The Confidence Project
Episodes
148. Unmute Yourself!
02 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Are you struggling with speaking up when you want to? You overthink it, wait too long and then the moment has passed. Or you know what you want to say...
147. The Bonus Of Choosing Your Mindset Through Challenging Times
26 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
There are the challenges we choose and those we don't choose. It's easy to fall into victimhood and feel powerless, when we run into a chall...
146. Four Sneaky Ways You Demonstrate Self-Doubt
19 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Your language and ways of expressing your thoughts and opinons can unintentionally demonstrate self-doubt to others. In this episode I share with you ...
145. The Discomfort Protocol
12 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Everything that you want to achieve in life and that really matters, is on the other side of discomfort. Fear, anxiety, awkwardness, resistance, bored...
144. The Real Reason Smart People Overthink - And 3 Steps To Stop It!
05 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
If you are stuck in overthinking and often postpone making decisions or taking action, this episode will is exactly what you need! You will understand...
143. Five Signs You Can Improve Your Life With Confidence
26 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Confidence is not just feeling great when you walk into a room full of strangers. If you do that, you are already doing good, but how do you feel abou...
142. The Gift of Gratitude & The Bonus Life! (+ NEW FOCUS on Podcast)
19 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this very personal episode I am sharing some thoughts and reflections I had in 2025 and moving into 2026. I am also sharing some of the changes tha...
141. Something New Is Coming
21 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The Podcast is going to take a short break and come back later in a new format and with new, exciting content. In this episode I share a few personal ...
140. Why Safety Matters Even If You Are Strong And Independent
14 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Feeling safe is the number one feeling most women want with a man. Not the only one of course, but it's the feeling they focus on, when I ask the...
139. Better Off Single?
07 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
More and more women are tempted to just quit dating and give up on the idea of ever finding a man who can commit to a stable relationship. They prefer...
138. How To Recognize A Secure Person
31 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
There are some very basic traits and qualities that caracterise someone who is securely attached in a relationship. These qualities are worth looking ...
137. Communication Challenges for Anxiously Attached
24 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I share some reasons why anxiously attached people often struggle with clear and honest communication. I give examples on what that co...
136. Seven Acts of Self-Love
17 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What does it mean to love yourself? And how does it show up in your choices and behavours? In this episode I share 7 ways you can choose to show up fr...
135. A Small But VERY Important Shift In Dating
10 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you want to simplify your dating life, here is just ONE simple tool that you can use to assess whether a man could be a good choice for you, and yo...
134. Take Charge Of Your Life
03 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This is about how you can flip everything around and step out of your conditioning and into being in power of your life and how you see your self. It&...
133. The Power Of Having A Life Purpose
26 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Having that thing that you feel passionate about and that gives your life meaning and purpose is crucial for your own well being, resilience and self ...
132. How To Not Get Into The Low-Effort Energy
19 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Low effort energy is contageous - once you experience low effort from guys in the dating app, you eventually stop wanting to make an effort yourself. ...
131. Why You Are Not Attracting Commitment Ready Men
12 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you find yourself repeatedly attracting men, that are not ready for or interested in a commitment, then the real reason might be that on a subcon...
130. How To Forgive And Why It's The Best You Can Do You Yourself
05 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What does it really mean to forgive, and what are some reasons we struggle to let go of anger and resentment? In this episode I share with you, what f...
129. Six Steps To Be Happy As A Single Woman
29 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you are not happy in your single life, you will most likely not be happy in a relationship. Knowing how to cultivate a fun and fulfilling single li...
128. What If I Am Not Attracted To The Good Guy?
22 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Can you make yourself fall for someone? Or rather - can you increase chances that it will happen, if you are a good match? This is what this episode i...
127. How To Stop Feeling Attracted To The Wrong Men
15 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode you'll learn what attraction really is and how you can influence who you are attracted to so you can recognize when you are about...
126. The Myth About Love At First Sight
08 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you believe that true love starts at first sight? And that for a connection to turn into the ideal relationship, sparks and attraction must be ther...
125. How To Let Go Of Someone
01 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you are struggling to let go of someone - after a breakup, or even a situationship, you want to listen to this episode, where I give you the simple...
124. Three Surprising Ways To Move On After Breakup
24 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Once you have passed the initial stages of grief after a breakup and you still don't feel at your best, but you know something needs to happen to...
123. What Happens Inside The Emotionally Unavailable Person?
17 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We talk a lot of talk about emotionally unavailable men, and how to recognise the signs and avoid getting involved in someone who isn't emotional...
122. The Commitment Fear That No One Talks About
10 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Fear of commitment is typically something we associate with emotionally unavailable men, right? Well, think again, because a lot of women have commitm...
121. Seven Steps to Let Go Of Anxious Attachment
03 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you feel that dating is an emotional rollercoaster—and you find yourself overthinking, constantly checking your phone, and feeling a sense of pan...
120. How To Get What You Want - Through Self-Fulfilling Positive Prophecies
27 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Did you know that your thoughts are shaping your reality—whether you realize it or not? Every day, you're creating self-fulfilling prophecies. ...
119. From Undateable To Self-Love
20 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We all have perceived flaws and imperfections, and some of them might feel like reasons we are "undateable" or reasons a man would lose inte...
118. Five Signs That You Are Not Being Yourself In Dating
13 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Just "be yourself" - you've heard it a million times and you know its true, but it's easier said than done. Especially when you me...
117. How To Be Interesting
06 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you fear not being interesting enough to the man that you are dating? Do you worry that he will find someone "more interesting"? Then you...
116. Unshakeable Self-Trust - Conversation w Dawn Ledet
27 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week I have a conversation with Dawn Ledet, the Self-Trust Coach. If you've ever second-guessed your decisions, hesitated to take action, or...
115. The Secrets To Long-Lasting Love - Conversation w Ronda Loveridge
20 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What are the secrets to a healthy long-lasting relationship? What does it mean to take personal responsibility inside a relationship? Where does true ...
114. How To Use AI in Dating - And My Valentines Date With Chat GPT
13 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you find it hard to get started with the dating apps and write a profile that stands out or come up with catchy opening lines, then you want to lis...
113. The Secret To Love: Live Your Best Life
06 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What is in a good life? And why does it matter for dating how you live the rest of your life, you might ask? In this episode I share with you why it&a...
112. Breaking The Pattern Of Only First Dates
30 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you have been dating for ages and only gone on first dates because there was no one you found really interesting or you didn't feel the chemis...
111. Three Mindsets That Women, Who Succeed In Dating, Have
23 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is a must for anyone who wants to create new results in their life - whether that is in dating or in relationships - or in something comp...
110. Why You Get Hooked On Emotionally Unavailable Men - And How To Break The Pattern
16 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Understand the science behind why you keep falling into the trap of getting invested in emotionally unavailable partners, that only give just enough t...
109. Three Reasons Dating In Midlife Is More Fun
09 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I give you some reasons to why dating after 40-ish is more fun and easy, than when you were 25. I also debunk some of the myths or neg...
108. Five Keys To Finding Love In 2025 - It Begins With Dating Sunday!
02 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The first Sunday of the year is what all the big online dating platform calls "Dating Sunday" or "Swipe Sunday" - because apparent...
107. How To End 2024 And Enter 2025 With Confidence
26 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is a guided self coaching session! Get your pen and paper, get ready to pause the podcast and reflect on the questions, and you will be i...
106. This Is Why Love Never Hurts
19 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What is unconditional love and what does it mean, that love never hurts? Can you have unconditional love and still have conditions for your relationsh...
105. What To Do When A Man Talks Non-Stop On The First Date
12 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you tried being on a date with a man who just talks non-stop without checking in with you if it's even interesting to listen to, and without...
104. Am I Being Too Needy? Permission Seeking 2/2
05 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you afraid of being too needy? Not sure if what you want from your partner is "normal"? The fear of being too needy can lead us to compl...
103. Is It A Reasonable Boundary? Permission Seeking 1/2
28 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you struggle wth doubting yourself after setting a boundary and you feel like you need someone to approve the boundary and reassure you that it&apo...
102. Your Inner Soundtrack
21 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever tried the annoying thing of having a song stuck to your brain? Did you know you can actually decide to put another song in there to get rid of th...
101. The "With-Or-Without-You" Energy
14 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I explain the art of being joyfully unattached - as a woman who is determined to live her best life and get the most out of any situat...
100. One Hundred Dating Tips
07 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This is a special celebration of episode nr 100. I am offering you 100 dating tips - not all of them are deeply serious, so take it with a glimpse in ...
99. Breaking The Good Girl Rules - Interview With Sara Fisk
31 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I talk to the Stop People Pleasing Coach, Sara Fisk, about why we people please, why women in particular tend to set aside their own needs to take car...
98. The DNA Of Self Confidence And Why It Matters
24 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What IS self confidence really about? Is it just showing up with a lot of self assuredness or is there more to it? Hint... There is of course. In this...
97. LOVE Confidence - How To Be Magnetic!
17 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Confidence is the most attractive outfit you can carry on a date. And it's also the best feeling for yourself. Being confident means trusting you...
96. Offline Dating
10 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Tired of doing the app's? Then mix it up with some offline dating - in other words; meet people out there in real life! In this episode I share w...
95. Why You Need Friends To Have A Healthy Love Life
03 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Your social life is an important ancher in your emotional well-being and especially while dating, but also when you are in a relationship, its crucial...
94. "Over The Hill" At Age 50? Listener Q&A
26 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Is it ok to date a man who is seperated, but not legally divorced? And what am I to look out for in that case? How do I react when someone thinks I&ap...
93. Questions To Ask In Early Dating
19 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I give you some inspiration to what questions to ask on the first 3 dates, and I share with you why it's important to ask those q...
92. Are You Emotionally Available To Yourself?
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This is the last episode in a mini series of 3 on emotional (un)availability - republished from March 2023. This time we take a look at your emotional...
91. Why You Keep Falling For Mr. Unavailable
05 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you have a history of dating emotionally unavailable guys, aka players, commitment phobias, casual relationships or situationships kind of men, the...
90. Eight Signs That You Are Dating An Emotionally (Un)Available Man
29 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What are the signs to look for i early and mid term dating, that can show you if a man is emotionally available? It's not always that obvious, es...
89. How To Become More Secure In Dating
22 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You don't have to be 100% healed, and you don't have to dig deep in childhood wounds to feel more secure and confident in your dating life. ...
88. Five Sneaky Ways You Could Be Turning Him Off
14 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
There are sneaky ways, in which we could unintentionally turn a man off, and that we are not even aware of, as strong, independent women. In this epis...
87. Self-Empowering Tools For When A Man Gives You Mixed Signals
08 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You most likely know this situation where a man is sending you mixed signals - when you are together things are fine, but then when you are in between...
Bonus: How To Nail The Feminine Energy - Once And For All!
06 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Listen to this episode to hear why you absolutely must get yourself onto the interest list for my group course on Feminine Energy.I will tell you WHY ...
86. Self-Awareness Is The New Sexy!
01 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I talk about signs that a man is emotionally available and has a good level of self-awareness AND how you can be a match to that. I gi...
85. Your Relationship With Yourself
25 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I share with you 3 things you can start working on, if you want to both improve your relationship to yourself and change your relation...
84. Reinventing Yourself In Midlife!
18 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I talk to Lifecoach, Jo Renshaw, who helps women women navigate midlife in a way that sets an example for their daughters and the youn...
83. How To Build Chemistry And Connection
11 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I share with you why it's a problem to let instant attraction and chemistry be your guiding light in dating. I also share that I ...
82. Making Friends After 40! Conversation With Friendship Coach, Zayne Kahn
04 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Friendships are SO important to balance you out emotionally and help you avoid hyper focusing when you are dating. And when inside a relationship it i...
81. Don't Just Lean Back - Do This As Well!
27 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is about the misunderstanding that leaning back means that you can just expect a man to take lead without doing anything. This is not how...
80. Red Flags, Green Flags - What Is Real?
20 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I share with you some of the important red and green flags - signs that a man might or might NOT be a good choice for a committed rela...
79. What My Hip Replacement Surgery Reminded Me Of And That Is Relevant For Dating...
13 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I share a few reflections and observations with you. Going through a big surgery recently made me think of the challenge of embracing ...
78. Texting Anxiety: Conversation With A Listener
06 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week I am talking to a listener who is struggling with not getting overly invested early on. Especially the texting part - not sending more than ...
77. Letting The Man Take Lead And The Attraction Grow: Conversation With A Listener
29 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is a conversation with a listener who want some advice on how to connect with men organically, and how go meet more interesting men onlin...
76. Learning Dating Skills And Creating A Great Man Funnel - Client Conversation
23 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This weeks episode is a conversation I had with a client, who managed to create some quite amazing results in dating. She went from never going past d...
75. From Matching To Dating: Conversation With A Listener
16 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I speak to a listener who has called in with some questions on how to get more dates from the dating apps, when she doesn't see ...
74. The Secret Garden
09 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The one thing that healthy and happy long-term couples have figured out, and that allow them to keep the spark and attraction between them alive, is t...
73. Do You Have Self-Trust?
02 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I share my take on self-trust and why it's important in dating and in life in general. You also will hear what it is, that gets i...
72. Navigating Dating When You Want A Child - Client Conversation
24 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
For many single women in their late 30's wanting to have a child can be very stressful and require some big decisions to be made. Because what if...
71. How To Not Lose Yourself In Dating And Relationships
18 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Losing yourself or abandoning yourself in a dating connection or long term relationship is very normal. We do this for several reasons and often we on...
70. How To Cope With Jealousy
11 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
How do you react if you feel jealous? Do you even allow want to admit to yourself that you feel it, or do you try to suppress it and move on? Most peo...
69. A New Perspective On Rejection
04 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Nobody enjoys being rejected. Not even from a man that they don't see a future with... But in dating rejection is the norm. Its what happens most...
68. Are You Dating Down?
28 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you are dating someone for a longer time or starting a relationship with them, even if you know he isn't the one for you, because for one or t...
67. How To Be Your Own Best Partner
21 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What does it mean to be your own best partner? And why is it important in dating, relationship and life in general? In this episode I share with you m...
66. She Overcame 80% Of Her Dating Anxiety
14 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I have a conversation with my client, A, who met a new partner in record time (!) and then experienced a wave of dating/relationship a...
65. Five Reasons Why You Are Still Single
07 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I give you five reasons that can explain why you are still single - even if you are amazing! Listen and see if you recognize some of t...
64. Facts About Dating Apps That Might Surprise You
29 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you experience only hearing negative stories about the dating app's and people being tricked, ghosted or scammed, this episode is for you. I o...
63. No More Nice Girl!
22 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
People pleasing, man pleasing, never saying no, always taking care of others needs first and not speaking a word about what YOU need and want - does t...
62. How To Get Over Heartbreak And Know When You Are Ready For Dating Again
15 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you holding yourself back from dating because of fear of being heartbroken (again)? Or are you getting over a breakup and not sure, if you are rea...
61. Can You Be Too Independent?
08 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Strong and independent, highly competent, capable and resourceful - you most likely appreciate that in yourself. And you should. Being super indepen...
60. How To Become More Securely Attached With Feminine Energy
01 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you feel confused about concepts like feminine energy, polarity and attachment styles, and wonder how to figure it all out, and whether you should ...
59. Six Reasons Why You Should Have A Man Funnel!
25 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Circular dating, rotational dating, having a man funnel, a pipeline or dating in parallel -what comes up for you when you think about dating more than...
58. Are You In The Wounded Or Empowered Feminine Energy?
18 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I share with you the difference between wounded and empowered feminine energy, what it looks like to be acting from one or the other i...
57. How To Let Go Of Attachment In Early Dating
11 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you catch yourself regularly checking if the guy, that you are dating has texted you back? And if you don’t hear from him for a couple of hours, ...
56. ONE Year In The Podcast And New Years Celebrations
04 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This is the ONE year anniversary of the podcast! I am so grateful for all of you listeners and today I am sharing a few fun facts about the most popul...
55. Best of the Advent Calendar + A Present for YOU!
28 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I share with you 12 of the 24 pieces of advice that I created for the Advent Calendar, that I shared on instagram and with my email-su...
54. Other Peoples (Your Family's) Opinion About You Being (Still) Single (Again)
21 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Going home for Christmas? Dreading the questions and comments about you still being single - or single again? Or maybe its not even the questions, but...
53. Biological Urgency in Dating - When You Want To Have A Child
14 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you are singe and in your late 30's, and you know you want to have a child with your future partner, you might feel a huge pressure to find hi...
52. When To Have Sex... And Other Questions From Listeners
07 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I answer three important questions from women in my community: How to prepare on a mindset level for a first date, deciding when phys...
51. How To Grow Your Self-Worth In Dating
30 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I share with you the importance of self-worth and how it influences our dating behaviors and the kind of partner we attract. I explain...
50. Non-Verbal Cues In Dating - How To See If He's In To You!
23 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I share with you some ways to decode the non-verbal signals that can show you, if a man is interested in you. I give you 21 cues that ...