Chapter 1: What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
Welcome to the Resilient Mind Podcast. In this episode, you'll be listening to how to train your mind when life keeps hitting you with David Goggins. This episode is also available in video. Watch it on YouTube by clicking the link in the show notes. Enjoy.
How I build belief is through the daunting tasks I put myself through. So that's proof positive that I can. So it correlates. And that's how this piece of shit kid I once thought I was built belief by saying, hmm, I was in three hell weeks. I went to ranger school. I tried out for Delta Selection.
Undeniable stack of proof.
That is proof, motherfucker. So whenever you think you can't, confidence comes from the thing that you built. You must build belief. You must build confidence. It can't be like, hey, I'm going to knock that shit out.
Chapter 2: How does David Goggins build belief in himself?
You got to look over here and say, I can knock that shit out. It's belief and it's built on what you put in to yourself.
Another friend sent me a message this morning knowing that we had this big thing that we've been working toward for a long time today. He said, Nietzsche said, I know of no better life purpose than to perish in attempting the great and impossible. The fact that something seems impossible shouldn't be a reason to not pursue it. That's exactly what makes it worth pursuing.
Where would the courage and greatness be if success was certain and there was no risk? The only true failure is shrinking away from life's challenges.
Nailed that one also.
Two for two.
No, that one also, man.
Yeah, it's that dealing with laziness and self-doubt thing, I think. And I do wonder how many people use the look in the mirror, pound the chest, stare into your eyes, say your affirmations, don't get the results, and then lose confidence.
Well, that's part of it. A lot of it is limit to horizons. Limit to horizons are like, I use me as an example always. I came from a small town in Indiana where there was a handful of black families. And a lot of people in that town, when you come from a town of 8,000 people, it's like we had a local plant, Great Dane. You're like, you know what?
I want to work at Great Dane and get a house next to my mom. That's what you know. So many of us, come from these small places in our mind that we're not willing to think outside of only what we've seen. Our mind works in such a small compartment. And one thing I was able to do was to dream. Many people, but don't make dreams your fucking master.
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Chapter 3: What lessons can be learned from facing impossible challenges?
You always get to run your fucking mouth.
So again, with the audio version of this book, you've done podcasts in between each chapter where you're recapping what's just happened. And this time you brought guests, one of which was your mother. And you spend a 35-minute conversation sitting down with her and talking about the experiences that she had with your father and reflecting on that.
A lot of stuff you'd elected to leave out of the first book. So that means there's been a journey that you've gone through to get to the stage where both you and her, and collaboratively, you felt okay sharing that publicly? What's that process like? Because your mum didn't ask for this. I mean, you kind of also did.
You put a book out there because you thought it was useful, and now millions and millions of people know about you. But the gravity field of your notoriety is starting to bring other people in as well. So what was the journey of getting to that stage like?
Well, it wasn't so much me. I had already laid out, you know, a lot of shit about me that was, you know, pretty embarrassing and can't hurt me. So for her, that actually helped her out. She said, wow, if you have the courage to go out there and tell people all your shit, you know, and so that process was, it took about four years.
of me working with my mom because, you know, she was very damaged by what she went through. And so was I. But I knew no one was coming to save me, so I had to go ahead and fix my shit. And she kind of lived in a different place. But when I wrote Can't Hurt Me, it started waking her up. That, hey, man, why do you care? Why do you care so much what people think about you, what you went through?
Why are you putting so much on other people? and what they may say about you.
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Chapter 4: How does one overcome laziness and self-doubt?
There's some stuff I talk about that is pretty embarrassing for some people. But she got to a point in her life where she was able to stop caring because we all have our shit. It's so funny to me. There'll be people who are out here commentating about people who are fucking up out here. Famous people are fucking up. And I don't know how they're able to do that when...
I guarantee while your skeletons are not being out there, if I were to open up your fucking door, motherfucker, how are you doing that? So I know that about everybody. Like people love to talk shit about somebody and keep themselves out of it. And so we went through that journey together. And so it allowed her to come out and say, yeah, fuck it.
You know, I'm a big person who, I want to give people the confidence to walk in a room of a million people
none of them like you and you just like say you i'm good and walk out with you by yourself you helped your mom do that as well and now she can look at everybody and say yeah i married a that choked a woman to death i was in a bad place i'm good with that one of the days that you focus on a good bit in that conversation is the day that she decided to leave your father right and take you and your brother with her
Was there anything that you learned about upon reflection where both of your experiences opened up a new realization to you?
That was a hard time for her and for me also. I was ready to leave a long time ago. I was just waiting for her to get the courage to finally leave them. And I don't think anything from that really, I think that's where the damage really began. I think for her, when she left, it almost, her fight went away. And it's kind of like when you run 100 miles.
When you sit down, your body can then say, I'm done. That's exactly what I was thinking. The second she left,
that the mind said oh my god like we can we can be human it's like ptsd yes we can be human and we're not fighting anymore and it just swarmed the demons that all that fight and all that shit was keeping away it just came and it swallowed it swallowed her whole and it also swallowed me whole but once again like we're talking about i got a chance to watch her
And she set out the ultimate blueprint on how not to be. So I had a hard time learning growing up, but I was very smart when it came to human beings. A genius. Because I lived in such hell, I was always studying people. Who can I trust? Who can I not trust? Energy. I got really good with energy. Is this person's energy good? Is it bad? So I became a genius on human beings.
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Chapter 5: What does it mean to dream without becoming a slave to those dreams?
There's no more secrets. There's no more secrets. Like, people say, oh, hey, Lance Armstrong, did you do steroids? No, no, no, yes. While... I have nothing wrong with Lance Armstrong or anybody else. Just fucking tell the motherfuckers, man. And guess what happens to the conversation? It's over. It fucking ends.
There's a really telling moment in the book. I think it's my favorite part. And it's not even in this one. It's in the audio book. And it's when it's getting quite difficult with your mom and you offer her a route out. You ask if she wants to take a break. She says, no, I want to keep going. So it seems like she's got a bit of that dog in her as well.
Oh yeah, she had to. Yeah, she had to. One thing that when you grow up the way, we kind of grew up together. That's how I look at it.
When you grow up- When she had you and Trudas Jr.?
She had me at 28 and my brother at 24. So we grew up together and you got to have a dog in you. You have to have a dog in you, man. And so you have to have it, like my grandfather called it, a stiff upper lip. You better have a stiff upper lip. So, you know, yeah, she has some dog in her. She has some dog in her. She has to. There's no other way to make it out here.
I mean, you can't just always be, you know, head down in the sand. You got to learn to pick yourself up on your own. A lot of times these fights and these battles, you got to be your own fucking coach. You got to be your own motivator. And she had to do that several times in her life.
Given all of this trauma that you go through, why would you choose to go back and see this tyrant of a father for one last time?
It was the only way for me to move forward. So like a lot of times, if your back is hurting, it may not be your fucking back. It may be something else in your body that's making your back hurt. For me, I'm like, man, why can't I get past this fucking hurdle? So like I said, I'm always examining myself every day. What is it? What is it?
Well, there's only one thing you haven't examined yet, and it's going back to the beast, going back to the demon. So when I went back to him, I realized that that was the unsolved mystery, was I had to look that man in the eye one more time. Like how I studied that Navy SEAL talking shit and lying, I got it from this part right here in the book. I went and I didn't see him anymore as this beast.
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