Someone tells you, calmly, that they’re giving you your time back. Someone else, mid-story, asks: “can I stop you there?” A third person, cornered on a specific and documented harm, tells you it wasn’t their intention. A fourth hedges an idea they’ve been sitting with for three weeks: “I might be wrong, but...”Four different rooms. Four different speakers. Four sentences that sound, on the surface, like nothing at all — procedural, generous, careful, uncertain.None of them are doing what they sound like they’re doing.There’s a fifty-year-old framework that explains all four, and most people who use it correctly have never heard its name. It’s called politeness theory, and the first thing to understand about it is that it has almost nothing to do with manners.We’re looking at sociolinguistics and linguistic anthropolgy. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thestrategiclinguist.substack.com/subscribe

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