👁️ Try Neutonic: https://www.neutonic.com/jamessmith 🧪 Check your Test: https://www.manual.co/smith 📝 Business Mentoring: https://www.jamessmith.business 🏋🏼‍♂️ Online Coaching: https://www.jamessmithacademy.com Andrew Jenkins On Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/andrewjenkinsofficial/ Andrew Jenkins On YouTube – https://www.youtube.com/@andrewjenkinsofficial Andrew Jenkins's Website – https://www.andrew-jenkins.co.uk/ Andrew Jenkins, the Traitors star, joins James Smith for a raw conversation about resilience, identity, and rebuilding a life after everything is taken away. At 21, Andrew was pronounced dead at the scene of a catastrophic car accident, lost half his skull and over half his blood, and was told he'd never walk, talk, or recognise anyone again. He walked out of that hospital and then spent 15 years suffering in silence behind a good body, a nice house, and a successful banking career. He explains: ◼️ Why failure is how you learn and why cotton-wool parenting is failing kids ◼️ How he attached his identity and his father's love to a rugby ball ◼️ Why the people with the biggest smiles are often struggling the most ◼️ How to get to the root cause instead of papering over the cracks ◼️ Why talking doesn't make you weak it makes you stronger Chapters: 00:00 The Hidden Cost of Success 01:13 First Impressions from The Traitors 01:50 The Real Problem With Resilience 02:37 Why Business Owners Are Terrified to Fail 03:22 No More First, Second or Third at School 04:29 The Coach Who Told Him the Brutal Truth 06:43 The Dream of Playing Rugby for Wales 06:54 Attaching His Dad's Love to Rugby 08:08 James's Rugby Days and Welsh "Supplements" 09:14 The Catastrophic Car Accident 11:02 Told He'd Never Walk Again 11:56 "I Guarantee I'll Walk Out of Here" 12:40 Brain Injury, CTE and Rugby 13:37 The Other Four People in the Car 14:38 Living With the Trauma 15:52 Great on the Outside, Hating Himself Inside 16:25 Losing His Identity and His Dad 18:39 How One Concussion Can Change a Person 19:30 His Son's Concussions and a Parent's Fear 20:45 Finding Another Outlet for Competition 23:12 Sport, Business and Meritocracy 24:11 Climbing the Wrong Ladder 25:36 Does More Money Make It Worse? 28:01 Why One Bad Day Can Wreck the Privileged 29:26 Growing Up in the Graveyard of Ambition 30:43 James Being Locked Out of Australia 32:35 Happiness Is an Internal Job 35:57 Happiness vs Pleasure and the Hedonic Treadmill 37:31 Why Every Goal Feels Empty 38:59 Talking Yourself Through Your Emotions 40:08 Root Cause Analysis for Mental Health 42:02 The Chimp Paradox and Self-Awareness 42:58 Environment vs Brain Chemistry 43:54 Menopause, Women and Suicide 44:26 TRT, Testosterone and Low T 47:24 Crashing Your Estrogen — The Male Menopause 48:38 James's Own Low Testosterone Story 49:58 Talking to His Son About Drugs 52:36 The Four Ways He Measured Masculinity 53:35 Telling His Parents the Truth 55:08 Being the Responsible One 55:55 Why We Should Educate Kids Honestly About Drugs 57:39 The Truth About Ketamine 58:26 Alcohol vs Everything Else 1:01:54 Psychedelics as Mental Health Treatment 1:03:23 Amsterdam After His Mother Passed 1:04:52 LSD in the Park and a Friend's Breakthrough 1:05:42 Acid at a Wedding 1:07:35 Closing Advice: Believe in Yourself 1:09:03 Creating a Second Path 1:10:14 Surround Yourself With the Right People 1:11:00 Breaking Stigmas — Talking Makes You Stronger 1:12:36 Meeting the Man Who Saved His Life 1:13:07 Where to Find Andrew Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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