How To Heal From Narcissistic Abuse & Break Free http://offer.personaldevelopmentschool.com/narcissistic-relationships?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=narcissistic-relationships&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-04-08-26&el=podcast Your Love Language is not your real Love Language. Love Languages are preferences. Your subconscious Attachment needs are what actually determine how you give and receive love. If you only focus on love languages, you can still end up in a relationship where you feel unseen, misunderstood, and emotionally unfulfilled. Episode Summary In this episode, Thais Gibson explains why Love Languages don’t go deep enough and why your Attachment needs matter far more. While the five Love Languages (Words Of Affirmation, Quality Time, Physical Touch, Gifts, and Acts Of Service) can be helpful frameworks, they don’t address the subconscious wounds and emotional needs driving your relationship patterns. For example: An anxious partner may need deep validation, reassurance, and certainty. A Dismissive Avoidant may need autonomy, sincere acknowledgment, and emotional acceptance without criticism. A Fearful Avoidant may need both novelty and freedom; while simultaneously craving stability, trust, and prioritization. The real issue? We often give love to others the way we would need love, instead of understanding how they need to receive it. When you understand attachment needs instead of just Love Languages, you can: • Identify what truly triggers you • Recognize your unmet needs • Stop accidentally overriding your partner’s needs • Communicate in ways that build real security Because sustainable intimacy isn’t built on preferences. It’s built on meeting subconscious emotional needs. Key Takeaways ✔️ Why love languages are preferences; not core emotional needs ✔️ The five traditional Love Languages explained ✔️ Why needs matter more than surface-level expressions of love ✔️ The core needs of the Anxious Preoccupied Attachment Style ✔️ The core needs of the Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style ✔️ The core needs of the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style ✔️ Why giving love as you would need it can backfire ✔️ How unmet attachment needs create relationship conflict Timestamps 00:00 – Everything You Know About Love Languages is Wrong 00:50 – The Five Love Languages 01:42 – Why Needs Matter More Than Love Languages 04:12 – Needs of the Anxious Preoccupied 04:41 – Needs of the Dismissive Avoidant 05:21 – Needs of the Fearful Avoidant 05:49 – When We Give Love to Others as We Would Need Love 07:40 – 7-Day Free Trial Promo Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

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