Learn Self-love, Self-Soothing & Emotional Healing Tools to Transform Your Life. Start Here: https://offer.personaldevelopmentschool.com/self-love-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=/self-love-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-06-20-26&el=podcast Have you ever met someone who seemed completely secure at first... Only to discover later that they were actually a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style? This is one of the most confusing experiences in dating because Avoidants often appear calm, confident, and emotionally stable early on, until real attachment and vulnerability begin to develop. Episode Summary In this episode, Thais Gibson explains why Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Styles can initially look very similar to people who are Securely Attached, and the key signs that reveal the difference over time. You'll learn why Avoidants typically don't deactivate during the early dating stage when vulnerability is low, how subconscious fears around emotional needs and intimacy often remain hidden until genuine attachment forms, and why these patterns tend to emerge as relationships become more serious. Thais also shares several important indicators to watch for, including a history of shorter relationships, preference for intellectual over emotional connection, discomfort around commitment conversations, heightened sensitivity to criticism, and a strong need for space and independence. Most importantly, she explains how understanding Attachment Styles can help you identify relationship patterns earlier and make more informed dating decisions. Key Takeaways ✔️ Dismissive Avoidants can appear Securely Attached early on ✔️ Attachment wounds often surface only after real emotional attachment forms ✔️ Avoidants typically fear vulnerability more than attraction ✔️ Intellectual connection may feel safer than emotional intimacy ✔️ Commitment conversations can trigger withdrawal or deflection ✔️ Sensitivity to criticism is often hidden beneath the surface ✔️ A strong need for space can be an important relationship clue Timestamps 00:00 – Secure vs Dismissive Avoidant Attachment 00:33 – 1. They Don't Need to Deactivate When There is Low Vulnerability 01:53 – 2. Their Stored Subconscious Associations Don't Surface Until They Attach 03:12 – Learning to Love Yourself Course Promo 03:31 – Sign 1: They Usually Have a Series of Shorter-lived Relationships 03:56 – Sign 2: They Feel More Comfortable With Intellectual Connection 04:41 – Sign 3: When You Talk About Commitment, They May Freeze Up or Deflect 04:50 – Sign 4: They Are Much More Sensitive to Criticism Than They Let on 05:04 – Sign 5: They Need a Lot of Space and Time Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

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