The Grace Fueled Wife: Christian Marriage Podcast | Rebuild Emotional Intimacy | Healthy Communication | Conflict Resolution

Is my husband a narcissist or just avoidantly attached?

01 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Is he actually a narcissist… or is your husband avoidantly attached?  Are you just exhausted, confused, and starting to question your own reality? ...

206 | Tired of meeting his needs (and feeling lonely)?

24 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when you’re meeting everyone else’s needs… and no one seems to notice yours? If you’ve been showing up for your marriage, your ho...

205 | God Redeemed my marriage: 3 lessons learned

18 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever looked back at something you shared and wondered if you revealed more than you were ready to? I recently went back and listened to my ow...

E204| Why talking about your problems isn't fixing your marriage

11 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes the real problem in marriage isn’t the argument — it’s the pattern underneath it. If you’ve ever felt hopeful after a long conversat...

E203// Afraid to stop trying? How to create distance without feeling rejected or unwanted

03 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

What if the real reason you’re afraid to create space in your Christian marriage… isn’t about distance at all? If you have an emotionally distan...

E202// "Doing more" isn't saving your marriage, it's creating distance

26 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

What if the very thing you call “being a good Christian wife” is quietly creating emotional distance in your marriage? If you’re the one working...

E201// Why does my marriage feel lonely even when we're not fighting?

16 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In this anniversary episode, I’m reflecting on how this podcast began — and why so many women resonate with episode one: loneliness inside a marri...

E200| When good intentions are hurting your marriage. Intent vs. Impact in communication

03 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In this very special 200th episode of The Grace Fueled Wife Podcast, I’m sitting with you in a conversation that feels both tender and necessary—t...

E199/ Stuck in the same fight? 3 steps to break your cycle of disconnection.

28 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever found yourself and your husband stuck in recurring arguments that never seem to resolve? I've been there too. Today, we're piecing toget...

E198// How to stop getting defensive, even when you feel attacked! How neuroscience and scripture align on communication

21 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever found yourself in a full-blown argument over something small, wondering how it got so big? In this episode, I share how understanding yo...

E197// I've tried everything to connect but feel like I'm getting nowhere

16 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I dive deep into the world of emotional pursuers—something I know all too well from personal experience. I'll share my story of how...

E196// It doesn't matter what I do, I'm never going to get it right

03 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I continue the discussion from last week about negative communication cycles, focusing specifically on emotional withdrawers. I'll sha...

E195// THIS is the REAL reason you struggle with communication!

25 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we dive into the root causes of disconnection in marriages focusing on unmet emotional needs and negative communication cycles. I sha...

E194// 3 Steps to diffuse an argument today!

18 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I give you some tips on how you can put defensiveness aside and respond with grace when a situation gets challenging! We explore the ...

E193// Why is it easier to talk to my bestie than my husband?

05 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I share insights gained from my recent experiences in therapy training, highlighting the importance of emotional safety in relationsh...

E192// Why I scrapped my most popular episode and what's new for 2025!

10 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I address my hiatus from the podcast and the reasons behind it. I discuss my evolving perspective on marriage therapy, shaped by both...

E191// How to be accountable for change in your marriage WITHOUT being a doormat!

01 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Understanding Grace, Boundaries, and Wisdom in Marriage   In this episode, we revisit episode number two, where I discuss how we can't change our hus...

E190// How to regulate your emotions and be less reactive w. Samantha Skelly

23 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Harnessing the Power of Breathwork to Regulate Emotions and Trauma This week's episode features an enlightening conversation with Samantha Skelly, fou...

E189// Is that normal? Discerning through marital disappointment vs. destructive abuse

18 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Understanding Emotional Abuse: Disappointing vs. Destructive Marriages In this episode of the Grace Fueled Wife Podcast, I'm delving into the critical...

E188// I want to go to marriage counseling but he refuses. What should I do?

16 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Navigating Marriage Therapy: Tips for Encouraging Your Spouse to Participate This week, we dive into communication strategies, using 'I-statements,' a...

E187// How to be less Critical and communicate gracefully w. Deborah Smith Pegues

05 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of the Gracefield Wife Podcast, I have the distinct honor of hosting Debra Smith Pegues. Debra is a best-selling author, global inspir...

E186// The 3 C's to standing for your marriage in the midst of trouble or separation

29 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hello, and welcome back to the Grace Field's Wife podcast! After a brief hiatus due to my training as a marriage and family therapist, I'm excited to ...

E185// What's more important in your marriage than strong communication?

20 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we discuss the value that is even more important to your marriage than communication and why. We also talk about the limitations of w...

E184// What do healthy boundaries in my marriage look like?

18 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I discuss the importance of establishing healthy boundaries in marriage by reviewing 5 rules for healthy boundaries. Through the exam...

E183// Build a strong foundation in your marriage in 4 (easy?) steps!

08 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this week’s podcast, we dive deep into the ins and outs of building a sturdy foundation in marriage. I take you through a group coaching exercise...

E182// Improve emotional intimacy through your marriage story & have a year of good dates w. Tracy Johnson

28 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode of the Grace Fueled Wife, we get to dive into conversations all about marriage, healing, and the power of stories with the exceptional...

E181// Are you having trouble with communication in your marriage? These 3 questions can help!

06 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Communication struggles are one of the most common issues in marriage. You are not alone if this applies to you. In this week’s episode, we discuss ...

E180// What goes on in the mind of a covert narcissist? What does the bible say about submission, oppression and abuse? w. Annette Oltmanns (Part 2)

31 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this week’s episode, I continue my conversation with Annette Otlmans. Annette takes us into the mind of a chronic abuser and gives us the 4 pilla...

E179// Is your husband mean or cranky and you’re looking for clarity to discern emotional abuse? w. Annette Oltmanns (Part 1)

30 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever feel like what is wrong with me? Am I not loveable? Why do we have so many communication problems? Are you wondering why your relationship...

E178// Do you want to have an intentional Christian Marriage? Learn how with Rosie Alejandro

15 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

A loving and connected marriage doesn’t happen by accident. It takes work and intention. In fact, all intimacy takes intention!  Whether that be wi...

E177// New Year, New book reccomendations to reignite your marriage today!

08 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Here are 5 of my newest book recommendations to help you achieve a more loving and connected marriage! Listen in to find out why I think these books a...

E176// Don’t go to marriage counseling until you learn these three things!

04 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Most women looking to save their marriages first look to try marriage counseling. While Marriage counseling can be really helpful, there are important...

E175// What to do when you question why God didn’t answer your prayer

27 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We’ve all been there, we’ve all prayed for a thing that was in God’s will or truly believed it to be in His will and wondered why that prayer wa...

E174// What causes infidelity and is your marriage at risk?

20 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Infidelity…Let’s talk about it. For a show on marriages, I’m surprised I don’t talk about it more!  In this week’s episode, we talk about t...

E173// Stop People Pleasing and Claim your Christ Centered Identity withThe Grace Filled Leader

14 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

As wives and moms who wear all the hats and juggle all the priorities, it can be easy to fall into a role of people pleasing and subsequent burnout. T...

E172// 3 Ways to Give Yourself Grace in a Tough Season

05 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We’ve all been through tough seasons in life. Times when we are struggling in life and marriage, times when we don’t see the light at the end of t...

Bonus Epsiode: Life update and How to quit people pleasing with Grace!

22 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It's out of character for me to go so long without an episode!!! Honestly, I've been going through a lot personally over the past few weeks. Here is a...

E171// How to create financial intimacy with RADCoaches Rebecca & Dylan

21 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Intimacy can come in many forms. When we think of our close relationships we often think of emotional intimacy. When we think of marriage, we often th...

E170// What does it cost to save your marriage?

15 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

There’s a difference between the monetary price of something and the cost of it. As we work to redeem our marriages it’s important to know what th...

E169// How to hear from God with Jenilee Samuel

30 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

God can speak to us at any time, but the times it can be most life giving is when we are in the midst of a dark or uncertain season. In fact, all of m...

E168// Is Marriage counseling worth it? 3 ways to find out!

25 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you considered marriage counseling but aren’t sure if it will be worth your time and investment? Perhaps you’ve tried counseling before but f...

E167//3 simple steps to increase intimacy, communicate respect, AND improve your marriage today!

15 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Has your husband told you that he feels disrespected by you but you’re not sure what he means? You don’t fight often but you want to make sure you...

E166// Is your (or your husband’s) ADHD affecting your marriage? With Dr. Danielle McGeough

10 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever suspected that you or your husband might have ADHD? You’re not alone. Experts are estimating that ADHD is overlooked AND underdiagnose...

E165// 2 common mistakes people in troubled marriages make

02 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Couples in troubled marriages fall within a spectrum of behavior. Some are busy doing EVERYTHING they can to improve the marriage while others are sit...

E164// Listener Q/A: He retreats, I pursue, what should I do? - and MORE

25 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Every month in our Facebook community I go live to answer listener-submitted questions. This month I am answering:   1- How do you turn the work guy ...

E163// This discovery helped save my marriage!

18 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever heard of your family of origin? That’s the family you grew up with - whatever that looks like for you. While we’re all very familiar...

E162// How to be the heroine of your story with Andrew Anderson

11 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week international best-selling author Andrew Anderson talks to us about how we can create transformational healing and learn through the hard t...

E161// How to identify a narcissist & coping skills to deal with one for those who can’t go ”no contact”

07 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever wondered if your husband, mother, father brother, etc is a narcissist? This term gets thrown around pretty loosely but narcissism is a c...

E160// The effect of menopause on your marriage

27 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you or someone you know been dealing with the effects of menopause and have started to see it affect your marriage in negative ways? This episode...

E159// Help! I want my husband to open up to me more

24 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you tired of feeling like housemates who don’t communicate or share feelings with one another? This episode will help you understand why that ma...

E158// How to be an Empowered Wife with Laura Doyle

13 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Looking to feel more empowered in your marriage? In this episode, I chat with New York Times best-selling author Laura Doyle who gives us her formula ...

E157// My 3 step framework to reacting with grace

09 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Unfortunately, many communication breakdowns happen as a result of a reaction vs. a response. There is a big difference between the two.  A reaction ...

E 156//What my client did to save her marriage!

31 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve ever felt like you are alone and struggling, today’s episode is proof that becoming a grace-filled wife is possible. We are chatting wit...

E 155// Do you think your husband may be suffering from depression?

23 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How to identify it and three tips to cope. If you’re a Christian wife that has the feeling her husband might be struggling with depression, this epi...

E154//Help I Can’t Handle My Husband’s Mood Swings

17 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever felt disrespected, angry, and so furious that you want to explode with anger? Yep, I’ve been there. Oftentimes, we have big reactions ...

E153//Do You Want Your Husband To Have A Closer Relationship With The Lord

12 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Is your marriage struggling as a result of your husband’s lack of a relationship with The Lord? Maybe you find yourself saying, “If he only knew.....

E152// 4 Mistakes women make when trying to save their marriage

25 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

If you're anything like me you have probably made one (or more) of these 4 mistakes when trying to save your marriage. The key is now that you're awar...

E151// Are You Over-helping Your Husband? Empower Him To Do More Around The House With These Tips

18 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you TIRED of having to carry the workload of keeping up with the daily chores of your home and trying to simultaneously balance ALL the other thin...

E150// Help! I’m Thinking About Leaving Him But God Hates Divorce.

11 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve felt stuck in your marriage because you're so unhappy that you've thought about leaving your husband but know that God hates divorce, this...

E149// Are you paranoid to find something inappropriate in your husband’s phone or computer? Try this to cope.

04 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you found yourself operating out of a place of fear within your marriage? Maybe you have a fear of finding something inappropriate on your spouse...

E148// Are you afraid to feel triggered in your relationship? 2 Tips to handle your triggers with grace

31 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Haven't we all been there? Everything is going great in our marriage and one day he says or does something to trigger you, emotions run high and all o...

E147// 3 ways to safeguard your marriage

21 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you looking to safeguard your marriage against contempt, disconnection, or even infidelity? Here are three steps proven to help! 1- Keep it Privat...

EP146// Not connecting in marriage? This is what you may be missing.

14 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes marriage counselors get it wrong. I know that's a bold statement, and you might be wondering what I mean by that. But have you ever felt lik...

EP145// How to Get Your Husband to Go to Marriage Counseling with Dana Che

07 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode with Dana Che, we hear about her own marriage testimony, about the marital problems she and her husband faced, and how they overcam...

EP 144// How to Divorce Proof Your Marriage

27 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We are wrapping up our series on intimacy this week. Today, we're talking about the number one way to divorce-proof your marriage. You can have all of...

E143// Three Ways to Improve Intimacy in Marriage

21 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Intimacy in a marriage is something we all want and need, but we don't always prioritize it. If you are looking for tips on how to reignite intimacy i...

E142// 4 tips to building a strong foundation for your marriage

17 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The key to building a strong foundation for your marriage is not just communication or problem-solving skills. It’s about something so much simpler....

E141// How to have a more successful date night

01 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever gotten really excited for date night only to have it ruined by an argument or a fight? Take it from me, the girl who fought on her honey...

E140// Is anxiety or burnout hurting your marriage?

24 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey Mama!    Recently, I've been dealing with prolonged stress which led to feelings of anxiety and burnout. I’ve since thought a lot about its ef...

E139// Help! I think I married the wrong man. Listener questions answered!

19 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Ever worried that you married the wrong man? Maybe your husband isn’t spiritual enough, affectionate enough, or proactive enough. Perhaps, he’s co...

E138// How to call a time out if an argument gets crazy

12 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey Mama!    Do you want to learn how to fight fair and have healthy arguments in your marriage? Learning the why, where, when, and how to call an e...

E137// What is God telling you for your life and marriage in the new year?

04 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you into writing down a word or phrase for the year? Over the past few years, God has been faithful to give me a word to live by. In 2023, he has ...

E136// Creating a safe marriage: 5 Rules for Fair Fighting Pt. 2

19 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever fight in your marriage? Sure you do! Every relationship, even healthy ones experience disagreements. The difference between a healthy marr...

E135// 5 Rules for fighting fair Pt. 1

09 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever fight in your marriage? Sure you do! Every relationship, even healthy ones experience disagreements. The difference between a healthy marr...

E134// Do you need a way to manage all the holiday stress with your husband?

02 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

  Christmas is an exciting time of year but can also be very stressful! How many times have you and your husband argued or butted heads over all the ...

E133// Mental health and your marriage: How do you really feel?

22 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you tired of giving or hearing over simplified over, spiritual answers when someone asks how you’re doing? Are you tired of answering the questi...

E132// Do you have trouble feeling loved?

16 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you like one of the thousands of women having trouble feeling loved in general or in their marriage? It may not simply be the case that your husba...

E131// Bonus: Listener questions answered! How to work on your marriage if your husband refuses therapy and more!

10 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You ask, I answer! A listener submitted several juicy questions in our Facebook. I have all the answers here.    How to work on your marriage if you...

E130// The 1 thing every apology needs

07 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you tired of feeling like the apology isn’t good enough? Are you wondering what might be missing or why the apology doesn’t feel genuine?   ...

E129// How to be the wife he wants to come home to

02 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever sat outside your house trying to rest or regroup before you open the door to the chaos? Of course, you have! We all have. As much as we ...

E128// 3 ways to rebuild trust in marriage

25 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Everyone has felt the sting of broken trust at one time or another. If you haven’t you’re one of the lucky ones! For everyone else, here are 3 pra...

E127// 3 ways I partner with God in my marriage

19 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It’s important to partner with God in everything we do. Our marriage is no exception. This episode will give you the exact 3 things I do on a daily ...

E126// How do I get my husband to notice/love me?

14 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever felt like your husband doesn’t notice you? Have you ever wondered what you did wrong or what he’s got on his mind that seems so far ...

E125// Bonus - 3 Must read Books on Marriage: Quarterly Book Review

07 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you looking to restore, strengthen or improve your marriage or the connection you have with your husband? Aren’t we all? Well then here are thre...

E124// How to improve communication in your marriage by 55%!

05 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you having trouble communicating? Perhaps you struggle with getting your point across, or you feel like you are not often heard.  Did you know th...

E123// Feeling like resentful roommates in marriage? How can self-care help?

12 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel like a roommate, a “loveless Leah” in your marriage or like a resentful Rachel? Perhaps you feel like “he’s a great guy but….”...

E122// How stand up for yourself (with grace) when your husband is acting out

31 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve been starting to feel resentful because you feel like you’re doing all the right things but your husband has been getting away with mood...

E121// Help! I’ve tried being humble in my marriage and it’s not working

26 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

There is a boundary line between humility and abuse, there are also some very practical ways we should view humility as Christians.  If you feel like...

E120// 6 Lessons I learned from my 6 week sabatical

18 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I am back! It's been way too long since my last episode but this week I explain all the happenings and give you the six lessons I learned during my ti...

E119// Struggling to forgive someone? 5 Step forgiveness process

06 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Someone has done something to offend you. More than offense you’re probably angry, hurt, and starting to feel resentful.  Perhaps you know you SHOU...

E118// Is your husband not communicating? 3 reasons why

27 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It can be really difficult to connect in your marriage if one or both of you aren’t communicating well. Here are three reasons why your husband migh...

E117//Dealing with anxiety? Keeping the faith when things get hard.

13 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you going through a season of anxiety or a tough time? When we’re faced with these seasons we often find it hard to keep the faith or sometimes ...

E116// Should I still have sex with my husband if we’re separated?

07 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

There are many mixed opinions on this issue mostly because they say it will confuse you or your husband. In some cases, however,  it can heal the mar...

E115// My rockbottom story Pt. 2: 3 mistakes that led to our separation and lessons I learned

25 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Way back in episode 1, I said I would talk about the things that I did which led to my separation. In the excitement of the new show, the start of the...

E114//Self Coach Saturday: Fighting for your marriage even if you’re separated

21 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

No matter where you are in your marriage, whether you’re on the brink of separation or you are just looking to reconnect, this episode will help you...

E113// Quick date night idea when you’re lacking childcare

17 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I see you out there trying to increase intimacy and connection in your marriage. You want to prioritize date night but don’t have child care.    H...

E112// Self Coaching Saturday:Do you want better communication in marriage?

14 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

One of the biggest requests I get from my clients is for better communication with their husbands. This episode will walk you through the two basic qu...

E111// Tempted to give him the silent treatment? 3 ways to do it with grace.

10 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Is it ever okay to give your husband the silent treatment?   I’m sure you’ve wanted to before. Who hasn’t? Although anger and resentment may ca...

E110// Are you trying to improve your marriage by yourself? How to improve your marriage with self coaching

07 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you trying to improve your marriage by yourself? Don't feel bad. Many of my listeners are. In this episode, we learn how to improve your marriage ...

E109// What does your bedroom say about your marriage?

03 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you looking for more intimacy in your marriage? Whether you want more sex or just more meaningful conversation the state of your bedroom could be ...