The Kink Perspective

Season 3 Episode 13 - BDSM and Trauma Dumping...

26 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I explore the nuanced phenomenon of trauma dumping, distinguishing it from healthy venting and examining its impact on relationships....

Season 3 Episode 12 - BDSM and Dacryphilia...

19 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I delve into the nuanced world of dacryphilia, exploring its origins, diverse manifestations, and broader implications within the BDS...

Season 3 Episode 11 - BDSM and Unexpected Endings...

12 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I delve into the complexities of finding closure after unexpected relationship endings. I explore the emotional impact of such experi...

Season 3 Episode 10 - BDSM and Vulnerability in Masculinity...

05 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I delve into the often-overlooked realm of vulnerability in masculinity. As men, we're conditioned to suppress our emotions and u...

Season 3 Episode 9 - BDSM and Substance use during scenes...

27 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss the trend of some sort of substance use prior to play. Whether comes in the form of alcohol, prescribed medications or some...

Season 3 Episode 8 - BDSM and Challenging the Norm of Aftercare...

20 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I challenge traditional beliefs about aftercare in the BDSM community by presenting alternative perspectives, including those who opt...

Season 3 Episode 7 - Atlanta Tragedy - Content Warning...

13 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Distressing Content Discussion: On this episode, I dive into the sensitive topic of a recent tragedy at a dungeon event in Atlanta. With empathy and ...

Season 3 Episode 6 - BDSM and Social Media Responsibility...

06 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss some interaction on social media(SM) over the weekend stemming from a lack of responsibility of enacting safety protocols a...

Season 3 Episode 5 - BDSM and Pleasure and Pain...

31 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss the difference facets of our pain and pleasure based responses. The receptors that are involved, parallels to understanding...

Season 3 Episode 4 - Parenting and BDSM discussion Part 1, with Corey and Cassandra...

27 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I sit down with Corey and Cassandra to discuss the subject of parenting and BDSM. How they have broached the subject of their private...

Season 3 Episode 3 - BDSM and Collar Dynamics...

22 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss all things collars. There symbolism, meanings, emotional exchange between parties, the commitment and trust building it tak...

Season 3 Episode 2 - BDSM and Hypnosis...

16 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, we explore the intriguing world of hypnosis, from its scientific foundations to its therapeutic applications. Venturing into the BDSM...

Season 3 Episode 1 - BDSM and Attention-Seeking Behavior in Social Media...

09 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, attention-seeking behavior takes the spotlight as I explore its diverse manifestations, from the pursuit of online validation to the ...

Season 2 Episode 57 - Special Episode on Findoms...

23 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I dive into the controversial realm of financial domination, examining consensual power dynamics, the rise of scams, and the perils o...

Season 2 - It's a Wrap...

19 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I wrap up 2023. Go over the growth of the show thanks to the community, how much people have begun to listen, and what this has meant...

Season 2 Episode 55 - BDSM and Limits of Self...

12 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I explore the intricate dynamics of limits of self and growth. The crucial role in fostering self-awareness and psychological resilie...

Season 2 Episode 54 - Consent Framework Discussion with Ms_Kitten_ Part 1...

09 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I sit down with my returning guess, Ms_Kitten_, for a discussion about Kink as a Self-Regulating Model. We look at a consent framewor...

Season 2 Episode 53 - BDSM and Music...

05 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss the influence of music on our lives, how it enhances the states of those who study or who are athletic and that cross over ...

Season 2 Episode 52 - BDSM and Attacks on Masculinity...

28 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I delve into the intricate dynamics of online platforms, exploring the consequences of unchecked criticism of men within the BDSM com...

Season 2 Episode 51 - BDSM and Self-Esteem...

21 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss self-esteem and the lifestyle. What it is, how it is connected to the lifestyle, how it affects what we do and the communit...

Season 2 Episode 50 - BDSM and Jealousy...

14 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, we embark on a deep exploration of jealousy within alternative relationships. Delving into the complexities of the lifestyle communit...

Season 2 Episode 49 - Objectification discussion with Brooke_ish...

09 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I sit down with my returning guest, brooke_ish, to discuss the fascinating subject of Objectification in the context of the lifestyle...

Season 2 Episode 48 - BDSM and Relationship Ethics...

07 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I delve into the fascinating realm of Relationship Ethics. Regardless of our lifestyle choices, whether it's the BDSM community o...

Season 2 Episode 47 - BDSM and Electrical Play...

06 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss electro-play in the context of BDSM. I discuss what it is, why we are attracted to it, safety, risks, definitions and the e...

Season 2 Episode 46 - BDSM and Navigating Rebellion and Rejection in Relationships...

31 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I explore the psychological aspects of rebellion and rejection and their impact on personal relationships and the BDSM lifestyle. I d...

Season 2 Episode 45 - BDSM and Toys vs the Mind...

24 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I discuss the captivating world of BDSM, exploring the dynamic interplay between erotic toys and the richness of our minds. I examine...

Season 2 Episode 44 - BDSM and Consent vs Boundaries...

17 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I delve into the intricate dynamics of consent and boundaries, foundational principles in both the lifestyle community and beyond. Th...

Season 2 Episode 43 - BDSM and Sexual Affinity vs Sexual Objectification...

10 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss embracing our authentic sexuality and the damaging effects of reducing individuals to mere sexual worth. Understanding our ...

Season 2 Episode 42 - BDSM and Lingering Impact of Hurtful Words...

03 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I delve into the enduring impact of words within relationships, unraveling their potency through poignant narratives. I stress the si...

Season 2 Episode 41 - BDSM and Active Listening...

26 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I take us through the world of active listening—an art beyond hearing, diving into the heart of understanding and connection. Delvi...

Season 2 Episode 40 - BDSM and Eroticism versus Sex...

19 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I venture into the subtle art of desire, exploring the nuanced realms of eroticism, the raw beauty of sex, and their mixture into the...

Season 2 Episode 39 - BDSM and STI's, Sexual Health, Bug Chasing and Differing Opinions...

12 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I embarked on a profound exploration of sexual health, responsibility, and the complex dynamics within lifestyle communities. I dive ...

Season 2 Episode 38 - Emotional Dysregulation discussion with Clinical Psychologist Elise Loprieno...

04 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, clinical psychologist Elise Loprieno and I, dive into the intricate world of emotional dysregulation (ED) and its profound impact on ...

Season 2 Episode 37 - BDSM and Sensation Seeking and Emotional Bleed Part 2...

30 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss the intriguing world of sensation-seeking personalities in BDSM. Delving into the psyche of thrill-seekers, I explore their...

Season 2 Episode 36 - BDSM and Risk and Emotional Bleed Part 1...

29 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss and explore the intriguing concept of emotional bleed. Delving into the realms of desire, risk, and intimacy, we unravel th...

Season 2 Episode 35 - BDSM and Incels, Cultural Appropriation and Misinformation, oh my...

22 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss the evolving meaning of "incel" and its tendency to perpetuate harmful stereotypes when applied broadly, especial...

Season 2 Episode 34 - BDSM and a Burial Scene...

15 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

First, I want to issue a pause for those that may have issues with claustrophobia or any other emotionally constrained issues that may be touched base...

Season 2 Episode 33 - Rope Discussion Part 2 with BoundAshLeigh...

08 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I sit down with BoundAshLeigh, and continue the conversation from the other side of rope. From a bottom's perspective. We discuss...

Season 2 Episode 32 - Rope Discussion Part 1 with SemenawaPrincess...

07 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I sit down with SemenawaPrincess, and start the conversation from the other side of rope. From a bottom's perspective. We discuss...

Season 2 Episode 31 - BDSM and Nostalgic Relationships...

01 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss the intriguing influence of nostalgia in BDSM relationships. I unravel the resonant memories of past BDSM partners and how ...

Season 2 Episode 30 - Rope Bondage Discussion with Mr TinkerTrain...

25 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I sit down with Sadist and Rigger, Mr TinkerTrain. We discuss some history of rope bondage, dispel some myths, some of the psychologi...

Season 2 Episode 29 - BDSM and Humiliation Play...

18 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I dive into the psychological dynamics of humiliation play. I talk about navigating this intense fetish with a focus on consent, boun...

Season 2 Episode 28 - BDSM and Letting go...

11 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss the emotionally charged topic of cord cutting and letting go of an ex. I discuss the importance of understanding cord cutti...

Season 2 Episode 27 - BDSM and Bulls...

04 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I explore the emotional effects on Bulls within the cuckold lifestyle. Drawing insights from an email received, and many thereafter, ...

Season 2 Episode 26 - BDSM and Hyper-Masculinity...

27 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I dive deep into the subject of hyper-masculinity within the BDSM community. I explore the defining traits of hyper-masculinity and i...

Season 2 Episode 25 - BDSM and Punishments...

20 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I dive into the world of punishments in the BDSM lifestyle. I discuss and explore the purpose and use of punishments in a correct sen...

Season 2 Episode 24 - BDSM and Fear of Being Alone...

13 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I explore the deep-rooted fear of being alone and its impact on our relationships. Delving into the psychological factors that drive ...

Season 2 Episode 23 - BDSM and Silence and Projection...

06 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss the dynamics of silence, projection, and emotional manipulation in relationships, uncovering their motivations and impact. ...

Season 2 Episode 22 - Brooke_ish and TPE

30 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I sit down again with the wonderfully intelligent and beautiful soul, Brooke_ish. Spurred by a question on her social media page abou...

Season 2 Episode 21 - BDSM and Embracing the Unknown...

23 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I talk about what it feels like for new people entering the lifestyle. Breaking away from societal norms can feel daunting and scary,...

Season 2 Episode 20 - BDSM and Fantasy vs. Reality...

16 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I debunk common misconceptions surrounding the BDSM lifestyle. I explore the contrast between fantasy and reality, shedding light on ...

Season 2 Episode 19 - BDSM and Men's Mental Health...

09 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On today's show, I discuss the importance of men's mental health and the need to redefine positive traits of masculinity. I discuss the stigma...

Season 2 Episode 18 - BDSM and Using Psychology to Manipulate Relationships...

02 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss the topic of dark psychology and its exploitative use for manipulation within relationships. Examples of gaslighting, love ...

Season 2 Episode 17 - BDSM and Kink Politics...

25 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discussed the internalized drama that can arise within kink communities due to power dynamics, such as jealousy, competition, and c...

Season 2 Episode 16 - BDSM and Praise Kink

18 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I explore the concept of the praise kink, a sexual preference that involves a desire for verbal validation and approval from a sexual...

Season 2 Episode 15 - BDSM and Introversion - Extroversion in BDSM...

11 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I explore the topic of introversion and extroversion in BDSM. I defined what it means to be introverted or extroverted, and discussed...

Season 2 Episode 14 - BDSM and Needle Play discussion with Ms_Kitten_

03 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I sit down and have a candid conversation with Ms_Kitten_ on the subject of Needle play. A kink educator in South Africa, that has ye...

Season 2 Episode 13 - BDSM and Shame, Secrets and Dirty desires, the private life we want no one to know about...

28 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I will explore the psychological impact of digital intrusion and blackmail on individuals who engage in BDSM. Due to the sensitive an...

Season 2 Episode 12 - BDSM and Attachment Styles...

21 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I explore the fascinating topic of attachment styles in kink relationships. I go over the main attachment styles and how they can imp...

Season 2 Episode 11 - BDSM and Dynamic Political Differences...

13 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss what happens when you find out the person you are in a BDSM dynamic with, does not have the same political beliefs as you d...

Season 2 Episode 10 - BDSM and When a Dynamic Ends part 2...

09 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I continue the discussion on loss. What do we do and how our roles change if our partner has a terminal illness or passes away sudden...

Season 2 Episode 9 - BDSM and When a Dynamic Ends part 1...

07 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I have begun the discussion of what we do on an emotional level, when a dynamic ends. This is quite a large discussion, and I am goin...

Season 2 Episode 8 - BDSM and Aftercare for Dominants...

28 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss the subject of aftercare for Dominants. When we think about aftercare, what normally springs to mind is Dominants caring fo...

Season 2 Episode 7 - BDSM and Kink Educators...

21 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss the dilemma with the self-professed Kink Educators within the community, the stories that are becoming more prevalent about...

Season 2 Episode 6 - BDSM and Kinky People Killing BDSM...

14 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss the vanilla influx of people that have swarmed the scene over the last two decades. The effects it has had on newcomers int...

Season 2 Episode 5 - BDSM and Disposable Relationships...

07 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss the current relationship climate newer generations have found themselves in, the Disposable one. I talk about what led us h...

Season 2 Episode 4 - BDSM and Auralism...

31 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I talk about Auralism. It is being sexually aroused by sound. That sound can differ from person to person, from crumpling paper to th...

Season 2 Episode 3 - BDSM and When the Spark Fades...

24 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I talk about the signs that our relationship dynamics are beginning to fade. Those subtle tells that let us know that we are not evol...

Season 2 - Episode 2 - BDSM and Consent Violations...

17 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss consent violations. What they are, how we perceive them and their effects on the community. It is an important topic that w...

Season 2 - Episode 1 - BDSM and Open Marriages...

10 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I look beyond the shiny Veneer of open marriages and how happy they want everyone to believe they are. I look at all of the issues th...

Episode 45 - Onward to 2023!

28 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I had a chance to reflect on many of the things I have talked about, the few people I have had wonderful conversations with, and thin...

Episode 44 - Lactation discussion with Brooke_ish

20 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I had the opportunity to sit down with Brooke_ish and discuss the fetish of Lactation. This was an insight into a kink that is far mo...

Episode 43 - BDSM and Empowerment vs Disempowerment...

13 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I talk about feeling empowered versus feeling disempowered. What these terms even mean. How are sexual identities in a social media a...

Episode 42 - My chat with Scorpio1375

05 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I had a chance to sit down with Scorpio1375, a rising male influencer on Fetlife. We talked about what brought him to the lifestyle, ...

Episode 41 - BDSM and Interrogation scenes and Waterboarding...

29 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss the interrogation scene and what is becoming a prevalent style of play, Waterboard. I go over the evolution of a typical in...

Episode 40 - BDSM and Scent Attraction...

22 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss what happens in our brain when we meet someone. When we develop attraction for someone. The neurochemicals that are produce...

Episode 39 - BDSM and Euphoria vs. Connectivity...

15 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode I talk about this question that was posed last night online on social media. I want to thank Brooke for this really in-depth question....

Episode 38 - BDSM and Breakups, Sex and Infidelity...

08 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode I talk about the Ross and Rachel Effect. What happens when we breakup or are on a separation and our partner cheats? How do we reconci...

Episode 37 - BDSM and Rejection Resiliency...

01 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss the lifestyle and BDSM community resiliency to rejection. in every aspect of what we do, from negotiations, to meeting peop...

Episode 36 - BDSM and Your Dominant is not your Therapist...

25 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I delve into the subject that I have seen floating around social that a Dominant needs to take on and be the emotional balance, ancho...

Episode 35 - BDSM and Giving the Lifestyle a Bad Name...

20 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I talk about the seemingly growing trend of people exposing their kink, the lifestyle or themselves to unsuspecting, non-consenting p...

Episode 34 - BDSM and Hurt vs. Harm

11 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss a subject that should always be discussed. I talk about the difference between Hurt vs. Harm and their meanings. How do we ...

Episode 33 - BDSM and Sadism vs Sexual Sadism Disorder...

04 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I look into the difference. The questions came from someone that wanted to know more. There are a lot of similarities between being a...

Episode 32 - BDSM and Emotional Responses...

28 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I talk about how our emotional responses are formed, how they vary in difference between men and women, and how Dominants and submiss...

Episode 31 - BDSM and Relationship Green Flags...

21 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss what we should actually be on the lookout for in a healthy relationship. Those things that signify we have found a good per...

Episode 30 - BDSM and the D.I.E. Philosophy...

14 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss the issues surrounding Diversity, Inclusion and Equity, or D.I.E. philosophy, in BDSM. What I see that these people who fol...

Episode 29 - BDSM and Misandry...

06 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I talk about the BDSM community on social media, and the blatant misandry that goes on in regards to Age Gap Relationships (AGR), cal...

Episode 28 - BDSM and Exhibitionism...

31 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I talk about Exhibitionism and Exhibitionistic Disorder. The difference between the two and how those in the community that self-iden...

Episode 27 - BDSM and Self-Objectification and Sexualization

24 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode I talk about self-objectification, self-sexualization, victimhood and exhibitionism, and how these definitions are being intertwined a...

Episode 26 - BDSM and Kink Shaming...

17 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I explore Kink Shaming and how people are demonizing others for their kinks because of their ideological views. What effects it has o...

Episode 25 - BDSM and Civil Discourse...

09 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are we losing the art of talking and debating with each other? Have people and their ideas become indistinguishable? On this episode, I discuss what i...

Episode 24 - BDSM and Our Core Values...

27 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I talk about our core values and what we hold important. How the values that we grow up with change and are influenced through our en...

Episode 23 - BDSM and Sex Drives/Thoughts...

19 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I talk about our sex drives, our sexual thoughts and things we find sexual. When these are good versus when they become intrusive in ...

Episode 22 - The mysterious gift of submission...

05 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I cover the trope that submission is a gift. Delve into what giving a gift actually means and reflections of what people may want out...

Episode 21 - BDSM And Golden Showers...

28 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I look at the fascination with Water Sports. Why we do them, what attracts us to it and more. If you would like to reach out for a se...

Episode 20 - BDSM and Dirty Talk...

21 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The power of Dirty Talk in a relationship. What drives it, motivates it, why we like it and more on this episode. If you would like to learn more abou...

Episode 19 - BDSM and Sensory Deprivation

14 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What is sensory deprivation? On this episode, I talk about removing or depriving the different senses we have during a scene and how it may effect us....

Episode 18 - BDSM and Consent - Being under the Influence...

07 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I talk about what I am seeing again all over BDSM social media. Being under the influence and getting involved in play. Comparing tha...

Episode 17 - BDSM and Religions Ritual Connections Part 2

31 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I conclude my discussion on BDSM and Religious ritual practices, and their connection to BDSM. How secularism and decline of religion...

Episode 16 - BDSM and Religions Ritual Connections Part 1

24 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I discuss how religion is in decline but its practices and transcendent states are used in the practices of BDSM. That the way we con...