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How To Get What You Want - 7. HOW TO FIND ONESELF - Orison Swett Marden (1917) - HQ Full Book. Chapter 7: How to Find Oneself – A Summary and Description In How to Find Oneself, the seventh chapter of How To Get What You Want, Orison Swett Marden explores one of the most profound and enduring human questions: “Who am I, really?” With his characteristic inspirational tone, Marden lays out a pathway for readers to uncover their true identity and potential. Published in 1917, this chapter feels surprisingly modern in its insistence on authenticity, self-reflection, and individual purpose.At its core, this chapter is about the necessity of self-discovery for a meaningful and successful life. Marden asserts that countless people live their entire lives without ever truly knowing who they are. They drift from one job or relationship to another, influenced more by circumstance than conviction. Their ambitions are borrowed, their opinions secondhand. For Marden, this is a tragedy—not just on a personal level, but for society at large. “Every man,” he writes, “has a place in the world, a place that no other soul can fill.”The chapter opens with a powerful metaphor: life as a great symphony, in which each person has a part to play. However, only those who discover their unique instrument can contribute fully to the music. Others, unaware of their role, create discord or silence. Marden encourages readers to stop living reactively and instead begin a conscious search for their own role, gifts, and inner direction. The Danger of ImitationOne of the main obstacles to finding oneself, according to Marden, is imitation. Society, he says, rewards conformity. From a young age, we are taught to copy others—to follow paths that are “safe,” “normal,” or “successful” according to external standards. But imitation is the enemy of individuality. “A man who is always aping someone else,” Marden warns, “never finds his own soul.” He challenges the reader to resist the urge to be a second-rate version of someone else and instead strive to become the best possible version of themselves. To do this, one must silence the noise of the outside world long enough to hear their own inner voice. This requires solitude, introspection, and often, courage. Inner Promptings and IntuitionMarden places a great deal of faith in the power of intuition—what he calls the “inner promptings of the soul.” He argues that each person has a deep, instinctive sense of who they are meant to become. These promptings may be quiet at first, easily drowned out by fear or doubt, but they are persistent. “You will never be happy, never be really successful,” he says, “until you have answered the call of your own nature.” Finding oneself, then, is a matter of learning to trust those instincts. Marden encourages readers to pay attention to the activities that bring them joy, to the subjects that ignite their curiosity, and to the dreams they’ve been too afraid to chase. These are not random interests—they are clues from the deeper self, pointing toward one’s true calling. The Role of Work and StruggleMarden does not romanticize self-discovery as a passive or purely meditative process. On the contrary, he emphasizes the importance of action, persistence, and even hardship in shaping one’s identity. He writes that we do not discover ourselves fully formed, but rather forge our character through experience. “Work,” he states, “is the great character-builder, the great revealer of the soul.” A person’s real self is not discovered in moments of ease but in the midst of striving—when they are tested, when they endure. Struggle forces people to draw upon inner resources they didn’t know they had. In this way, challenge and adversity are not setbacks to self-discovery; they are essential to it. This perspective is consistent with Marden’s broader philosophy, which sees effort and ambition as not only means to external success but as integral to inner growth. He maintains that every individual has within them the potential for greatness, but it can only be brought out through diligent, purposeful activity. The Influence of EnvironmentAnother key theme in the chapter is the influence of one’s environment on self-knowledge. Marden warns against surrounding oneself with people who discourage individuality or creativity. He encourages readers to seek out environments that nourish the soul—places where they feel inspired and supported in becoming who they truly are. He particularly stresses the importance of positive companionship. Friends who believe in you, mentors who challenge you, and communities that share your values can all serve as mirrors, reflecting your strengths and helping you see yourself more clearly. Conversely, toxic environments and relationships can distort or suppress your self-image. Marden sees environment not only as a social or emotional factor but also as a moral one. “We tend to become like the things we associate with,” he says. The books we read, the conversations we have, the ideals we hold—all shape our developing sense of self. The Reward of AuthenticityMarden concludes the chapter with an uplifting message: the reward of discovering one’s true self is not only personal fulfillment but also the power to influence the world in a meaningful way. A person who has found themselves is a beacon to others—more confident, more creative, more alive. Such a person radiates a quiet strength. They are not driven by comparison, nor shaken by criticism. They know what they value, and they act from a deep, inner conviction. This authenticity draws others in and inspires them to begin their own journey of self-discovery. In Marden’s view, the pursuit of self-knowledge is not a selfish endeavor—it is a sacred duty. “The world needs what you alone can give,” he writes. “But it can never receive your gift until you find out what it is.” Timeless WisdomThough written over a century ago, How to Find Oneself remains strikingly relevant in an age where many people still struggle with identity, purpose, and direction. Marden’s advice—trust your intuition, embrace your uniqueness, learn through action, and surround yourself with truth—is timeless. In a society increasingly dominated by noise, distraction, and external validation, Marden’s call to “find oneself” is both refreshing and urgent. This chapter is not just about achieving success—it’s about becoming whole. 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