The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm

Your soul has already left the building - Traver Boehm

21 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

One of the challenging parts of navigating big change is accepting when the change may already have taken place internally for you — but your extern...

Andrew Bernie Bernstein — Waking up with 35 broken bones and a paralyzed left leg.

14 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

"The driver who hit me got two years in prison. But I got a life sentence." Those were the words of today's guest, Andrew Bernstein, in an essay for O...

The three priorities of an UNcivilized man

07 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this solo episode I’m inspired by a terrible relationship meme to go over the priorities an UNcivilized man should have BEFORE getting into and W...

The evolutionary advantage of victimhood with Connor Beaton.

31 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this off the cuff episode, Connor Beaton and I dive into the current social climate and how men can easily get trapped in a victim mentality. We al...

The two masculine paradigms to avoid with Traver Boehm

27 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The 1950’s Marlboro Man and The Sensitive New Age Guy — let’s dive into both as we reconnect to some of the basics to start off the year. In th...

Your head, heart, & balls. A breakdown w/ Traver Boehm

20 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Your head. Your heart. Your balls. Learning to differentiate when to use each of these powerful energies is the difference between a life well lived ...

Why I quit drinking alcohol 7 years ago.

17 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Seven years ago tonight, I made one of the best decisions of my life —  to quit drinking alcohol. Here’s the most surprising thing to most p...

Killing The Nice Guy — Buying Sex and Permission

13 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is going to upset people, be warned. In this solo piece I break down how Nice Guys so often turn their romantic partners into one of two...

How to run the world’s worst cult with David Boyd

10 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On a weekly basis, some jackfruit on the interwebs accuses me of running a cult. And I get it, we have t-shirts…we all like each other…and we thin...

Turning your passion into purpose with Dr. Jeremy Goldberg and Leila Dylla

06 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Purpose, purpose, purpose. We hear how important it is to know why we’re here on Earth and what we’re “supposed” to be doing! For men this is ...

Marc Polymeropoulos — Lessons from 26 years in the CIA.

03 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever seen Agent 007 movies and dreamed of being like James Bond? Live exciting adventures in a late model car, dodging bullets while you race...

Punching Imposter Syndrome In The Face with Traver Boehm

30 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The Imposter haunts us all. Myself included. Or at least he used to. I remember a few years back doing the first class of a six class online workshop ...

What its like to live your life with the support of other men with Bob Z

27 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

When you realize you have a support system, your life changes forever. Today I want to share with you the most realistic episode in the history of The...

Will Fraser — From professional rugby to tackling the broken hearted prison system.

23 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Would you forgive a criminal? Today's guest is a man who undertook the task of visiting prisoners and getting to know them and their histories. Years ...

Jay Ferruggia — From broke at 31 to creating a fitness empire.

20 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Transform each loss into gain, every weakness into strength, and each failure into fuel to keep moving forward. Today's guest is Jay Ferruggia, a man ...

How women support a man on the path with Traver Boehm

16 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

When the divine masculine rises, every broken system in the world will change with it. And not before. As men find their hearts and feel into all the ...

Joseph Sheehey — The beauty of conscious entrepreneurship.

13 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"There is always a right and wrong thing to do, And we are always going to do the right thing, even if its the hard thing to do." Core values, integri...

Mike Williams — From doing to done in your business.

09 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Every successful story begins with an action. Becoming an entrepreneur or starting a business can not only remain in your mind or your goal book; you ...

Michael Bauman — The five “why’s” of inner and outer success.

06 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

When things don't go as planned comes sadness, disappointment, and millions of questions. The guilt of "what did I do wrong?" is manifested. But, ever...

You are awesome — the power of momentum with Traver Boehm

02 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

One of the stories so many of us carry is that we need to burn our lives to the ground and rebuild from there in order to make any significant change....

Kimberly Hill - What men need to know about dating.

29 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever heard the famous phrase "there are many fish in the sea"? That's basically the dating world. We meet many types of people ...

George Kalantzis — From divorce to publishing your first book.

25 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Healing has different paths to travel and reach it. Today’s guest, George Kalantzis, decided to record his experiences, pain, grief, and thoughts in...

Johnny King — Becoming a KING

22 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

If we think about the problem that men currently face in society, what would it be? According to Johnny King's opinion, he thinks of the unhealed woun...

Death by a thousand cuts with Traver Boehm

18 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We all know the big Traumas are things we have to address with professional help. Yet how many of us are walking around with a backpack of little trau...

Dr. Carla Clements — MDMA, psychedelics and the future of therapy.

15 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We all know the healing methods such as going to therapy, breathwork, psychologists, but have you ever thought that the use of the MDMA may be all you...

Robert Althuis — What to do when enough is not enough.

08 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We have heard millions of times the story of the man who has everything and loses it all. It may sound cliche but it is so well-known because it is a ...

Lessons from 4 years of UNcivilized with Traver Boehm

04 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Yesterday was the four year anniversary of my idea — maybe UNcivilized is the way to go vs being civilized. What a long strange trip it’s been sin...

Joy Dushey — How a stroke at age 29 changed everything.

01 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Never forget life can change in a blink of an eye. One day everything is okay, and the other, you can wake up inside an MRI machine scared and asking ...

Dene Maria Sebastiana — How men’s work will blow your heart open.

28 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

It's okay to have feelings. It's okay to cry. The only thing that is not okay is to hide what you feel just because "men don't cry." We live in a soci...

Rick Ellis — The art of skill and the skill of art.

25 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

When we fall, we have two options, to keep on the ground or stand up and turn it into a new opportunity. After being one of the main heads of a multim...

The three horsemen of the civilized world with Traver Boehm

21 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Confusion. Numbness. Distraction. These are the three ways the civilized world brings men down, weakens us, and makes us docile. Avoid them at all cos...

Kimberley Ann Johnson — Call of the wild

18 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Being a mother is a different experience from the father one. Women have a laborious job of creating life within themselves, and this can be a traumat...

Rob McDojoLife - Cults, chokes, and making money with your passion

14 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How can some people be so blinded by a cult? This episode is full of controversy and mystery. Due to all the death threats this man has received, we h...

Dr Jeremy Goldberg — How to turn your passion into purpose.

11 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

One of the common problems I see as a coach is that hundreds of people struggle to find their purpose. Finding your purpose is about finding what make...

Traver Boehm — UNcivilzing your relationship with social media.

07 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this solo episode I break down the outcome of a social media challenge we did in the UNcivilized Nation. I share some of my own journey and some gr...

How to manage overwhelm with Duey Freeman & Michael Gay

04 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How to handle overwhelm? We are all overwhelmed by different things that happen to us daily, either the excess of information or the pressure we put o...

Erik Everhard — What a porn star can teach you about sex

30 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Entering the world of pornography as an actor can sometimes be out of necessity or fun, but getting out of the stigmas and labels people create about ...

The inconvenient truth with Perri Chase

27 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today you will hear an unplugged episode where we will once again have the unique Perri Chase as a guest. We could describe this woman as a force in t...

Jordan Gray — Meditating in the middle of a relationship bonfire.

23 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Relationships are not like in movies, where everything is rosy; every single one has its ups and downs. Imagine spending years of your life being a lo...

Troy Love — How to stop shame from hijacking your experience of peace.

20 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

It takes balls to say, "Yes, I am a porn addict." Like many addictions, pornography addiction has an origin. Wounds, pain, trauma are the foremost cau...

Celebrating your wins with Traver Boehm

16 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

It's not only okay to celebrate your wins, it's important. Have a close, trusted group of people and celebrate your wins, both big and small. AND If y...

Andy Buru — Exploring the space between Tantra and BDSM.

13 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

**Today's episode comes with an adult content warning** The movie 50 Shades of Gray came out in 2015, revealing a not very recent subject. Since i...

Leila Dylla UNplugged — Understanding masculine/feminine dynamics and why you need them.

09 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You're not alone in the world! During the global pandemic, the sense of loneliness was one of the biggest battles we had to survive as a society. ...

Everything you didn’t know about sleeping better with Dr. Kirk Parsley

06 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The human being is the only animal that decides to sacrifice its hours of sleep. Different factors can influence its lack. We all know that stress, wo...

Stephen Jenkinson - How to navigate grief and die wise

02 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The only inevitable thing in this life is death. Today we have an episode full of questions, with answers that will make you think deeper and ask for ...

Why men need to understand myth with Rick Alexander

30 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

There are different ways of conceptualizing masculinity. Today's guest is Rick Alexander, and in today's episode, he will teach us what it means to be...

Now you know you’re not a sociopath with Traver Boehm

26 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this solo episode I bring you back to my professional MMA day in sunny Southern California and share how a simple conversation changed my life fore...

There’s a cost to killing your soul with Shelli Varela

23 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

For many years, women were perceived as the weaker sex, unable to perform activities or carry out roles in which men were the gender determined to ful...

Winning makes you different with Traver Boehm

22 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I dissect a Tim Grover quote and show how it applies so deeply on your path from civilized to UNcivilized. We’ll look at the potenti...

How to develop your style as a man with Tanner Guzy

19 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Being aware of our appearance is not at odds with our masculinity. In this episode, Tanner Guzy will be part of our podcast. He will bring us an unciv...

This is what it means to be an elder with Duey Freeman and Mark Sylvester

16 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this unique episode, you will have a taste of what we live in the UNcivilized Nation. Every week in our community, we enjoy The Elder Series—a co...

Original language and the sex of being alive with Jamie Thompson

09 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

It does not matter if you believe in the evolution theory or the divine creation of a God. What is undeniable is that the human being adapts to the en...

We’ve forgotten what it means to be human with Kaylor Betts

05 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A video that started harmlessly ended in hundreds of attacks through social networks; this is the reality today's guest Kaylor Betts lives today. Afte...

Five-minute breath holds and childhood trauma with Brian Mackenzie

02 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever been carried away by impulses, feeling your existence has no purpose and reached a point of constant stress? Then, you're not breathing ...

The keys to dating after your divorce with Traver Boehm

29 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Dating after divorce can be some scary territory, but it doesn’t have to. Here are some keys to making this experience rich, safe, and enjoyable for...

How to make storytelling your superpower with Kymberlee Weil

26 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We all love good stories. The ones that make us laugh, cry, scream, and have nightmares at night; every story that generates a feeling is certainly a ...

Bringing consciousness to your relationships with Leila Dylla

22 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Through the years Leila and Traver have both been helping their own communities heal their wounds, deepen their connections and have taught many times...

What team sports can teach us about race relations with Bo-Dean Sanders

19 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The United States has been struggling with racial problems since the colonial era where dislike or rejection of racial minorities was common. Over th...

What would you stop doing if you knew, with Traver Boehm

15 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I spent all of 2016 doing a radical social experiment, living the year as if it were my last one. It change EVERYTHING about how I exist and how I vie...

From attorney to water woman with Valentine Thomas

12 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

There is nothing better than feeling free, even if it means taking one of the most important transitions of our lives to achieve it. Today's guest, Va...

Making progress through deeper connections with Kiné Corder

08 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"I am not "Anti" anything, I am pro Love."  Kiné is a die-hard optimist that embraces love as the lens through which she sees everything, she f...

Bouncing back from betrayal with Emily Gough

05 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Transitions are not easy, especially when we are accustomed to stability, be it emotional, financial, professional, etc. Hitting rock bottom is not al...

Free-diving into darkness and dancing with cancer with Melannie Bachman

01 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"The real pandemic is cancer." -Melannie Bachman. Melannie is a lively, wild, and vibrant woman with a love for the sea as great as its depth. Unfortu...

Why you need to change your language immediately with Traver Boehm

28 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Words are things. Words are things. Words are things. I can go on but I think you get it. The words we use shape our reality. Therefor the easiest way...

Creating worlds out of thin air with Rain Phutureprimitive

24 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Music is one of the arts that can be healing for many people. From moments of sadness, joy, rage, music is there to accompany us, and like many o...

The Masculine in relationship with GS Youngblood

21 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Relationships are difficult for men. We always try to figure out our place in the relationship, especially when we love a strong woman. Leadership is ...

The Power of integrity and connection with Mark Groves

17 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The connection we create around us will always be the key to build relationships where we can be ourselves without the need to hide any feelings. In t...

What few people will tell you about the UNcivilized path with Traver Boehm

14 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Want to know what few people will tell you about leaving the false safety of the conventional world? It’s fucking hard. And lonely. And frustrating....

Losing it all and getting back as a man with Rainier Wylde

10 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The initiation into masculinity has changed over the years to a point where the experience of becoming a man and reaching adulthood is different from ...

Understanding Norse culture, paganism, and Runes with Renate Elida Haug

07 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We have all heard about Norse mythology and its warriors. Besides being fascinating mythology, it has stories that captivate the attention of those wh...

How to manage your fear with Tony Blauer

03 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What am I afraid of? Am I aware of my fears? Does fear stop me from moving forward? These are some of the questions that today's episode will leave yo...

The Five stages of grief with Traver Boehm

31 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

When I was in the shit storm of my life a few years back, stumbling upon and studying up on The Five Stages of Grief was monumentally helpful. It gave...

The Art of intimacy with Madelyn Moon

27 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Men and women. So equal but at the same time so different. Over the centuries, the relationship between man and woman has become distant, putting each...

Understanding attachment theory, the wild, and mental health in men with Duey Freeman & Michael Gay

24 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On Mental Health Awareness Month, we want to talk to you about the importance of working on our mental health, that's why along with today's guests Du...

How to get the hell out of debt with Erin Skye Kelly

20 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Oh, debts! We have all been through them, and if you don't, lucky you! Debts start out being enjoyable credits and end up as the wicked ex-wife willin...

How not to be victimized by your own power with Perri Chase

17 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

If you are looking for truth, in this episode, you will find it; truth from the mind and mouth of today's guest, Perri Chase. She will share her uniqu...

Why you need to be your brother’s keeper with Traver Boehm

13 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week I’m diving into UNcivilized Ethos Tenet #2 — Be Your Brother’s Keeper. Now more than ever we need to normalize men supporting other me...

Nice Guys - Why giving in order to get doesn’t work with Dr. Robert Glover

10 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You're doing it wrong. No more Mr. Nice Guy, we need to talk. Have you ever thought, "I don't do anything wrong, I'm a nice guy"—but your life is fa...

Jesus, gambling, and a real estate empire with Erik Hatch

06 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Gambling comes into your life as a hobby or a moment of distraction with friends, but it can make you lose not only money but also your house, car, an...

How to practice presence and performance with Traver Boehm

03 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this solo episode I break down UNcivilized Ethos Tenet #6 — Practice Presence and Performance and give men a better understanding of both what it...

You are your own drug with Samantha Skelly

29 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Breathwork, ADD, entertainment, human potential, even aliens; this episode has it all! Joining the mic with me today is Sam Skelly. Besides being an u...

How to understand the masculine archetypes with Isaac Cotec

26 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How archetypes affect our behavior and connect us with our ancestors is something of a wonder. Archetypes can be universal, inborn models of people, b...

Looking at men through the eye of Myth with Rick Alexander

22 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Each human being goes through different stages throughout their life, but only one will mark the rest of your life. Two extraordinary people (me and t...

How to shift the mass shooting culture.

08 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I’m taking a different approach to talking about mass shootings as it seems the most common arguments just lead to circular conversa...

How to successfully handle your life as a man with Philip Folsom

05 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Masculinity and how we perceive it has evolved over the years. Just like in masculinity there has been a radical change in the men's movements too. To...

From rehab to rebirth to leading men.

01 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We are born male, but a proper role model does wonder for us to fully become men. In today's episode, we will talk about masculinity, what it means, h...

Why it’s more than okay to be a man.

29 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

At some point most men have heard, felt, or internalized the notion — it’s not okay to be a man. This is one of the most destructive and tragic fa...

How to survive the loss of a family member to addiction

25 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The drug addiction fight is tough but not impossible to win. These addictions can cause mental health problems that eventually affect the individual, ...

What picking locks teaches you about freedom

22 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Learn how to pick not only your house lock but also those on your mind to get freedom. Today's guest is Pat Watson, a man with the impressive ability ...

How to get past 10,000 no’s with Matt Del Negro

18 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We have all been rejected at one point in our lives, but each decides how to deal with it. Some deal with it focusing their attention on something els...

Not All Men - But Almost Always Men

15 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this completely raw and unedited podcast I dive into the Not All Men hashtag. More importantly I dive into the very real issue of male violence an...

Anxiety, cancer, & the power of choice with Themer Abourayan

11 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

There are circumstances in our life that we simply cannot control, and cancer is one of them. Today's guest is Themer Abourayan, an exceptional coach ...

How to be a super human with Ra of Earth

08 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

An impressive transformation! Going from being an incredible athlete, having a promising hockey career to changing it for Kundalini yoga, and becoming...

Uplevel your life with Eric Siu

04 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Master the game of life and business and get ready to learn which buttons to press in order to win. Today's guest is Eric Siu, a gamer and CEO of the ...

3 things to learn from the BDSM community

01 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Shame. Consent. Potential. In this solo conversation I dive into three of the areas of growth and exploration I benefited from as a member of the BDSM...

Being Black, Gay & Conservative in 2021

25 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Society is so focused on labels that we label people as white or black, gay or straight, thin or fat, rich or poor, rather than humans from the moment...

How to use plant medicine to return to what’s sacred with Fabian Rodriguez

22 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Being arrested, lived in federal prison, and finally get out of it and being in a better place to find out that his long-term girlfriend was cheating ...

Why our disconnection from nature is killing us with Darren Silver

18 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The connection with nature has been something that humans have lost over time. For today's episode we will have Darren Silver a nature-connected coach...

Why men need to kill their inner Nice Guy with Traver Boehm

15 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Raise your hand if you’re a Nice Guy. When asked that five years ago, my hand shot straight up. Now, thank god, it stays down. If you’re tired of ...

How to turn your passion into a living with artist Jay Alders

11 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Being an artist means having a life full of passion and creativity. Sometimes there is a lack of creativity, and other times they have a lot of it. In...