The Slumflower Hour
Episodes
YOU DON'T NEED TO SAVE HIM
20 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Have you found yourself trapped in his sob story? Has that broke man got you going 50/50 as a way to 'ease his load'? Does your desire to save men com...
STAY FOCUSED!
13 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Does falling in love tend to have you forgetting yourself? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the reasons we must always prioritise ou...
HIS PROBATION PERIOD...
07 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Should we bring back the 90 days period of 'waiting'? Should we start making men audition for our affection? Are men better partners when we put them ...
ABOUT BEING A GIRLS GIRL...
28 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Does the 'girls girl' really exist? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the complexity of female empowerment, expectations placed on wo...
BITTERNESS
20 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Should women be bitter? Is bitterness an emotion we can alchemise? Should we reclaim the word 'bitter'? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she...
SO YOU WENT THROUGH HIS PHONE...
13 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Should you go through a man's phone? Is there a silver lining to catching a man cheating? Are you prepared to walk away or would you prefer to punish ...
SO YOU'RE GOING ON A GIRLS NIGHT OUT...
06 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Is the club really the place to find love? Should we be charging men to talk to us in the club? How do we keep safe and vigilant in the function? J...
THE POLITICS OF P*SSY POWER FT. PAMELA BLONDE
30 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In the first episode of season 4, we are joined by dominatrix, social campaigner and all-round powerful woman: the one and only Pamela Blonde! Joi...
*SEASON 3 FINALE* WE NEED TO BE MORE MEAN TO MEN!
31 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In the FINAL episode of season 3, we are joined by a fellow disobedient woman all the way from Australia! @HorribleMeanBadWoman (real name Sarah) ...
THE MAN CHILD
23 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are you harbouring a man child in your home and calling him a husband? Is your mother-in-law the persistent third wheel in your marriage? Does that ma...
TRANSPARENCY?
17 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are women conflating oversharing with bonding? Does telling men every single thing strengthen the relationship? Is your husband truly being transparen...
SO YOU'VE BEEN DUMPED!
09 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Has he pulled the rug from under you? Did you see it coming but you tried to tell yourself otherwise? Is it time for you to start being the dumper to ...
TOXIC FEMININITY
02 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Can femininity be considered toxic? Should women have bigger egos? Do women have a victim mentality? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses...
WHITE FEMINISM...
25 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do white women have a different version of feminism? (Yes) Is feminism serving us or holding us back when it comes to dating men? Are white women enab...
SO YOU KEEP GIVING HIM CHANCES...
19 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you tend to feel bad when a man begs and grovels? Are you against holding grudges? Should we give men more chances? In this episode, join The Sl...
REJECTION?
11 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Does rejection make you spiral? Should women stop being old-fashioned and just make the first move on a man? Should we reject men before they reject u...
IS IT TOO LATE?
05 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Is it too late to find 'the one'? What does it really mean when men call a woman 'expired'? Are men worth longing for? In this episode, join The Sl...
DESIRE IS POLITICAL
28 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever considered or questioned the politics behind your romantic desires? Is a man's attraction to you political? Do our dating preferences ch...
MARRIAGE IS S*X WORK
22 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you see marriage for the negotiated contract that it is, or do you see marriage as a purely spiritual union, devoid of any power dynamics or transa...
DATING OLDER MEN VS YOUNGER MEN
15 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What's all the hype surrounding dating younger men? Are older men a better option? Should there be an age limit for age gap relationships? In this ...
REPEATING THE SAME MISTAKE
08 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are you trapped in a redundant loop of making the same mistake? Does your impulsivity betray you? Are you finally ready to leave your destructive life...
LISTEN TO THIS BEFORE YOU GO ON THAT DATE!
31 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are you off to see that man? Do you feel tempted to make it easier for him? Is your gut reliable enough for you to be dating right now? In this epi...
ABOUT STINGY MEN...
25 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Is he stingy or does he just not like you? What happens if you have kids with a stingy man? Should we cheat on stingy men? In this episode, join Th...
MISSING HIM?
18 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you miss him? Has the amnesia suddenly hit you and now you can't remember why you cut him off to begin with? Are you tempted to go back? In this...
BREAKING YOUR HEART FOR YOUR ART?
11 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Was that horrible relationship worth it because you were able to write some songs about it? Do you believe you have to put yourself through pain in or...
DETACHING WITH DIGNITY
04 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are you too easily attached to men? Are we 'manifesting' bad treatment from men by expecting it of them? Is your rejection sensitivity making you unne...
MALE PRIVILEGE
26 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Is there really such thing as 'terrible husband but a good father'? Should we starve men of sex to solve their entitlement issues? Will men ever becom...
WE NEED TO REJECT MEN MORE OFTEN
19 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Should we be less approving of men's flirty advances, even if they are being cute? Are we making the male loneliness epidemic harder on men by being l...
BEING THE WOMAN HE CAN AFFORD
12 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What do you stand to lose by being the woman he can afford? Do men appreciate women more when our standards are lower? Or are we just overthinking thi...
ATTRACTIVE MEN?
06 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are attractive men worth all the hassle? Do good-looking men deserve to be humbled? Is it a safer bet to date an 'ugly' man? In this episode, join ...
MALE-CENTRED WOMEN?
29 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are desperate women sinking the ship for the rest of us? Can men tell when you're male-centred? Are low-effort dates even worth it in the name of bein...
MEN WILL NEVER CHANGE
22 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are you still clinging onto the hope that one day, men will finally be who we want them to be? Is feminism doing what we need it to do? Are YOU brainw...
ARE YOU PRIME PREY?
16 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Does being too empathetic make men see you as pathetic? Could there be a pattern of your behaviour that predatory men are drawn to? Are you prepared f...
HOMEWRECKER?
08 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do 'homewreckers' really exist? Would you date your friend's ex? Should you forgive your husband for cheating? Hmmm...in today's episode, join Chider...
CASUAL SEX?
01 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Is sex really casual? This is the question being pondered upon in this episode. Join The Slumflower as she toys with the debate of whether a woma...
COMMUNICATION IS NOT KEY!
24 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find yourself having to keep repeating your requests to the man in your life? Do people keep telling you that you need to 'communicate' if you ...
HOPELESS ROMANTIC?
17 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are you a hopeless romantic? Do you believe that love conquers all? Do you live in the hope that one day, you'll fall in love and things will fall int...
USE HIM
10 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you feel guilty about using men in a world where men created a system where women will always be commodified? Have you found yourself feeling tongu...
HOW TO NOT GET ATTACHED
03 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you struggle with premature attachment to men? Do you fear you'll never stop being a lover girl? Is it really the man you're attached to or are you...
ENERGETIC HARVESTING
28 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Is that man using you as an ego boost? Is he really 'just shy' or is he waiting for you to chase him? Do men deserve our friendship? In this episode,...
LOSING HOPE?
21 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Is your loneliness starting to become obvious? Do you secretly fear that you're not going to find your person? Are you losing hope? It's okay! Let's ...
THE STRONG WOMAN
14 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are you a strong woman who takes pride in being independent? Do you secretly wish you knew how to receive support without 'losing' your strength? Do m...
POOR COOCHIE MANAGEMENT
07 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Has your poor coochie management led to your demise? Are you in denial about the ripple effect your sexual decisions have on the quality of your life?...
THE TOXIC GIRLFRIEND
28 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever been accused of being 'toxic' for holding a man accountable? Do your friends consider you 'too harsh' in your dating decisions and concl...
DATING IN A STINGY COUNTRY
21 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you live in a land full of stingy men who love to split the bill? Are you starting to lose hope that you'll meet a man who will treat you as you wa...
HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!
14 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Has the FOMO of Valentine's day got you feeling blue? Did your man 'conveniently' start a fight with you a couple days ago? Are you bored of Valentine...
SO HE'S GOTTEN TOO COMFORTABLE...
07 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
So it's finally happened...he's become carried away and comfortable enough to start coasting through the relationship... His yearning has decreased a...
*SEASON 2 FINALE* THE FEMDOM CHRONICLES WITH OG TIERRA DOLL
06 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this FINALE episode of season 2, we are joined by the 6 figure-earning dominatrix, OG Tierra Doll! In this juicy episode, we discuss findom as wea...
NEEDING MEN...
29 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Should my feminism be dismissed as 'anti-feminist'? Are you really independent if you still rely on men for orgasms? Is it possible to truly be empowe...
ABOUT MALE 'FRIENDS'...
23 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Can male friends actually play a fulfilling role of support in our lives? Is it better to sleep with men you're already friends with? What is your cri...
DICKMATIZED?
15 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Is the dick too bomb for you to use your sense? Have you found yourself roped into a 'situationship' from what was only meant to be a brief hookup? Ar...
SPENDING HIS MONEY
08 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you dating to marry or dating for money? Do women deserve to be paid to be pregnant? Is it possible to fall in love without giving away your power...
STICKING TO YOUR GUNS
01 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you struggle with putting your foot down when handling a situation with a guy? Are you often 'too nice' when you should be a little more dubious of...
SUBTLE SIGNS HE'S NOT THE ONE
24 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you feel like that man is romantically edging you? Is there a vibe that he 'kind of' likes you but is holding back? Are you at a crossroads of whet...
DO LOOKS MATTER?
18 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do looks really matter? Should we 'dress for men'? Is it considered 'unfeminist' to use your beauty as leverage? We cover all these questions in this...
OVERCOMING THE FEAR OF ASKING MEN FOR STUFF
11 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you feel like you 'owe' men sex for a cocktail? Does the 'gold digger' label scare you away from being upfront about your needs? Are you playing to...
ARE YOU A STRICT BABE?
04 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you trying to find the firmness in your voice? Or are you worried you might be a bit too blunt? In this episode, join Chidera as she talks throu...
HOW TO EXPLOIT MEN
27 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you feel bad about dating selfishly? Does the idea of 'using' a man make you feel guilty? Is it exploitative to date men with your best interest at...
IS HE A BOYFRIEND OR IS HE A TRAUMA BOND?
19 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you convinced yourself you're stuck with that man? Is he really the best you can do? Why do you even keep giving him chances? In this brief and ...
HAVING HIS BABIES?
13 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Is the pressure on to start a family? Feeling broody? Or maybe even experiencing that FOMO feeling as everyone around you is starting to have babies? ...
DATING AS A FIRST BORN DAUGHTER
06 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you a first born daughter who has been plagued by the perpetual sense of responsibility...even over the men you date? Has your first born daught...
HOW TO DATE NIGERIAN MEN
30 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you been victimised by a Nigerian man? Are you too nice to the Nigerian men you date? (YES) Is there a lack of cultural awareness that impinges...
SO YOU'RE NOT LEARNING YOUR LESSON...
23 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you that friend who keeps calling your friend to complain about the same man you won't leave? Are you the friend who wishes your homegirl would g...
DATING WHILE NEURODIVERGENT
16 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find your neurodivergence interfering with your dating life? Have you found your rejection sensitivity makes you more prone to rumination? Has ...
THE PARADOX OF THE PICK-ME
09 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are pick-me women simply misunderstood? Are things 'easier' with men when you let patriarchy run its course? What can women do to avoid becoming despe...
WHEN THE LOVE BOMBING DOESN'T WORK...
03 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Did you notice yourself almost falling for the botched dream being sold to you? Was it all stating to feel a little too good to be true? Has he switch...
FEARING MEN
26 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This episode was voted for by the patrons over at Patreon! If we can all agree that men are scary, then we can al agree that dating men should be wor...
HOW TO MOVE ON
19 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you fantasise about him coming back? Do you tend to develop limerence for men who leave you? Do you allow yourself to feel your anger in full? If ...
BECOMING MORE ASSERTIVE
12 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you an 'understanding girlfriend' who can't quite seem to get the words out when you're annoyed at him? Have you decided what your non-negotiable...
PROVIDER?
06 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
So what's the fuss around dating providers? Why are women scared to date selfishly? Why do we slut-shame women who are upfront about their requirement...
THE 'MALE LONELINESS EPIDEMIC'
28 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do men deserve their loneliness? Do women make too many excuses for men? Can women develop the willpower to abstain from sexual and emotional reliance...
THE EXIT PLAN
20 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you finally feel ready to leave, this episode is for you. In this episode, join The Slumflower as shares tools on how to leave FOR GOOD, and what y...
ALPHA MEN?
14 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Where is the line drawn between leadership and control? Do 'alpha' men actually live up to their description? Why do women seek such traits in men? In...
THE ICK
07 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Is a person redeemable once you develop the ick for them? What does it take for a man to give you the ick? How can you tell when a man has gotten the ...
SO HE WANTS TO MARRY YOU...
30 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Is that man in a rush to marry you? Would he even make a good husband? Are you desperate to be wifed? In this hilarious episode, join The Slumflower a...
DOING IT FOR THE PLOT
24 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you justify tormenting yourself for the sake of having a 'good story' to tell? Are you impulsive and adrenaline-driven in your dating decisions? Ha...
DATING FOR LOOKS?
16 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you easily swayed by a man's appearance? Do you find yourself being easily governed by the coochie flutters when you come across a cute man? Are y...
DATING DEPRESSED MEN...
10 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Has that man become the sad cloud in your sky? Do you find yourself coasting along in this relationship out of guilt rather than choice? Do you feel r...
WHEN HE FINALLY SWITCHES UP ON YOU...
03 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
So the switch-up has finally happened...he's stopped texting you the way he used to; he's not really making plans to take you out anymore; you've had ...
WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT MARRIED MEN...
25 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This episode was voted for by my patrons on Patreon! After what started out as a simple evening of sharing some anonymous insight from sex workers abo...
ARE YOU MAKING EXCUSES?
18 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Is 'that's just how I am', your default response to being called out for certain behaviours that might be holding you back? Or is 'that's just how he ...
WHAT IF *THIS* IS IT?
12 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What if the love you seek has already found you? Is self-love really the best love? Based on the awful reputation they have created for themselves, is...
DATING MULTIPLE MEN
05 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you a 'one man' type of lover but you're curious? Has your boyfriend pissed you off beyond repair? Has the world convinced you that you're 'greedy...
THE UNFORGIVING WOMAN
29 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you a woman who struggles to forgive men? Do people make you feel like you hold grudges for too long? Are you a recovering pushover? If any of the...
ARE STRAIGHT WOMEN OKAY?
22 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Why are straight women so helplessly bound to their heterosexuality? How can straight women gain more from their attraction to men without losing them...
ABOUT 'BLACK LOVE'...
15 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do Black women benefit from 'race first' solidarity in their dating decisions? Is Black women's appreciation of Black men reciprocated? Are we moving ...
SHOULD YOU POST YOUR MAN?
08 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In an age where we feel compelled to prove we are loved, is sharing pictures of your boyfriend on social media a risky move? Do we jinx it by claiming...
HOW MEN CONTROL YOU
01 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This episode was voted for by my patrons over on Patreon! In an age where women seem to not grasp that men are swindling them for sex, what can we do ...
ARE YOU TOO GULLIBLE?
23 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you easily swindled by a man's enthusiastic advances? Are you in a hurry to believe what a man says if it means you can have a relationship to cla...
HOW TO FALL OUT OF LOVE
16 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you emotionally stuck in your attachment to him? Does it feel like you are cutting off a limb by cutting him off? Do you need to be talked off the...
STORYTIME: MY MILLIONAIRE SUB
09 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this fun storytime, join The Slumflower as she spills the details of her encounter with a rather generous submissive man... ;) Join my patreon at p...
FIRST DATE 101
01 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This episode was voted for by my patrons over on Patreon! Do you find yourself panicking on first dates? Does your overthinking breed overcompensation...
TIME TO QUIT DATING APPS?
26 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you still on your digital quest for love? Is the dating app fatigue kicking in? Have you started checking the dating apps more than you check Inst...
DOMINATING YOUR HUSBAND WITH KATHERINE RYAN
19 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In the highly anticipated first episode of SEASON 2, The Slumflower joins forces with the unstoppable comedian: Katherine Ryan! Is having a man's chil...
*SEASON 1 FINALE* IN CONVERSATION WITH: MISTRESS MARLEY
10 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This is the FINAL episode of The Slumflower Hour podcast's first ever season and of course, we had to wrap this up in style! It is with great honour t...
THE BENEFITS OF BEING SINGLE
03 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are relationships your comfort zone? Are you scared of being alone? Have you spent more time being in relationships, than being single? You may really...
ACCEPTING GENEROSITY FROM MEN?
27 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you fear that you 'owe' men something in return for their kindness? Are you self-deprecating and unable to see yourself as worthy of receiving? Do ...
WOMEN OF THE ZODIAC
20 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
As complex and unique as we all are, there are still traits we share in common - depending on what period of the year we were born in! Join The Slumfl...
SEXUAL DISCIPLINE
12 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Is your horniness hindering you? Do you find yourself making more excuses for him because of your sexual attraction to him? Are you giving away so muc...
HOLDING SPACE FOR RAGE
05 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode was voted for by my patrons over on my Patreon! Does misandry hold the same weight as misogyny? Are men trying hard enough? Are women eve...