Dating Without Marriage as the Goal Creates Detours | Stephen Chandler
episodePreviously titled “Relationship Expert: How To Date To Find The Person You Want To Marry” — renamed by the publisher on Sep 3, 2026
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And if you're feeling stuck or trapped or overwhelmed in some area of your life, trust me, I know the pain. I've been there for many different years off and on, and it is a journey to creating peace, healing, and wholeness inside of you. And if you are feeling overwhelmed in a relationship If you're feeling like you don't have a good relationship with yourself or with others, then this is going to be a powerful episode because this is all about how to create that beautiful relationship with intention and purpose and how to challenge modern assumptions about relationships. If you've been struggling in a relationship, I've had five, six, maybe seven long-term relationships that all struggled for me, that were all hard, that all were up and down, emotional roller coasters, that were all just like, why can't we just make this work? Why is it so challenging? Why is there so much stress and friction and sabotage?
And it wasn't until I started to do deeper reflection, deeper healing work, and start creating a relationship with myself from a place of peace and wholeness, when I was able to create and attract a relationship in my life of the same mirror image. In this episode, we are talking with an inspiring guy named Steven Chandler, who's going to talk about the process of dating and staying in a healthy relationship. We dive deep into why the only destination for dating should be marriage, which is something that I never thought about. I was actually like, maybe this will happen, but let's see. And let me just get to know you first and this and this. It was never thinking, okay, are we really in alignment early on? Are we really...
on the right path or are we just attracted to each other physically and we have fun and we like each other. So we're going to start investing all this time and energy and realize that we're actually not in alignment. We don't have the same values of the vision and we have a lot of friction actually. And I'm not saying you're never going to have friction, but it shouldn't be friction every day. I mean, it's exhausting when you have that. So we dive deep on all these things and how to identify red flags versus yellow flags versus green flags and why having a clear vision is essential before bringing someone into your life. Because, man, I brought a lot of people into my life in the past and it caused a lot of pain and a lot of problems and a lot of setbacks and all these different things.
And once I got clear, once I was able to go on the healing journey and create wholeness within me, that's when I was able to create wholeness outside of me. So if you are stuck or struggling in a relationship in your life or you feel like your relationship with yourself is not where it needs to be, then this is the episode for you. And I hope you enjoy it. I'm excited for you to be here. Please make sure to subscribe to our podcast if you haven't yet over on Apple or Spotify. and share your review your feedback on this episode on Apple podcast so I can hear your thoughts on your review here. I'm so grateful for you. And let's go ahead and dive in today's episode. You say we should not be dating unless it's to get married. Isn't that right? Yeah, absolutely.
How do you phrase that though?
So the only destination for dating is marriage. And if you go into dating and marriage is not your intention, not that you have to marry the first person you date, but if that's not your intention to find a spouse, you will get yourself in trouble. One of my thoughts is... That was me. A marriage license...
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