571. Master Relationships and Improve Your Dating Life | Answer the Call
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You don't win an argument with your wife. You never win that. Part of your defensive mechanism and your pride is gonna be well this time for sure. Sometimes though. Yeah, yeah. Well, it's convenient when that's the case.
What's some advice that you could give a man my age on how best to integrate or maybe conquer the ghosts of past relationships? The core of the question why
What can I do to ensure that I'm not dragging the past into the future? Understand the past. Understand the past. There will be times when you or your partner were betrayed in the past by yourself, by someone else, doesn't matter. There's a betrayal. And then when I suggest that it's you, you're gonna get defensive. Partly because you don't want it to be you, and partly because there's a part Of you that knows that there's something underneath that that's going to be very unpleasant to uncover. You also have to allow your partner to do a good thing badly. When they first start to listen, when they first start to help and untangle, you gotta let them flail about a fair bit. People will often do something difficult twice.
Go on a date, for example, when they haven't been with each other for a long time. It won't go well and they'll think, well, we're certainly not doing that again. That happened. to people, then they don't have any romance for decades. That is not wise.
That's not wise.
In this episode, we're talking about marriage and relationships. So that should be interesting. Fortunately, my husband doesn't watch anything I do. So, first on the line, John in Chicago.
Hi John. Hi, Doctor Peterson. Thank you for having me on the show. Yeah, thanks
for offering.
I'm I'm fifty-three years old. I've been divorced for about nine years.
How can I stop letting past relationships affect my new romance?
Um, during those nine years, I've purposely devoted a very substantial portion of my time, effort, and attention to my son and his predisposition for acting. Recently at the urging of my highly extroverted 17-year-old son, and after quite a bit of thought and feelings of terror on my part. I took his advice and started dating. Thankfully, after taking that step, I've started dating a rather fantastic woman. During the adventure of our five month relationship. I've seriously discovered the importance of having an intimate partner in my life, and we've even discussed the possibility of spending the rest of our lives together. So, my question is based on the abbreviated description of my situation, what's some advice that you could give a man my age on how best to integrate or maybe conquer?
The ghosts of past relationships and life choices to properly set the foundation for a new relationship to last the rest of our lives.
I have a program that you might want to try online called Past Authoring that helps people write an autobiography. I would say that it would be useful for you. Since you're concerned with conquering the ghosts of the past, which is A very wise thing to do at your age with your wisdom. And when you're wanting to embark on a new path forward with clarity and with the demons of the past understood and relatively conquered. Now We organize ourselves neuroлогіcally at the highest level. Through language and story. And your life to date properly understood. Would make a coherent narrative. Now that's hard because you have five decades to contend with, and there will be elements of your past that aren't well mapped.
And those are the pitfalls. Everything you don't understand about your past is a pitfall waiting for you to fall into in the future. Now, one of the ways that you can understand where those Pitfalls exist is that you'll have memories of the past that are still hot and active. They still have emotional significance.
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