Class with Kate

Ep. 73 | She Exposed Her Dad’s Affair… and Lost Her Entire Family | Office Hours with Mia

20 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Mia never expected one confrontation to cost her everything. After forcing her father to come clean about an affair with her sister-in-law’s mother,...

Ep. 72 | He’s Finally Trying. Why Do I Still Feel Stuck?

19 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Two women. Two marriages. One frustrating question: What do you do when he’s trying… but it’s still not enough? In this Office Hours episode wit...

Ep. 71 | Can You Come Back From Estrangement? Healing Without Your Parents (And Whether Reconnection Is Even Possible)

18 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Estrangement is painful—and for many adult children, it feels completely unfair. Because it is. In fact, IT’S BULLSHIT.   In this episode, we tal...

Ep. 70 | When Trauma Work Feels Like Too Much (What to Do Instead)

13 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Amelia is overwhelmed. The trauma work, the awareness, the emotions—it’s all too much, and it’s starting to impact her ability to function. So w...

Ep. 69 | Two Marriages, Two Stages: Why Your Next Step Depends Where You Are

12 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Two women. Two marriages. Different stages—and completely different next steps. In week two of the group format, Kate listens to both Jackie and Tin...

Ep. 68 | Why You Can’t Stop Crying (or Laughing) And What You Actually Need

11 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Ever found yourself crying and laughing at the same time—and then feeling confused or even ashamed? In this episode, we walk through a real-life exa...

Ep. 67 | If Your Daughter Is Leaving an Abuser — Don’t Make This Mistake

06 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Chris’s daughter is finally leaving an abusive relationship—but Chris is terrified of saying the wrong thing. When your child is hurting and vulne...

Ep. 66 | I Can’t Leave. How Do I Protect My Kids Anyway?

05 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Sarah and Tiah are living in different parts of the world—but asking the same question: How do you protect your kids when you can’t leave an abus...

Ep. 65 | When Parents Cut Off Their Kids: Is it “Nuanced?”

04 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

There’s a growing trend of parents “cutting off” their kids in the name of boundaries. But when a parent fully walks away—it’s abandonment....

Ep. 64 | Will My Kids Feel Responsible For Me?

28 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

You don’t need to hide your emotions—but your kids shouldn’t have to carry them either. In this episode, I show you how to actually feel you...

Ep. 63 | Pseudomutuality: Why Hiding Your Feelings Inhibits Your Relationship

27 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

If your house feels calm… but no one’s really honest, that’s not connection—that’s pseudomutuality. In this episode, I break down how “kee...

Ep. 62 | Riley’s Story: Stuck, Overwhelmed, and Ready for Change

24 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Riley is doing everything “right”—marriage, motherhood, showing up. So why does she feel so stuck? In this episode, we unpack: -The signs of ne...

Ep. 61 | How Can Saying Thank You Possibly Be Bad??

23 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Saying please and thank you in a relationship SOUNDS good right… but sometimes it can indicate something else: pseudomutuality. This is “fake clos...

Ep. 60 | Why is a Focus On Being “Nice” Actually Abusive?

22 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve ever said “I’m sorry” but nothing really changed… this episode is for you. We’re breaking down the patterns that keep people stu...

Ep. 59 | How Mocking and “Jokes” Keep Unhealthy Marriage Roles Alive

21 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Why do some marriages normalize sarcasm, teasing, and subtle disrespect? In this episode, Kate explains how “joking” can become a way unhealthy ma...

Ep. 58 | I Cut Off My Parents. But My Son Wants Grandparents.

20 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when your child wants a relationship with the people who hurt you? This episode answers key questions about pseudohostility, then Pearl...

Ep. 57 | Pseudohostility, Fake Harmony, and the Cost of Speaking Up in Family Systems

17 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Is your marriage peaceful—or just emotionally shut down? In this episode, we break down how pseudohostility and pseudomutuality create fake connecti...

Ep. 56 | When Love is Present but Safety is Missing

16 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Trauma is often created in ordinary family moments—through fear, silence, emotional inconsistency, and lack of repair. The first half of this episod...

Ep. 55 | When Betrayal Ends a Long Marriage: Mary’s Story

15 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Mary shares her experience of divorce after 38 years of marriage following betrayal, secrecy, and blackmail involving her husband’s...

Ep. 54 | Is She Really Mad at Her DIL, Or is It Something Else?

14 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Suppressed anger rarely stays hidden—it often comes out as judgment, criticism, and control. In this episode, we explore why this dynamic shows up s...

Ep. 53 | Does Authoritarian Parenting of Boys Create Abusive Men?

13 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

This episode was inspired by recent TikTok videos showing harsh, highly controlling parenting with boys—and it raises a serious question: Does a...

Ep. 52 | Why Healing Can Feel Worse Before It Feels Better

10 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Jessica shares what it feels like to begin healing while experiencing painful flashbacks, intense body symptoms, and emotional overwhelm. We discuss w...

Ep. 48 | Why Don’t I Feel Angry About It?

09 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Ep. 51 | What Happens When Sibling Abuse Is Ignored by Parents

09 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Robin shares her story of sibling abuse and the long-term impact of growing up in a family where harm was minimized and protection was missing. We d...

Ep. 50 | Is Nervous System Work Helping Women – Or Controlling Them?

09 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

There is growing conversation around nervous system regulation, but not all uses of that language lead to deeper freedom. In this video, I discuss how...

Ep. 49 | Why Doesn’t She Feel Anger?

09 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Is Nervous System Work Helping Women – Or Controlling Them? | Ep. 50

08 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

There is growing conversation around nervous system regulation, but not all uses of that language lead to deeper freedom. In this video, I discuss how...

Why Doesn’t She Feel Anger? | Ep. 49

07 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Why Don't I Feel Angry About It? | Ep. 48

06 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Let’s Talk About Belle | Ep. 47

31 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

How Do I Heal in Verbal Abuse? | Ep. 46

30 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

What to Understand About Trauma

24 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

My Husband’s Ex-Girlfriends are in His Search History

23 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Did My Parents Abandon Me As An Adult? | Ep. 43

18 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Authoritarian Parenting | My Husband Believes in a Different Parenting Style Than I Do | Ep. 42

17 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Why Do Emotions Matter | Ep. 41

16 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Will Being Authoritarian With My Husband Get Him to Change? | Ep. 40

10 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

When Walking On Eggshells Hurts Your Kids | Ep. 39

09 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Let's Talk About Marie

03 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Marie has been in six relationships that she's identified as being toxic. Is it her fault? Let's talk about it. Find more @CodependencyKate on Insta...

This is My Sixth Abusive Relationship. At What Point Is It My Fault? | Ep. 37

02 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Kate talks with Marie about a string of abusive relationships. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate....

Let's Talk About Kay | Ep. 36

24 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Kate gives you options when Emotionally Focused Therapy isn't working. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codepende...

EFT Therapy Isn’t Working, What Now? | Ep. 35

24 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Emotionally Focused Therapy isn't working for Kay. Find more @CodependencyKate on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, and Twitch www.codependencykate.com...

Siblings 101: It's a Parent Problem | Ep. 34

17 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Diagnosing your sibling might say more about you than it does about them. Someone commented "I think my sister has borderline personality disorder" an...

None Of Us Have Been Taught How To Feel | Ep. 33

16 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Facts over feelings is sh*t. We need to pay attention to our emotions. So many of us are emotionally neglected, by others and by ourselves. Kate explo...

Let's Talk About Holly | Ep. 32

10 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Kate breaks down Holly's situation by walking through the difference between sexual abuse, coercion, and harassment. She also unpacks how Holly's fami...

My Sister's Husband Filmed Me In The Shower—And My Family Blamed Me | Ep. 31

09 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Holly's sister's husband was arrested for secretly recording women undressed—including Holly. When Holly reported it to police, her family turned on...

Let's Talk About Mona | Ep. 30

03 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Kate breaks down what actually happened with Mona and John—and why "emotional volatility" is the wrong way to frame it. She introduces her BEND meth...

My Husband Won’t Go to Therapy | Ep. 29

02 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Mona calls in about her husband's refusal to engage in therapy after a decade of navigating their daughter's severe medical needs. Kate gets real abou...

Episode 28- What happens if my parents die while we are no-contact?

26 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In Kate's first call-in show, Kate helps Toni navigate being estranged from parents while they're still alive and wondering what happens when they die...

Episode 27- How to manage sibling dynamics

23 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

The Sherrone Moore situation, how to repair with adult kids, and managing sibling dynamics- this episode is JAM PACKED with info! This is the last epi...

Episode 26- How to REPAIR your relationships- the basics

16 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you're struggling to understand repair in your relationships, this episode is for you. It contains all of the 101s of what you need to do this well...

Episode 25- You are allowed to not care about your parents feelings

09 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

SHOCKER... I know. But it's developmentally TRUE, and even appropriate sometimes! And sometimes you need to be told. I hope this episode, like all of ...

Episode 24- How to actually recover from stress (after Thanksgiving)

02 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you're still super activated post Thanksgiving with the fam... I got you. Here I cover a range of topics to help you through this- attachment, 'nam...

Episode 23- How to manage the different family dynamics at Thanksgiving

25 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the details of self-regulating and co-regulating.. and the differences with your kids, your spouse, and yes... your parents....

Episode 22- So you think your toddler is being "mean"

18 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

So a mom made a video that has since gone viral about her toddler "being mean" to her... and here's what I have to say about it. Find more @Codependen...

Episode 21- How to not emotionally neglect your kids

11 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Emotional neglect is the number one FIXABLE issue affecting families, children, and marriages today. And it is also the cause of estrangement IMO. Def...

Episode 20- "My MIL opened up a credit card in my husband's name..."

04 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ok ok thank you everyone for bearing with me through the evolution of my podcast and now SHOW- Class with Kate! In this first episode I talk with Mary...

Episode 19- STOP the "nice guy" act

28 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We all know the "nice guy" trope is NOT GOOD. But why and how does being "nice" translate to imploding relationships? And also, how do you handle it i...

Episode 18- Check yourself before you get on social media

14 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

One thing from this week's videos stood out to me... what is your emotional state BEFORE you get on social media? Do you even know? And the biggest qu...

Episode 17- IDK where to start with my emotions (HATE list part 1)

07 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Sooo you know that feeling your feelings it the key to changing your behavior, but you don't know where to start. It feels like going into the abyss. ...

Episode 16- Stop telling your kids how their behavior makes you feel

30 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

So I made a video that said "stop telling your kids how their behavior makes you feel" and it got a lottttttt of pushback. Let's discuss what emotions...

Episode 15- How to understand Emotions (BEND part 2)

23 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

The MOST misunderstood topic IN THE WORLD in my opinion.... emotions. In this episode I'll tell you how to understand them and how to process them. Fi...

Episode 14- How to ACTUALLY emotionally regulate (introduction to BEND)

16 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We hear sooooo much about emotion regulation but nobody talks about how to do it in a practical and actually USEFUL way. Introducing... my BEND method...

Episode 13- How to respond to Chronic Defensiveness in Marriage

09 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

THE MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION... what is the gray area when your partner is exhibiting harmful behavior AND is resistant to change. Hopefully this persp...

Episode 12- Does the parent-child relationship change when the kid becomes an adult?

19 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

The million dollar question... plus some BIG NEWS on a personal front. But beware... it's not all fun and games, I talk about the controversial video ...

Episode 11- Kendra and her Psychiatrist, feat. Abigail Gunn, LMHC

12 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Yeah.... we had to talk about it. Unfortunately, Abby and I have opinions that only the minority of people share regarding the whole "Kendra fell in l...

Episode 10- How to listen (parents & married men, beware!)

05 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Listening is the #1 skill that transforms relationships in my opinion. Here I'll elaborate on what your role is when it comes to listening (whether th...

Episode 9- Motherhood and the invalidation that comes with it, featuring.... SHAWNA THE MOM!!!

29 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Shawna Lander is the crazy talented actor behind her skit series on family dynamics. It features characters Shawna, her husband John, her MIL Barb, SI...

Episode 8- Will my take on "meanness" actually help you get unstuck in your marriage?

22 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

So I may have posted a controversial take on "meanness" and how to address it in parenting... and it triggered a LOT of people. I think these same peo...

Episode 7- If your partner is toxic to your kids, what is your role?

15 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode was such a big deal for me to have out on time. I have been blocked and blocked from a creative standpoint but after using BEND and (many...

Episode 6- You aren't as emotionally mature as you think you are

08 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode I cover a topic I am MOST passionate about- internalizing. Don't listen to this episode unless you're ready for some hard truths.... a...

Episode 5- How do I help my teenagers/adult children detach?

01 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I'll answer people's submitted questions! 1. How do I help my 15/17 year olds detach and have their own boundaries? 2. How do I help m...

Episode 4- How to break through Enmeshment

24 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I talk about revelations I've had this week... specifically about the role of "enmeshment" in issues of estrangement. In summary, enme...

Episode 3- How to Stop Intellectualizing

17 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Intellectualizing is what is holding you back in your relationships! It can show up as defensiveness or being "logical" when the situation calls for p...

Episode 2- FAKE GRATITUDE and other things

08 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this podcast we put a pause on Conversations with Sierra to address the videos I posted this week! I'll get into the 4 skills of emotion regulation...

Episode 1- Conversations with Sierra

03 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This is part 1 of Conversations with Sierra. Sierra is a vibrant, intelligent, goofy 25 year old who happens to be estranged from her mother. This is ...

(13) What therapists need to know about Muslim clients with Sister Kathryn

24 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Kate sits down with fellow TikToker Sister Kathryn, a Muslim author and mom of 5. They initially did not have a very pleasant interaction, but wanted ...

(12) How to go from ”coping” to ”being”

16 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

part 3/3 of the Class with Kate series on "being" With all the tragedy and loss happening in the world, learning to just "be" kind of doesn't make sen...

(11) Are you an ”empath” or... something else?

15 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you identify with the term "empath" but are not sure what to make of it? If not "empath," what about highly sensitive person (HSP), codependent, or...

(10) How to understand ”being”

15 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you not know how to just "be"? Does it feel either overwhelming or empty when you sit down and take a second to relax? If so, you are NOT alone- it...

TRAILER: a mid-season glow-up

13 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to all the new listeners! Find Kate on TikTok Subscribe to get updates on RR.com

(9) What’s the big deal with self-diagnosis?

04 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Kate (MFT student) and Kelly (LPC-temp) discuss the issue of diagnosing yourself from online mental health therapists. Kate, being an online content c...

(8) When Creators Collide with KC Davis: part 1/2

31 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Kate meets with therapist, author, speaker, and fellow TikTok creator KC Davis. They met about 6 months ago, when Kate challenged one of KC's TikTok v...

(7) How much do therapists actually work? with Megan Kelly

27 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Kate interviews Meg, who is the therapist behind the popular Instagram account, @antiworktherapist. In her private practice, Meg treats mostly therapi...

(6) BONUS CLIP- Is porn addiction with men similar to eating disorders with women?

16 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Kate and Kelly discuss.    Watch on Youtube- https://youtu.be/sFuKnqYINR0 Also on Spotify, Apple, and Google Podcasts Subscribe to get updates- www....

(6) How fitness influencers influence eating disorders, with Kelly

16 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Kate and Kelly discuss one of Kelly's biggest pet peeves- fitness influencers. Kelly starts off by mentioning a particular fitness influencer on TikTo...

(5) How to talk about sexuality and gender with friends

07 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Kelly, 27 yo queer LPC, and Kate, 30 yo straight MFT masters student (both married to men), have an open dialogue about sexuality and gender. Watch th...

(4d) How to talk to your parent, girlfriend, or spouse about your porn addiction

07 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You met Chandler in episode 4a, and we circle back to get specifics on how he had the conversation about his pornography addiction with loved ones. Le...

(4c) Porn Addiction: Blake- 27 yo, married, Marriage and Family Therapist

06 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Our last episode in the series on Porn Addiction- see episode (4) for quick intro and context. Kate met Blake through their MFT program in Nashville, ...

(4b) Porn Addiction: James- 26 yo, engaged, farmer, MMFT

05 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Continuing the series on Porn Addiction- see episode (4) for quick intro and context. James is a regular guest on the show- you might remember him fro...

(4a) Porn Addiction: Chandler- 25 yo, husband, & app creator

04 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

See previous episode (4) for quick intro and context-  Chandler struggled with porn addiction started at 14 years old. He got help at 18 and is now 2...

(4) Porn Addiction: intro to next 4 episodes

03 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

90% of men use porn, regardless of their faith background. As an introduction to this series on the topic, Kate draws a parallel with eating disorders...

(3) Church and sexual...healing? part 2/2 with Kelly

02 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

(PART 2/2) Kate is going to a training on "sexual brokenness" and is trying to get Kelly, her great friend/episode 2 guest/queer mental health profess...

***TRAILER***

02 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Get a glimpse at what's to come this season...   Watch on Youtube- https://youtu.be/bJQL4rTy7Rg Subscribe at www.restoringrelationships.com  

(2) Kelly: an introduction- part 1/2

26 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

(PART 1/2) You asked and we delivered... KELLY IS BACK and better than ever. We stumble through how we became friends, Kelly's background, and the dif...

(1) Straight white men and emotions: RR with James

24 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I'm baaaaack!!! Season 1.0 starts with Kate talking with James, MMFT and TikTok sibling, who initially challenged her on her view of emotions. Watch a...