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“Was I Right To Break Off My Engagement Because of Bad Money Habits?”

24 Nov 2025

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Chapter 1: Was I right to break off my engagement because of bad money habits?

5.279 - 9.433 George Kamel

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14.392 - 38.522 Jade Warshaw

Normal is broke and common sense is weird. So we're here to help you transform your life. From the Ramsey Network and the Fairwinds Credit Union Studio, this is The Ramsey Show. I'm George Camel, joined by Jade Warshaw this hour. The number to call is 888-825-5225. It's your show. We're here to help you take the right next step for your life and your money. Brianna is with us in Minneapolis.

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38.962 - 40.264 Jade Warshaw

Brianna, welcome to the show.

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40.75 - 42.793 Unknown

Hi, thank you so much for having me today.

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42.813 - 44.655 Jade Warshaw

Yeah, absolutely. How can we help?

45.877 - 62.358 Unknown

So I just have a question for you guys. So was I right to break off my engagement because of long-term money issues and bad spending habits? I've always been disciplined with saving and planning for money, but he struggled with overspending and staying employed. Now that he's moved out, I've taken on full financial responsibilities myself.

62.438 - 69.227 Unknown

How can I stay on top of my bills while saving and protecting my future? Ooh, that was like 20 things in one.

69.587 - 91.176 Jade Warshaw

Okay, we'll tackle the first part first. So were you right to break this off because of red flags that were not attended to that he clearly, this was a value you had. And this is a value every woman has is if I'm going to marry some guy, he's got to be able to do at least two things, provide and protect, right? That's the reason why we find a mate. Primally speaking.

91.697 - 107.967 Jade Warshaw

And you're saying he can't provide for the future. This was red flags that this guy can't hold a job. He's going to continually go into debt, put us in a financial bind. Therefore, I'm out. And essentially, he opted out of this engagement by continuing these habits that you made clear. Am I hearing that right?

Chapter 2: How can I manage my bills while saving for the future?

221.195 - 238.392 Unknown

Yes. And that was primarily because he kept telling me that I needed a new car. What were you driving before? I was driving a Nissan Altima that needed quite a bit of maintenance. Got you. And what did you get? What did you? I got a 2025 Mazda CX-70. What do you owe?

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Chapter 3: What are the red flags in a partner's financial habits?

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I owe about 50 on that. Shoot. What do you make? I make about $100,000 a year.

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246.36 - 249.023 Jade Warshaw

That's a lot of car, even for your income.

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249.123 - 257.846 Unknown

Is that your only debt or you have more? I have about $15,000 in student loans, and then I have like $2,000 in credit card debt, but that's it.

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257.886 - 276.141 Jade Warshaw

Okay, here's my thing, Brianna. I was really team Brianna, and now the more I hear you, the more I go, I'm not sure you believe in your own principles because you wanted this guy to clean up his act financially while you were an accomplice to the crimes. So it's like, how am I supposed to take you seriously if I'm the fiance going, you really need to get better with your spending habits.

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276.242 - 279.569 Jade Warshaw

And then I'm over here financing a $50,000 car. You know what I mean?

279.79 - 287.748 Unknown

Yeah. And it's difficult because he drives a BMW X4 M competition. That is really difficult. So it was just like, it's terrible to get a nice car.

287.788 - 291.834 Jade Warshaw

Yeah. So you were trying to keep up with him and it's his fault.

292.055 - 315.911 Unknown

It does seem like though, it was more, can I, I'm a ride on the fence on this. I hear what George is saying and he is not wrong. But the other part is I feel like you were more on the, why doesn't he have a job regularly side of things. Is that the fact that it will this guy be employed or will he be sitting on my couch all day when I come home? Is that, did I get that right? Yeah.

315.931 - 324.922 Unknown

And that's kind of what it had been before too. So that's why I had asked him to move out. Because to your, I am playing devil's advocate here. I'm just, I'm just letting y'all know.

Chapter 4: How should I approach financial responsibilities in a relationship?

684.418 - 701.431 Unknown

Okay. I keep spending, it's almost done, but I'm probably about $10,000 away from having it completely finished. Do you guys have an allotted money that you get each month? Each of you? No, we both work. I know.

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701.471 - 711.045 Jade Warshaw

We're saying in the budget, is it like Jeremy's fun money, her fun money, and it's $100 each? What's the plan there? Or is it just Jeremy spends what he wants based on the parts he needs?

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711.7 - 737.775 Jade Warshaw

that's basically what's been happening okay i understand her frustration now it's just like you're spending like congress while you're trying to get out of debt and she's going this is going very much against the plan we agreed on so when you're saying you support her it sounds like you're like i'm a fan of her doing it but i'm not doing it yeah i think there's a middle ground that you can get to i think there's a middle ground what's the urgency for this uh car restoration

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738.397 - 744.125 Unknown

It's been 17 years in the works, and it's almost done, so I'm trying to finish it.

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744.346 - 746.649 Jade Warshaw

So what's 18 instead of 17?

748.772 - 750.054 Unknown

Right. I get it.

750.134 - 752.337 Jade Warshaw

What has stopped you, I guess, in the past of finishing this?

754.06 - 775.255 Unknown

Just not working. I worked in the movie industry for a long time, and there's highs and lows, and when the highs are up, you make a lot of money, and it's great, and when the lows are there, you're living off savings for months. And it kind of forced me to choose to pay my bills or restore this car. And I chose bills. But now I'm at a point where we're,

775.842 - 792.704 Unknown

Pretty much, we cover the bills every month. We're still putting into retirement. We have life insurance policies. We have all that stuff in place. Do you have debt? A little bit. How much? About $20,000 in credit card debt, but that's fairly recent. That's it? That's a lot.

Chapter 5: What are the key points about managing debt and income?

3821.113 - 3824.483 Jade Warshaw

And that's going to take getting the income up and getting rid of this debt. It's going to be a journey.

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3926.738 - 3927.36 Jade Warshaw

Tell me more.

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3927.761 - 3934.356 Unknown

I happened to pop on there and I saw you had a video with 14 million views.

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3934.454 - 3946.911 Jade Warshaw

Yeah, it got out of control. That's wild. So we did a man on the street. I love getting in the streets, getting in people's business, asking them questions about finances. And we happened to be in Orlando recently, and I said, let's go to Disney.

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3947.372 - 3960.71 Jade Warshaw

So we went to Disney Springs, and we asked people how much debt they had, and our team just clipped that on social media, and it blew up with a lot of feelings. I'm sure. And so I wanted to get your feelings about it and react to it in real time, if you're willing.

Chapter 7: What lessons are learned from social media interactions about debt?

3961.131 - 3964.275 Jade Warshaw

Because there's some trigger words in here that I think you'll have some thoughts on.

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3964.255 - 3981.572 Jade Warshaw

be honest is it weird to you that i saw like the little icon on social and i saw the views but i didn't actually watch the video it's hurtful but understandable you're a busy woman you don't have time to watch all my content okay i'll watch it i'll watch okay let's watch it along with america see what they have to say are you guys in any kind of debt right now

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3981.552 - 4000.621 Unknown

Mine's pretty minimal. I think a credit card and a vehicle, probably about 60. And that's minimal to you? No, it's a lot. What's left on the car loan? 53. What are you driving? A 24 Toyota Tundra. How about you? How much debt do you have? Probably 75,000. Credit cards and then a car loan as well.

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4000.721 - 4001.442 Jade Warshaw

What's your car loan?

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4001.462 - 4003.184 Unknown

Student loans, yeah. Like 60.

4003.204 - 4007.671 Jade Warshaw

60? What are you driving? You rolled over negative equity, didn't you?

4007.691 - 4010.835 Unknown

Yes, I did. Yes. Honda Pilot, 25.

4011.315 - 4012.357 Jade Warshaw

What's your car payment?

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$1,200.

Chapter 8: How can one navigate financial challenges in relationships?

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I probably have $100,000 in student loans.

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4024.893 - 4029.759 Jade Warshaw

Okay, add it all up in your head. I think we're doing this for the first time. How much debt do you have total, total, total?

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4029.779 - 4032.282 Unknown

I'm going to say at least $180,000.

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4032.262 - 4034.544 Jade Warshaw

Can you tell me, did you guys pay cash for the trip?

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4034.564 - 4035.165 Unknown

For half of it.

4035.565 - 4037.006 Jade Warshaw

The other half is on what?

4037.046 - 4037.747 Unknown

A Disney card.

4038.107 - 4042.711 Jade Warshaw

Is it a Disney credit card? What do you get for putting it on the Disney card versus any old other card?

4042.851 - 4048.897 Unknown

It has six months special financing, so there's no interest for like six months. Okay, so is your plan to pay it off in six months?

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