The Ex-Good Girl Podcast
Episodes
Find Your Outside Voice Part 2 - The Hidden Tax
02 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Save your spot for my upcoming workshop HERE!How to Find Your Outside Voice is a miniseries leading up to my free workshop, Say What You Need to Say. ...
Find Your Outside Voice Part 1 - You Make Sense
01 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Save your spot for my upcoming workshop HERE!How to Find Your Outside Voice is a miniseries leading up to my free workshop, Say What You Need to Say. ...
Episode 157 - Leaving Polygamy, Finding my Voice with Shirlee Draper
25 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Today, I get to talk with someone whose story has stayed with me for years. Shirlee Draper grew up in a polygamist community that became more controll...
Episode 156 - Healing in a Community of Women Re-Release
18 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
I’m bringing back an episode that explores something I care about deeply: the healing that happens when women gather in community. We live in a cult...
Episode 155 - The Powerful Combination of Choice and Voice Re-Release
11 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
To what degree do you feel capable of saying what you want to say in your life and in your relationships? In this episode, I’m revisiting one of my ...
Episode 154 - What Needs To Be Said with Alex Reegan Re-Release
04 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is a reminder of how prejudice can soften when we look beyond policies to see real people, and it feels especially important to bring it ...
Episode 153 - Using the Past and the Future to Solve Problems in the Present
25 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
It’s so easy to feel stuck and overwhelmed when we haven’t figured something out yet. But what if you looked for the evidence in your life that yo...
Episode 152 - How to Stay Informed Without Losing Yourself
18 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
The overwhelming amount of information, emotion, and terror we are experiencing in the world right now can make it hard to know what to do with oursel...
Episode 151 - Your Body Was Never Meant to Hold This
11 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Over the last few weeks, the constant exposure to human suffering, injustice, and horrifying information has felt like an avalanche. If you’ve been ...
Episode 150 - Erotic Wholeness with Darshana Avila
04 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I sit down with erotic wholeness guide Darshana Avila to talk about embodiment, authenticity, and coming home to the body. Darshana w...
Episode 149 - We Need To Talk About Codependency
28 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
For a long time, codependency has been framed as weakness or passivity—that’s why so many strong, capable, high-functioning women hear that word a...
Episode 148 - You Can Get Good at Conflict
21 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Improving your conflict skills isn’t about finding the perfect words—it’s about understanding why conflict feels so hard in the first place. Whe...
Episode 147 - How I Make Sense of the Absolute Bullshit Going on Right Now
14 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
We are living through an incredibly intense political, social, and cultural moment, and it’s easy to fall into the despair and overwhelm of it all. ...
Episode 146 - Five Questions I’m Asking This Year
07 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Is your social media feed overflowing with New Year’s resolutions and tips to optimize your life? This mindset can feel overwhelming, so instead of ...
Episode 145 - Best Of: How To Have Your Own Back
31 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Learning to have my own back is the most powerful thing I’ve ever done for myself, which is why I’m bringing back this essential episode as we hea...
Episode 144 - Best Of: Too Much and Not Enough
24 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week, I’m bringing back one of the most meaningful and widely listened-to episodes of the podcast. The patriarchal, capitalist, Western way of ...
Episode 143 - Self-Silencing is Making You Sick
17 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
A lot of the women I work with are carrying the same fear: the fear of disappointing other people. We were taught that being good means being nice, lo...
Episode 142 - Understanding Religious Trauma Part 2 with Kendra Hill
10 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Some social structures can hold us for a time, but if they don’t expand as we grow, they eventually become suffocating and cause more harm than good...
Episode 141 - Understanding Religious Trauma Part 1 with Kendra Hill
03 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
People-pleasing and codependent tendencies often stem from a religious upbringing. In my own journey of unraveling those behaviors, I’ve had to conf...
Episode 140 - Being a Highly Sensitive Woman with Allyssya Gossett
26 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I talk with coach and host of The Highly Sensitive Woman podcast, Allyssya Gossett. Sensitivity has shaped Allyssya’s life and how ...
Episode 139 - A Four-Step Plan for a Holiday That Actually Feels Good
19 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We all want the holidays to feel meaningful and connected, but the pressure to meet expectations often pulls us away from what truly matters to us. Be...
Episode 138 - Grief Isn’t Linear: Learning to Carry What You’ve Lost with Krista St-Germain
12 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Many of us know that grief isn’t linear, yet so much of what we’re taught still has us trying to get it “right.” In this conversation, I’m j...
Episode 137 - Why Are We Trying To Make It Look Easy?
06 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
On the surface, high-achieving people-pleasers are admired by everyone. We seem to have it all together—never complaining about our workload and alw...
Episode 136 - Choosing Love Over Certainty with Meagan Skidmore
29 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Our good girl programming is built on the certainty that if we follow the rules and keep everyone happy, we’ll belong. But what happens when steppin...
Episode 135 - Staying in Relationships Even with Differences
22 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes it's hard to imagine how we can stay in relationships where there are huge differences–political, religious, or otherwise. In this convers...
Episode 134 - Keep Going but Be Gentle
15 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Even with the powerful growth that can happen in coaching, the pressure cooker we’re all living in—the broken systems, the financial stress, the w...
Episode 133 - What Avoiding Conflict Really Costs You
08 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Conflict is one of the most paradoxical things I’ve encountered—in my own life and in the lives of my clients. For those of us who have been shape...
Episode 132 - How Over-Apologizing Hurts You and How to Stop
01 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Because every one of us has been raised with the good girl rules—to be nice, agreeable, and never rock the boat—almost every woman I work with has...
Episode 131 - End Emotional Outsourcing with Béa Albina
24 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When you stop outsourcing your safety, belonging, and worth, you discover the freedom of authenticity–of knowing who you are and what you want. In t...
Episode 130 - Being Seen in the Relationships that Matter Most
10 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you edit parts of yourself out of relationships because you're afraid of how people will react? Do you self-silence when you know what you have to ...
Episode 129 - How to Break the Habit of Auto Accommodating
03 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When you’re asked to take on extra work, stay late at the office, or do a favor for a friend or family member, do you ever say “yes” automatical...
Episode 128 - How to Get Out of the Self-Doubt Spiral
27 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever caught yourself in a self-doubt spiral, wondering if you’re overreacting, if you’re missing something, or if everyone else just know...
Episode 127 - Radical Discernment: Balancing Self-Care and Collective Care with Katherine Golub
20 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I’m so excited to welcome Katherine Golub to the podcast today. Katherine and I have so much in common–not only our journeys of breaking free from...
Episode 126 - The Body Knows: Faith, The Wisdom of Desire, and Telling the Truth with Michaelann Gardner
13 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this conversation, I’m joined by the author of Sovereign, hypnotist, and fellow ex-Mormon, Michaelann Gardner. Sovereign explores chronic pain, m...
Episode 125 - What I'm Learning About Joy, Rest, and Pleasure
06 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In the self-help space, it’s easy to assume someone else has it all together. The truth is, nobody does. While I have some answers—and I certainly...
Episode 124 - How Did I Get Stuck and How Do I Get Unstuck?
30 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I hear people use the word “stuck” all the time to describe problems or situations, but what does it really mean? You might feel stuck in a relati...
Episode 123 - Living with ADHD and Letting Go of Good Girl Rules with Kristen Carder
23 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Living with ADHD means it doesn’t disappear once you find success–you can be kind, loving, respectful and still show up with your ADHD when you co...
Episode 122 - Signs You're Ready For a Bigger Life!
16 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
As women, we receive so much messaging about how big our lives are allowed to be. Whether it’s patriarchy, childhood conditioning, or the communitie...
Episode 121 - Part 2: Are People Pleasers Liars? (And Why That's Not The Real Problem)
09 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Last week, I shared an interactive episode about people-pleasing and lying—today, we’re continuing the conversation. In this episode, I offer an a...
Episode 120 - INTERACTIVE EPISODE: Are People Pleasers Liars?
02 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Lying is such an interesting topic—and after working with many women who feel stuck in patterns of people-pleasing, I’ve learned that lying and tr...
Episode 119 - Patriarchy 101: How It Was Created and What To Do About It Now
25 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Patriarchy is a system that has shaped our world for thousands of years, which can make unpacking the topic feel overwhelming. Today, I offer a basic ...
Episode 118 - ADHD, Perimenopause, and the Good Girl Trap with Jenny Hobbs
18 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Parenting and relationships can take on a unique dynamic when neurodivergence is part of your life—whether it's your own diagnosis or that of your p...
Episode 117 - The Enneagram for People Pleasers Part 2 with Wendy Montgomery
04 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today, I’m back with part two of my conversation with Enneagram coach Wendy Montgomery. In part one, we explored the nine Enneagram types and how pe...
Episode 116 - The Enneagram for People Pleasers Part 1 with Wendy Montgomery
28 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I have been so excited to have my dear friend and Enneagram coach, Wendy Montgomery, on the podcast. The Enneagram is an expansive and incredible tool...
Episode 115 - "Dying for Sex" with Danielle Savory
21 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textSo many women are not experiencing the sex, orgasms, and intimacy they genuinely want. Often, they blame themselves for this or settle f...
Episode 114 - Being Bullied and Becoming a People Pleaser
14 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textMany women who struggle with people-pleasing often blame themselves, but these habits are usually rooted in deeper issues that are beyon...
Episode 113 - The Intimacy Triangle with Andrea Parks
07 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textYou may remember my conversation with therapist Andrea Parks about the drama triangle and how we can shift out of harmful roles in our r...
Episode 112 - The Hidden Cost of Chronic Accommodation with Celeste Davis
30 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textOne of the biggest challenges for people pleasers is the fear of disappointing, inconveniencing, or hurting others. As women, we have of...
Episode 111 - Hope for Women Struggling with Faith and Feminism: A Conversation with Crystal Hall
23 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textYou may have heard Dr. Crystal Hall's name on the podcast a few weeks back when I responded to the video about why women are leaving the...
Episode 110 - We Have to Start Thinking Differently About Ourselves, and Here’s How
16 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textSo many women blame themselves for their people-pleasing tendencies–I can’t speak up, I apologize too much, I have to avoid conflict...
Episode 109 - How to Stop Emotional Eating Without Shame with Laura Conley
09 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIt’s so common to tie our worth to our weight—this message has been ingrained in us from a young age. But the truth is, no number on...
Episode 108 - Why Are So Many Women Leaving the Church?
03 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textAfter speaking with Britt Hartley in last week's episode, several listeners sent me the same video of Jared Halvorson attempting to call...
Episode 107 - Religious Tools Were Not Created for Women with Britt Hartley
26 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textSo much of our good-girl programming is rooted in religious teachings. Many of these rules keep us trapped in people-pleasing, but it’...
Episode 106 - Vagina Business: FemTech with Marina Gerner
19 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIt can be so hard for women to find reliable information about their bodies and what they truly need to be healthy. In this episode, I t...
Episode 105 - People Pleasing and Friendship with Jewel Hohman
12 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textConnection is a fundamental human need, yet many feel disempowered when it comes to making friends or deepening existing relationships. ...
Episode 104 - Embodying Real Wealth with Julie Murphy
05 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEmbodying real wealth means being true to yourself with every decision–whether in your career, family life, or finances. Today, I’m ...
Episode 103 - Ten Things That Will Help Any Relationship
26 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhen it comes to relationships, we are designed to seek safety, belonging, and connection–we all want to know that we matter. For peop...
Episode 102 - Sex is Not "Extra" with Dr. Kelly Casperson
19 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn her book, You Are Not Broken, Dr. Kelly Casperson points out the societal myth that sex is just “extra”--something to enjoy while...
Episode 101 - What Does Eve Have To Do With Perimenopause?
12 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIf you follow me on social media or regularly listen to this podcast, you might know that I have taken on the role of a volunteer perime...
Episode 100 - I've Got Some Thoughts About That: AMA with Clients
05 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI started this podcast to contribute to the conversation around people-pleasing and perfectionism. Now, as The Ex-Good Girl Podcast reac...
Episode 99 - Breaking Down Patriarchy with Amy McPhie Allebest
29 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this episode, you’ll hear my conversation with Amy McPhie Allebest, a writer, teacher, and feminist historian whose work has helped...
Episode 98 - Resentment: It's Not Coming From Them with Sara Wilhelm
22 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textHave you ever felt resentment building, only to realize your own choices have led you to that place? A huge source of resentment is mist...
Episode 97 - Stop People Pleasing: Current Members Share!
15 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI want every woman to have the ability to create a life of her choosing, filled with the freedom to embrace her desires. I’ve worked h...
Episode 96 - What to Do When You Mess Up
08 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textMistakes are a part of life–we all make them, whether it’s with ourselves, with others, or in pursuit of our goals. Even as we grow ...
Episode 95 - How To Set Goals That Actually Work with Goli Kalkhoran
01 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhen it comes to goals and to-do lists, the unrealistic expectations we often have lead to feelings of inadequacy and overwhelm. Whether...
Episode 94 - We Are Thinking About Time All Wrong with Vikki Yaffe
25 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhen we don’t get to cross something off of our to-do list, we often blame ourselves for poor time management. However, the founder an...
Episode 93 - How To Get Out of the Planning Trap with Priyanka Venugopal
18 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a text“I just need a really good plan,” is a phrase that offers overachievers a sense of security, but the cycle of planning is often what...
Episode 92 - Grief Around the Holidays with Susie Ruth
11 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textThe hopes and expectations we have going into the holiday season make this time of year particularly susceptible to feeling grief. In th...
Episode 91 - Good Girls, Glinda and Upholding the Patriarchy
04 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhen we cause harm to someone else, the good girl tendency is to feel shame and defensiveness. Instead, if we get to a place where we ar...
Episode 90 - Why I Love Wicked and You Should Too
27 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this episode, you’ll get a glimpse into my musical-loving heart as I discuss the feminist themes of the movie, Wicked, and moments ...
Episode 89 - Things that Matter Most Right Now
20 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIt’s normal to want to bypass feelings of fear, worry, and sorrow during this uncertain time, but we miss the opportunity to create a ...
Episode 88 - How To Have More Holiday Magic this Season
13 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWith the holiday season fast approaching, it’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of parties, errands, cooking, and cleaning that ...
Episode 87 - Settle-Proof Your Dating and Relationships with Lily Womble
06 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDo you feel trapped by the “rules” of modern dating? I’m thrilled to be joined by dating coach Lily Womble in today's episode...
Episode 86 - Bodily Autonomy with Dr. Stephanie Hack, the Lady Parts Doctor
30 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textSo many of us women have not been properly educated about our bodies and how to know what is best for them. Today, I’m joined by Dr. S...
Episode 85 - Why Feminism Still Matters
23 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textOn my recent trip to Bolivia, I had an interaction that reignited my thoughts on feminism. In this episode, I explore why feminism remai...
Episode 84 - Belonging to Myself with Serena Hicks
16 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textGet ready for a deep and inspiring conversation with Serena Hicks, a trailblazing business coach who’s shaking up how we view success ...
Episode 83 - The Drama Triangle with Andrea Parks
09 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textHave you ever felt stuck in the same patterns in your relationships, unsure how to break free? In this episode, I sit down with Andrea P...
Episode 82 - We are Smart Enough to Invest with Kara Gaisie
02 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textThis week, I’m excited to dive into a conversation that challenges traditional norms around money and investing. My guest, Kara Gaisie...
Episode 81 - Stop Apologizing
25 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhat have you been apologizing for lately?I’ve realized I’ve been apologizing for everything, and in most cases, none of my actions ...
Episode 80 - When the Internet Mob Comes for You with Sandy Connery and Jeni Barcelos
18 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textThis week, my guests and I invite you to join a conversation we’ve been having over the last few years about women in business and the...
Episode 79 - I Wanted Something Just for Me
11 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI am so excited to share my story with you of how I and three of my travel companions and friends came to found Yapay Bolivia, a nonprof...
Episode 78 - Unconventional Choices: Alternative Relationship Structures with Ali Ryan and Laura Jurgens
04 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textThis week, I continue my series on unconventional choices by exploring alternative relationship structures. I am incredibly thankful to ...
Episode 77 - Unconventional Choices: Single Mom by Choice with Carla Moats and Paige Dempsey
28 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWelcome to the second episode of my special series on Unconventional Choices. I am so grateful to my guests, Carla Moats and Paige Dem...
Episode 76 - Unconventional Choices: Childfree By Choice with Amber Taylor, Pauline Yan, Melissa G Wirt, and Dr. Susie Castellanos Hansley
21 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI’m thrilled to kick off my “Unconventional Choices” series with an incredible lineup of guests and fellow coaches—Amber Taylor,...
Episode 75 - How To Drink Like a Woman Who Loves Herself with Colleen Kachmann
14 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI am so grateful for my conversation with this week’s guest, Colleen Kachmann, where we tackle an important and often tricky topic: dr...
Episode 74 - The Female Double Bind and How to Get OUT
07 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWith everything happening in our world right now, especially politically here in the United States, we need to talk about the female dou...
Episode 73 - What I'm Working On At The Moment
31 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textThis episode is all about honesty and vulnerability as I share what I’m currently working on in my life. While I’m a coach, I’m a ...
Episode 72 - Sneaky People Pleasing
24 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDid you know that people pleasing can be subtle–even sneaky? People pleasing goes far beyond the stereotypical inability to say “no....
Episode 71 - I'm Not Living The Beautiful Life I Could Be with Angie Wilson
17 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI’m so grateful for my beautiful conversation with this week’s guest, Angie Wilson. Angie Wilson is a certified life coach specializ...
Episode 70 - "I am so F*cking Proud of Myself" - Conversations with Women Who Have Stopped People Pleasing
10 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI am so grateful to have had the opportunity to sit down with Allyssya Gossett, Abby Wolfson, and Jayne Newman to dig into what it'...
Episode 69 - Awareness, Capacity and Skills Part Two: Listen In On This Coaching Call
03 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWelcome to part two of my series on how to make lasting, positive changes in your life. In part one, I shared my framework for change an...
Episode 68 - The Three Things You Need to Make a Change: Awareness, Capacity and Skills Part One
26 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDo you know what you need to make a change? I do. I can’t wait to share my framework for change with you. To make a lasting change, yo...
Episode 67 - Expanding Your Capacity for Pleasure with Danielle Savory
19 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI’m excited to welcome Danielle Savory back to the show this week. Danielle is a master-certified coach, podcast host, and expert in n...
Episode 66 - From Stuck to Secure
12 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textThis week’s podcast is an invitation. An invitation to stop feeling “stuck.” An invitation to step into the security and self-conn...
Episode 65 - The People Pleaser's Guide to Co-Parenting with Mikki Gardner
05 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI really enjoyed my insightful and empowering conversation with this week’s guest, Mikki Gardner. Mikki is a mom to a teenage son, a C...
The Ex-Good Girl Podcast is taking a break!
29 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textBecause everybody needs a break sometimes, the Ex-Good Girl podcast is on a four week break. We'll be back on June 5th with new epi...
The Ex-Good Girl Podcast is taking a break!
22 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textBecause everybody needs a break sometimes, the Ex-Good Girl podcast is on a four week break. We'll be back on June 5th with new epi...
The Ex-Good Girl Podcast is taking a break!
15 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textBecause everybody needs a break sometimes, the Ex-Good Girl podcast is on a four week break. We'll be back on June 5th with new epi...
The Ex-Good Girl Podcast is taking a break!
08 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textBecause everybody needs a break sometimes, the Ex-Good Girl podcast is on a four week break. We'll be back on June 5th with new epi...
Episode 64 - How I Created a Secure Relationship With My Husband
01 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terr...