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Chapter 1: What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
welcome to today's episode of the mindset mentor podcast i am your host rob dial if you have not yet done so hit that subscribe button so you never miss another episode and i want to tell you about something the ceiling that you keep hitting in your income your relationships your health your happiness all of that is not a strategy problem
It is a program that's running underneath everything, and I'm gonna show you exactly how to break it on my free live Zoom training on June 10th at 7 p.m. Eastern. If you know that you are the reason why your life is not where you want it to be, and you're ready to change that, this training is for you.
Today, I'm going to be giving you 10 powerful daily habits that will actually change the course of your life. Now, I didn't want to go with like the average standard daily habits. So I really started thinking deeply about what are some things that maybe you've never heard of before or you've never thought of before. There are a couple that you have heard of before. I will tell you that.
But I really wanted to think differently about what are 10 habits that if you implement it into your life could completely change yourself and completely change the course of your life. So let's dive in. Number one is ask yourself one really tough question per day. And force yourself to have to answer honestly. And here's my challenge for you.
Every morning, take out your journal and go to ChatGPT or Claude or whatever AI you like to use and use this prompt. I want to journal. Give me an extremely deep journaling question that I have never thought of before so that I can better understand myself. This is like the Russian roulette of journaling. Like...
Questions that it came up with when I asked it this, what parts of my personality are actually survival mechanisms that I accidentally started calling me? Oof, that's a good one. Another one that it came up with, what emotion do I avoid the most and how has my entire life been unconsciously organized around avoiding feeling it?
Another one is, if my anxiety suddenly disappeared forever, what decisions would I immediately have to make that I have been postponing? Most people don't need more answers. What you really need is better questions to understand yourself. Like expressive writing and journaling has been linked with improvements in psychological and physical health.
When people write honestly about experiences that have happened in their life and what's going on in their head. You might know yourself, but knowing yourself is based in the past. What I want you to do is learn yourself. Learning yourself is based in the present.
There is so much subconscious processing that is happening at all points in time behind the scenes in your brain that you're completely unaware of. Let's become aware of them. And this habit like cuts through all of your own bullshit with love. And so, you know, like what am I pretending not to know? Where am I betraying myself to keep some peace? What pattern am I tired of carrying?
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Chapter 2: What are the 10 powerful daily habits that can change your life?
Just try to stop caring what other people think about you. Some people will misunderstand you because they do not have the range
to actually understand you some people interpret you through their own wounds and their fears and their values and their maturity and their level of perception so you can explain yourself perfectly to people and people can still not understand you so you have to develop this habit of going you know what i'm gonna be okay with being misunderstood by people
Because people only understand from their level of perception. And some people are on a completely different level of perception than you are. For instance, think of yourself 10 years ago or think of yourself 20 years ago.
There's stuff that you say today that you're completely bought in on and it's complete truth within you that 10 or 20 years ago, you'd be like, what the fuck is this person talking about, right? Like if I would have said something 20 years ago, if I could come to me today and hear some of the stuff that I'd say, I'd be like, what is this guy smoking?
It just wouldn't have made sense because I wasn't emotionally or intellectually or anything able to understand the person that I am today. You probably wouldn't be able to understand yourself today. You have grown. And sometimes you've grown past the level that some people can understand you. And that's okay. So you have to be okay with being misunderstood.
People can only understand from their level of perception. So your job is not to be understood by everyone. Your job is to live in alignment so deeply that you understand yourself. Okay, so that's number two. Number three is to start looking at your thoughts like an outsider, right? This is what's called the observer habit. You are not your thoughts. You are not even...
every thought that crosses into your mind. So much suffering that people have nowadays happens because people identify with their thoughts. They think, I am my thoughts. So when you say something like, I am noticing the thought that I am not good enough versus I am not good enough, There's a huge difference between those two. I am noticing the thought that I'm not good enough.
When you do that, you're creating distance between you and your thoughts. That distance is where your power is.
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Chapter 3: How can asking yourself tough questions improve self-awareness?
It shows you that you are not your thoughts and your thoughts are not you. And in mindfulness and acceptance-based therapies, this is often called de-centering. or cognitive diffusion. And it's basically learning to see your thoughts as these mental events rather than like absolute truth, like most people really treat their thoughts. Most suffering comes from fusing with your thoughts.
And so people think to themselves unconsciously, like I had this thought, so it must be true. I had the thought that I'm not good enough or I'm not smart enough or I'm not pretty enough or I'll always be unlovable. So it must be true. No, the observer habit really just sounds like interesting. My brain is telling me my old abandonment story again.
like that one sentence can keep you from spiraling for three hours like you maybe have done before in the past the majority of human suffering does not come from reality it comes from our thoughts about reality and those are not the same thing and so it's kind of like you are the sky Your thoughts are the weather. And every once in a while, a thunderstorm comes through.
Don't identify the thunderstorm. Okay, that's number three. Habit number four is to practice every day. Practice relaxing your nervous system. Most people in this world are dysregulated. And we will be right back. And now back to the show.
When your nervous system is in fight or flight, your brain is not prioritizing everything that matters like creativity and patience and love and in discipline or compassion or joy. It is prioritizing survival. And this is why you can know better like we all do and still snap because your nervous system is probably dysregulated.
And then maybe you procrastinate and then you spiral and then you shut down. Your thinking brain gets hijacked by your threat system because your nervous system is going, I got to make sure I don't get attacked. I got to make sure I stay alive. So daily nervous system regulation teaches your body, I am safe right now. The thing that I would recommend for everybody here is to go onto YouTube.
I have no affiliation with this guy, but I listened to him one, two, three, four times a day. Sometimes his name is breathe with Sandy and he's got like five minute, 10 minute nervous system regulations. He's got a ton of different breath works. He puts out one out every single week. Great stuff. But he's got some five minute nervous system breath work that just like it teaches your body.
Just to calm down because so many of us are dysregulated. And so like sometimes I do it at least once a day. I do it every single morning with my son. I sit him on my lap and we do them together. Sometimes I do them three or four times a day. We're just learning to self-soothe. Self-soothing is not weakness. It is emotional mastery.
Most people in this world that are full-on adults do not know how to self-soothe themselves. So you can put your hand on your chest. You can slow your breathing. You can unclench your jaw. You can relax your shoulders. And like just tell your meat suit that you live in, hey, we're okay. Just de-stress yourself so that you don't blow up on someone that doesn't deserve it.
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Chapter 4: Why is it important to not seek understanding from others?
Forgiveness does not mean that whatever happened to you that you haven't forgiven yet was okay. It does not mean that you let them off the hook. It does not mean that you let them back into your life. It does not mean that you become a doormat. Forgiveness means that you stop letting the old pain own space in your body every single day. Anger and resentment are the acid that burn the vessel.
And so... You can start small, like just wake up in the morning and just say like, hey, can I release 1% of this thing today? Like you don't have to fully forgive, but like, can I just release 1% of this today? Like, what do I no longer want to hold on to? And then you start forgiving that person. And once again, it's not for them.
You forgive somebody else for yourself so that you can stop holding on to it. Because it's only hurting you. It's not hurting them at all. Another person that you should forgive, yourself. That's sometimes the hardest one to forgive.
You have made mistakes in the past, but you made decisions with the consciousness and the tools and the trauma and the conditioning and the patterns and the awareness that you had at the time. So you've got to be able to realize that and realize, well, yeah, something that you did 20 years ago, you have grown a lot since then. And you do. Hindsight is 20-20.
Maybe you should have made a different decision, but you didn't. What happened happened. It could not have happened any other way because it didn't. You know, it's one of my favorite quotes. So healing is not forgetting. Healing is a gift that you give yourself so that you can have more space for the good things in life. And then number 10.
the 10th habit that I want you to do every single day, read 10 pages a day. In a world that has such fractured focus, reading teaches your brain to stay for these 10 pages. 10 pages a day feels small, but it compounds. That's 3,650 pages a year. Like depending on the books, that's like 10 to 15 books a year, right? Reading also gives your mind like better ingredients. If your inputs are garbage,
into your brain, your thoughts are usually gonna smell like garbage, right? Reading expands your perception. One of the things that makes people excited is by learning something new. A lot of times when people feel like stuck in a rut or they don't know what they're doing with themselves, they just haven't grown.
And when you read something new and it expands your mind in some sort of way, it makes you feel like you're growing. It makes you feel like you're moving in a good direction. And you can start to actually, you know, you can challenge your beliefs. You can learn more. You can make yourself more emotionally intelligent. You can make yourself more intellectually intelligent.
Like a really good book is like a conversation with somebody's highest quality thinking. Have you ever thought about that before? Like nobody puts their worst quality thoughts in there. And so if you're reading from somebody who is one of the smartest people who's ever lived, it's like having a conversation with that person's highest quality thinking.
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