The Hey, Girlfriend Podcast
Episodes
121. This is How You Know He’s Not Playing About You | Men with Good Intentions Will Do These Things
12 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
How do you know if a guy actually has good intentions — before you’re already attached? In this video, I’m breaking down 8 subtle but powerful s...
120. You Say You Want an Emotionally Available Man… Do You Understand What You’re Asking For?
05 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Many women say they want an emotionally available man. But what happens when you finally meet one?In this video, I talk about something that doesn’t...
119. Make Him Realize He Fumbled You
19 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
He knew your worth.He just didn’t think you’d leave.In this episode, we’re talking about why men take good women for granted — and what actual...
118. He Wasn’t Special…He Was Just Fine (And He Wanted You)
12 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
He wasn’t even that special… he was just fine. And he wanted you.In this video, we’re talking about why we fall for emotionally unavailable men,...
117. Make Him Feel Stupid for Trying You (The Reverse Uno Method)
05 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
You gotta make him feel stupid for trying you—and the way you do that isn’t revenge, yelling, or explaining. It’s walking away for good.In this ...
116. You’re Not Clingy (He Needs a Healthy Obsession With You or You Will Feel Clingy)
29 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
If a man doesn’t have a healthy obsession with you, the relationship will slowly make you anxious, insecure, and self-doubting.Women are constantly ...
115. Why Some Men Will Never Commit—No Matter How Good The Woman Is
22 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Why do some men say they want marriage—but never seem able to sustain it?In this video, I talk about why liking your partner matters more than peopl...
114. A Man Treating You Right Should Be the Only Thing That Impresses You About Him
15 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
There comes a point in a woman’s dating life where nothing about a man matters if he doesn’t treat her right.Not his looks.Not his money.Not his c...
113. You’re Not Emotionally Unavailable—Here’s Why You Attract Men Who Are
18 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you keep attracting emotionally unavailable men, you’ve probably been told that it must mean you are emotionally unavailable too.But what if that...
112. Lovergirl, You Can’t Keep Loving Men Who Can’t Meet You (Stop Ignoring Your Needs)
11 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
“Lovergirl, I know you want love real bad… but please don’t settle for half-love.”This video is for the women who love deeply, who feel everyt...
111. How to Decenter Men While Dating & In Love (Stop Losing Yourself)
20 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you keep losing yourself the moment you like someone… this video will change your dating life.Today we’re talking about how to decenter men whi...
110. How Decentering Men Can Transform Your Relationships & Your Life
12 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You’ve probably heard the phrase “decenter men” — but what does that really mean?In this video, I break down what decentering men actually loo...
109. He’s Not Special—You Just Fear Detachment
30 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
So let’s talk about the real reason you can’t let go.It’s not because he’s your soulmate.It’s not because the connection was “too strong t...
108. When a Man Only Loves You After You’re Gone…
23 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When a man only starts acting right once you’re done, that’s not love, that’s panic.He’s not afraid of losing you, he’s afraid of losing acc...
107. When the ‘Good Man’ Betrays You
16 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You can do all the healing work.You can love yourself, set boundaries, and believe you’ve finally chosen right — and still end up betrayed.This ep...
106. How to Tell If He’s a Genuinely Nice Guy (Not Just Acting Nice for You)
09 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you’ve ever felt confused by men who say the right things but never show up with the same energy, this video will help you recognize real kindnes...
105. Stop Giving Men The Benefit Of The Doubt
25 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Too many women get stuck in toxic dating cycles because we give men the kind of love we wish they would give us, instead of paying attention to the lo...
104. The Feminine Shift: From Wounded Ego to Divine Power
18 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
So many women are trapped in relationships because of a wounded ego. When your ego is in survival mode, you beg to be chosen, over-give, and confuse a...
103. Stop Begging Him: How to Retrain Your Ego to be a Bodyguard, Not a Beggar
11 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Walking away isn’t always about heartbreak—it’s about self-respect. In this video, I share the truth about what it means to leave a man who will...
102. 10 Healthy Dating Rules (No More “Make Him Chase You”)
21 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
ALIGNED DATING VS DATING GAMESTired of dating “rules” that feel like games? This episode flips the script. You’ll learn 10 healthy dating rules ...
101. Difference Between Being Wanted Vs Valued (Consumption Vs Commitment)
14 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
There’s a difference between a man who consumes you and a man who commits to you. In this video, we break down wanted vs valued and consumption vs c...
100. He Was NEVER Going to Commit
31 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We give men like this way too much credit—and we fault ourselves unfairly.He was never going to commit, no matter how loyal, loving, or patient you ...
99. How to Trust Men Again
24 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
How to Trust Men Again (Without Betraying Yourself) 💔➡️❤️In this video, I open up about my personal journey of learning how to trust again—...
98. Stop Letting Men Decide Your Value — Walk Away Sooner (How to Break The Cycle)
17 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you keep finding yourself staying with men who don’t value you the way you know you deserve to be valued—this video is your wake-up call.It’s...
97. What An Emotionally Mature & Safe Man Looks Like
10 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
So many of us have normalized emotional unavailability, confusion, and inconsistency in relationships… and then we wonder why we’re exhausted, anx...
96. Most Men Aren’t Emotionally Mature Enough to Handle Your Love: Be Selective
26 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
As a woman who loves deeply, I had to learn the hard way that not every man deserves access to my heart. Being loving, nurturing, and emotionally avai...
95. He Doesn’t Like You (why he can love you & still not like you)
19 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When He Loves You But Doesn’t Like You | My Personal Story & Eye-Opening SignsIn this video, I’m sharing my personal experience of being in a ...
94. You Don’t Need Him—It’s Not Love, It’s Manipulation
05 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You think you’re in love with him… but what if it’s just a trauma bond?In this video, I’m breaking down how love bombing and manipulation made...
93. I Didn’t Do Anything Special To Get A Husband…
29 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
💜I Didn’t Do Anything Special to Get a Husband — Here’s What I Did DoSociety tells us we need to be perfect, chase love, or constantly “imp...
92. Closure Without Contact: heal without the apology
15 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Seeking Closure Within | Reclaim Your Power & Heal on Your Own I’m diving deep into the powerful journey of seeking closure within. If you’re ...
91. Self Abandonment In Dating Is Breaking Your Heart
01 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I dive deep into the topic of self-abandonment in dating—what it looks like, where it stems from, and how it sabotages your sense o...
90. Stop Trying to Figure Out Emotionally Unavailable Men
24 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Let’s be real—he’s not confused, he’s just not emotionally available. In this video, I’m breaking down exactly why women need to stop entert...
89. As a Woman That Finally Left…
17 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes, the most painful part of leaving a toxic relationship isn’t the person—it’s the fear of what comes next. The unknown can feel paralyz...
88. Healing My Heartbreak from a Man That Hurt Me BAD
10 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Whew—this one’s personal. In this video, I’m opening up about how I finally got over a man I really wanted—a man I was trauma bonded to. You k...
87. So, he didn’t choose you…
03 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
So… he didn’t choose you. Now what? Before you start overthinking or blaming yourself, let’s talk about what this really means. In this video, I...
86. As a woman that stayed…
27 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
As a woman that stayed…I can’t tell you when to leave because I couldn’t be convinced back then. So here’s my nuanced, empathetic view on such...
85. If He’s Not Choosing You, He’s Not For You
20 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Let’s be real—if he’s not choosing you, he’s simply not for you. No more overthinking, no more excuses, and definitely no more waiting around ...
84. Become an Empowered Empath
06 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are you an empath who feels everything too deeply? Do you struggle with setting boundaries, managing emotional overwhelm, or navigating relationships ...
83. Do You Even Desire Yourself???
30 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Want to be the kind of person who naturally attracts others? In this episode, I break down the mindset shifts needed to build confidence & self esteem...
82. Why You Keep Getting Blindsided (Part 3)
23 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Why you keep getting blindsided: Reason 3-You lack confidence in yourself, your intuition & what you feel you deserve.So, you’re at any man’s ...
81. Why You Keep Getting Blindsided (Part 2)
16 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Why you keep getting blindsided: Reason 2- You are not adjusting your standards & non-negotiables accordingly. You’re comparing each new man you...
80. Why You Keep Getting Blindsided (Part 1)
12 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You’re trying to see the best in him. Reason 1-you are not a good judgement of character or you refuse to judge him period. You find yourself trying...
79. Trying to Prove Your Worth Means You DO Know Your Worth…
05 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You know your worth, you’re just taking it personal that he doesn’t. Don’t. Why want a man who doesn’t value all of who you are? ivebeenthatg...
78. Being Male Centered Attracts the Wrong Type of Men
21 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It’s time to center yourself & de-center men for good. It doesn’t mean you hate men or never want a man again, it just means you’re not losi...
77. Why You Suck at Being Disciplined
14 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I’ve recently been in my disciplined, go get it girl era & I feel sooo much better about myself & my life! Being more disciplined works y’all lol....
76. Stop Getting So Attached So Fast (Detached Dating)
07 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Detached dating doesn’t mean you’re aloof or cold & not wanting love, it means you’re detached until you have the proper information about that ...
75. Boundaries = Self Respect
24 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Setting boundaries with family can be the hardest because you love them. and not to mention they sometimes equate you setting boundaries with them as ...
74. How to Tell If You Should Keep Seeing Him
26 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Greenflags he has good intentions and truly wants to get to know you. ivebeenthatgirl.com
73. Mindset Shifts to Get You Unstuck
20 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Prepare to be called out--but in a loving, empathetic way. I've been this girl too--feeling stuck or feeling behind in life. I share some of my &...
72. If He Does or Says This...RUN
15 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You can't always vet that a man is going to betray you... BUT, here are a few covert things that can help you to be on the lookout for when dating...
71. Stop Overstaying
25 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You gotta know when to get in and get out. ivebeenthatgirl.net
70. "How Could He Move On Like I Meant Nothing to Him?"
11 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
A man once loving you and then discarding you like you meant nothing to him hurts to the CORE. Let's talk about it and heal through it.
69. Trust Yourself More
20 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Self trust builds confidence and self esteem. It is just as important as having self love.
68. What You're Getting Wrong About Self Love
30 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you're trying to love yourself, then you already do. Your self love is there, in you already--its just waiting for you to embrace it and expand...
67. Stop Dating Projects
16 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
So, you think you can fix him, huh? You need proof that you give good love and you think that will be made evident in loving a man into changing for y...
66. How to Not Keep Getting Your Heart Broken
09 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
No, the answer is not becoming an emotionless savage that hates love (but if you do, that's yo business). If you still want love and want a relations...
65. It's Okay to Date ONE Man at a Time
25 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
a man competing with your alone time and good life that you've made for yourself is better than him competing with a roster of men that aren't...
64. You’d Be More Confident if You Were More Delusional!
11 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What's stopping you from being confident? For me, it was the fear of being "fraudulent," meaning I didn't want to be one of those "delusional" people...
63. Relationships (& Relationship Endings) Do NOT Have to be TRAUMATIZING
04 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Understand that that can be your LAST toxic, traumatic relationship and last time coming undone and hitting rock bottom over a man. You don't hav...
62. You Don't Need Him Like You Think You Do
28 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Our voids, codependency and attachment issues can really play min tricks on us like we need inconsistent, unavailable, bread crumbing ass men. Let go...
61. Don’t Forget Who You Are
21 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Comparing yourself to others is literally a thief a joy and not only that, you're simultaneously diminishing who you are and your self worth. On this...
60. You Can't Make a Man Act Right
22 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I don't like how men with mics claim that the reason for their bad behavior and mistreatment of women is because of the woman not requiring more from ...
59. Stop Falling for Potential
01 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Take away their potential and what are you left with?? 1:1 coaching, books ivebeenthatgirl.net
58. Stop Being So Understanding
25 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I get it, you're an empath and "love hard," but girlfriend, you can't be so understanding that you tolerate disrespect and being tr...
57. Situation-ships Block Your Blessings
18 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Stop entertaining less than you deserve. Situation-ships are cool if you're okay with pouring your energy, time and care into something that will...
56. How I Healed Through the WORST Heartbreak of My Life
04 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I've been THROUGH it, to help you through it. Bonus ep: "Loving Again After the WORST Heartbreak of My Life" here: https://www.patreon...
55. BE MORE SELFISH
28 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Yes, that's right...BE MORE SELFISH! This episode is all about how I learned to stop people pleasing, over-extending myself and feeling guilty for...
54. How to Set Your OWN Standards
21 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I made this podcast to help you become more confident when it comes to setting and standing on your standards and what you want. You're really the...
53. You Weren't Stupid For Loving Him (Gentle Approach to Accountability)
14 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode, I implore you to really think about what accountability is and what it isn't. I feel like so many times we tend to fall deep into sha...
52. Am I Emotionally Unavailable, too??
30 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
My journey from first, realizing I might be emotionally unavailable to becoming more emotionally available. 💜PATREON: MORE podcast episodes 1:1 ...
51. Lori Leaves Another One!
09 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
A relationship being toxic is not the only reason for you to leave a relationship. I wasn't gonna say much about this or discuss Lori (because I d...
50. Stop Settling
02 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
A mindset shift around why you say you want better but yet still find yourself settling.
49. You Don't Need to Heal, You Need to Raise Your Standards
19 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Standards not only save you from low quality experiences but they also save you from traumatic breakups and endings. topic and idea credit: Shera Sev...
48. Stop Being a Good Woman
12 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What if you were a good woman to yourself, first? ivebeenthatgirl.net
47. Healing Abandonment Wounds
05 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Abandonment is not your fault nor is it a reflection of who you are. "You're not being abandoned, you're being set FREE." ivebeenth...
46. High Standards & Zero Expectations
28 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The reel that sparked the podcast idea: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CxgKD3MOoYA/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== ivebeenthatgirl.net
45. Stop Being a Placeholder/When He Commits to Someone Else
14 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
When the "with you" is silent when he says, "I don't want a relationship" OR You're waiting around hoping the situation-ship becomes more. ...
44. Sh*t I Stopped Tolerating When I Increased My Self Love
07 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
"I love myself too much to tolerate____" ivebeenthatgirl.net
43. Breaking a Trauma Bond
31 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This isn't your ordinary type of love or relationship. So this isn't your typical break up. . . . . 💜PATREON: MORE podcast episodes 1:1 M...
42. 5 Things to Make Peace With
17 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Some things you just gotta accept in order to have true inner peace. books, coaching, social media pages: ivebeenthatgirl.net
41. He is Not the Last Man On Earth!
10 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
You don't need him like you think you do, girlfriend. You've MADE him the last man on Earth when he doesn't have to be. ivebeenthatgirl....
40. "I Don't Really Wanna Stay, I Don't Really Wanna Go"
03 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are you torn about your relationship and wondering if it's still worth fighting for? Then this is for you.
39. How to Tell If He Wants Something Real with You
27 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
How to not waste your time...unless you want to. 💜PATREON: MORE podcast episodes 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching https://www.patreon.com/Iveb...
38. Finding Yourself After Losing Yourself in a Man
13 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Ever lost yourself in a man and when the breakup happened you had no idea what to do with yourself or who you were? Something I learned on my self di...
37. 8 Ways to Validate Yourself
06 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
How I went from seeking outside/male validation to relying on my self validation to attract who & what are meant for me. 💜PATREON: MORE podc...
36. You Don't Need Male Validation
29 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
How to stop seeking male validation and find validation within. ivebeenthatgirl.net
35. How to Deal with Hard Emotions
22 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you've ever had your emotions & feelings invalidated, it can make dealing with your emotions that much harder because you feel wrong for ha...
34. 8 Healing Truths I've Learned in 1st Healthy Relationship
15 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I had a lot to learn and unlearn, WHEW! I figured, I can't keep thinking the same way or going for the same type of men if I want something differ...
33. How to Prepare to Date Again After a Breakup
08 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
You don't have to be afraid to date again. Being closed off and guarded will block you from seeing the good that is out there. You gotta give your...
32. Men Don't Have to be Perfect BUT I REFUSE to Tolerate a Man That...
01 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We know nobody's perfect buttt there are some things that are just NON-NEGOTIABLE. Here are my 7 top things that I REFUSED to tolerate from a man ...
31. Stop Proving Your Worth & KNOW Your Worth
25 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes we feel the need to prove our worth when someone acts as if they don't value us or see our worth. That's a quick way to lose yoursel...
30. The Power of Detachment (How to Detach)
18 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It's okay to attach...but knowing how & when to DETACH is important. Bonus podcast episodes Intensive & Ongoing 1:1 Mindset & Intuiti...
29. "I'm Afraid of Being Cheated On!" (How to Get Over That Anxiousness)
11 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This is for you if you have ever been cheated on and now don't know how to trust anyone again or you just have an overall anxiousness when it comes to...
28. How to Get Over Him (And Stop Going Back)
04 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
"Getting Over Him & Back To You" Journal Book: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net/ebook While I'm Getting Over You Spotify Playlist: ht...
27. Be THE ONE That Got Away!
27 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Mindset shift for you if you find yourself in situations tolerating less than what you want and know you deserve. PATREON: Bonus podcast episodes 1:1...
26. Stop Chasing Emotionally Unavailable Men (+ why you can't leave them alone)
20 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If all you seem to talk to & attract are emotionally unavailable men or men that end up not wanting to commit, this is for you. Watch the YouTube vid...
25. From Anxious to Secure Attachment
13 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode gets deep. I talk about my previous dating life and just how anxious I was in past relationships and how I learned securely attach...even...
24. Never Fall for LOVE BOMBING Again!
06 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode touches on EVERYTHING dealing with love bombing: -What exactly is love bombing -The difference between genuine interest and love bombing ...
23. Understanding the Affirmation "I Am ENOUGH"
30 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
You have heard "I Am Enough" but what does it really mean?? 💜PATREON: MORE podcast episodes 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching https:...
22. Being ASSERTIVE (In dating & in life!)
23 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
How to be assertive NOT aggressive. Assertiveness is standing up for yourself and speaking up for yourself in a way that is honest and respectful. I ...