The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit

104 - That Self-Doubt Struggle - Low confidence, big shame, negative self-talk—let's switch it up, baby.

28 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Self-doubt can plague us, especially when we come from trauma and abuse. We don't put ourselves out there for the jobs we want, the friendships we're ...

103 - Not Feeling Chosen - Feeling unwanted, unseen, or not valued in childhood is so painful—let's get you healing, hunny.

14 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Not feeling chosen by your caregivers is such a painful experience that it gets tucked into our subconscious, where it thrives without us even knowing...

102 - Criticizing Your Body - Disordered eating, preoccupation about weight, anti-aging obsessions—how do we just feel good in our bodies?

28 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Maybe we're constantly dieting or abstaining from eating, maybe we're obsessively counting calories or working out, maybe we're spending crazy amounts...

101 - How to Be Authentic - For a lot of us, authenticity isn't easy, but you CAN bounce back.

14 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Everyone talks about authenticity, and there's even a lot of shame for not "being real." But when you come from abuse and/or emotionally immature pare...

100 - How to Know When People Are Safe - How do we know when to trust people? Let's dig in.

31 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Unsafe people aren't going to walk up to you and tell you they're unsafe. But there are lots of signs if you know what to look for. Unfortunately, man...

99 - Emotionally Immature Parents - Narcissism, refusal to apologize, selfishness, lack of empathy—these cut deep. Let's look at the impact and how we heal.

17 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

When we're taught that "love" is conditional on outside approval, when we're taught to fear authority rather than stand in our personal power, when we...

98 - Working with Depression - A depressive episode can take you tf out—let's look at the changes we can make to find peace of mind.

03 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

It's my first epi of 2026! And we're getting into depression. Depressive episodes are so painful. You might think you'll never bounce back, and even w...

97 - Disorganized Attachment - AKA fearful avoidant attachment style can be so hard to navigate—let's get clarity.

20 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Our conversation on attachment styles continues! This week, we're getting into disorganized attachment style, aka fearful avoidant. One of the reasons...

96 - Smiling Depression Is a Whole Ass Nightmare - Performing happiness, faking happiness—whatever you call it, it steals your life. Let's heal, hunny.

06 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How many people are walking around performing success—achieving, following the "rules," doing everything that's "supposed" to make you happy on pape...

95 - Avoidant Attachment Style: Real talk—emotional intimacy isn't easy. Let's build effective communication skills & get your relationships back on track.

22 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This is a continuation of the attachment style series! So many of us are avoidant *and don't even know it.* We avoid conflict, people please, shut dow...

94 - Talkin' 'Bout Reactive Defense AKA Reactive Abuse - Let's look at how we show up around abuse, mistreatment, & chronic defensiveness (ahem, emotionally immature parents) and reclaim our power.

08 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have you heard about reactive defense, AKA reactive abuse? This is super important to know about if you've been in relationships with abusers (your fa...

93 - Human Design for People Pleasers - For all you human design types & newbies alike, we're getting a map into your people pleasing tendencies AND learning how to heal it.

25 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

It's the 3rd epi in my people-pleasing series! I have been DYING to know what human design really is, how it works, and if it can help us with people ...

92 - The People Pleaser Guide: How to Deal with Conflict - Less people pleasing, more conflict resolution strategies for standing in power and authenticity, bb.

11 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This is episode 2 in my people-pleasing deep-dive! One of our biggest fears as people-pleasers is speaking up for ourselves during conflict—it can l...

91 - People Pleasing at Work Gotcha Down? If you're a people pleaser from 9 to 5, it's time to start setting boundaries so you can take your power back.

27 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

It's my first in a series on people pleasing! We're looking at it from all angles, starting with people-pleasing at work. We do it to stay safe, even ...

90 - When Should You End a Relationship? - How get out of toxic connections and into reciprocal, loving relationships as recovering people pleasers and children of gaslighters.

13 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How do you know when it's time to end a friendship, or any relationship for that matter? How do you know when you're just being "dramatic," like your ...

89 - How to Heal Anxious Attachment Style Part II - A deep dive into healing anxious attachment, bc it's time to enjoy secure attachment, babe.

30 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We've all been there—trying to figure out the exact right way to phrase the text so we sound cool and aloof when actually we've been crying for the ...

88 - Anxious Attachment Style, Breakup Edition - Codependency in relationships can surge in the breakup stage for anxiously attached folks—let's get you out of despair and into thrive mode.

16 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Being anxiously attached in a relationship is hard enough, but anxiously attached during a breakup?? The feelings of abandonment, the hopelessness, th...

87 - Burnout Recovery 101 - How to break free from people-pleasing and emotional exhaustion (and the subconscious childhood wounds behind it)

02 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

A lot of times, we think the antidote to burnout is a nap or a vacay (which, no shade, we love a vacay) but a lot of us are struggling with burnout fr...

86 - Tired of People Pleasing? - How childhood conditioning controls your work, love life, & confidence (and how to finally respect yourself without feeling drained)

19 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever get mad at yourself because you didn't hold a boundary? Are you SO over what a people pleaser you can be? Has anyone ever told you you nee...

85 - Is My Mom a Narcissist? - This one's for the daughters of narcissistic mothers—and the dudes and non-binary folks—let's dig into the signs of a narcissistic mother, the impact, & how we heal.

05 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Real talk—narcissistic mothers unleash a reign of terror over their kids, and for MANY of us, we don't even realize it for years and years! We may e...

84 - Limerence Symptoms Driving You Crazy? - Obsessive love ain't love, y'all, & your limerent object isn't all that. Let's show you how to stop obsessing over someone else so you can LIVE.

21 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Literally romantic obsession SUCKS. The longing is so intense, and there's no way to satiate it. In this epi, we get into how your unmet childhood nee...

83 - Need Help with Anxiety? - The spin-outs suck—get help with anxiety & learn anxiety management techniques with Dr. Stephanie Lopez

07 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Anxiety isn't just about your thoughts, it's about whether or not you see *YOURSELF* as capable enough to handle life (OOF!). In this episode, I get i...

82 - Did You Grow Up Without Affection? It's time to start healing the impact of being unloved as a child, babe.

24 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this epi, we're getting into the symptoms of growing up without a parent who supported and hyped you up or even hugged you—it can show up allll o...

81 - Not Feeling Good Enough? How to deal with Imposter Syndrome, anxious attachment, perfectionism, and more by building self worth.

10 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

NBD just going through life feeling like you're always the problem because you weren't treated like you were good enough to be heard, seen, respected,...

80 - Dealing with Political Anxiety? We're getting into how to stop catastrophizing (and feeling empowered instead).

26 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Are you feeling like you're always on the brink of a panic attack while a government of racist, sexist, xenophobic, homophobic oligarchs squeezes ever...

79 - Healing After a Breakup - We're just out here overcoming breakup grief, healing heartbreak, and moving on after a relationship with somatic practitioner Laurie James

12 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Healing after a breakup suucckkks—the grief, the anger, the fear. In this episode, I sit down with somatic practioner Laurie James to talk about The...

78 - Suffered Sibling Violence? We're talking how to recover from sibling abuse trauma and sibling emotional abuse (and how to heal, hunny).

29 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

A lot of families don't take sibling abuse seriously—behavior they would never accept from a bully at school, they completely gloss over when it's h...

77 - Feeling Helpless and Hopeless? How to deal with Learned Helplessness through somatic healing so you can feel optimistic again (yes, really).

15 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Does your internal monologue ever sound like, "I'll never get better," "I'll never have the life I want," "I'll never fall in love"? Then this one's f...

76 - Still Spiraling from a Sexual Assault? We're getting through this together by healing sexual trauma (so you start to feel like yourself again).

01 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

After a sexual assault, you often spiral into a hole you feel you'll never come out of. In this episode, Rima writes in to ask for help with the feeli...

75 - Got Irrational Beliefs? Let's heal those self defeating beliefs stat with cognitive behavioral therapist Judith Belmont.

15 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

So much of what we think about ourselves and the world is A. not helpful, and B. operating on automatic without our even knowing about it. If we think...

74 - Toxic Gratitude - Is living in gratitude bumming you out? Toxic gratitude may be to blame.

01 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

People keep telling Maggie to write gratitude lists to help her while she's struggling emotionally. But every time she tries to do it, she feels worse...

73 - The Abandonment Wound Unpacked: How to heal from the trauma of abandonment in relationships when no one had your back (but should've).

18 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Anyone else feel like they're not good enough for people to stand up for them? Anyone else get a hit of unworthiness when people don't have your back?...

72 - Daughters of Narcissistic Fathers - Gather round—we're walking away from a narcissistic parent (even when they're gaslighting you).

04 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Chloe's father is a malignant narcissist, but now that he's dying, she's deeply wrestling with her decision to go no-contact. How can she truly be a l...

71 - Overly Empathetic Much? - Buckle up, we're getting into how too much empathy is a toxic trait.

21 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We think of empathy as always being a good thing, but like everything else, too much of a good thing can be toxic. I call "toxic empathy" (not a clini...

70 - Are You a Recovering Parentified Daughter? - It's a whole ass process to reclaim self-worth after a childhood of neglect (but it's time, bb).

07 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Teal grew up being super parentified by her addicted mother. The house was dirty, there wasn't food, her mom was at the bars, and Teal was in charge o...

69 - Emotionally Deprived as a Child? - Let's talk how to build resilience as an adult (even if your parents sucked).

23 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

A lack of encouragement in childhood leaves a deep mark on us—it can impact our sense of self-worth, of safety, of resiliance—you name it. Sometim...

68 - The Attachment Wound That's Still Hurting You: How to heal the mother wound (and the father wound, too—bc he also messed up) with Toni Nagy.

09 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

There are so many ways to approach healing the mother wound, and what works for one person won't necessarily work for someone else. That's why I was S...

67 - Got Romantic Obsession? - How to beat limerence and get over that love obsession of yours.

26 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Never heard of limerence? You know that feeling when you don't know if someone's into you, but you can't stop thinking about it, you get stuck in dayd...

66 - Are You Being Discarded? - Hop in, we're learning how to navigate being in relationships with an addict AND how to heal when you're being discarded by a narcissist (yes—they're related).

12 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Lucy writes in about being "discarded" by her ex-boyfriend who struggles with addiction. She wants to figure out why he's acting this way—she wants ...

65 - Wanna Know How to Heal Loneliness? - Growing up lonely sucks, and it follows us. We're getting into how to overcome loneliness and isolation (so you can thrive, hunny).

28 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It's not something you can slap a dinner party on and call it good. Chronic loneliness is often carried into adulthood from childhood—usually due to...

64 - Cheating Trauma? - Recovering from infidelity trauma is no joke—but it IS possible.

14 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Many of us have been cheated on—but also, many of us had parents who cheated. In this episode, Robin writes in to share the trauma she experienced a...

63 -Do You Have a Fear of Getting in Trouble? - We're diving into the fear of being in trouble so you can rebuild confidence like the baddie you are.

31 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

You know that feeling of being in trouble that makes you want to throw up? sob? jump out of your skin? It's really common, but especially when you gre...

62 - Wondering How to Heal Rejection Trauma? - The wound of rejection is an ass kicker—let's talk about how to have compassion for yourself & how to overcome feeling like a failure. You got this.

17 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

After getting rejected from countless job interviews, Aaron started believing he was a failure, stuck in a rut that would never change. In this episod...

61 - Pleasing Everyone But Yourself? - If you've got that people pleaser resentment, we're setting boundaries without guilt and getting our power back, babyyyy.

03 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

As a recovering people-pleaser, I can ONE HUNDRED PERCENT attest to the fact that we are motivated by fear. It's a survival tactic that tons of us lea...

60 - That Feeling When You Feel Like a Burden - Being an over giver, feeling like an inconvenience—it's all part of a vicious cycle (but we're clearing it, bb).

20 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

After her painful, messy divorce, Erika is isolating from her friends. She doesn't want to be a burden on them or fail in her role as the "reliable" o...

59 - Got Resilience Goals? We're breaking it down: How to be emotionally resilient, how to embrace challenges, and basically how to be a badass.

06 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We're back! My hiatus has come to an end, and I'm jumping back in with psychotherapist and certified grief specialist Courtney Carver to talk about re...

When Life Gives You Lemons: How to deal with shame and embarrassment (+UPDATE EPI!)

10 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Just popping in to say what's up and give some updates. ALSO sharing some brief thoughts about everyone's favorite and least icky topic: shame. Feels ...

58 - How to Persevere When the Sh*t Hits the Fan: the ability to bounce back, baby.

30 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

She's taking a break! This is my final epi before I head out for a few months (back in March), and I'm leaving you with some thoughts on resilience fo...

57 - Oh Hi, We're Healing the Abandonment Wound - For anyone navigating the abandonment wound in relationships (& literally everywhere else)—we're reclaiming self worth this time.

16 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Ughhhh. Getting honest with ourselves about our abandonment wound can give us all the ick. But did you know that your abandonment wound is actually a ...

56 - How to Get Over Body Image Issues (But Really) - We're breaking that bond between appearance and self esteem.

02 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Look. Our culture is bonkers when it comes to body image. There is no escaping the constant pressure to check a myriad of aesthetic-related boxes (thi...

55 - Don't Trust Men? - We're getting into how to trust men and how to open your heart to love (of all kinds) with those masculine types.

20 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Anyone else find themselves talking about men like they're a terrifying alien species? There's obviously a lot of cultural rhetoric around distrusting...

54 - Got Regret for the Past? - We've got the tea on how to stop worrying about past mistakes, how to let go of regret and guilt, and (this is huge) how to see the whole situation differently.

20 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Regret can absolutely take us down. It can diminish our resilience, hope, and faith in life. BUT—cool fact—it can also be a key tool in retrieving...

53 - How to Overcome Victim Mentality - It's time, babe.

26 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Here's my stance: Sometimes we just ARE victims. There's no way around it. But sometimes we're coming from a place of "victim" or powerlessness withou...

52 - Mother Issues Symptoms Got You Down? - We're healing the mother wound stat.

25 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It's a big mamajama. The pain of not having a mother or caregiver who was present, tender, affectionate, wise, kind, warm—it becomes SUCH a pain sou...

51 - Feeling Stuck in Life? - What to do when you feel powerless, bc ain't nobody got time for that.

25 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Ughhhhh there are so many ways we can feel stuck—stuck in jobs, stuck in relationships, stuck in a situation that won't just go TF away, or even stu...

50 - Trauma Bonding Recovery Is Here! - How to heal from trauma bonding like a champ.

09 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It's my 50th episode!!! [*Insert many emojis*] Thanks to everyone for coming along with me on this trauma ride—we out here healing! This week, I wel...

49 - Recovering from Religion - We're releasing shame from religious trauma (amen, honey).

26 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Thank you for your patience! So many listeners have requested this topic. In this episode, I welcome Patruama Party listener and trauma-informed healt...

48 - Q+A! - We're digging into how to end a situationship, how to stop negative self-talk, and something for the cinemaphiles...

12 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I answer questions about situationships, chronic negative self-talk, and my favorite movie!If you'd like a one-on-one coaching sessio...

47 - Dealing with Suicidal Thoughts? - Feeling suicidal is common, and so is passive suicidal ideation—you're not alone, and help is here. We got you.

29 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Anyone else want to crawl into a hole when this topic comes up? It is SO vulnerable and SO painful to talk about the times we've had suicidal ideation...

46 - Are You Setting Healthy Boundaries? - Setting boundaries at work is hard, setting boundaries with family is harder (and the list goes on!). Let's get change the pattern, bb.

15 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Boundaries are literally THE life lesson. Like, if we learn nothing else before parting with this earth, let us learn what the hell healthy boundaries...

45 - Taking Things Personally - Wondering about hypersensitivity and how to stop taking things personally? You've got questions, we've got answers.

01 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Turns out we all do it and turns out it's no buens. Not only does it make us feel like shit, but it also puts a huge strain on relationships. Not to m...

44 - Feeling Invisible Much? - Being heard and feeling seen is a non-negosh in relationships, baby. Let's get healing.

18 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Cool fact: One time when I was like 16, I painted a girl looking terrified while someone covered her mouth with their hand so she couldn't speak. WHAT...

43 - Emotional Flashbacks from CPTSD - There's no healing from complex trauma and PTSD without addressing the emotional flashback sitch—let's do this.

03 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We're not talkin' nostalgia, baby! Emotional flashbacks happen when we experienced ongoing abuse as children, and then we get a whiff of that experien...

42 - Healing Emotional Neglect - Stumped on how to heal childhood emotional neglect? We get it, and we're changing that ish for good.

20 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Emotional neglect! Just rolls off the tongue. It's a fun form of trauma that doesn't get the fanfare it deserves (all y'all out there searching CPTSD ...

41 - Healing the Father Daughter Wound - Get in, cuties, we're healing the father wounds that broke your heart.

07 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

DEEP BREATH. Let me just start by saying, I HATE the term "daddy issues." It's SO sexist and misogynistic that men abuse their daughters, and then wom...

40 - Looking for Happiness Outside Yourself? - NBD, just not sure how to find happiness in yourself. MVP life hack comin' atcha.

23 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Sigh. We've all done it. We do it all the time. We do it in our relationships, in our search for relationships, with body image, in our careers: "If o...

39 - It's Healing Financial Trauma 'o Clock - The trauma of poverty, the trauma of money—it sticks with us in a lack mentality. Let's wave baiii & get that abundance mindset going.

08 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It already sucks to be broke, but for a lot of us, there's a lot more to money trauma than that. There's the feeling that you're not safe, the feeling...

38 - Intermittent Reinforcement in Relationships - Intermittent reinforcement abuse is a total mind-f*ck—we're breaking free, bestie.

25 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hold up, wait a minute! [Insert Salt 'n Pepa rap] DO YOU KNOW ABOUT INTERMITTENT REINFORCEMENT??? It basically explains why we get stuck in relationsh...

37 - The Trauma of Weaponized Guilt - Guilt trip manipulation in relationships gotcha down? That ish is no joke—let's heal it.

11 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Turns out there's healthy guilt (like when you realize you need to apologize for something) and unhealthy guilt (like when your parents make you feel ...

36 - Dating Trauma: Being Ghosted, Being Single - Dating sucks, real talk. But there *are* healing strategies and hot tips (aka hawt tips, swoon).

26 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Literally how does anyone survive dating—it's truly the worst. And if you're insecurely attached, it's straight up a minefield of triggers wait...

35 - Overcoming Jealousy and Possessiveness - Wondering how to stop jealousy in a relationship, how to deal with jealousy with friends, etc.? Get in, baby, we're shifting that sh*t.

11 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Mmmmm... that cool feeling that you're gonna claw someone's eyes out and smile while doing it. Jealousy sucks. It makes us feel powerless, and insecur...

34 - Got a Phobia of Men? If a fear of men (aka androphobia) and toxic masculinity is coming up, this epi's for you.

29 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We're mixing things up! This week, I welcome the creator and host of the Other Men Need Help podcast, Mark Pagán, onto the show to join me in a conve...

33 - Suffered from a Traumatic Shock? - The symptoms of psychological shock go DEEP, hunny. Let's get you out of the shock and anxiety loop and into thrive mode.

15 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Truly, shocks should be illegal unless they involve large sums of money mysteriously appearing—NO FUCKING THANK YOU to shocking violence, betrayal, ...

32 - How to Fix Trust Issues - Shaking your fist at the sky, asking, "How do you get over trust issues and find betrayal trauma recovery??"—then this one's for you.

01 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

TRUST: WTFFFFFF. Like what? You can believe a person is 100% on your team while they just straight up lie to your face?? WHY DOES THIS GET TO BE AN OP...

31 - How to Overcome Perfectionism - Comin' atcha: How to love yourself unconditionally and stop beating yourself up over mistakes.

17 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Turns out perfectionism can look all kinds of ways, including not doing anything because you won't be perfect at it! It's honestly a total mind fuck t...

30 - Learning to Trust Yourself - Self-trust evading you these days due to people pleasing, parentification, or narcissistic abuse? It's time to heal, hunny.

04 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It should be easy, right? We just ask ourselves what we want or what we feel, and voila! But for a lot of us, that gauge got effed up somewhere along ...

29 - Got a Fear of Vulnerability? - It's a fun 'lil package: fear of abandonment, fear of rejection, fear of opening up—it's so real, but it's also possible to heal it (phew!).

20 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Vulnerability is literally the lifeline between you and all joy, and yet, simultaneously, it's fucking TERRIFYING AND TRAUMATIZING. Wth?? In this epis...

28 - How to Let Go of Resentments - Not sure how to forgive someone who hurt you emotionally? or if you even should?? We're working with the feels so you feel better.

05 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Ever feel like drop-kicking people? and then rolling their bodies into a kiddie pool of dog poo? and then spraying them with a firehose every time the...

27 - Healing Parentification II - Parentification trauma & emotional parentification: huge bummers—let's dive in & heal.

22 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Just when you thought you'd learned all there was to know... In this episode, psychotherapist Amanda Ichihashi Jagerman joins me to dive back into the...

26 - Healing from Betrayal - The effects of betrayal on the brain & the symptoms of betrayal trauma are no joke—let's address that ish and recover, bestie.

08 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Literally betrayal is just a fucking nightmare. Cheating, lying, backstabbing—they just send you into a new, shit reality where suddenly there's no ...

25 - Healing the Feeling That You're Too Much - "Why do i feel emotions so deeply? Why am I so overly emotional?" We've all asked ourselves those questions, now we're healing the beliefs behind 'em.

24 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It's honestly a very chill feeling. It's like: I'm too much. My feelings are too big. They make people reject me. And so I'll never be loved! Cool coo...

24 - We're Healing from Parentification FRFR - Call it what you want—older sibling syndrome, spousification, a huge bummer—the effects of parentification in adulthood are no joke, so lets fkn GO.

11 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Parentification and emotional incest are considered "invisible" forms of abuse because they often go unnoticed, but the repercussions are, to be frank...

23 - What Is Complex PTSD & How Do We Heal It? - C PTSD symptoms suck—this epi's like a fun-size complex ptsd treatment for all the homies looking to heal.

28 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

So there's PTSD (you've probably heard of it), but there's also Complex PTSD—where you experience trauma over months or years. It's like PTSD for ov...

22 - Fawn Trauma Response Cramping Your Style? - Nothing says "I had an abusive childhood" like having the fawn response in adulthood—let's get you back to your inner badass, baby.

13 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We all know fight or flight, some of us know freeze—but did you know about fawning? It's a whole new way to respond to trauma (weeeee!). It usually ...

21 - A Lil Internal Family Systems Healing Journey - Internal family systems theory (IFS for short) is here to heal shame & fear, babyyyy. Meet our cute 'lil Internal Family Systems podcast epi.

30 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Did you know we have different personalities (aka "parts") in our heads battling it out with each other and our "selves" all the time?? In this episod...

20 - Wondering How to Do Shadow Work? - You've got shadow work questions, we've got answers. Welcome to your healing era.

17 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

OOF. One of the hardest things in working on yourself is being like: Maybe this is actually about me? In this episode, I'm joined by somatic Enneagram...

19 - Not Feeling Safe? - If feeling safe emotionally hasn't made your bingo card in a minute, let's get into it—why you feel unsafe and how we shift it.

02 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

TW: This episode talks about physical assault. Feeling unsafe from childhood, feeling unsafe in your body, feeling unsafe in your country—it's ...

18 - Feeling Unwanted Sucks - Feeling unlovable often starts with some form of child abuse, and that sh*t sticks with us—let's get you feelin' yourself again.

19 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Nothing like showing up to the party of life with the overwhelming feeling that people don't really love you! So cool, so chill. In this episode, I ge...

17 - The Trauma of the Patriarchy - NBD just trying to maintain sanity in a patriarchal society that gets off on violence and domination! Let's call this BS out and rewire for healing, y'all.

04 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Did you know the patriarchy is the root of capitalism (ie your rent doubling overnight and forcing you to post TikTok vids of yourself crying while pa...

16 - Let's Talk About Healing After Loss - Coping with grief is capital "p" Painful. We get into the different types of grief (aka the stages), grief symptoms, and the integration process.

22 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Grief can look so many ways—from chronic childhood pain, to breakups, to the recent loss of Roe v. Wade. In this episode, I'm joined by psychotherap...

15 - Oh Hi, Transgenerational Trauma - Healing intergenerational trauma is A LOT—the cycle of trauma is so real—but so is the support, starting now.

08 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Even if you weren't around for a traumatic event, you could still be experiencing aspects of the trauma that have been passed down from generation to ...

14 - How to Fix Anxious Attachment Style - Healing anxious attachment is the real deal, baby—those anxious attachment triggers are no joke! Let's get you feeling secure.

24 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What's up to all my anxiously attached homies! WOW is it a bummer to constantly fear abandonment in all our relationships. BUT—cool fact: Like the o...

13 - Parent Rejection - Hop in, we're taking on family rejection trauma and parental rejection.

09 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The first eight years of your life are the most important in wiring your brain and establishing how you feel about yourself and the world around you. ...

12 - Toxic Shame Gotcha Down? - Treat your shame spiral to a therapy moment.

27 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week, I'm joined by Manhattan Wellness associate therapist Eliza Davis to get into shame—how it gets passed down, how to know you're experienci...

11 - Narcissistic Abuse Recovery 2 - If you've been a victim of narcissistic abuse, let the healing commence. Again.

13 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Narcissism #2! 'Cause it's a doozy. Therapist Jon Lee rejoins the pod to go even deeper in the discussion of healing from narcissistic abuse, covering...

10 - Healthy Boundaries - Not sure how to set boundaries? (Woof, we get it.) Setting boundaries in relationships is a real doozy, but it's 100% doable.

27 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

UGH, why is it so scary to set a boundary?? In this episode, I talk with therapist Jennifer Teplin of Manhattan Wellness about healing that fear at th...

9 - Been Dealing with Rejection? - If you've been wondering how to get over fear of rejection in romance or that sting of relationship rejection—look no further.

12 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Romance can be a minefield, let's be honest. In this episode, I'm joined by marriage and family therapist Jasmine Eddy to unpack the trauma of romanti...

8 - Narcissistic Abuse Recovery - If you've been a victim of narcissistic abuse, let the healing commence.

29 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Ever encounter a narcissist? What a monumental shitshow that is. In this episode, I talk to trauma therapist Jon Lee about the traits of narcissists a...

7 - How to Heal from Codependency - Recovering from codependency is hard as hell, but it's also a non-negotiable for our sanity, so let's fkn go.

16 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes we're coming from a codependent place and we don't even know it! And if you grew up in a dysfunctional household, chances are you took on co...

6 - The Anxious Avoidant Relationship Trap - Chasing emotionally unavailable people is an exhausting hamster wheel—let's get you off.

02 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week, I dig into the massive bummer that is the absolutely MAGNETIC attraction between people with anxious attachment style (generally, people wh...