The Oprah Podcast
Oprah and Mel Robbins Talk the One Change That Can Improve Your Life
Tue, 10 Dec 2024
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Chapter 1: What is the one change that can improve your life?
You know, I have never been able to let anything go. That probably doesn't surprise anybody. I just feel like if somebody were to tell me, Mel, just let it go. You know, just let it go. Your mom's disappointed. Just let it go. But it feels like I'm defeated. It feels like I have no choice.
That's right, that you surrendered.
Yes. Yes. I like to feel the peace of surrender, but I didn't know how to access it. And I think one of the things that I really strive to do is that if something's complicated or it's too intellectual— I can't remember it or I can't apply it.
Well, this is one of the things I love about you and your podcast and your work here on the planet at this time where it's most needed. You break down complicated ideas into simple terms and forms that people can understand and relate to.
And so let them, you know, the Buddhists have said it, the Stoics have said it, great religions have all talked about letting go and letting God, but you put it in
common everyday language and principles that are not just relatable but resonate and that's why I had aha after aha after aha moment when I was reading this book and I know that you are a woman who's made for this time for such a time as this yes and everybody needs this tool because there is so much in the world right now that is out of your control yes
From the headlines to global politics to what's happening at the local school board to what your mother's mood is to the stress that your kids are feeling.
And I love what you said about that. Everybody's already voted. You had the two candidates. The decisions have been made. And so let them. It's done. Now decide what you can do and let yourself do that. And if you can't, let them.
Right. And the second part of the theory, which is let me, is actually the more important part. Yes. And the reason why is because, first of all, you have to say let them. Because you can't take control of your own life until you stop trying to control everybody else and everything around you. And so let them is when you release control. Oh my goodness, it's so freeing. Yes. Yes.
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Chapter 2: How did Mel Robbins' life experiences shape her philosophy?
Yes. And we make the mistake of thinking that we can push somebody else to do it. And when you push against somebody else, especially somebody that is struggling, you know, I often think about the fact that the hardest working kid in a classroom is not the one getting the A's. It's the kid who's failing. Because they know that they're not doing well. And they can do well if they can.
And if they're not doing well, it's because they're at a moment in their life where they can't. They're missing skills. They're missing hope. They're missing support. And so the kid that's struggling or the adult that's struggling, they're in deep, active conflict within themselves. A human being knows, Oprah, when they're not reaching their potential. Yes, don't we all? Yes.
And so they're already putting so much pressure on themselves because they know that they're not studying and they're not excelling. And we do this with our health. Like, I think the people that work the hardest at the health are the people that are struggling with it.
Absolutely.
And we don't stop and think about that. We actually come in with judgment and opinions and suggestions like, oh, you know, if you kind of cut calories and go for a walk, you might lose some weight. Oh, thanks, Einstein. Like, I didn't think about that. That's right.
Yeah.
And so when somebody pushes you, even with the best of intentions, what happens is it creates more pressure. And so you didn't actually create motivation. Right. You created resistance. Resentment and resistance.
Yes.
Yes. Yes. And you also created distance in your relationship. And so if you really want people in your life to excel.
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