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Chapter 1: What financial advice is given for a parent wanting to invest in their children's future?
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So we're here to help you transform your life. From the Ramsey Network and the Fairwinds Credit Union Studio, this is The Ramsey Show. I'm Dave Ramsey, your host, George Campbell, Ramsey personality, number one bestselling author. He's my co-host today. Gabe is in Salt Lake City. Hey, Gabe, what's up in your world? Dave, I'm here. That is me.
Dave, it's nice to have you talking to me, and I really appreciate you taking my call. Our pleasure. George, too. So random question. So my dad is very kind. Every time my wife and I have a child, he gives us a one-ounce gold coin. That's the kids. They own it, right?
Yeah.
I brought it to his attention. I was like, well, if it's theirs and they can do whatever they want with it, let's invest it for them. So by the time they're 18, they have a substantial amount of money because right now they're between ages one and seven.
Um, and so he doesn't want us to do that because he wants it to be like an heirloom type thing or some sort of way to remember him, which I get that, but it's also really not doing them any favors, having the coin sit in my safe, not doing anything, not gaining any interest.
And so I'm wondering since he gave them the coins and I'm a parent, I have a moral obligation to do as he says and not do anything with it or invest it and wait until they're 18 to give it to them. Or if I can go ahead and, Do what I think is best for my kids and invest the money or the coins, because right now they're worth anywhere between $4,500 and $5,000 an ounce, depending on the day.
Yeah. I mean, you've had a conversation, and he told you not to do that.
Correct, yeah. But I just – I don't agree. So I'm like, well, they're my kids. Technically, they're not his. So I'm like, well, I don't – It seems like I'm doing them a disservice, if anything, just having it sit there.
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Chapter 2: How do family dynamics affect financial decisions?
And when my grandmother asked me how the bonds were doing, I would give her an honest answer and say they're doing very well. Now that I cashed them in and put them in a mutual fund. I didn't say that part. But I would not have hurt her feelings or stirred up. a relational strife between me and my granny over that amount of money, it wouldn't have been worth it to me.
Yeah, if this is meant to be an heirloom sort of gift from him, it's like getting a, you know, a pair of socks from grandma. I'm going to keep them around because grandma gave them to me.
I got grandpa's pocket knife too. Yeah, that's a cool heirloom. But, you know, it's not... You're not going to sell it. And I'm not going to sell it. And it's not worth anything except to me. So that's an heirloom. That's what an heirloom is. An heirloom is not an investment. So when you convolute the two, you make a mistake. And so dad is making a mistake. Yeah.
And the other mistake he's making is he's giving a gift and then putting extreme conditions upon it. Strings are attached. Guilt trips upon it. If you sell it, they won't have anything to remember me by.
Give them something else to remember you by that doesn't involve a liquid asset like that.
How about a fishing trip? Yeah. teach them to water ski. My grandkids are going to remember a lot of things about me.
I'll remember that you taught me to water ski.
There we go. So thank you for that.
Drug George around behind the boat. I didn't do as well as the children did, but I hung on for dear life.
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Chapter 3: What are the implications of gifting money with conditions?
Now, is that too much control for a free house? No, not. But if a kid said, Oh no, I might want to borrow money someday. So I'm going to have to deny that gift. Then that would be a fair thing that they could do that. They could say, I don't agree with you on the debt free living. I want to go and use leverage and other people's money. I've been watching real estate, tick tock videos.
And so I want to get rich quick in real estate. So I'm not going to accept that gift. They could choose to do that. Um, but you can't institute that after you gave the gift.
Yeah, that's a little awkward.
You have to say that on the front end. Communication. This is what we're doing. And then once you've agreed to it, you've agreed to it. And so in a sense, Gabe has accepted the coin.
With the terms and conditions.
With the terms that he won't sell it because it's an heirloom. And so in that sense, that's the string attached to that coin. Is that too much? No, I don't think it is. I don't think it is. And I think if I was the giver of the... The other thing you could do is switch... Switch places. What if you were on the other side, and how would you feel? That's a good point. Yeah.
The watch I'm wearing was an heirloom gift, and they said, just don't sell it. I said, guarantee I will not sell it. I'm going to make Grandpa happy. There you go. So there you go. Is it Grandpa? Yeah, my wife's Grandpa.
Oh, wow.
He passed, and so Grandma said, the watch is yours. You can fix it up and keep it.
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Chapter 4: How can budgeting help balance financial goals and family experiences?
No, no, but we've got about $40,000 in cash.
Is that your emergency fund?
A portion of it is our emergency fund. The other portion is just regular savings, just savings, basically your savings in an envelope. We've got the way our credit union works is we can make digital envelopes and put them in.
So what are those other savings earmarked for?
Yes, we do. We've got one that's basically miscellaneous.
And how much is in miscellaneous? About $10,000 or so. Do you have a vacation envelope? We do. How much is in that? About $3,000. Okay. And what do you owe on your mortgage? We owe about $377,000. Okay. And what's your household income?
About $105,000, and that's only been within the last three years as well. We moved up here due to a job that paid us enough to really do well.
So first I'm going to tell you that both of you, you and your wife, have done a wonderful job. You are really on top of this. I'm so impressed with where you are and how you've gotten there, the journey that you've been on. You have worked the plan that we teach. Thank you for doing that, and the success in your finances is apparent. So way to go. Thank you.
Now, what comes to mind is a couple things. The answer to your question, sadly, is you're both right. Nobody wins here. Yes, we should reduce the mortgage, and yes, we should go on vacation, right? And this is the stage four, five, and six where you live not intensely but intentionally – And intentionally would be we upgrade mama's car, we buy a couch, we go on vacation.
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Chapter 5: What concerns arise about financial decisions in relationships?
He's so fixated on the money. That doesn't solve a problem. Mm-mm. So is it that he's worried you're not going to have purpose and get stir-crazy and do retail therapy? Like, what is he actually concerned about? I think he's just hyper-fixated on now I have the ability to... to add to the income of this family. He tells me that no amount of money will ever be enough in retirement.
See, there we go. There's a fear behind all of this.
Yeah, there's a lack of contentment.
He is worried that you guys won't be okay.
Okay, there's two... I don't know how to solve this for you guys as a couple, and you may end up having to sit down with someone. But there's two issues that are at the core of this, and they're both spiritual. Spiritual issue number one is contentment, and that's a spiritual decision.
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Chapter 6: How can fear impact financial planning for retirement?
When is enough enough? And he can't get there, and so he's never going to gain from hitting his money goals any kind of peace because he makes statements like and believes things like, there's never enough for retirement. And so that's a fear-based thing. You guys are in good shape. You're millionaires and you started from nothing. Congratulations. You're Baby Steps millionaires.
You follow the stuff. You did it. So way to go. That's problem number one. And I can't fix that for someone else. I can just point it out and then let them decide if they want to work on it or not. But John Deloney always says around here on issues in your life that are
Chapter 7: What should you consider when dealing with family inheritance disputes?
giving you angst. You have to solve for peace. And in this case, solving for peace is sitting down at the foot of Jesus and saying, all right, Lord, help me find peace about this money stuff. Because the way I was brought up, my work ethic, something is driving me. This fear-based stuff is driving me, and I can't find contentment. And so I know where to direct him to, but I can't do it for him.
Then the second thing, and this is even more problematic for me, because it's personal. My wife left the workplace when my oldest daughter was born. Our first child was born. She's been at home the entire time. And she did not go back to work when the youngest child left home either, which is where you guys are. We were multimillionaires by then. And – You know, we had plenty of money.
You've got plenty of money.
Chapter 8: How do you navigate financial responsibilities in a new marriage?
She did not need to go back to work. And frankly, I did not want her to because I enjoy her being available if I want to go do something. And she's not tied down by a boss. And so if I wanted her to go with me when I'm going to do an event in New York or we're flying up to New York City to do something, she can go with me. I can be on Fox and we can go to a play and go out to eat.
But she can't do that if she's got a boss, right? And so I didn't want her to. So that's selfish on my part. But here's the core thing that I want to address that's bothering me. And because I've had a hard time convincing my wife of this, and I need to convince your husband of this.
One of the reasons that Dave Ramsey is a major national brand and has 35 plus years of successful radio career contiguous without ever leaving the air. eight New York Times bestselling, eight number one bestselling books, a thousand team members, and hundreds of millions of dollars of revenue is because my wife was a successful mom.
If I had to go home and deal with a bunch of crap every day, I couldn't have gotten the things done that I've gotten done down here at the office.
If I was having to deal with drama, and I was having to deal with neediness, and I was having to deal with high maintenance, and you were none of those, so you performed a very professional, high-end, well-done job of mother and home economist, and he needs to give you credit for that. I'm giving my wife credit for it. And it's not false credit.
I promise you, I've seen people, I've seen men and women who were, their potential in the marketplace was derailed by a high maintenance spouse. Mine was quite the opposite and your husband's was quite the opposite. Darling, you are the reason that you guys have a million dollars, not his piddly little $118,000 job.
You are the reason because your children haven't milked you completely dry like a whole bunch of entitled millennial brats have done to their parents because you raised good kids. You raise people of character. You are the reason that the wealth is there. You've already earned more than he has. You just didn't get economic credit for it in the way our system is set up.
So I'm kind of pissed off at him right now. Okay guys, let me ask you something. What would it take for you to switch your bank? Because if you're still earning next to nothing on your savings, you need to check out Fairwinds Credit Union. And I know what you're thinking, it might sound like a hassle. Moving your direct deposit, updating bills, getting a new debit card, feels like a lot.
But here's what most people don't realize. Staying where you are could be costing you hundreds of dollars every year. Y'all, the average savings account pays less than half a percent. So let's say, for example, you've got $20,000 saved. You might earn around $70 a year. But with a Fairwinds high-yield savings account earning 3% APY or more, that same money could earn you over $600.
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