Menu
Sign In Search Podcasts Charts People & Topics Add Podcast API Blog Pricing
Podcast Image

The Daily Stoic

It’s Never an Accident | Ask Daily Stoic

24 Apr 2026

Transcription

Chapter 1: What does it mean that our true character emerges under pressure?

0.031 - 24.151 Ryan Holiday

Welcome to the Daily Stoic Podcast, designed to help bring those four key Stoic virtues, courage, discipline, justice, and wisdom into the real world. It's never an accident. It wasn't some freak of circumstances that allowed Marcus Aurelius to be great amid disaster and unbelievable power.

0

24.771 - 42.938 Ryan Holiday

It wasn't a coincidence that Cato was the last honest man in Rome, a brave and solitary figure standing against the tide. It wasn't an accident that earned Stockdale the Medal of Honor in the Hanoi Hilton that allowed him to ride out seven years in solitary confinement and torture. No, it wasn't.

0

43.779 - 63.805 Ryan Holiday

It was Epictetus who said that the whole point of philosophy was to be able to meet whatever life threw at you with, this is what I trained for. And that is precisely what these men had done. In fact, Marcus Aurelius thanks Rusticus at the beginning of Meditations for teaching him that he needed to train and discipline his character.

0

63.785 - 73.029 Ryan Holiday

Cato, as we said, trained his whole life in how he dressed, to what he ate, to how he spoke for some future moment when he would need to stand up, defend the Roman Republic.

0

Chapter 2: How did Marcus Aurelius and Cato train their character?

73.871 - 97.2 Ryan Holiday

And Stockdale? Stockdale liked to joke that his plea beer at the Naval Academy prepared him for torture in prison. And of course, his study of philosophy didn't hurt either. And neither did his training in the Navy's SEER program, Survive, Evade, Resist, Escape. And now that training program is built around much of what Stockdale learned from experience.

0

97.18 - 108.954 Ryan Holiday

No one magically steps up in the big moments. No, we revert to our level of training. Our true character comes out under pressure. So we must train that character. We must develop our bodies.

0

Chapter 3: What lessons can we learn from Stockdale's experience?

109.014 - 142.236 Ryan Holiday

We have to put in the work. Because when life's true tests arrive, and they will, we need to be ready to respond with both confidence and confidence. And that comes from preparation, not luck. It is never an accident. So generally, I get to wear whatever I want, which is usually, if you see me, it's running shorts and a heavy metal T-shirt.

0

142.256 - 154.088 Ryan Holiday

But, you know, sometimes we have a fancy guest on I want to dress up or I'm giving a talk and I've got to dress up or I'm going to be on TV and I've got to dress up. And lately, I've been wearing a lot of quints. I've loved their sweaters.

0

154.188 - 171.593 Ryan Holiday

What I try to do is find staples, like things that I really like, and I'll get multiple colors or, you know, I'll just go through that brand or that company's catalog and get a bunch of stuff I like. And I'm so glad that Quince has been a sponsor because they saved me a bunch of money, although I'll end up paying for it because now I'm hooked and I'm going to end up buying a lot of the stuff.

0

Chapter 4: Why is preparation essential for facing life's challenges?

172.194 - 191.731 Ryan Holiday

Quince has all the wardrobe staples for spring. They've got linen shorts and shirts. They've got, as I said, sweaters, which I'm wearing all the time. Everything that Quince has is priced 50 to 80 percent less than what you'd find from similar brands. Quince works directly with ethical factories, cuts out the middlemen, so you're getting premium materials without the markup.

0

192.252 - 212.948 Ryan Holiday

Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head over to quince.com slash stoic for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. That's q-u-i-n-c-e.com slash stoic for free shipping and 365-day returns. So this is like the best time of year in Texas. You know, the weather's getting good. You want to spend time outside.

0

213.008 - 235.875 Ryan Holiday

Our patio furniture is just like falling apart. So we're going to upgrade our little patio outside the house, our back deck at the ranch. And the first place we went to find some new chairs, a new rug, we're going to get a porch swing, was Wayfair. It's been wonderful. Get out there, enjoy the spring before it gets too hot, too crazy. Delivery was super easy.

0

236.155 - 259.311 Ryan Holiday

Wayfair also has installation and assembly stuff so I could spend my time writing instead of getting angry at some frustrating instructions. Ordering online is easy. It's all delivered right to your door. Wayfair products have over 20 million verified five-star reviews to help you make the right call. And I recommend shopping with Wayfair Verified, your shortcut to the good stuff.

0

259.331 - 276.69 Ryan Holiday

Their team of product specialists vet everything by hand using a 10-point quality inspection so you know you're getting a great piece no matter your budget. Get prepped for patio season for way less. Head over to Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home. W-A-Y-F-A-I-R.com. Wayfair. Every style. Every home.

Chapter 5: What is the significance of Stoic philosophy in modern life?

277.21 - 279.653 Unknown

Wayfair. Every style. Every home.

0

283.177 - 302.242 Ryan Holiday

Welcome back to another episode of the Daily Stoic Podcast. I've said before, like, meditations isn't a book that you have read. It is a book you are reading. And it is a book I have both read, and it is a book I am reading. And there are things that I missed the first time I read it, and the second time I read it, and the third time I read it.

0

302.262 - 328.303 Ryan Holiday

Things that are only appearing to me now as I pick it up. Here, let me grab it off my toe. Like, I grab it and I Pull the leather bound down and I spin to something. And that you might see what the life of a good man is like. Someone content with what nature assigns him and satisfied with being just and kind himself. How many times have I read that passage? Many, many, I'm sure.

0

328.283 - 346.206 Ryan Holiday

But there's something about picking it up at random and reading it and rereading it. And it just happens to be that you take something new out of it each time or something new strikes you each time. The randomness of it is a sort of part of my practice. As you know, this has been Meditations Month here at Daily Stoic.

0

346.226 - 367.355 Ryan Holiday

We've been reviewing meditations in a variety of different forms, done episodes about it, we've done deep dives about it, and then we're doing our Q&A about it on the day after Mark Sebelius' birthday, on the 27th. I'd love to see you in there. Just to give you a little teaser of what that's like, here's some of the questions from last year's Meditations Q&A.

367.715 - 386.303 Ryan Holiday

If you want to join us, if you want to keep doing this deep dive experience, into Marcus Aurelius with us, take our meditations course, the book club we're doing. Well, we'd love to have you join us. You can sign up right now, dailystoic.com slash meditations. I will link to that in today's show notes. But in the meantime, here's me answering some questions from meditations.

391.531 - 392.272 Unknown

Hi, Ryan.

Chapter 6: How can we apply Stoicism to handle personal struggles?

392.292 - 419.125 Unknown

Thank you. It was nice to take the course and revisit meditations. It's been a while since I've read it in detail. Um, I dip in and out of it once in a while. One thing that always strikes me and I'm curious for your opinion on it, um, or maybe direction to other readings is when he talks about the cycles of, I think generations, uh, humans, uh, empires, uh, seven 49 always strikes me as, as, uh,

0

419.408 - 440.355 Unknown

a good example of that, but he's got other passages, 1027 and so forth that I always make note of. Just, yeah, on cycles and seasonality, I know you've talked about dark energy and how that sort of makes a reappearance. And I've heard Robert Green has touched on this when he's in the, I think, Laws of Human Nature. He's got a chapter on that from Machiavelli.

0

440.656 - 445.602 Unknown

Anyway, just curious on your thoughts on that and maybe other readings you might point to in addition to meditations.

0

446.003 - 469.311 Ryan Holiday

Yeah, the Stokes did seem to think of history and indeed the sort of whole arc of the world as this sort of cyclical thing. I think we get a sense from Marcus that he believed that sort of human beings have always been human beings and have always sort of had the same vices, always done the same things, been drawn to the same types of characters, made the same mistakes.

0

470.132 - 489.595 Ryan Holiday

And he found himself saying, that he didn't live in some sort of unprecedented future, that nothing was new under the sun, that this is just how it always went. And we shouldn't be surprised or disappointed or alarmed by any of this. And I think that's a good lens into where we are now. Yeah.

489.575 - 506.541 Ryan Holiday

You know, the types of politicians that we have today, I don't think any of their personalities would be surprising to the Stoics. Some of the political dysfunction we have certainly would have been familiar to Cato or to Seneca or to Marcus Aurelius. Maybe there was anything that they would be surprised by.

506.561 - 529.981 Ryan Holiday

It would be the progress that we've made, the way we've gotten out of some of these traps, some of the vexing sort of problems that we've The things we've been able to tackle as a society over the intervening 2000 years. But one of the things that you get when you study the Stoics is all the similarities. And then you're also struck by some of the unfathomable differences.

530.542 - 554.948 Ryan Holiday

You know, the past is a foreign country, they say, but but not not a radically unfamiliar country. foreign country. And I think that's always what is so striking about meditations. Like on some level, Marcus Aurelius' life and the role that Marcus Aurelius lived should be incomprehensible to us. I mean, this is a guy with an arranged marriage. This is a guy who's the head of an enormous empire.

Chapter 7: What insights do we gain from Marcus Aurelius about human nature?

555.009 - 580.164 Ryan Holiday

This is a guy who owns slaves. This is a guy writing in a foreign language. You know, there are all these ways that he shouldn't be like us. And yet he still has to get out of bed in the morning and he still is insecure or has anxiety or has ambitions. He's still fundamentally a human being. And I think that's what makes him so recognizable and relatable to us.

0

580.184 - 594.181 Ryan Holiday

And so when Mark Stabilis is saying you, although he means me, he accidentally ends up meaning all of us. And that is the beauty of and the power of meditations. Debra, you're up. Hello.

0

594.201 - 594.682 Unknown

How are you?

0

594.702 - 595.624 Ryan Holiday

I'm doing great.

0

595.905 - 610.639 Unknown

When you read meditations, what passages are the biggest struggle for you, either in terms of just trying to understand physically what it means or personally that you really grapple with?

611.193 - 632.83 Ryan Holiday

Oh, that's a great question. Yeah. You know, it's funny. I don't have my OG copy on me. I have a new one here in front of me. But it's funny to watch as I go through it. I can see that I asked questions to myself when I read it the first time that, you know, I've subsequently been able to answer or differing opinions as I go. I mean...

632.81 - 650.043 Ryan Holiday

When Marcus Aurelius talks about the idea of living in accordance with nature, that's not a concept the Stoics define super well. There are also, I think, some passages in meditations that feel... almost nihilistic.

650.525 - 674.269 Ryan Holiday

You know, he says, this is book 636, Asia and Europe, distant recesses of the universe, the ocean, a drop of water, Mount Athos, a molehill, the present, a split second in eternity, minuscule, transitory, insignificant. You know, there are moments, you know, there's one passage where he goes, what does it matter if you live to be old or not? What do you care?

674.55 - 688.748 Ryan Holiday

There's just some passages where I wouldn't say Marcus seems depressed, but he does seem almost excessively cynical or, yeah, there's just a darkness to it. And I sometimes struggle with those.

Chapter 8: How does the Stoic perspective help us deal with pleasure and pain?

688.768 - 706.521 Ryan Holiday

That's not exactly how I think about it. Yeah. You know, continual awareness of all time and space, of the size and life and the span of things around us, a grapeseed in infinite space, a half twist of a corkscrew against eternity. So there's something about that that seems kind of sad and insignificant.

0

706.541 - 729.367 Ryan Holiday

And then book 10, 16, the one immediately above it, he says, to stop talking about what a good man is like and just be one. So there's this kind of tension in Marcus Aurelius where he's like, we're all infinitesimal and small and don't matter. And, you know, nothing lasts. And then he's like, but make sure you do good stuff. You know, that tension sometimes strikes me.

0

729.427 - 746.196 Ryan Holiday

And I think I've wrestled with that for quite some time as I've read meditations. And I sometimes wonder, like, if you saw him the day that he wrote that, would you be like, oh, he was just in a mood that day? You know, where is he coming to from that? I think about that quite often.

0

746.176 - 746.717 Unknown

Thank you.

0

747.057 - 749.54 Ryan Holiday

Yeah, great question. Let's do Joseph.

750.121 - 768.783 Unknown

Hi. Hi. My question is, when you read meditations, he kind of mentions when somebody wrongs you, you should think about it in the way of that person wronging themselves. And we should try to not let it kind of take the weight that it does on us. My follow up to that is, well, you know, undisputably, that's a great mindset to have.

769.403 - 776.031 Unknown

How does that kind of work with like the struggle of reality and being a human being that does take the weight from those things?

776.602 - 792.46 Ryan Holiday

Yeah, I think what he's saying is, first off, that we're all sort of part of this, you know, interconnected universe. And so when we harm one thing, we harm all things. But I think he's also saying that they're harming themselves by making themselves the kind of person that would do that thing. Right.

793.621 - 811.664 Ryan Holiday

So by stealing from you, yes, they're harming you in the sense they're taking something from you, although the Stokes would go, did you really need it? You know, did you really lose anything by losing it? But they're also saying that one thing that did happen is that that person became a thief. Right. And and that that is undeniably not a good thing to be.

Comments

There are no comments yet.

Please log in to write the first comment.