Chapter 1: What key life experiences shaped Anthony Hopkins' journey?
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From the New York Times, this is The Interview. I'm David Marchese. In so many of Sir Anthony Hopkins' greatest performances, he's able to suggest captivating hidden depths to his characters. That's true whether he's playing a murderer like Hannibal Lecter or a kindly doctor like he did in The Elephant Man.
There's always a sense that these men are thinking and feeling things that, for whatever reason, they're keeping to themselves. The same can no longer be said for Hopkins. In his new autobiography, We Did Okay, Kid, the 87-year-old shares the details of his rough youth in Wales, his painful estrangement from his only child, a daughter from his first marriage, and his rise to Hollywood success.
The book also reveals a man who isn't content to merely recount what happened and when. He's also given a lot of thought to the big questions, the why of it all and what it all means. And yet, even at this late stage, he remains mystified by the sheer luck and improbability of his unlikely life. Here's my conversation with Sir Anthony Hopkins. Hello, David. Tony Hopkins.
I was wondering, do I go Sir Anthony? No, no, no. Tony. Nice to meet you. Good to meet you. You know, I thought it might be interesting to start with a key epiphany that you write about in the book. You know, we all have our turning points in our lives. Would you have such a specific one and know exactly when it happened, a moment that sort of changed everything for you?
Can you tell me about what happened on December 29th, 1975 at 11 o'clock?
Well, almost 50 years ago, I'm always slightly reluctant to talk about it because I don't want to sound preachy. But I was drunk, driving my car here in California in a blackout. No clue where I was going. And it was a moment when I realized that I could have killed somebody or myself, which I didn't care about. But I could have killed a family in a car, you know.
And I realized that I was an alcoholic. And I came to my senses and I said to an ex-agent of mine at this party in Beverly Hills, I said I need help. So I made the fatal phone call to an intergroup in L.A., 12-step program. So we'll send somebody over to meet you. I said, no, I'll come to you. So I went to the center group office. It's 11 o'clock precisely. Looked at my watch.
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Chapter 2: How did Anthony Hopkins confront his struggles with alcoholism?
I don't know. But whatever is keeping me, I think, thank you very much, much obliged. Beyond my finite self, there's not much I can do. I had a gift when I was a boy. I could suddenly learn lots of words of speeches from Shakespeare and poems and all that. Now at this age, I look at those poems that I wrote down or they bring back clear memories of my childhood. And I get very moved by it.
I just have to think of them. I get tearful, not through sadness, but through the wonder of having been alive, having lived those years and my clear memories of Wales, my clear memories of my parents, their struggles and hardships after the war years. They really struggled to make a living and to give me an education.
I look back with tremendous gratitude and I get kind of weepy because I remember the glory of being a child. I had a good childhood. I wasn't bright in school. I was hopeless. And I was bullied a lot. I was slapped around. But I look back and I think, well, that's part of growing up. And I wasn't bright. And in those days, teachers could knock you about.
I remember being slapped across the head by a teacher several times. because I didn't know something. And what I would do, Virta would be called in the army, dumb insolence. I wouldn't respond. I'd just withdraw into myself, and I'd stare at them blankly, and it drove them nuts. And they're all dead now.
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You won. I won. So when you were a kid and you would hear your father or teachers say you were a dummy, I'm sure that the voice, your voice in your own head when you were younger... also said, I'm a dummy. That's right.
And I think people are often in their lives, and certainly true for me, you know, we do battle with this voice in our head that tells us we can't do things or we're stupid or whatever it may be. How did you quiet that voice or learn to control it?
Well, it's still there in me from childhood. But what you do, it now whispers. So when I say, shut up, I just, yeah, thanks a lot. We all have problems. We've all got limitations. But I do believe that if you say, wake up and live, act as if it's impossible, we actually tap into a power that's in ourselves, right? which helps us to do, well, not everything, but some things.
I discovered that I could compose music. I discovered that I could write. I discovered through my lovely wife, Stella, that I could paint. And I remember she was an example because she changed my life. She found some drawings in some old scripts of mine, just... After we got married, she said, these drawings, you did these? I said, yeah. You've got to paint. I said, I can't paint.
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Chapter 3: How does Anthony Hopkins perceive the concept of God in his life?
Is there anything that you find acting fulfills for you, some inner need?
Yeah.
A need sounds rather sad. I just enjoy it. I enjoy the scientific fun of it, of learning a script or learning all the lines. And I'm very good at that. I learn everything there is to about the text that I'm studying because that reforms something in me. And I suppose on a deep psychological level, I'm trying to escape from what I was. I don't know.
What were you? What is the thing you were trying to escape from?
Well, that lonely kid, you know. And actually the vain surprise of saying, I did it. I survived my loneliness. I survived those bullies. Not that I blamed them. God bless them all. Even the teachers who beat me about. I mean, I'm not a victim. And, you know, if people choose to wallow in there, oh, well, okay, go ahead, but you're going to die.
And that's why I drank, to nullify that discomfort or whatever it was in me, because it made me feel big. You know, booze is terrific because it makes you instantly feel in a different space. And I enjoyed that. I didn't do it that long. I did it for 15 years. But I remember thinking, this is the life.
And all actors in those days, Peter O'Toole, Richard Burton, all of them, I remember those drinking sessions, thinking, this is the life. We're rebels. We're outsiders.
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Chapter 4: What pivotal moment changed Anthony Hopkins' perspective on life?
We can celebrate. And at the back of the mind is, and it'll kill you as well. And I remember thinking, This is going to kill me. The drinking. Yeah. Because I was drinking like I was going out of fashion. And those guys who worked with me, they've all gone. And they were very talented people. Wonderful.
But once you get into that schizophrenic stage when your personality becomes rabid and from the moment you're a jolly nice guy in the bar and suddenly you turn, viciously say, you talk to me like... That's what was happening to me.
You write about how you were influenced by older actors like Laurence Olivier or Catherine Hepburn sort of helped you understand about film acting. But I was curious about whether any of the younger actors that you've worked with over the years, people like, you know, Nicole Kidman or Brad Pitt or Ryan Gosling, have they taught you anything about acting or shown you anything about the craft?
Um, no, it's always been a pleasure to work with them. I mean, Brad and everyone you've just mentioned. Nothing but praise for them. I was working with a young actor a few years ago, young Canadian actor who looked a bit like James Dean. I think he thought he was James Dean. But we were doing a scene together. I say, can't hear a word you're saying. Huh? I can't hear you. Why are you mumbling?
I didn't want to spoil his day. But I said, if you do that, you see, they will go to the pub next door because you're supposed to tell us the story. Speak up. Be clear. Wandering on like a backstreet Marlon Brown is not going to help you at all in your career. I never heard of him since.
In reading the book and in reading sort of older interviews with you or older articles about you, to me there's a consistent sense that comes from you that, you know, acting shouldn't really be taken that seriously. Actors are entertainers. And I wonder, do you think acting has any greater claim on the truth?
No. It's an entertainment. Maybe it's an educational way of entertaining.
So it has no deeper importance.
I'm not dismissing it, but I'm just saying, you know, if I start taking myself too seriously, it's only a job. It's only acting. So for me, they're just pastiches, little dabs of paint in one's life.
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Chapter 5: How did Anthony Hopkins transition from a troubled youth to a successful actor?
I am not this and I'm not that. I'm just a mechanic. I show up. Somebody says, how did you play The Remains of the Day? That butler, how did you play him? I said, well, I was very quiet, very still, and walked about quietly. That's it. It's that easy. Yeah. But how did you play Hannibal Lecter? Well, I played the opposite of what they promised. Oh, he's a monster. Good morning.
You're not real FBI, are you? Gives me the heebie-jeebies. Don't do that. Because you play the opposite. And it's easy.
You know, I'd like to return to the material from the book for a second. And the specific material I'd like to focus on, I know it's sensitive for you.
I know what you're going to talk about, my domestic life.
Yes. No, no. Even though it's in the book? No, it's done. Can I ask a general question that's not specifically about the material in the book? Well, it's about the... I'll stumble through this.
Part of the reason that the material in the book about your relationship with your daughter, your strange relationship with your daughter, part of the reason why I found it so painful is that it resonated with me for personal reasons. I've seen my father... I think twice in 20 years.
You know, I've spoken to him once in those 20 years, and I'm very curious about other people's experience of that kind of estrangement. In this instance, the estrangement is my choice, but I just wonder if you have thoughts about where reconciliation might lie between estranged parents and children.
My wife, Stella, sent an invitation to come and see us. Not a word of response. So I think, okay, fine. I wish her well, but I'm not going to waste blood over that. If you want to waste your life being in resentment, oh, 50 years later, 58 years later, fine, go ahead. It's not in my can. See, I could carry resentment over the past, this and the other. But that's death. You're not living.
You have to acknowledge one thing, that we are imperfect. We're not saints. We're all sinners and saints or whatever we are. We do the best we can. Life is painful. Sometimes people get hurt. Sometimes we get hurt. But you can't live like that. You have to say, get over it. And if you can't get over it, fine. Good luck to you. But I have no judgment. But I did what I could. So that's it.
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Chapter 6: What insights does Anthony Hopkins share about acting and its purpose?
And Bogart said to her, stay in the shade. Don't go to the camera. Let it come to you. He saw something in her because she was a little crazy, you know. He said, let it come to you. And I think he had that quality as well. And that's the more magnetic side.
It compels you to watch.
Well, because you're not doing anything. When Chilton says to Clarice Starling, what's he like? You mean Hannibal the cannibal? And Chilton, the head of the asylum, says, oh, he's a monster. And she goes down the passageway to the cell, maybe expecting to see a blubbering lunatic. And Jonathan Demme said to me, he said, how do you want to be seen by Clarice?
Do you want to be lying on the bunk or do you want to be reading? I said, no, I want to be standing. Why? I said, I can smell her coming down the corridor. When she sees me, there's this still perfectly civil gentleman. Good morning. You're not real FBI, are you? All the way to the FBI. That's the way to build a portrait. And it's all remote because Lecter is the remote, spellbinding character.
And if you have remoteness as the centrifugal force in you, that's the driving force that pulls you in.
There's another epiphany that I'd like to go back to, if you don't mind. This is another one you describe in the book. You were driving... in Los Angeles in, I think, the late 70s. Yeah. And you felt a pull to go over to a Catholic church. And you went inside and you told a young priest there that you had found God.
Now, I get the sense that you're not, you know, going to church every Sunday or sort of praying in a conventional way. So what is God to you?
Well, it's a touchy subject, isn't it? Because I'm religion and, you know... But what happened that morning when that voice said, it's over, now you can start living, and it has all been for a purpose. So don't forget one moment of it. I knew that was a power way beyond my understanding. Not up there in the clouds, but here, in here. So I chose to call it at that moment, God.
I didn't know what else to call it. Short word, God, easy to spell. And I recently wrote a piece of music which was conducted in Riyadh, Goodbye, on piano and orchestra. And at the end, it came to me as I was writing it, as I was composing it, that that's it. We come full circle. We dip down to, that's all, folks. And that it was all a dream anyway.
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