The Midlife Sex Coach for Women™ Podcast
Episodes
Bonus Coaching Ep #2: Creating a Zone of Sexual Safety for the Coach
24 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week, Lisa and I cover creating a sexual safety zone as a coach. We discuss what a safe container looks like for intimacy, how to start the conve...
128. Sexual Bill of Rights
22 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Diamond, what do you want to say YES to? And to what are you willing to say NO to? What I share this week will give you the foundation for a journey- ...
Bonus Coaching Ep #1: Women's Sexual Concerns Must Be Heard
17 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Diamonds, I have something amazing for you this week. My friend Lisa Hastlestad and I wanted to talk to you about sexual intimacy and some of the chal...
127. Conversations: Perfectionist Thinking Post-Valentine's Day and More...
15 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Diamond, is your relationship filled with expectations that may or may not be your own? Coach Donna is back and we are discussing perfectionist thinki...
126. In the Dog House
08 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Dr. Kimmery and I are exploring the topic of relationship conflict and how you can handle it better. Discover how arguing can be turned around so that...
125. Releasing Perfectionist Thinking
01 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are you willing to entertain the idea that sex does not have to be perfect? Join me this week to hear why there is no such thing as perfection and how...
124. Perfectionist Thinking and Sexual Intimacy
25 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Has perfectionist thinking led to a lack of intimacy in your life? I used to be so focused on everything being perfect all the time, but the truth is,...
123. Reconnecting with Your Teenage Sexuality
18 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Our teenage years are when we really start to express our sexuality. We're learning and figuring out how to express ourselves, but simultaneously we a...
122. Renewing Relationships
11 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It's a brand-new year, and lots of people are thinking about the changes they want to make in their relationships and how to show up as the best partn...
121. Happy New Clit Year!
04 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Get out your journal and let's have some fun this week! With 2023 being the year of the clit, it's time to learn about your clit energy, your vital...
120. Clitoral Empowerment: It's Your Time
28 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
You were put on this earth with your dream inside you; why not make 2023 the year you bring that dream out? The time is now, and I'm here to show you ...
119. Celebrating Clitoral Empowerment
21 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
How we show up in the bedroom is how we show up in every other area of our lives. You have been put on this earth to enjoy life and have pleasure, yet...
118. Relationship Coaching in OYSN!
14 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Relationships are important, but they take work. They're all about being able to relate to each other and be vulnerable, and being able to talk openly...
117. Revisiting: Sex and Menopause with Dr. Kelly Casperson
07 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Tune in this week as we dive deeper into sex and menopause, the impact of hormones – both systemic and vaginal – and some of the health impacts yo...
116. An Interview with Velvet Flair: Standing Up and Being Heard
30 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When Velvet Flair joined my program, Own Your Sexuality Now, she was just out of menopause and feeling stuck in both her life and her marriage. She fe...
115. An Interview with Juicy Fruit from Lonely to Empowered
23 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Tune in this week to hear what was going on in Juicy Fruit's life when we began working together, what made her realize she was unhappy for so long, a...
114. Revisiting: An Interview with Spicy Girl
16 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Spicy Girl is one of my private clients and she came to me for guidance after experiencing something so many women experience: the realization that wh...
113. Revisiting: Interview with My 74-Year-Old Diamond Didi
09 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week I'm revisiting my interview with my incredible 74-year-old Diamond, Didi. Didi grew up believing that her role was simply to serve a man and...
112. What?!?! Sexual Intimacy Coaching School with Lisa Hatlestad
02 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week I'm bringing you a special conversation with one of my favorite people in the world, certified life coach Lisa Hatlestad. We're talking all ...
111. Celebrating Menopause: Empowered Living
26 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm sharing 10 reasons we should all celebrate menopause and how to use what I'm teaching you to start living an empowered life. I'm ...
110. Celebrating Menopause: Sexual Intimacy
19 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Menopause is not a death sentence for your sex life. I believe it's something to be celebrated, and while there are challenges, menopause is the begin...
109. Celebrating Coming Out
12 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, my partner Dr. Kimmery Newsom and I are talking all about sexual orientation, coming out, and the importance of being true to ourselv...
108. When You Just Don't Want to F*ck
05 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm sharing what might be leading you to not want to have sex or engage in sexual penetration and showing you how to investigate the ...
107. Worthy of Rest
28 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm showing you why there is a huge difference between who you are and what you do, and why your worth is not correlated with the amo...
106. Failure or Faith: You Decide
21 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When it comes to failure vs. success, there is one thing I see popping up again and again. Right before a person's greatest success is a moment that c...
105. Creating Your Future Relationship
14 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
You get to decide what you want in a relationship, Diamonds, and this week, I'm showing you how to create your future relationship in a way that works...
104. Who, Why, What, and How
07 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm showing you how to come up with a plan to get the sexual intimacy you want in your life and get your mind and body on board with ...
103. Unpacking Relationship Issues with Dr. Kimmery Newsom
31 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I'm welcoming the wonderful Dr. Kimmery Newsom back to the show this week and we're answering some of the common questions that come up in our experie...
102. For My Male Diamonds
24 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I love all of my Diamonds; whether you are female, male, or non-binary. But today, I'm talking directly to all of my male Diamonds out there. You get ...
101. Opening Up the Conversation About Sex with Kristi Angevine
17 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week, I'm sharing an interview I did recently with Dr. Kristi Angevine on her podcast Habits on Purpose. We're talking all about conversations, s...
100. The Gift of Maybe
10 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Listen in this week as I'm sharing a letter I wrote to you, my Diamonds, and showing you how to use the precious gift of maybe to change your life. He...
99. Unbreakable Promises
03 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm showing you how to start keeping your promises to yourself by creating unbreakable self-promises and why doing so will enrich and...
98. Releasing the Pleasure Blocks
27 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Tune in this week to discover how to release the pleasure blocks. We're unpacking all of the societal conditioning, self-judgment, and good/bad-girl m...
97. Revisiting Understanding Libido/Desire
20 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week, I'm revisiting an earlier episode on one of my favorite topics: libido and desire. Hear why there is nothing wrong with expressing your lib...
96. Revisiting For-You Sex: Why You Should Make It A Priority
13 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Join me this week as I'm sharing some of the incredible benefits of for-you sex and showing you how to create the for-you sex life you deserve. Discov...
95. Revisiting To-Do List Sex: What It Is and Why It's Not Serving You
06 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I share the concept of to-do list sex and the most common factors that contribute to it. Discover why to-do list sex might be more ef...
94. Appreciating the Middling
29 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm showing you how to know if you are middling and some steps you can take to start appreciating the messy middle. I'm sharing the i...
93. Q&A: Partner Requests
22 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Join me for this Q&A episode as I'm breaking down consent, boundaries, and communication in relationships. Find out what to do if your partner changes...
92. Revisiting Un-doctrination: The Rise of The Wise One
15 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Discover the real reason your libido seems to have gone into hiding, and how to start approaching yourself from a place of honoring your wants and nee...
91. The Kink Request
08 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm sharing some things you need to consider when you receive a request from your partner to try something new in or outside of the b...
90. Empowering Conversations: Consensual Non-Monogamy
01 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Listen in this week and hear what consensual non-monogamy is and the various types of activities it can include. Mindful Mike shares his journey with ...
89. Ethical Non-Monogamy
25 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I'm giving you a short introduction to ethical non-monogamy and sharing some important aspects to discuss if you are considering opening up your relat...
88. Exciting Changes in OYSN!
18 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Find out what relationship coaching is, how it can benefit you, and the opportunities available inside the OYSN! program to receive this coaching. Lea...
87. The Kitty Cat Suit
11 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm diving into the concept of The Kitty Cat Suit and showing you how to finally take it off and start focusing on your own pleasure....
86. Celebrating Two Years of OYSN
04 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Join me this week as I revisit episode 34 and share the top 10 things I learned during the first year of leading an online anonymous sex group coachin...
85. Empowering Conversations: Unconditional Self-Love
27 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week, Coach Donna and I are showing you how to start being kinder to yourself and how to show up for yourself in any situation. We share what unc...
84. Unconditional Love: The Lube of Life
20 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week, I'm sharing what unconditional love is, what it is not, and showing you how to love yourself through any situation. Discover what it looks ...
83. Revisiting Difficult Conversations
13 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm showing you how to have difficult conversations with your partner(s) and the best way to approach the issue at play from a calm, ...
82. Empowering Conversations: The Sexless Marriage
06 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Listen in this week as Coach Donna and I discuss everything that goes into the sexless marriage: the emotions, the thoughts, feelings, as well as ever...
81. The Sexless Relationship Visits
30 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week, I'm sharing the next steps in the dealing and healing of a sexless relationship, and showing you the importance of inviting it in for a cha...
80. Raising the Bar for Women's Health with Dr. Diana Bitner
23 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Hear what Dr. Diana Bitner is doing to empower as many women as possible and raise the bar for women's health. We talk about some of the problems wome...
79. The Sexless Relationship
16 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week, I'm sharing some of the things that can contribute to a sexless relationship and some steps you can take to fix it. Discover several aspect...
78. Inviting Your Partner's Emotions In
09 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
There is a price to be paid when you avoid your partner's emotions. In this episode, I'm showing you how to allow all the emotions from your partner t...
77. Inviting Shame In
02 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Shame is persistent and continuing to avoid it will only make things worse. So in this episode, I'm showing you how to stop avoiding situations that c...
76. Black Women and Sexuality
23 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Join Dr. Kimmery Newsom and I as we discuss the stereotypes that have labeled Black women as hypersexual and the impact colonialism has had on our vie...
75. Flower Side Chat: Reinventing Valentine's Day
16 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we're sharing some ideas to help you redefine and reinvent Valentine's Day in a way that suits you. We talk about the commercializati...
74. Empowering Conversations: Reinventing Valentine's Day
09 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Coach Donna and I are giving you permission to do whatever you want to on Valentine's Day and for the rest of the year and beyond. Find out how to pri...
73. Reinventing Valentine's Day
02 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I'm showing you how to get clear on your current thoughts on Valentine's Day and why you have the power to define the day for yourself without buying ...
72. An Interview with Spicy Girl
26 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this interview with my one-on-one client, Spicy Girl, hear some of the work we've done together and the amazing results she has seen in her marriag...
71. Amazing Intimacy Goals Workshop 2022: Part 2
19 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Tune in this week for some more live coaching, questions from participants, and to hear some of the participants' impossible goals for 2022. Find out ...
70. Amazing Intimacy Goals Workshop 2022: Part 1
12 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I am so excited to bring you this week's episode as I'm giving you something I think you're really going to enjoy. I recently did a workshop for impos...
69. Empowering Conversations: Impossible Goals
05 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Join Coach Donna and I this week as we share the impossible goals that we'd like to work on in 2022 and encourage you to think about your own. We disc...
68. Impossible Goals 2.0
29 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Join me this week as I share the beauty of an impossible goal and why we should all be interested in accomplishing one. Remember, you will never succe...
67. Being the Right-Hand Person in a Sex Coaching Business with Monaye Marcia
22 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Hear about the incredible work that Monaye does, both in my programs and her own coaching business. Monaye shares what she has learned and experienced...
66. Empowering Conversations: Implementation
15 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
After you've asked for what you want, how do you keep it going? That's what we're exploring in this week's conversation with Coach Donna. We're discus...
65. Sex and Menopause with Dr. Kelly Casperson
08 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Join us this week as we talk all about sex, menopause, and hormones. Learn the importance of the role played by the vagina in pelvic health, the effec...
64. Stepping Into Your Sexual Power: Implementation
01 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Learn why implementation is the main part of stepping into your sexual power and some key aspects of what implementation looks like. There are a lot o...
63. Empowering Conversations: Initiating
24 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Coach Donna is back with me this week to discuss why women tend to avoid initiating in the bedroom and why taking initiative with intimacy seems to ca...
62. Empowering Conversations: Asking
17 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This week, I'm bringing one of my BFFs, Coach Donna, onto the show for an empowering conversation about asking for what you want. As women, we are so ...
61. Stepping into Your Sexual Power: Initiating
10 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This week, I'm showing you why some people have more difficulty initiating sex and what makes them less likely to initiate, or even stop trying altoge...
60. Erectile Dysfunction, Peyronie's Disease and Premature Ejaculation with Kelly Casperson
03 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Join us this week to hear Kelly's invaluable insight into issues that penis-owners face such as erectile dysfunction, Peyronie's Disease, and prematur...
59. Stepping into Your Sexual Power
27 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This week, I'm showing you how to step into your sexual power and start asking for what you want in the bedroom from a place of curiosity. Discover ho...
58. The Oh Just So Orgasm
20 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This week, I invite you to let go of the Oh Just So Orgasm, and instead begin creating your unique Oh Just My Orgasm. I'm sharing the myths surroundin...
57. ENCORE: Mindfulness
13 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Diamonds, we are entering the fourth quarter of 2021! As this year comes to a close, I know many of you are thinking about 2022. So this week, I'm rev...
56. The Gift of Allowing
06 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Join me this week as I share the top 10 most common reasons women want to work with me, through the lens of allowing. I'm sharing what is so fabulous ...
55. Mindfulness with Dr. Jessie Mahoney
29 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Join Dr. Jessie Mahoney and I this week for a discussion about how to bring mindfulness into sex, sexuality, self-pleasure, and intimacy. Discover the...
54. The Evolution of the Pleasure Empress
22 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Today, I introduce you to the Pleasure Empress, her evolution, and show you how creating your own identity like her can help you step into your power....
53. Having Dr. Sonia as Your Mom: Interview with My Son Julien
15 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Life is all about having conversations and sharing experiences, and this week's episode is a perfect example of this. As we start the new year on t...
52. Gynecological Issues and Sexual Pain: Interview with Dr. Yas
08 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Dr. Yas and I are showing you the importance of advocating for yourself and seeking help from medical professionals if you are experiencing any form o...
51. Relationship Libido
01 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This week I'm diving deeper into what the relationship libido is and why it is so important to see this as its own entity. I'm showing you how to get ...
50. It's Time to Get a New Lover
25 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
I'm showing you how to expand your mind on the topic of sexuality and the many ways you can become your own best lover. You get to decide what your pe...
49. Mismatched Libidos
18 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This week, I explain what causes mismatched libidos and how this might affect your relationship. Remember Diamonds, it's only a problem if you decide ...
48. Wiping the "Sex Slate" Clean
11 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm showing you how to get rid of your preconceived ideas around sex, wipe your "sex slate" clean, and start having fun. Get ready to...
47. Your Sacred Journey
04 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This week as I share more about the concept of the sacred journey and how my trip to Hawaii was part of this journey for me. Discover why the sacred j...
46. Fiction vs Reality
28 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This week I encourage you to explore the reason you are reading romance novels and how to see these novels for what they are – fiction. I'm sharing ...
45. Creative Intimacy While Dealing with Sexual Pain
21 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
I share what might be holding you back from getting the help you need and creating amazing sexual intimacy in your life. I'm showing you how to use my...
44. Flowerside Chat Q&A: Part Two
14 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
I'm discussing why it's harder for women to orgasm as we age and whether masturbating more regularly makes it more likely to orgasm or increase libido...
43. Flowerside Chat Q&A: Part One
07 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Coach Donna and I are answering your questions around everything sex and intimacy. We're discussing how to deal with a mismatched libido in your relat...
42. Understanding Pelvic Floor Health: Interview with Amanda Olson, DPT
30 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Learn what a pelvic floor therapist is and how they help people, as well as some of the problems experienced by people having pelvic health issues. If...
41. Painful Sex
23 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
I'm sharing the many different causes for painful sex, and what options you have if you are experiencing this. Treatment is available – even if you ...
40. Sustained Intimacy
16 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Diamonds, sustaining any form of intimacy takes effort, love, and appreciation. In this episode, I'm giving you a run down of the different forms of i...
39. Future Intimacy
09 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
I'm sharing how you can create the future intimacy you want starting today. Age truly is just a number, Diamonds, and you get to decide how intimate y...
38. Cultivating Intimacy
02 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Discover what to do if you want to increase the intimacy in your life. I'm sharing the reasons we need intimacy as human beings and why to have pleasu...
37. Sex Acceptance
26 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
I'm sharing four steps you can take to get into sex acceptance, and how to start seeing sex and sexual intimacy in a way that benefits you and focuses...
36. Your Sex and Intimacy Questions Answered with Kelly Casperson
19 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Discover how to understand your thoughts around sexual intimacy and establish whether those thoughts are serving you. I'm showing you how to stop assu...
35. Interview with My 74-Year-Old Diamond Didi
12 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Find out how Didi learned that it was time to put herself first, stop faking orgasms, and own her voice around her body and sexual intimacy. Hear how ...
34. Celebrating One Year of OYSN
05 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
I'm sharing the top 10 things I've learned over the last year of leading an online anonymous sex group coaching program and the various ways that memb...
33. Un-doctrination: The Rise of The Wise One
28 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Join me this week as I'm sharing the reason your libido has decreased or disappeared and the importance of prioritizing your own needs in your life. B...
32. Un-doctrination: Saying Goodbye to the Fairytale
21 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Join me this week as I discuss how women have been indoctrinated and why it's time to un-doctrinate ourselves and create what we want in our lives. I...
31. Zone of Sexual Safety
14 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
So many women feel that sexuality is not a safe topic for them to explore because society has taught women that there will be repercussions if they ar...