The Modern Phoenix
Episodes
When Will It Be Enough? Reclaiming Your Inner 'Enoughness' in a Capitalist World
15 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this soulful December episode, Gervase pulls back the curtain on her decision to shift The Modern Phoenix Podcast to a monthly publishing sc...
I Choreograph My Whole Life Around Joy
01 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if you planned your day around what lights you up—on purpose? In this raw solo, Gervase shares how a rooftop birthday party became a ma...
When I Don't Know What to Do, I Return to Me
17 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When I Don't Know What to Do, I Return to Me is a raw solo where Gervase shares two real-life vignettes—a Zoom with a master lawyer taken from a Cos...
The Mountain Is Me: What Peru Burned Away (and What It Gave Back)
03 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if "retreat" isn't a luxury—but spiritual hygiene? In this raw solo, Gervase shares what happened on her Peru retreat in the Sacred Valley: the...
Leaning Back Into Support: Why You Don't Have To Do It Alone
06 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if the reason you feel so exhausted isn't because you're "not strong enough," but because you've been conditioned to believe you should do it all...
Your Body Tells the Truth of Your Trauma
22 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if the real story of your trauma isn't the one you keep telling yourself in your head — but the one your body has been holding all along?...
Renovations, Motherhood & Meeting My Upper Limits on The Phoenix Spiral
08 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if the chaos in your life wasn't the problem—but the pressure you pile on top of it? In this raw and personal episode, Gervase shares the story...
How Internalized Capitalism Is Controlling Your Right To Rest And Exist
25 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if that voice telling you to "be more productive" isn't your inner wisdom but internalized capitalism? Most of us are living with constant pressu...
Permission to Be Who You Are: Human Design for Mothers, Makers & Dreamers with Erin Claire Jones
11 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if the reason you constantly feel drained isn't because you're doing too much, but because you're doing things in a way that goes against your na...
I AM a Multidimensional Woman
28 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Let's be real: the world doesn't need another "put-together" woman who's mastered pretending. It needs you—whole, honest, luminous, messy, intuitiv...
How to Connect With Your Heart (And Get Out Of Your Head)
14 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if the reason you struggle to speak from your heart isn't because you don't know what to say, but because you've forgotten how to connect w...
Dharma, Destiny & Divine Design: A Vedic Astrologer's Guide To Your Life's Path
30 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if you came to Earth with a divine design and a map of your life already written in the stars? This week, Gervase sits down with Carol Allen, a ...
You Are a Soul Having a Human Experience
16 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if every challenging experience in your life—the difficult relationships, the heartbreak, the family drama—wasn't happening TO you, but was a...
It's OK To Press The "Easy" Button
02 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if the key to getting hard tasks done when you're overwhelmed (or just bored!) isn't willpower—but more pleasure? This week, Gervase shares how...
Stay or Go? Healing Relationship Patterns with Katarina Polonska
19 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
For this week's podcast, I brought along a friend… high-performance relationship coach and gender dynamics social scientist, Katarina Polonska! In t...
How Overfunctioning Disconnects You from Your Body and Your Life
05 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Does every task on your to-do list feel as equally urgent and like a threat to your survival? In this week's episode, Gervase dives deep into the patt...
I Can't Like Myself If I'm Who You Want Me To Be
21 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Tired of contorting yourself into a pretzel so you're liked? Or so you don't make others feel uncomfortable by being YOU? In this week's episode (whic...
What is Inner Knowing, And Why Will It Change Your Life
07 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The pressure to be more, do more, have more is exhausting, but what if the real problem isn't you… but the unrealistic expectations you've internali...
You Can't "Out-think" Your Triggered Body
24 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever found yourself completely overwhelmed, frustrated, or stuck in a cycle you can't seem to break? You may feel your body tense up, your mi...
REPLAY: A Woman Who Has Her Own Back
10 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever felt like something in your life, career, or relationships isn't working, and instead of questioning the system, you immediately assume ...
It's Not Your Job To Make Other People Happy
24 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
How often do you hold back, soften your words, or twist yourself into knots just to make sure no one gets upset? Whether it's navigating a tough conve...
Why Women Don't Like to Cry (And Why You Should Start)
10 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever been told that you're too emotional? Or do you avoid crying at all costs because you don't want to look weak? In this week's episode, Ge...
My mental health story & what therapy couldn't "fix"
27 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When it's deeper than talk therapy, it needs a mind-body-soul approach. This week on the Modern Phoenix, Gervase shares insights from her mental healt...
Matrescence: Does becoming a mother change… everything? with Jessie Harrold
13 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The transition into motherhood reshapes not just our roles, but our very beings. In this episode, Gervase Kolmos sits down with Jessi Harold, author o...
A Mind, Body, Soul Reset for 2025
30 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Navigate the demands of the new year with greater ease, intention, and authenticity. In this week's grounding episode, Gervase invites you to reflect,...
How my body helped me make up with my husband
16 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What if the key to breaking through relationship conflicts isn't in the talking but in the listening… to your body? In this episode, Gervase reveals...
Breaking the Cycle of Fear-Based Parenting with Wendy Snyder
02 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
From threats and punishments to connection - this one goes out to the parents of strong-willed children. In today's episode, Gervase welcomes Wendy Sn...
I have to say the right thing or they'll be mad
18 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Gervase shines a light on the pervasive belief: "I have to say or do the right thing, or they'll be mad." Gervase explores how this b...
It's not okay for me to make mistakes
04 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week, Gervase takes on a limiting belief that surfaces in the lives of many modern women: it's not okay to be wrong. Learn why this belief leads ...
Meet the Modern Phoenix
21 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to The Modern Phoenix Podcast! Born from the ashes of the "It's All Me" podcast, The Modern Phoenix is here to guide, inspire, and empower you...
151: Why Permission is Where Healing Begins
07 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
On this week's solo episode of the IAM podcast, Gervases seizes inspiration from a recent client interaction, discussing how patterns of disempowermen...
150: PANDAS: Biggest Lessons Learned One Year Later
23 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week on the IAM podcast, after a full year of navigating her daughter's PANDAS diagnosis,Gervase shares her lived experience of integrating relat...
149: Break the Burnout Cycle
09 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Join Gervase this week on the It's All Me podcast as she shares how important the practice of resourcing has become in her life, especially in times o...
148: Rejection is Redirection
26 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome back to a new season of the It's All Me podcast! In this solo episode, Gervase shares her personal experiences of integrating a mindset that c...
147: Stop Trying to Fix Yourself; Your Body Has a Better Path
29 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week on the It's All Me podcast, Gervase addresses the impact of going beyond the mind when it comes to healing. Listen in as she discusses the p...
146: Burning it all down…again and again and again with Jeannine Yoder (Audience favorite)
22 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week on the It's All Me podcast, we are bringing back a much-loved episode with Jeannine Yoder (Kochuba). In this episode, Gervase invites us to ...
145: Challenge vs Suffering: Rewiring our Brains for Curiosity and Pleasure
15 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week on the IAM podcast, Gervase is dropping in with a solo episode on the difference between experiencing life's challenges and allowing ourselv...
144. How to Access More Pleasure as a High-Performing Woman
08 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
On this week's solo episode of the I AM podcast, Gervase reminds high performing women - like you - of the transformative power of taking time to smel...
143: Partnerships the Phoenix Way: How to Cultivate Compassion, Agency, and Pleasure
01 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
On this solo episode of the It's All Me podcast, Gervase shares her personal insights on partnership, co-creating safety and trust within your relatio...
142: The Path to Secure Attachment (Even If You're Anxious) with Carly Turner
24 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week on the IAM podcast, Gervase sits down with Carly Turner, certified CBT & Somatic Attachment Therapist, as they discuss anxious attachment, h...
141: Joy is a Really Good Reason (Replay)
17 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What is your relationship to joy? For a lot of modern women wearing multiple hats and feeling responsible for all sorts of projects and people, joy is...
140: Pillow Talk: Reconnecting to Sensuality in Partnership with Sex Therapist Dr. Viviana
10 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week on the IAM podcast, Gervase reintroduces relationship and sex therapist Dr. Viviana, who shares how she uses her 20 years of experience to h...
139: The Black Sheep's Journey: Understanding Generational Trauma with Nick Werber
03 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week on the podcast, Gervase introduces us to her mentor Nick Werber from the Focalizing Institute, as they discuss generational trauma patterns ...
138: Creating Safety, Trust AND Boundaries with Your Kids with Destini Davis and Kiva Schuler
28 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Join G and her guests Destini and Kiva this week on the IAM podcast as they have an in-depth discussion about peaceful parenting and the work necessar...
137: It's Not Okay, And I'm Okay
20 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's solo episode of the It's All Me podcast, Gervase walks us through her lived experience of resourcing and holding space for the duality ...
136: Self Regulation Is My Family's Way Of Life. Here's Why
13 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
On this week's solo episode of the It's All Me podcast, Gervase discusses how she reverse-engineered bad parenting advice and used it as inspiration f...
135: How to Ask For What You Want (at Home) Pt 2
06 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this second half of a two-part series, Gervase shines a light on how to get what you want at home. Using two highly common archetypes of women who ...
134: Understanding Childhood Trauma that Doesn't Feel Like Trauma with Chelsea Green (replay)
29 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this replay from 2021, Gervase is getting publicly therapized with soulmate and licensed professional counselor Chelsea Green. Chelsea speaks such ...
133: How to Ask For What You Want (at Work) Pt 1
22 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In a masterclass-style solo episode this week, Gervase dives into how to ask for what you want at your place of work. Listen in as she discusses the t...
132: Instead of Being Selfless, Be Your Fullest Self
15 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week on the It's All Me podcast, Gervase shares a client-inspired discussion about selflessness and the lies we've been fed that have led us into...
131: The Magic of the Spring Equinox: Aligning Your Body With the Changing of Seasons
01 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week on the IAM podcast, Gervase drops in with her thoughts on the transformative opportunity that lies within the Spring Equinox and the practic...
EASTER BONUS: Remembering the Sacred Feminine with Priestess Sarah Jenks (Replay)
29 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this bonus replay from 2022, G brings one of her teachers to the pod—a fellow mom of 3 who also happens to be a Priestess, Sarah Jenks. In this c...
130: Why My Trip to PR Was Good For My Kids (And Awesome for Me)
25 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Back from her trip to Puerto Rico, Gervase shares the impact of our cultural conditioning around motherhood, the stories its led us to tell ourselves,...
129: Client Story - Landing in Wonder by Walking Through Fear
18 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Peek behind the curtain into Gervase's private coaching spaces this week as Gervase shares an anonymous client story about a woman learning to integra...
128: Supporting Yourself Through the World's Pain
11 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Sharing an anonymous client story, Gervase discusses how her client was able to move from a place of overwhelming emotions from secondary grief and fe...
127: Teaching My Daughters Embodiment {Personal Story}
04 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week on the It's All Me podcast, Gervase drops in with a personal, real-life example of what embodiment means and how she is teaching it to her c...
126: Client Story - Loving Your Polarizing Traits with Sophia Prater
27 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Gervase invites friend and client Sophia Prater on the podcast this week to discuss Sophia's journey from an overwhelmed, ambitious entrepreneur tryin...
125: Expand Your Tolerance for Uncertainty
19 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Dropping in this week with a solo episode, Gervase shares the impact of embracing life's uncertainty without shaming the choices or plans you've made ...
124: Co-Creating Safety and Harmony in Partnership with Josh Trent
12 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Join Gervase and her guest Josh Trent as they discuss the impact of spiritual growth, the balancing of masculine and feminine energies, and the power ...
123: Goodbye, Hyper-Independence. Hello, Community
05 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Gervase shares an inside look at how she creates space for dimension and transformation within her in-person retreats and walks us through the most...
122: Asking Hard Questions (Are NYC Schools Still Segregated?) with Brandon Triola
29 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Brandon Triola is a teacher, actor and creator who loves to stir the pot in the schools where he's taught. This episode, he and G navigate the inconve...
121: Are you Designing Your Life from the Inside Out?
22 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In a world where we've been brainwashed to believe that the next beauty product, job, or partner will make us the person we long to be, Gervase remind...
120: Every Part of You Gets to Be Here with Jenna Donohue
15 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We're talking to Jenna Donohue, ex-corporate ladder climber and current Inner Guidance podcast host. Listen in as Jenna and G share their experiences ...
119: What is the Point of Healing?
08 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What is the point of healing? On this solo episode of the It's All Me podcast, Gervase reflects on the highs and lows of her healing journey through 2...
118: Addressing Trauma, Breaking Cycles, and Changing the Script with Angie Mizzell
18 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode of the It's All Me podcast, Gervase introduces Angie Mizzell, former television news anchor and recently published author of "Girl in ...
117: Health, Balance, and Legacy with Jason Burke of The New Primal
11 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode of the It's All Me podcast, Gervase sits down with Jason Burke, founder and CEO of The New Primal and Noble Made, to discuss Jason's j...
116: An Introduction to CBD and How It's Supporting My Family's Needs
04 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode of the It's All Me podcast, Gervase sits down with Nan Fox, a registered nurse of 17 years and advocate for the organic hemp wellness ...
115: If You Feel Like Something's Missing . . .
27 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this solo of the It's All Me podcast, Gervase dives into a new way of womaning. Join the convo as she expands on how her clients are experiencing h...
114: The Politicalization of the Public School System with Joy Brown
20 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are political agendas getting in the way of your child's education? Join Gervase and her guest Joy Brown on this week's episode of the It's All Me pod...
113: Coming Home to Peace and Self
13 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this solo episode of the It's All Me podcast, Gervase channels a message on the practice of coming home to self. Listen in as she discusses the nec...
112: Reinventing Your Life After Waking Up to the World's BS with Erin Keating
06 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Everything is bullsh*t. On this episode of the It's All Me podcast, Gervase invites Erin Keating, an award-winning television development and producti...
111: I Went to Church and This is What I Prayed For
30 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Lately it feels like my lifeforce and bandwidth have been tested to the max. So when a friend invited me to church with free childcare, I went. In thi...
110: Focalizing: Creating Islands of Safety Within Yourself and Your Children with Jo Miller
16 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Life is one big initiation. Join Gervase and her Focalizing teacher, Jo Miller, as they discuss what it would look like to have 'enough' in the face...
109: A Peek Inside Our Family's New (Food) Normal
09 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
From triage to coasting: Join Gervase on this episode of the It's All Me podcast as she opens up about her personal journey through her daughter's dia...
108: Cultivating Mind, Body, and Spirit via Float Therapy (and More) with Maxwell Casa
02 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you float tank? This episode of the It's All Me podcast features Maxwell Casa, an accomplished martial artist, performance coach, and the creator o...
107: When a Woman Has Her Own Back
25 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this week's solo episode of the It's All Me podcast, Gervase breaks down the signs of a woman's self-abandonment, and how reconnecting to inner tru...
106: Balancing your masculine and feminine energies with Marissa Lawton
18 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode of the It's All Me podcast, Gervase sits down with Marissa Lawton to discuss how masculine and feminine energies are woven into our ev...
105: My Light After the Dark Night of the Soul {Personal Story}
05 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We are back from a summer break that was more like a summer smackdown for G. In this solo episode, she's giving you the play-by-play of her daughter's...
104: Breaking up with Your Good Girl with Stephanie Jiroch
31 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What does it look like to own your story? On this episode of the It's All Me podcast Gervase introduces us to her former client and longtime community...
103: A Cross-Cultural, Multi-Layered Approach to Healing with Mandy Burstein
24 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It's not uncommon to hear people talking about 'unleashing the wild woman,' but the next question is - then what? On this episode of the It's All Me p...
102: My Intuition Called Me Out and I Chose to Listen
17 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Ever had that moment when you're just… fed up? Today's solo episode is a quick, relatable personal story about a recent parenting moment when my int...
101: Divorce Redefined - From Needless to Expressed & Empowered with Jasmine Chanelle
03 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
So. Many. Truthbombs. On this episode of the It's All Me podcast, Gervase sits down with Mom2Mogul creator and recent divorcee, Jasmine Chanelle. Toge...
100: Inside My Marriage Pt 2: a dreamer and a realist, an empowered wife, and how we upleveled our communication
26 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when a dreamer and a realist get married? Join Gervase and her husband Kevin in this Part 2 episode, where they open up about how they ch...
99: Female Friendships (Pt 2) and What's Holding Women Back from Feeling Safe in Their Sisterhoods with Stephanie Burg
19 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Back in 2021, Gervase invited Stephanie Burg on the podcast to talk about the new paradigm of female friendships - and it was a hit! Back to add to th...
98: A Hypnosis for Trusting Your Body
12 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
For all our hypno-curious listeners, we made this week's episode for you! It's a custom self-hypnosis track by G that was inspired by and designed to ...
97: How Niceness Fails Us with Shaniequa Washington - Diversity. Inclusivity. Authentic Community.
05 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Inclusivity. Diversity. Niceness. Wisdom. Duality. When it comes to building true community and belonging, what buzzwords are failing us and what is a...
96: Learning to Trust the Body, Plus What is "Focalizing"
29 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We've been brainwashed to doubt our body, but it's time to remember her innate power. Join Gervase on this week's episode of the It's All Me podcast a...
95: What Is Intersectionality with LaVanda Brown of the YWCA
22 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Intersectionality. Haven't heard of it? You're about to get the inside scoop. Join Gervase and her guest LaVanda Brown of the YWCA as they discuss LaV...
94: The Discomfort of Deconditioning from Mother Culture
15 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Unpopular opinion alert: You can have boundaries with your kids. On today's episode of the It's All Me podcast, Gervase shares how this mind-blowing r...
93: This Generation of Moms is Parenting Consciously
11 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you're a part of this new wave of motherhood, you're learning a lot and applying it in real time. In this solo episode of the IAM pod, Gervase disc...
92. The IAM Mindset Edition: Free Masterclass + Workbook
01 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Free training alert! On this special episode of the It's All Me podcast, Gervase shares a recording of a recent masterclass held inside one of her sig...
91: Should I Have a Baby? My Answer (and what I believe you're really asking)
24 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are you teetering between a hell yes and a hell no when it comes to having children? On this episode of the podcast, Gervase explains how this is link...
90: Client Story - The Unmasking of Authentic Self with Carrie Richmond
17 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this week's episode of the It's All Me podcast, I invited client and new author Carrie Richmond to enlighten us with her journey of shedding societ...
89: Body Grief with Jayne Mattingly
10 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On the It's All Me podcast, we're all about embracing the "and" in our lives as modern women. On this week's episode, I invited Jayne Mattingly, autho...
Working Through Resistance Without Bypassing the Fear
03 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The 'Fake it til you make it' era is over. No more slapping on happy faces, no more 'feeling the fear and doing it anyway' mantra subscriptions. As ...
Name the Thing with Mika Gadsden - Unconscious bias. Embracing Discomfort. Living a Layered Life.
27 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Leadership just got a major facelift. Layered, spicy, and multi-dimensional woman Mika Gadsden joins G on this week's episode of the It's All Me podca...
A Fresh Take on Wife Guilt
14 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
How many times a day do you was a wife, mother, or woman feel guilty? Guilty for asking for help. Guilty for even wanting support in the first place. ...
The Ripple Effect of a Legacy Mindset with Andrea Serrano
06 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Becoming who you're meant to be isn't really a destination, it's a journey, and it's a journey filled with Phoenix moments and nudges from the Univers...
WTF is up with Extracurriculars
27 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Whether you are a mother, know a mother, or you're influencing people's lives, you know how draining extracurriculars can be. As parents or caregivers...
Rerooting and Revillaging in a Capitalist Suburbia with Becca Piastrelli
20 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
As modern-day women, it can be common to feel disconnected: from ourselves, our past, and our community. This feeling of disconnect can make it even m...