person judges a confident person.

21 Apr 2024

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An interesting observation about confidence, rudeness, rage and hobbies showing who we really are.

Knowing the difference between a hobby and a therapeutic activity.

21 Apr 2024

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I want to share the importance of knowing the difference between a hobby and a therapeutic activity, because the sooner you know what your actual hobb...

Looking at things through a new lens.

21 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Family, my own rules to life, and solutions.

Trauma and finding hobbies that bring you happiness

20 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How finding hobbies that bring you happiness is the key to building confidence AND why you don't want to choose hobbies simply to fit in or for an ima...

Long-term Memory and CPTSD

19 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Some points about long-term Memory and CPTSD

Rude behavior, Selfishness and Lack of Confidence.

19 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I share how that book I've talked so much about relates perfectly to the rude person I described recently.

Why I have one of my triggers, and how it's affecting me less.

19 Apr 2024

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How one of my triggers impacted me growing up and why it's affecting me less recently.

Scenario where someone's low Self-esteem is being manipulated.

19 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I was just told about a perfect example of where someone's low Self-esteem is being manipulated.

Confidence against gaslighting.

18 Apr 2024

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How to perceive someone gaslighting, confidence vs low Self-esteem examples.

Building confidence

18 Apr 2024

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I give an example of one activity I'm using to build my confidence.

Confidence and building Resilience to triggers.

17 Apr 2024

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I share how confidence is the key ingredient to building Resilience to certain triggers rooted in low Self-esteem. I used the book, "The Novel Cure: A...

Turn a nuisance into a mindfulness exercise.

17 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How I used a nuisance as a way of appreciating the value of something. And how my confidence has grown after learning I was struggling with low Self-e...

Helplessness, PTSD and the brain.

16 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

With PTSD our brains can actually not activate a region that informs us we have control over a stressor. This is where helplessness comes in.

Class I took about our anxious brains.

16 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I want to share a little bit from a mental health class I took today.

How my confidence building is working out.

16 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I want to share some key points about confidence building and how my approach is working so far.

Insecurity and ignorance

16 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

A few comments about insecurity and ignorance. Two different subjects.

Clairvoyant experience, I just wanted to share.

15 Apr 2024

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Fighting your fears means you're on the right path, and little signs might be shown to you.

Using a project to help appreciate taking your time.

14 Apr 2024

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Finding a project to work on, that takes time, can help us appreciate things more and help with impulse control.

Learning to delay gratification in relation to impulsive behavior.

14 Apr 2024

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The importance of delaying gratification in relation to impulsive behavior, and how projects can help with this.

Restraining our desire to think impulsively.

14 Apr 2024

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How I learned to restrain my desire to think impulsively by following true crime for a year.

Impulsivity, one of the biggest hurdles with Complex PTSD.

14 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How impulsivity is one of the biggest hurdles with Complex PTSD.

When we get off track. Stick to your routine.

14 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The importance of getting back to your routine, if you get off track.

Impulsive relationships

13 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Why our relationships may dissolve

Addressing personal denial.

12 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When your acceptance of disrespect is rooted in denial stemming from your family judging your passions in your youth.

When you know you're right, don't bother telling someone they're wrong.

12 Apr 2024

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The importance of not correcting someone who constantly corrects you. Hint, it's a waste of your time.

Don't let someone cause you to second-guess yourself.

12 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are you second-guessing yourself? Don't.

Accepting rude behavior from a spouse, what's it all about?

11 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Why some people accept rude behavior from their spouse, and what to do about it.

More info regarding possible hobbies for self-esteem.

11 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Some more info regarding possible hobbies for self-esteem.

Technical stuff

11 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Technical stuff related to podcast

Example of a "mind game", someone pulling your leg.

11 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I describe a "mind game", or someone pulling your leg and how this is similar to people excluding you in relation to abuse.

Hobbies passions and activities for building Self Esteem.

10 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I list over a dozen hobbies passions and activities that might bring up some ideas for you if you are feeling a lack of zest for life, or if you strug...

How abuse is a waste of time.

09 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Abuse, and how it's simply a big waste of time.

Envious of others and low Self-esteem remedy.

09 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Coming from abuse and the Envy it can create from us for others. I give a couple of possible remedies for low Self-esteem in relation to Envy.

Denial, and another word for it.

08 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Denial, and how fear of confrontation can be another way of describing it.

Physical vs emotional abuse

07 Apr 2024

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I share a few of the differences between physical and emotional abuse.

The Belt

07 Apr 2024

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I discuss physical abuse in childhood and I found another term for Denial, which is Fear of Confrontation.

Why we self-sabotage: do we reject the Golden Ticket?

07 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I explain how I think stress causes us to reject great opportunities and self-sabotage. It all goes back to the trauma and stress.

Where making assumptions might come from.

06 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Can being oblivious and making assumptions be related to being ignorant? Is this stemming from your ignorant abuser keeping you isolated growing up?

Abusers and their Bad Manners.

05 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

A key point about abusers, they tend to have bad manners.

Munchausen and misery. Also some great news.

05 Apr 2024

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Munchausen and misery. I also share some great news related to my personal life.

Important point if you want to change your behavior.

05 Apr 2024

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A really important point if you are trying to change your behavior.

How our behavior stems from our trauma symptoms.

05 Apr 2024

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The importance of not beating ourselves up when we engage in behavior stemming from our trauma and our symptoms.

Next 24 hours, and how judging can be your downfall.

05 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I wanted to share a few personal things that are happening tomorrow, and how judging can be your worst enemy and can set you up to be triggered.

Happiness, finding it.

03 Apr 2024

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I learned that happiness is the opposite of querulousness. I think this is important to point out.

My take on things you might find helpful.

03 Apr 2024

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I read and watched a few of the recommendations from that book I told you about. I give my take on what I think.

Querulousness and trauma

02 Apr 2024

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The concept of griping and whining in relation to trauma. Did your abuser gripe a lot?

Make positive changes and stick to them.

01 Apr 2024

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Things take time, but if you make positive changes and you stick to them you will see things come to fruition. I give examples.

Recklessness and Complex PTSD

31 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How isolating and hopelessness can lead to recklessness, and how to avoid this.

Prejudging yourself.

31 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How quickly we can judge ourselves and how this stems from low Self-esteem.

Being judgmental and low Self-esteem

30 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How being judgmental is a telltale sign of low Self-esteem