The Couples Therapist Couch
Episodes
185: The Impact of Siblings on Your Relationship with Karen Gail Lewis
13 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Want to join a small group of Couples Therapists who want to take their business to the next level? See if this 5 month mastermind experience might be...
184: Katherine Woodward Thomas on How to Evolve Beyond Your Attachment Style
30 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Click here to learn more about The Couples Therapist Inner Circle Sometimes as Couples Therapists we forget that our job is not to "save" relationship...
183: Systemic Trauma in Couples Therapy with Akilah Riley-Richardson
25 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Click here to learn more about The Couples Therapist Inner Circle Akilah Riley-Richardson is a published researcher, couples therapist, educator and p...
182: Parenting Adult Children with Laurence Steinberg
19 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Click here to learn more about The Couples Therapist Inner Circle There is an emerging trend in our society right now of adults in their 20s and 30s c...
181: Is a Relationship Salvageable After an Affair with Talal Alsaleem
10 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Click here to learn more about The Couples Therapist Inner Circle If you work with couples you know that a large percentage of the people seeking help...
180: Enneagram and Couples part 2 with Kristy Gaisford
21 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Click here to learn more about the Couples Therapist Inner Circle Back in episode number 176, Lousia Krause talked about using the Enneagram in Coupl...
179: Healing from Betrayal with LaDonna Carey
17 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes. Find out more about the Couples Therapist Inner Circle If you've been working with couples f...
178: Trauma-Informed Couples Therapy with Irina Wen
31 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes. Find out more about the Couples Therapist Inner Circle More than ever it is clear from the r...
177: Understanding People Pleasing with Natalie Lue
10 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Natalie Lue talks about her new book called, The Joy of Saying No: How to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaiming Boundaries, and Saying Yes...
176: Using the Enneagram in Couples Therapy with Louisa Krause
14 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Louisa Krause talks about using the Enneagram in Couples Therapy. The Enneagram is a system of personality types that helps people un...
175: Working with Emotional Avoidance
18 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Find out more about the Couples Therapist Inner Circle This episode is a miniworkshop on how to work with people who are emotionally avoidant. There ...
174: Eroticism in Couples Therapy with Cyndi Darnell
03 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Find out more about the Couples Therapist Inner Circle In this episode, Cyndi Darnell talks about how we need to change the way we talk about sex, ge...
173: Betrayal Recovery with Lora Cheadle
25 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Find out more about the free virtual event: State of Mental Health in America When there is betrayal in a relationship, everything about the person's ...
172: Deepening Our Work with Clients and Selves with Dr. Sabrina N'Diaye
13 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Find out more about the Couples Therapist Inner Circle In this episode, Dr. Sabrina N'Diaye, talks about the idea of misunderstandings about the mean...
Terry Real on Relational Life Therapy
07 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When Terry Real started working with couples in the 90s he found that the conventional wisdom just did not work. Eventually he created his own model f...
Bill Doherty on the Ethical Lives of Clients
29 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode I spoke with Dr. William Doherty about the role of a therapist when clients bring us difficult situations, decisions, and ethical d...
169: Somatic Experiencing and Couples with Abi Blakeslee
15 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Find out more about the Couples Therapist Inner Circle In our society, it is modeled from a very young age to suppress our emotional experience. This ...
168: Neurobiology and Relationships with Juliane Taylor Shore
22 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, my friend and fellow Relational Life Therapist, Juliane Taylor Shore, talks about Neurobiology and Relationships. If you are a coup...
167: The Science of Psychotherapy with Richard Hill and Matthew Dahlitz
09 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Richard Hill and Matthew Dahlitz recently wrote a book called The Practitioner's Guide to the Science of Psychotherapy. They discuss the importance ...
166: Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt In The Space-Between
11 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D., are partners in life and work. They are authors of the classic, Getting the Love You Want: A...
165: Facing Adversity as a Therapist with Wesley Little
02 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This is a very vulnerable episode with Wesley Anne Little where she talks about her experiences as a therapist going through cancer, chemo treatments,...
164: Healing the Trauma from Supremacy Culture with Shirani Pathak
19 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
The reality of supremacy culture and generational trauma continue to show up in our lives in a big way. People often struggle with perfectionism, impo...
163: Self-Esteem and Boundaries part 2 with Shane Birkel
24 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is a recording of one of the live Inner Circle webinars which are part of the experience of being a member of the Couples Therapist Inne...
162: Self-Esteem and Boundaries part 1 with Shane Birkel
16 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is a recording of one of the live Inner Circle webinars which are part of the experience of being a member of the Couples Therapist Inne...
161: Healing After Divorce with Kristy Gaisford and Jerry Sander
17 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Divorce is almost considered to be a bad word in Couples Therapy, but the reality is that there are still a lot of situations where this is the approp...
160: Feedback Informed Treatment and Couples with Beth Irias
25 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Find out more about the Couples Therapist Inner Circle In the episode this week, Beth Irias from Clearly Clinical talks about feedback informed treatm...
159: Infidelity Recovery with Talal Alsaleem
13 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Find out more about the Couples Therapist Inner Circle If you work with couples you know that a large percentage of the people seeking help have exper...
158: Being Bold in Couples Therapy with Pam Staples
20 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Find out more about the Couples Therapist Inner Circle A lot of times, when couples work with therapists who don't have good couples therapy training,...
157: Internal Family Systems and Couples with Liz Phillips
22 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
The episode this week is being sponsored by the Couples Therapist Inner Circle. In this episode, Liz Phillips gives an overview of Internal Family Sys...
156: Joining Through the Truth in RLT with Shane Birkel
18 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Click here to learn more about the Couples Therapist Inner Circle In this episode, Shane talks about what makes Relational Life Therapy different from...
155: Developmental and Relational Trauma with Rick Butts
07 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Get your 3 free videos on Relational Life Therapy with Terry Real In this episode, Shane is joined by Dr. Rick Butts who is one of the founders of the...
154: Elliott Connie on Solution Focused Brief Therapy and Couples
30 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Couples Therapist Couch, Elliott Connie talks about using Solution Focused Brief Therapy when working with couples. He is an ed...
153: Understanding Differentiation with Ellyn Bader
18 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is with Dr. Ellyn Bader, the founder of the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy. She has been teaching Couples Therapy since the 80s w...
152: A Model is Only as Good as Its Applicability with Francesca Maxime'
02 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Find out more about the Couples Therapist Inner Circle In this episode, Shane talks with Francesca Maxime' about the reality that no matter how well a...
151: Childhood Experience and The 5 Core Issues with Kim Ploussard
23 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Kim Ploussard is a Certified Relational Life Therapist and one of the Coaches for the model. Back in episode #62 she talked about the 5 Core Issues an...
150: What Makes Relationships Work with Jennifer Lehr
19 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Find out more about Jennifer Lehr at jenniferlehrmft.com and weconcile.com The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the...
149: Couples in Recovery with Dr. Robert Navarra
09 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
One of the main preconditions that is often listed for doing couples therapy is an active addiction. It is hard for couples to get closer in there rel...
148: Start Using EFT in Your Practice with Debi Scimeca-Diaz
03 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
I recently attended the Emotionally Focused Therapy Externship which was taught by Debi Scimeca-Diaz. She was an amazing trainer and I learned a ton a...
147: Mindfulness and Relationships with Melissa Sutor
18 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
When we are feeling stress with our partner, in our relationships, it is often due to the fact that we are not able to stay present in the moment. In ...
146: Dan Siegel on Brain Science, Attachment, and Relationships
12 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is with Dr. Dan Siegel. He is a clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine and the founding co-director of the Mindf...
145: Viral Hope Series part 10 with TJ Walsh
20 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is the tenth in a series of ten episodes that are about inspiration and hope during this time of Covid-19. Most of the interviewees are therapist...
144: Viral Hope Series part 9 with James Hawkins
07 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is the ninth in a series of ten episodes that are about inspiration and hope during this time of Covid-19. Most of the interviewees are therapist...
143: Viral Hope Series part 8 with LaDonna Carey
30 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is the eighth in a series of ten episodes that are about inspiration and hope during this time of Covid-19. Most of the interviewees are therapis...
142: Viral Hope Series part 7 with Elisha and James Travis
22 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is the seventh in a series of ten episodes that are about inspiration and hope during this time of Covid-19. Most of the interviewees are therapi...
141: Viral Hope Series part 6 with Breta Collins
15 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is the sixth in a series of ten episodes that are about inspiration and hope during this time of Covid-19. Most of the interviewees are therapist...
140: Viral Hope Series part 5 with Jerry Sander
09 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is the fifth in a series of ten episodes that are about inspiration and hope during this time of Covid-19. Most of the interviewees are therapist...
139: Viral Hope Series Part 4 with Janeen Herskovitz
01 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is the fourth in a series of ten episodes that are about inspiration and hope during this time of Covid-19. Most of the interviewees are therapis...
138: Viral Hope Series part 3 with Jeanne Farnsworth
25 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is the third in a series of ten episodes that are about inspiration and hope during this time of Covid-19. Most of the interviewees are therapist...
137: Viral Hope Series part 2 with Selma Bacevac
18 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is the second of a series of ten episodes that are about inspiration and hope during this time of Covid-19. Most of the interviewees are therapis...
136: Viral Hope Series part 1 with Quentin Hafner
05 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is the first of a series of ten episodes that are about inspiration and hope during this time of Covid-19. Most of the interviewees are therapist...
135: Co-Therapy with Couples with Monique and Rick Elgersma
14 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
If you've tried doing therapy with two therapists in the room, you know it can be extremely beneficial. You have the insight, knowledge and experience...
134: Modern Couples Therapy with Jourdan Virginia Blue
07 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The episode this week is with Jourdan Virginia Blue. She talks all about the innovative approach to working with couples that she has created. Secret ...
133: Peggy Kleinplatz on Magnificent Sex
30 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz is a Professor in the Faculty of Medicine and Director of Sex and Couples Therapy at the University of Ottawa, Canada. She was aw...
132: Racialized Trauma with James Hawkins
24 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is a very important conversation with Dr. James Hawkins about Racialized Trauma, Racial Injustice, Privilege, Institutional Racism, and Black Liv...
131: Relationship Skills on the Dating Scene with Marni Feuerman
16 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In the episode today, Dr. Marni Feuerman talks about why couples therapists make the best individual therapists. We discuss how important relationship...
130: Joe Kort on When the Other Woman is a Man
26 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Dr. Joe Kort talks about when a straight spouse finds out that her husband has been with other men. He talks about the problems with ...
129: Relational Life Therapy with Shane Birkel
19 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is a brief summary of some of how Relational Life Therapy is different from other models of couples therapy. I am a certified RLT therapi...
128: Race in Couples Therapy with Corey Yeager and Kirsten Lind Seal
12 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The episode this week was with two guests, Dr. Corey Yeager and Dr. Kirsten Lind Seal. They discuss the reality of race and privilege in therapy. At o...
127: Implementing the EFT Model with James Hawkins
05 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Dr. James Hawkins and I explore therapist's process of growing their ability to implement the EFT model specifically. We also talked ...
126: Emily Nagoski on Sex and Science
28 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
When it comes to sex in our society there is actually very little that has been written on it historically, particularly about female sexuality. At th...
125: Continuing to Cope During the Quarantine with Jen Silacci
21 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The quarantine continues for much of the world and we are all doing what we can to cope. As therapists, we have scrambled to transition to online ther...
124: Dealing with the Emotions of Online Therapy with Amber Lyda
14 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
These times during the Coronavirus Pandemic have been extremely stressful on many different levels. As we all switch over to online therapy, it is imp...
123: David Wexler on Counseling in the #Metoo Era
07 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Because of the history of power and influence in our world, we are socialized in ways that impact our relationships in a huge way. If we aren't aware ...
122: Working with Infidelity and the Developmental Model with Kim Gist Miller
31 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode with Kimberly Gist Miller we talk about using the Developmental Model in working with Affairs. Many of the clients we work with have a...
121: Keeping the Hope In a Pandemic with Shane Birkel
24 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is a recording of a webinar I did recently with the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook group. We talk about the implications of this time d...
120: Moving Your Couples Therapy Practice Online with Clay Cockrell
18 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In the last few days we are seeing changes in our whole society that are bigger and happening more quickly than anything else in decades. At some poin...
119: 5 Things Couples Therapists Should Know from a Sex Therapist with Martha Kauppi
10 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Most Couples Therapists understand the importance of bringing sex into the conversation in couples therapy. Unfortunately, most feel unprepared to kno...
118: Running on Empty with Jonice Webb
03 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
We often see clients in our offices who are struggling with things like a lack of fulfillment, a deep sense that something isn't right with me, a feel...
117: Where Does Masturbation Fit Into a Couple's Sex Life with Ari Tuckman
25 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
How is masturbation being used in the couple--as a path of least resistance to avoid confronting sexual/relational issues or as an add-on to an otherw...
116: Attuning to the Attachment Dilemma with Ryan Rana
18 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
One of the most difficult thing we do as couples therapists is to get both members of a couple to feel like we get them and we want what is best for t...
115: Janina Fisher on Working with Trauma in Couples Therapy
11 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
When couples are unable to communicate because they get emotionally escalated, it is often a result of trauma. Dr. Janina Fisher helps people become a...
114: Alexandra Solomon on Taking Sexy Back
04 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Women are expected to be sexy, but not sexual. We're bombarded with conflicting, shame-inducing, and disempowering messages about sex, instead of bein...
113: Shane Birkel on the Impact of Childhood Neglect on Relationships
28 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
We often have clients who are shut down emotionally and don't understand why. It is difficult for them to access their emotions. Most of the time this...
112: Dr. Pat Love on The 5 Forces Destroying Your Relationship that You Probably Never Heard Of
21 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In talking about factors that destroy relationships, Dr. Pat Love speaks with such depth and wisdom about all the things that are required to have a s...
111: Helen Fisher on The Anatomy of Love
14 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Why do we love in the first place? Why do we choose the partners we choose? What happens in the brain when people fall in love? These are all question...
110: Alexandra Katehakis on Sex Addiction and Healthy Sex - (rerun)
07 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
When looking at sexual betrayal, many people in our society simplify it down to the fact that the betrayer is bad, wrong, and should be cut off. This ...
109: Janis Abrahms Spring on Healing After an Affair - (rerun)
31 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
How do unfaithful partners typically respond differently than hurt partners after an affair? What constitutes an affair - intercourse? Instant messagi...
108: Laura Long on Marketing, Niching, Websites
24 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This special episode is part of a 6 video business bonus that you can get for signing up for the Couples Therapist Inner Circle. In this episode, La...
107: Removing Blocks to Success with Kine Corder
17 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Kine Corder talks about removing blocks to success, particularly stress. We talk all about money, marriage and maturing. Kine Corde...
106: Sue Johnson on Emotionally Focused Therapy
10 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Dr. Sue Johnson talks about the beginning of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and the lack of options for Couples Therapists to ge...
105: Ellyn Bader on The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy - (Rerun)
03 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is packed full with advice for how to do good couples therapy. Some of the topics covered are the 6 types of confrontation, rethinking 1s...
104: Gottman and RLT Comparison with Zach Brittle
26 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Show notes to come...
103: When HE Has a Higher Sex Drive than SHE with Susan Bratton
19 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
One of the things we hear most frequently in our office as Couples Therapists is partners with differing levels of sexual desire. For a number of reas...
102: Couples Intensive Retreats with Kerry Lusignan
12 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Kerry Lusignan talks about the benefits and structure of a couples intensive. Couples intensives are becoming more and more popular a...
101: How to Help Your Partner Heal from an Affair with Linda MacDonald
05 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
One of the most difficult situations that couples face is when there has been an affair and they are trying to heal. Every one of these situations is ...
100: Harville Hendrix on Imago Therapy - (rerun)
22 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Today we celebrate the 100th episode of The Couples Therapist Couch with a rerun of one of the most popular episodes. Thanks for all your support! Thi...
099: The Importance of Conflict for Couples with CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke
15 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Many people in our society have a belief that conflict is always a bad thing and should be avoided at all costs. In the interview today we unravel thi...
098: Neurodiverse Couples with Grace Myhill
01 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
When one or both couples are on the Autism Spectrum or label themselves as Aspergers, it can be incredibly helpful to be understanding of particular t...
097: Female Desire with Lisa Taddeo
24 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In the history of our society there has been a huge amount of shame for women about their own desires. There is still a pervasive problem of not talki...
096: Elliott Connie on Solution Focused Brief Therapy
17 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode about Solution Focused Brief Therapy, Elliot Connie talks about some amazing strategies to help couples achieve great results in their...
095: How to Be a Functional Adult with Jan Bergstrom
10 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode with Jan Bergstrom, we go into depth about the 5 Core Practices of a Healthy Life. This work was inspired by Pia Mellody and has becom...
094: ADHD and Couples Therapy with Ari Tuckman
03 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Ari Tuckman describes how he often sees clients where what is being defined as "problematic behavior" is actually due to undiagnosed ...
093: Men and Communication with Robert Kandell
27 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
When it comes to communication, there are differences in the way that we are socialized as men and women. In this conversation with Robert Kandell, he...
092: People of Color and Couples Therapy with Dr. Angela Clack
20 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Dr. Angela Clack discusses cultural legacies that have been passed down for generations. She talks about how to make people from mino...
091: Deirdre Fay on Feeling Safely Attached
13 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Deirdra Fay talks about the transformational change that is possible when we understand attachment and trauma and are able to do deep...
090: Attachment Styles with Annie Chen
18 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The topic of attachment has been becoming more and more prevalent in the world of relationships. The research is getting more and more clear about how...
089: Infertility, Postpartum Depression, and Perinatal Loss with Bina Bird
11 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
So many of the couples we work with are going through the baby phase of their life. Whether they are trying to get pregnant, are pregnant, have lost a...
088: Lynn Grodzki on Bringing Aspects of Coaching into Therapy
04 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode with Lynn Grodzki, we talk about bringing aspects of coaching into our work with couples in therapy. There is a lot we can learn to ma...
087: Sex Talk with Erika Miley
28 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Erika Miley talks about the importance for therapists to get more comfortable with talking about sex. We all have our own sex "stuff"...
086: Martha Kauppi on Working with Open Relationships
14 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
There is a growing reality of non-traditional couples who are coming in for relationship therapy. People who are in polyamorous relationships, want to...