The Connected Life
Episodes
68: Stop Playing the Game
20 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
We all play games in relationships, whether or not we're aware of it. These games can keep us in limiting cycles that affect our ability to live a lif...
67: From Falling Apart to Falling Together
13 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This week we're having an unscheduled interruption. Since the world is already topsy-turvy why not? Not to fret though, next week you'll get part two ...
66: Shattering the Secrets that Shame Us Pt 2
06 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Secrets have a way of trapping us in pain. However, often times we believe that it's more painful to share our experiences, than having to to get real...
65: Shattering the Secrets that Shame Us Pt 1
30 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
We all have our secrets. Behind those secrets, no matter how big or small, lurks the voice of shaming accusation. The singular goal of this voice is t...
64: Thriving through Corona
23 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
For many of us, the world has gone topsy turvy. Fear and panic rule the news and social media. Uncertainty about jobs and future plans are all up in t...
63: The Journey to Healing-Finding Your Fight Pt 4 of 4
16 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
All of us go through seasons of life where we feel like we got knocked down, and some times knocked out. Many times we can feel as though we lost our ...
62: The Journey To Healing-Justin's Sadness Pt 3 of 4
09 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Suffering and sadness are an unavoidable part of the human experience. The gift of suffering is that it illuminates humanity in a unique and special ...
61: The Journey to Healing-Revelations From Pain Pt 2 of 4
02 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
We have two options when we go through hard things; see the pain as an invitation into wholeness, or get stuck in hopelessness, fear, and heart ache. ...
60: The Journey To Healing-Abi's Sickness Pt 1 of 4
24 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
We've all gone through valleys of despair or suffered painful seasons. Those of us who choose to ignore it and push forward are often praised for bein...
59: The Ebbs and Flows of Friendship
17 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Man's best friend is supposedly a dog, but what if it could be another human being? Humanity gets a bum wrap because often times we don't understand o...
58: Relating Powerfully to Your Partner's Family
10 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In-Laws, whether we love 'em, hate 'em, or fall somewhere in between, as long as we're married, they're here to stay. We can all become immune to our ...
57: How to Master and Win at Dating Pt 2 of 2
03 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Do you want to get married? Get ready to date! But believe it or not, the goal of dating isn't marriage, it's for us to become who we were made to be ...
56: How to Master and Win at Dating Pt 1 of 2
27 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The days of arranged marriage and courtship are a thing of the past. If you want to get married in todays world you have to date. With the age of the ...
55: Keys to Becoming a Great Friend
20 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In order to truly feel alive and happy, friendships are a vital part of life. Unfortunately, there's not many "how to" guides on friendship. We defini...
54: Vision- The Key to Relational Momentum
13 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In a world saturated with self-help books, finding strategy on how to cast vision for your dreams is amply easy. And that's a good thing, because with...
53: Breaking Barriers and Building Bridges to Connection
06 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
We all want to feel connected to the world around us. The desire for connection is encoded into the fabric of human existence. We can deny that we hav...
52: How to Win in the New Year
30 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Every year is marked by the unexpected. Some years are filled with the celebration of babies, marriages, adventures, and opportunities we've never dre...
51: Becoming Loving and Powerful During the Holidays
23 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
We've said it before and we'll say it again, holidays can be messy! It's easy to get disconnected, frustrated, and overwhelmed during the holidays. Th...
50: Spirituality and Boundaries Pt 2 of 2
16 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Leadership is messy! For both those leading and those following. It can be a rough ride on each side of the coin and we've all had our fair share of a...
49: Spirituality and Boundaries Pt 1 of 2
09 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
We've all had people with authority and influence over our lives, whether it's bosses, pastors, coaches, or leaders in general. As children we learn ...
48: The Power of Living a Life of Generosity
02 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Tis the season for generosity! Generosity is contagious and in any book, or teaching, on success and wealth, generosity is foundational and fundamenta...
47: Creating a Lifestyle of Thanksgiving
25 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The holidays can be filled with all kinds of emotions and unexpected experiences. For some, the holidays are full of fond memories, for others, they'r...
46: 7 Steps to Overcoming Breakups and Betrayals
18 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Breakups and betrayals can be brutal! As humans we've all had these experiences, whether it's with our parents, siblings, extended family, friends, bo...
45: The Lifelong Journey to Great Sex Pt 2 of 2
11 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In part one of this two part episode, Justin and Abi took an honest look at the hurdles Joey and Kelley Feste faced in their formative years of marria...
44: The Lifelong Journey to Great Sex Pt 1 of 2
04 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
We all have varying experiences of marriage. For many of us, we didn't have the best examples growing up. For others, marriage looked like land of the...
43: Understanding and Embracing Your Season
28 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
We've all been through tough seasons of life that felt like they would never end. Many of us are terrified we'll get stuck, or even worse, that the be...
42: The Healing Power of Nurture-The Mother Series Pt 5
21 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
All of humanity have what we call core needs that must to be met. Nurture is one of those needs and one that initially, and primarily, gets met by our...
41: Stumbling Blocks to Connection-The Mother Series Pt 4
14 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Mom's are an intricate part of the fabric of our lives. Our bond with them is woven into the interactions with our most intimate connections, whether ...
40: The Courage to Own Your Life-The Mother Series Pt 3
07 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Having the courage to take ownership for our life, and the mistakes we make, is difficult for many of us. Justin's mom, Barbara, had to decide between...
39: Courage, Confrontation, and Compassion-The Mother Series Pt 2
30 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The relationship between a parent and a child is a special one. If you've ever been a parent or a child, then you know how easily things can get messy...
38: Facing the Reality of Our Childhood: The Mother Series Pt 1
23 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
For many of us, parents can be a sensitive subject. As children our desire is to be loved and nurtured, but for some, that doesn't always feel like th...
37: Understanding a Woman's Sex Drive
16 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
For many people, understanding a woman's sex drive could be considered more valuable than a diamond mine! A woman's sex drive can even seem as mysteri...
36: Breaking Horses and Building Hearts
09 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
It takes real guts to ride a 1,500 pound enraged bull, but the world of Professional Bull Riding is a full of gritty men ready to risk it all! In this...
35: Justin and Abi's Victory Over Suicide
02 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
For many of us, we carry secrets that seem too dark for anyone to understand. We carry this heaviness until is crushes us or we explode. Here in this ...
34: Creating a Lifestyle of Adventure
26 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
For most of us, we want to feel inspired day to day and we often dream of living a life full of adventure. Unfortunately, the reality is often a life ...
33: Overcoming Trauma
19 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Self-sufficiency and the victim mentality often keep us from experiencing true freedom. It's all too easy to fall into the trap of self-protection whe...
32: On the Road to Restoration: Surviving Family Vacations
12 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
For most of us, family vacations can be a tricky time to navigate. They're often chock full of triggers and past pain that hasn't been resolved. Often...
31: Creating and Keeping the Romance Alive
05 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
We've all been guilty of venting about the negative things that happen in our lives and rarely verbalizing the positive aspects. This can be especiall...
30: Creating Rules to Live By
29 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
For most of us, life is experienced through a lens of traditions and rules established by family and culture at large. Rarely do we stop to question w...
29: Beginning a Healthy Relationship
22 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
We all have triggers around emotions, money, and other people's behavior… and we'd like to blame them for how they affect us. But truth is, that our...
28: A Blame Free Life-Style
15 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Blaming, shaming and complaining, sound like a familiar experience to you? The list of people in our lives who behave this way is endless, but often t...
27: Redefining Dating
08 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
For many people, dating is a game to be played with a singular goal in mind, winning. The game is one of proving we can get someone or get someone to ...
26: Ending the Gender Battle
01 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In order to have successful relationships with the opposite sex, whether in dating, marriage, or friends, we can't be at war with those we want to lov...
25: 6 Keys to Successful Dating
24 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
For many people dating can be vulnerable, scary, and feel as though there are no clear rules on "how to" do it right. But like anything in life, there...
24: Finding Life in Grief with Laura Duncan
17 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
As humans, tragedy and loss are unavoidable. Because of this, pain is a universal part of life. For most of us, we feel lost in a sea of these painful...
23: How Our History Shapes Us Pt 2 of 2
10 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
For most people, conversations about how we've been hurt and how we've hurt others are often terrifying and filled with anxiety. Because of...
22: How Our History Shapes Us Pt 1 of 2
03 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this incredibly raw and exposing episode Justin opens up the doors to his personal life like never before! During a live recorded counseling sessio...
21: Redefining Your Weakness
27 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
For many people the word "weakness" is repulsive. Being "weak" is seen as a flaw in our humanity. Having an area of "weakness" is seen as unacceptable...
20: Finding Connection Through Clashing Cultures
20 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
They often say men are from Mars and women are from Venus, but what if all humans, regardless of gender, came from their own planet, much like a gathe...
19: Sex, Sex, and More Sex: Creating a Sex Life You Love
13 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Sex is for men right? Men need it, want it, and are driven by it. Women are subjected to it, put up with it, and mostly dislike it, right? But what if...
18: Looking Back to Move Forward
06 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever found yourself trying to move forward in life only to feel like you're bashing your head into a wall? Have you ever had hurdles in marri...
17: Learning to Have Realistic Expectations of Yourself
29 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Every person is different and because of this we all have a different capacity. Sometimes it seems like everyone is conquering the world, while all we...
16: 6 Keys to Winning a Woman's Heart
22 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
How does a man win a woman's heart? What does a woman really want in a man? Does he have to be the smartest? Maybe the richest? A Zach Efron lookalike...
15: The Power of Adding Fun to Your Life!
15 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Fun is a messy art form meant to be the color in an otherwise gray life. For most people fun doesn't seem conducive to being a productive adult. In re...
14: A New Approach to Parenting with Pietze Duffield
08 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Parenting is simple, right? Just follow the instruction manual that comes with your kid and you're good to go. Yours didn't come with a manual? Surpri...
13: Anger- The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly.
01 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever "Hulked out"? Have you ever seen someone "Hulk out"? Somewhere inside all of us is a little person with the potential to become a big sc...
12: Abi and Justin's Explosion
25 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Candid talk about an aggressive and angry mini-explosion between Justin and Abi? Sounds like a dose of reality TV drama to me! What do you do when ass...
11: Your Story's not Finished: Finding Miracles in the Mundane.
18 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
What do you do when your world feels like it has fallen apart and nothing in life is what you imagined it would be? How do you still trust that everyt...
10: Shattering Shame and Creating Connection in the Bedroom Pt 2 of 2
11 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Hop back into bed with us as we continue our two part conversation about Sex! Sex is a beautiful and important connection point within relationships! ...
9: Foundations for a Great Sex Life! Pt 1 of 2
04 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever wondered how to have a good sex life? Good, us too. Culture bombardes us with a lot about sex, unfortunately it's full of conflicting v...
8: Redefining Success: Married Life Year One Pt 2 of 2
25 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Success is seemingly defined by culture as doing a lot, and doing it well. Because of this, so many of us feel the pressure to be going somewhere or d...
7: Facing Our Greatest Fears: Married Life Year One Pt 1 of 2
18 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Road Trip!!! Get ready as we begin to explore the first year of Justin and Abi's marriage! Beginning with the first two stops of a completely unorgani...
6: The Battle with Our Bodies: Diving Deeper into the Root of The Problem. Pt: 2 of 2
11 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this second part of a two part series, Abi and Justin are joined by Abi's childhood best friend Pietze Duffield as they dive deeper into the povert...
5: The Battle with Our Bodies: Winning the War with Weight. Pt: 1 of 2
04 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
For many of us, one of the biggest battles in our lives is with the person in the mirror. As a culture we are in a never-ending war with our looks and...
4: Learning Surrender and Trust as a Lifestyle. Pt: 3 of 3
28 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
From eight months of "Fading" to three weeks of Dating, and then "BAM" engaged! Tune in as we share the wild ride of how we learned to listen to our i...
3: The Process of Choosing Each Other. Pt: 2 of 3
21 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
How does "Never ever will I date you.", turn into Justin officially asking Abi out? Tune in to this juicy episode where we learn how to manipulate peo...
2: Never, Ever, Will I Marry You! Pt: 1of 3
14 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Pull up a chair for the first half of an epic love story! No, not a storybook fairytale, but a real-life, full of messy ups and downs story of how two...
1: The Disconnect in Creating The Connected Life-Intro
25 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In this vision casting Connected Life episode, Justin and Abi openly share about the disconnecting meltdown they experienced while gearing up to recor...