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Chapter 1: What is the purpose of the Mindset Mentor Podcast?
Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dial. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so you never miss another episode. And before we get into today's episode, I wanna tell you about a live Zoom lesson that I'm gonna be doing on June 10th at 7 p.m. Eastern. It's called Break the Ceiling.
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Once again, break the ceiling 2026.com and I'll see you live on that session today. I'm going to be talking about something that honestly scares the shit out of me. And I don't say that lightly. Like there's this fear that's kind of lived inside of me for a few years now. It's the fear that one day I'm going to get to the end of my life and realize that I was never actually here.
Like physically, my body showed up. I sat at dinners. I went on vacations. I hugged people I love. I built businesses. I walked through airports. I drank coffee. I listened to music. But like mentally, I was somewhere else throughout my entire life.
Thinking about the future, replaying the past, analyzing conversations that I had had a couple days before, or preparing for problems that never actually even came, or trying to optimize every moment of my life instead of actually inhabiting my life. And so I started realizing something a couple years ago, and it really, really woke me up. Most people, including myself, don't live in reality.
Most people live in psychological time. Your body exists in the present moment, but your mind is either in memory or it's in imagination. And it's not like the memory is only thinking about the best moments of your life or when you went to Disney for the first time as a child. It's not like your imagination is always imagining all of the amazing things that could happen today.
No, it's usually the exact opposite of that. Your fears, your worries, your limiting beliefs, your regrets. Doom and gloom. And there's this hidden cost to living entirely in your mind. You slowly lose contact with life itself. You stop hearing your partner, even though they're speaking to you right there. You stop noticing all of the details and the colors of a beautiful sunset.
You stop feeling fully in your body. You stop inhabiting your own existence. And you basically become like this floating head dragging a meat suit around. And I realized at some point, I don't want to die having spent my entire life mentally absent from the only thing that I actually ever had, which is this present moment right here.
So over the past year, I've become obsessive about learning how to come back to reality. And I've been practicing presence. In fact, I've said this a couple times in the podcast, but I have a tattoo right here on my right wrist that I see all day long. And the tattoo says, be here now. I probably see it 30, 40 times a day. I didn't get it because it looks cool.
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Chapter 2: What fears does the host discuss regarding life and presence?
I didn't get it because it's all spiritual and that's something that Ram Dass says or any of that, even though I love Ram Dass. It's because I genuinely need a reminder. I had to get a tattoo to myself because I need a reminder. Because my mind wanders constantly, and I'm sure yours does too. And so I want you to know your brain was designed to leave the present moment.
There's a network in your brain that's called a default mode network. Neuroscientists discovered that when you're not fully engaged in this present moment, this network lights up. And so it replays the past, it simulates the future, it thinks about yourself, it creates narratives and fears and worries and compares and it judges things and it mentally time travels.
And researchers at Harvard found that human beings spend about 47% of their waking life thinking about something other than what they're currently doing. 47%, almost half of our lives are just full of basically like mental masturbation. And the scary part about it is the same study found that wandering minds are associated with lower happiness levels than anything else.
Meaning the more that you are in your head, the less happier you are. Or if you want to flip it another way, if you want to be happier, be present. So it's our inability to stay connected to reality while we're in it. And when I first read this study, I sat here thinking like, holy shit, this is crazy. Like people are missing their entire lives while trying to think their way into a better life.
And so over the past couple of years, I started noticing kind of profound The only thing that actually is ever really in this present moment, like right now, a lot of times is our body. That's it. Like your mind can leave, your thoughts can leave, your imagination, all of that can leave, but your body is always here. Your breath is always here. Your heartbeat is always here.
The feeling in your hands is here. Like the sensation of the bottom of your left foot right now is here. And so if your mind is always wandering, The portal to come back to reality is getting into your body. Anxiety lives in the mind. Peace is accessed through the body. And this is where a lot of self-development people accidentally get trapped. They stay in cognition forever, the brain forever.
More podcasts, more books, more learning, more journaling, more analyzing, more understanding. Believe me, I've done this. I've got a freaking podcast called The Mindset Mentor, right? So don't get me wrong. I understand. I understand all of it. It is important. It is very, very important to understand yourself intellectually. But healing...
And experiencing life requires sometimes you getting out of the mind and being like fully present in this moment. You cannot think your way into being present. You have to embody your way to being present. And that is embody through the body. And so I want to go a little bit deeper than just a surface level here. Like not just like, hey, meditate and become present, bro.
Like that's not what I want. Presence can feel uncomfortable for a lot of us. And the reason why is because thinking, whether we realize it or not, is often an avoidance strategy. Like your mind keeps moving because stillness and boredom forces you to feel. And many people have spent their entire lives unconsciously avoiding feeling.
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