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The Ramsey Show

You Don't Get Ahead By Coincidence

17 Apr 2026

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Chapter 1: What financial advice is given for starting over at 51?

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11.776 - 41.023 Ken Coleman

Normal is broke and common sense is weird, so we're here to help you transform your life. From the Ramsey Network and the Fairwinds Credit Union Studio, this is the Ramsey Show. Alongside the fabulously incomparable Jade Warshaw, I'm Ken Coleman, and we're here for you. 888-825-5225 is the phone number to jump in. 888-825-5225. Partner, you ready to go? Let's go. She's ready.

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Denise is joining us in Toronto. Denise, how can we help today?

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45.469 - 75.943 Jade Warshaw

Hello. Thank you so much for taking my call. Sure. My question, I am needing help to create financial stability when I'm starting over in life at the age of 51 and I'm in a difficult situation going through a divorce. And I feel like I don't have time to waste with taking steps forward financially. And so I need a plan. I'm guessing you need more information than that.

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76.404 - 78.247 Ken Coleman

So let's start with, are you employed?

79.128 - 89.544 Jade Warshaw

I am employed, yes. How much do you make? So I make $45,000 a year, which after taxes where I live, comes out to be about $2,500 a month.

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Okay. Can you live on $2,500 a month?

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I am, yes, I'm making it work.

101.014 - 115.42 Ken Coleman

Okay. So that's a good starting point. And the reason I'm stopping this momentum here, Jade's going to jump in and walk you through some really specific stuff, but let's just pause for a moment and let's take a deep breath and realize what you just told us. It's not ideal.

Chapter 2: How can I create a financial plan after a divorce?

178.265 - 215.497 Jade Warshaw

And my lawyer is either going to be paid after a settlement or what is owed to me is possibly recovered. But there's no guarantee on that. What is owed to you? There was a 10-year separation where he was being dishonest about his income. And so there's $237,000 that should have been paid to me. But he's been very strategic. Okay. I mean, there's a lot of backstory there.

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215.517 - 219.601 Jade Warshaw

But as soon as I went to a lawyer to get help, he walked away from his job, lowered his income.

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So there's $237,000 at stake. I don't want us to focus too much on that because the truth is you don't know if you're going to get it or not. I do want to have some thoughts about these legal fees coming up because you might be on the hook for that. Is there any other debt to speak of?

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236.72 - 243.507 Jade Warshaw

Right now I have about $2,000 in credit card debt, which I should pay it off by the end of this year, no problem.

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Okay. I want to camp out on that because I'm seeing somebody who has $1,000 to spend on groceries, gas, and everything else in life. How are you paying off the $2,000, no problem?

254.159 - 264.65 Jade Warshaw

I'm just putting aside money every month. Okay. And I feel like at the end, like I'm living very small. Yeah.

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How much margin do you have?

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So after everything is said and done, my cost of living can be around $2,300 a month.

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Okay, so you got $200 in extra margin, but you called because there's a sense of urgency around really your future.

Chapter 3: What steps should I take if my insurance denies my claim?

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Then I want you to go back and refresh it because even the best of the best of us need to go back and get a refresher on that. So what's going to happen when this money comes in? Absolutely. You're going to take it and you're going to pay off the restitution. You're going to pay off the credit cards. You're going to pay off the car. Yeah. But the precursor to the baby steps working is twofold.

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And these are the things that you've got to lock in. And if you don't lock them in, nothing I tell you is going to work. Okay, so here we go. Number one, you have got to decide today, I don't borrow money. You have to stop borrowing money for any reason.

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I just don't borrow money because what will happen is there'll be something that you want and you'll go, well, I can put a lot down and you'll just kind of creep over that line. So you've got to decide, I don't borrow money anymore.

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That is going to keep your income yours and it's going to keep the risk off your back and it's going to keep you from sliding back into those behaviors that you're afraid you're going to slide back into. So you've just got to put a hard boundary there. Boundaries are good, okay? That's thing one. Thing two is you've got to become a budgeter today.

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994.244 - 1022.541 Jade Warshaw

Okay, so just for some context, like we budget... everything we budget everything we don't buy extravagantly like the debt that we have on our credit cards is for necessities that we could not cover okay can i jump in can i jump in jennifer i know you're hurting and jade's right what she said but can i tell you something the reason you guys are hurting is because you don't have enough income

1023.533 - 1049.993 Ken Coleman

And I absolutely believe that you believe that everything you put on that credit card was a necessity. But I have a hard time agreeing with your classification of it. What is a necessity is, is you and your husband both in the United States of America, in the Minneapolis area, should be making combined minimum $60,000. Yeah. Yeah. You know it and I know it.

1050.734 - 1066.149 Ken Coleman

I don't say that in any way with a hint of judgment. So please don't feel judgment. But you called us to help you. And I'm telling you, Jade's 100% right. But when she told you the truth, your response was, well, we do budget.

Chapter 4: How do I handle large unexpected expenses?

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We just had all these things happen and we had to go to a credit card. No, what you need to do is be making more income so that when things happen, we can cover it. Okay. So the baby steps get us to that place and baby step three. So I'm going to tell you, I'm going to give it back to Jade, but I wanted to jump in and say, I wouldn't wait until this settlement comes in. Thank you.

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1088.18 - 1103.989 Ken Coleman

I was just about to get to that. I think you need to go get a job today. I don't care if it's the late shift at the local gas station. I don't care if it's stocking shelves at Walmart. I don't care if it has anything remotely close to dignity attached to it in your mind because good hard work is dignified.

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1104.77 - 1117.547 Ken Coleman

I think you guys got to change your life and take some ownership of this situation and go, we're no longer going to get in a situation like that because we do know how to budget. But your problem is not budgeting. Your problem is you don't have anything to budget.

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Yeah. And I want to take that a step forward and tell you, I'll tell you my why behind it. I'm sure Ken has one. I don't want you to think the only way you win is by coincidence. Yeah. To quote Dave Ramsey, you can kill something and drag it home. You can go out there and make it happen. And the way things are, life is kind of happening to you.

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Oh, he went here to do this foundry and he went here to do this foundry. And then the accident happened and then this and that. No, no, no, no. You've got to start taking life by the horns and you've got to start saying, okay, I'm the master of my destiny here and I've got control. And I would love, love, love for that to take place before a dime of this money rolls in. Okay.

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You know what I'm saying?

1166.145 - 1186.712 Ken Coleman

But here's the deal. On the settlement, we're going to tell you to walk the baby steps out. Are you familiar with the baby steps? I am. Okay. So it doesn't matter if it's $250 or $5 million. The baby steps. That's what you do. But you have got to take some ownership now. We're not just going to sit around and wait for the settlement. Because let me tell you about settlements.

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They have a sneaky way of taking way longer to get paid out than maybe that you were told. And sometimes, Jade, shockingly, they don't end up being the amount that we were told.

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Hey, those lawyers, those fees, those taxes... If you run a business, you already know this. Bad information leads to bad decisions. And right now, AI is everywhere. But AI is only as good as the data behind it. The best AI is built on the best data. That's why I recommend NetSuite.

Chapter 5: What feedback do listeners have about the EveryDollar app?

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This has got the coaching involved in it. It's got the entire Baby Step program baked into it. And we love real feedback from people that are using it. Here's a fan quote. EveryDollar is excellent. It really helped me to get my personal finances in order. Now that I'm married, my wife and I use it together out of our joint checking account.

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3932.227 - 3948.987 Ken Coleman

It really helps us maintain a common vision and a set of goals. And Jade, we love that because these are real people giving us feedback on how they're actually using it. And we'd love for you to kick the tires. And you can do that for free today in the App Store or Google Play.

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Chapter 6: How can I manage my finances as a stay-at-home parent?

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And again, it is the entire Ramsey playing the baby steps. Even for those of you who've just barely heard that phrase, you maybe listen for or watching for just a small amount of time. It is the plan and it's baked in there and you've got the coaching access to not just the budget functionality. Jade, I know you're the queen of every dollar.

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Anything you want to add to that? When you say kick the tires, that was the best thing you could have said. Give it a try.

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3972.115 - 3977.842 Ken Coleman

Give it a try. Nothing to be lost. Let's go to Hope now in Washington, D.C. Hope, how can we help?

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3980.005 - 3982.848 Jade Warshaw

Hi, thanks guys so much for having me on the show.

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Chapter 7: What should I consider when investing for my children's future?

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Sure. What's going on today?

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3985.889 - 4013.668 Jade Warshaw

So I just want to get your guys' opinion on what to do. I'm a stay-at-home mom. I'm just, like, at a little bit of a loss for path to homeownership. So I'm like, do I need to go back to work? I mean, do I, you know, I don't know, compromise on the 15-year loan, do a 30? I mean, what in the world do I do? Our rent right now is 43% of our income. We have no debt. I mean, one thing is at $4,000.

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4013.648 - 4030.392 Jade Warshaw

We're doing pretty solid. We've got the good emergency fund. Everything's solid there. We're not necessarily paycheck to paycheck. We do have $250 a month we put towards our savings. But every time I run the calculator, I'm like, this is going to take 15 years.

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What's the income?

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4033.697 - 4035.099 Ken Coleman

Sorry, Ken. That's what I was asking.

Chapter 8: How can I prepare for my brother's financial future?

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Go ahead.

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4036.615 - 4049.17 Jade Warshaw

Yeah, so my husband makes 90. He's hoping to make 120, 130 in the next, you know, few months or so. But right now he's at 90.

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4049.93 - 4056.238 Ken Coleman

What would have to happen for him to jump up to 120, 130? Get a different job. Is he looking?

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4057.199 - 4058.06 Jade Warshaw

He's been working on, yeah.

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4058.741 - 4064.327 Ken Coleman

Okay. Have you started running the numbers on what the new take home would be if he were to get to that range?

4065.758 - 4093.352 Jade Warshaw

Yeah, and this is the scary part. This is why I'm like, oh my gosh, I've got to talk to you guys. So I ran this through ChatGBT. I know that's not the right way to do this, but the median house in our area for starter home is $550,000. That's insane. And just ChatGBT, I was like, use Dave Ramsey, do the reverse math, tell me what we need. And basically it came back with we need to make at least

4093.332 - 4107.498 Jade Warshaw

$250,000 to be in that under 25% of our income ratio at a 15-year mortgage, you know, and I just 20% down and I'm like, oh my gosh, it's going to take forever.

4107.519 - 4133.738 Ken Coleman

I get it. So what we need to do is reframe, right? Okay. So the question becomes, what is realistic as it relates to drive time. And I don't know if you're actually in DC or you're Northern Virginia or Maryland, but I'm a Virginian and I can tell you, yeah, Northern Virginia is like, in order to go to hell, you have to go through Northern Virginia on the interstate. But I think you start there.

4133.798 - 4140.045 Ken Coleman

What is realistic? Can we change the area where we live or would that just make life even worse? Yeah.

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