The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm
Episodes
Traver's Upbringing - Staff Interview with Denise
25 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The people who work at Team UNcivilized are as committed to helping end the suffering in men to help the suffering caused by men as I am. For the next...
Needs, Wants, & Healthy Boundaries — LIVE Nice Guy Call
18 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this live class with my Kill The Nice Guy Group, I dive head first into the power of figuring out your needs SPECIFICALLY as a man, understanding a...
How to spot the female version of a Nice Guy
11 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We hear a LOT about Nice Guys, especially around the UNcivilized. Many men come to men’s work after discovering that they themselves are Nice Guys a...
Making sense of boundaries - with Traver Boehm
04 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this quick and dirty solo episode I’m answering a question I got on Instagram about what exactly boundaries are and how to set them and keep them...
Whose rules are you playing by? — with Traver Boehm
28 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We men often don’t stop and ask ourselves, “Whose rules am I playing by? Are they mine? Do they work for me? What if I changed them?” In this sh...
Change your life as a man by changing this one pattern — with Traver Boehm
21 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
So many men are stuck thinking in this one certain way — I have to make everyone else happy before I’ll have a good life. And that’s a death sen...
These secret agreements are killing your relationships with Traver Boehm
14 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I wish I had a more easily understood term for the words Covert Contracts, but I don’t…yet. And — everyone has these secret, one-way agreements ...
What to do when you’ve had back to back to back losses with Traver Boehm
07 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Any time a potential client tells me they’ve recently had three major losses or setbacks, I take a deep breath and listen carefully. So often this i...
Overcoming your fear of rejection with Traver Boehm
31 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Fear of rejection shows up in many less than obvious ways. It can be the difference between speaking your mind and keeping quiet, sharing your post or...
Ryan Goodman - The truth about selling your company for stupid amounts of money
24 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this impactful interview, entrepreneur Ryan Goodman sheds light on the urgent issue of anti-child sex trafficking, emphasizing the need for collect...
Change your Body, Change your Life - Robert Sikes
17 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today's society, the prevalence of body image issues and body dysmorphia has risen, particularly within the realm of fitness and bodybuilding. ...
Dr. Zhana Vrangalova — There’s more than monogamy.
10 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Get ready to embark on a mind-bending journey into the wild and wonderful world of relationships! On this episode of the UNcivilized podcast, we'r...
The Mental App Founders — How men strengthen their mindset
26 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Life is a short and unique journey that should be cherished and maximized to its fullest potential. It is crucial not only to prioritize our own perso...
Anna Rova — The dance of masculine and feminine in relationship
19 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In the world of relationships, let's shake up the bad love statistic, rewrite the rulebook, and create a love story that blows everyone's mind...
Of Poetry and Porn — with Max Stossel
12 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today's tech-savvy world, it is crucial to examine the impact of technology on youth, particularly regarding two significant concerns: the infl...
Mike Campbell — Navigating the transitions of your life.
05 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Get ready for an exciting episode where we support and understand men in their journey through life. Our special guest is the amazing Mike Campbell, a...
Michaela Boehm — The Wild, The Domestic, & A New Iteration of Relationship
29 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
"In the wild, there is the preservation of life; in the domestic, the cultivation of it." - Henry David Thoreau. Hey, folks! Get ready to ex...
Why you need to know about women’s sexual health. — Carly Rae Beaudry
22 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Embrace the natural rhythm of life, for it holds the key to genuine connection. Get ready for an eye-opening episode where we dive into why it's s...
The Wild vs The Domestic - Tom Elsner
15 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
For men, there is no greater battle than the one between the wild and the domestic. As humans, we all struggle with our inner conflicts. Today, we inv...
What an award winning barber can teach you about following your soul. - Matty Conrad
08 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever felt like the whole world is against you? Matty Conrad has been there too. Matty started from humble beginnings as a shampoo boy, but n...
There’s no refund for real life. - Stephen Jenkinson and Kimberly Ann Johnson
01 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Embrace the wisdom of your years and let it shine brightly! Elderhood ain't the time to fade away - it's your time to illuminate the world wit...
Connor Beaton —The Importance Of Men’s Work
17 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Unfortunately, societal norms often teach men to suppress their pain and remain silent about abuse, perpetuating a cycle of pain passed on to others. ...
What are we not allowed to talk about when it comes to men?
10 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Talking about gender equality is great. We should keep doing it, but there's a missing piece in the equality conversation: men. We must acknowled...
Rob Bailey — Don’t get sucker punched by life.
03 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Life is trying to sucker-punch men in the face. We are either too manly or not manly enough, but to be honest, masculinity has no definition. So, what...
Superman — don’t make this dating mistake — with Traver Boehm
27 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
So many men come to me AFTER a breakup in shock that it happened. The conversation almost immediately starts with, “And I did everything for her, es...
Dan Doty — The spiritual path of fatherhood.
20 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
"Our kids learn way more from what we do than what we say." — Dan Doty. Fatherhood is not easy. No one teaches men how to be good fathers ...
Eliot Marshall — From UFC fighter to entrepreneur.
13 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
To be a teacher, we must be students first. No one becomes a teacher overnight. It takes many hours of study and practice to master a skill. To inspir...
How I killed my nice guy with Traver Boehm
06 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Some of the most important work that I have done on my journey is killing my nice guy. Once you do the same, you will finally get to lead from your he...
Josh Trent — Beyond breathwork.
27 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If I can breathe, I can choose. The breathing depth and rate are automatic and unconscious. However, if we do it consciously, we make the choice of no...
Black & White thinking as a man is lazy with Traver Boehm
20 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
A trend I’ve noticed recently in the Men’s world is a lot of black and white messaging. All men are this. All men do that. Brothers, this kind of ...
LIVE — Behind The Masks of Men with Traver Boehm, Duey Freeman, & Micheal Gay
13 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this Live Uplugged with Michael Gay and Duey Freeman we dive into the Behind the Masks of Men educational series we have coming up this spring 2023...
Noah Goldstein — Men and post partum depression/challenges.
06 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Postpartum depression is common among women but can affect men too. We have come a long way in science to understand the impact the arrival of a new b...
Lisa Chatham — Sex Crimes. Consent. And Hard Conversations.
30 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In America, it is more common to talk about disgusting things around children than to teach them about sex. Raising children without sexual education ...
Nick Onken - Identity alchemy and losing your religion.
23 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
There are two types of people. Those who work for money and those who work for passion. Which one are you? Today's guest Nick Onken doesn't have a typ...
Bayo Akomolafe — If plant medicine were a podcast
16 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Every colonized country has a history of trauma and grief. Today's guest Bayo Akomolafe, is a Nigerian man passionate about decolonized landscapes, wr...
I am a man — with Traver Boehm
09 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this solo episode I explore the single most important sentence a man can say to himself and know about himself — I am a man. This conversation st...
David Skudneski — Ask a dead guy.
02 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
To say David Skudneski is fortunate to be alive is a massive understatement. In this episode we will dive into the events of that February evening in ...
Episode twelve of The Ethos Tenets - Fight Hurt
31 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This one is so popular, I made swag that says "Fight Hurt" on it. The world is going to knock you down over and over again. Your mission is to get up ...
Episode eleven of The Ethos Tenets - Know that Love without Strength leads to Victimhood, and Strength without Love leads to Tyranny
30 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This ethos says everything you need to know right in it. You can be a victim, you can be a power-hungry dick, or you can learn how to use both your st...
Episode ten of The Ethos Tenets - Love Fiercely, Openly, & Without Reservation
29 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
You'll be devastated and ruined when your heart is broken. Still, love fully and fiercely. A life lived any other way is dull by comparison. How do yo...
Episode nine of The Ethos Tenets - Live by the Rule, There are no Rules
28 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Whatever you want to do, with very little exception - you can do it. That being said, karma and responsibility are real. The UNcivilized man has figur...
Episode eight of The Ethos Tenets - Have Equal & Open Access to your Head, your Heart, and your Balls
27 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
You must know all three, independently and intimately, and you cannot fear them. They are your allies in your quest for growth, actualization, and ind...
Episode seven of The Ethos Tenets - Honor the Men who came Before You, The Women who Bore you, & the Children who will Inherit Your Earth
26 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Honor and reverence remind us that our time here is limited. The start and conclusion of each breath holds everything that came before you, is with yo...
Episode six of The Ethos Tenets - Practice both Presence and Performance
25 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Combine both your primal and your divine in every area of your life. Try starting in the bedroom. You'll need your determined, competitive nature...
Episode five of The Ethos Tenets - Know that your Deepest Gifts grow in the Gardens of your Wounds
24 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Let your heart break for the life you wish you had. Let your heart break for the love you want to give. Let your heart break for the unexpressed gifts...
Episode four of The Ethos Tenets - Make Still the Mind, Make Savage the Body
23 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The civilized man is a slave to his mind and a pimp to his body. Take charge of both, and you're running your own damn life. Learn to meditate. Get ph...
Episode three of The Ethos Tenets - Be Dangerous but not a Danger
22 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The more dangerous you are, the less of a danger you will be. The man who is civilized, who has something to prove, who walks around with a chip on hi...
Episode two of The Ethos Tenets - Be your Brother's Keeper
21 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Many men, perhaps you or men you know, are facing the number one killer of men: isolation. You may be surrounded by people and still alone. Who can yo...
Episode one of The Ethos Tenets - Be Unapologetically Male
20 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Men who know who they are, why they are here, and are focused on penetrating the world with their deep purpose, these men are not raping, abusing...
Stephen Jenkinson — Grief, mystery, and generational fever dreams.
19 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Never before had I met a man so interested in ending the suffering of men and the suffering caused by men like Stephen Jenkinson. As you may know, it ...
Saora Love — From a prison in India to teaching embodiment.
12 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
No matter how many times you feel stagnant or hit bottom, remember that even in the desert, the flowers blossom. I'm not trying to sound poetic, but t...
The 7 Deadly Sins with Traver Boehm — Wrath
11 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In the final part of this 7 part solo podcast series on the Civilized vs the UNcivilized view of the Seven Deadly Sins, I’m taking WRATH and breakin...
The 7 Deadly Sins with Traver Boehm — Gluttony
10 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In the sixth part of this 7 part solo podcast series on the Civilized vs the UNcivilized view of the Seven Deadly Sins, I’m taking GLUTTONY and brea...
The 7 Deadly Sins with Traver Boehm — Sloth
09 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In the fifth part of this 7 part solo podcast series on the Civilized vs the UNcivilized view of the Seven Deadly Sins, I’m taking SLOTH and breakin...
The 7 Deadly Sins with Traver Boehm — Greed
08 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In the fourth part of this 7 part solo podcast series on the Civilized vs the UNcivilized view of the Seven Deadly Sins, I’m taking GREED and breaki...
The 7 Deadly Sins with Traver Boehm — Lust
07 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In the third part of this 7 part solo podcast series on the Civilized vs the UNcivilized view of the Seven Deadly Sins, I’m taking LUST and breaking...
The 7 Deadly Sins with Traver Boehm — Envy
06 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In the second part of this 7 part solo podcast series on the Civilized vs the UNcivilized view of the Seven Deadly Sins, I’m taking ENVY and breakin...
The 7 Deadly Sins with Traver Boehm — Pride
05 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In the first part of this 7 part solo podcast series on the Civilized vs the UNcivilized view of the Seven Deadly Sins, I’m taking PRIDE and breakin...
George Bryant — To whom much is given, much is required.
28 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The power to change is within you and depends on you. When we feel like we've hit rock bottom, sometimes, we wait and pray for a hand that comes to sa...
Shannon Lee — Life with Bruce Lee as your father.
27 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Imagine growing up and realizing that your dad was one of history's greatest cultural icons and martial arts master, Bruce Lee. Being the daughter of ...
Koa Smith — Big waves. Concussions. And psilocybin.
21 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Being on the verge of death puts into perspective what we have been doing with our lives. Surfing is one of the most beautiful and liberating sports t...
How to survive the holidays with Traver Boehm
14 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The holidays can be a trying time for a lot of folks. I know this because so many reach out to me asking for advice on how to deal with a difficult ex...
David Boyd- Three keys every veteran and first responder need to hear.
11 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Our military and first responders receive so much training in preparation for their careers in service, but so little training in preparation to send ...
Richard Reeves — No more lies. The actual state of boys and men.
07 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We seek to solve problems like toxic masculinity in men when our focus should be given to boys to avoid these types of struggles in their adulthood. O...
Change your relationship with the UNKNOWN with Traver Boehm
31 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
So many men are frozen. So many men are riddled with anxiety. So many men want yet have convinced themselves they cannot have. Why? Their fear of the...
Stefanos Sifandos - Fatherhood. Confidence. And money.
24 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Today we are joined by Stefanos Sifandos and will be talking about fatherhood, childhood traumas, confidence, and money, things most men deal wi...
The UNcivilized Starter Kit with Traver Boehm
17 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Folks, In this episode I give you three of my favorite tools to take you from civilized to UNcivilized. I’m not going to tell you what they are here...
Elise Micheals — Understanding how men tick, as a woman.
10 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Did you know that the lack of connection can lead us to depression, addiction, infidelity, and even a midlife crisis? A society that celebrates functi...
It’s ok to be single — with Traver Boehm
03 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this solo episode I dive head first into uncharted relationship waters, first talking about why there’s so much shame thrown on men who are singl...
Alex Weber - What do you want to do with your moments on earth?
26 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
As children, our lives and decisions were driven by the wishes and dreams that our caregivers placed upon us. However, everything changes when we grow...
Turning around a stuck relationship with Traver Boehm
19 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this solo episode, I take a listener’s challenge he’s having in his relationship and dive into it. He had found that he and his wife were in a ...
Eldra Jackson — Hug A Thug — Finding freedom in Folsom Prison
12 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This former gang member sentenced to 24 years in prison is the perfect example of how transformation exists if we feel supported and heard. Today's gu...
What to do when your spouse suddenly vanishes with Traver Boehm
05 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This solo episode is inspired by another Instagram question I got about how to navigate the loss of marriage when your spouse suddenly ups and leaves ...
Tom Gaines — Special forces and a life of service.
29 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
There is a belief that the first responders are broken after their service. Although it is not entirely untrue—since some suffer from PTSD—there i...
How to build powerful friendships with other men with Traver Boehm
22 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is inspired by an Instagram message I got asking how I built a powerful network of amazing male friends. It’s not lost on me that many ...
Men and Relationship with Duey Freeman & Micheal Gay
15 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Men and relationship are often considered to be like oil and water, but why is that? When I asked my audience what questions they have as men, and for...
Jamie Thompson — Dissecting the Madonna Whore Complex
08 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Loving his partner and desiring another woman; the duality of men. According to Sigmund Freud's theory named The Madonna-whore Complex, there can ...
Doing the work is not selfish with Traver Boehm
01 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This is a major block for so many men — and it shouldn’t be. Doing personal work, growth work, and/or healing work is the furthest thing fr...
What would you ask the Elders of your clan?
25 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this extraordinary episode, The UNcivilized Nation Elder Council, Duey Freeman and Mark Sylvester chime in live from the Uncivilized Men’s Initia...
Jayaji — The contemplative life of fatherhood and the spiritual path.
18 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Imagine growing up with the talent of teaching and advising your parents from a very young age; this is the story of today's guest, Jayaji. An unusual...
Duey Freeman and Michael Gay - The urgency and importance of in person work for men
11 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Duey Freeman, Michael Gay and I sit down and break down what we learned after four intense days with 30 men in a workshop. We dive int...
Why do you train? With Traver Boehm
04 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this solo episode I break down why every man needs to have a physical training regimen. From running to lifting weights to Jiu Jitsu, it matters li...
Dr. Angus Fletcher — How “Story Thinking” is the operating system of the brain.
27 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The brain and a computer are light years apart from being the same. It is true that both store data, process information, and perform tasks. However, ...
Things men are loved for, with Traver Boehm
20 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
There’s a single line in Robert Bly’s Iron John that grabbed me. “The activity men were once loved for is no longer required.” In this solo e...
Sylvester McNutt — How to thrive as a father and an artist — at the same time.
13 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
From college poet to best-selling author. Today's guest is Sylvester McNutt, surely you have heard of him, and if not, in today's episode, you will me...
How to be taken more seriously as a man.
06 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In my work with Nice Guys, many of them express a deep desire to be taken more seriously as a man. While this may seem like an elusive goal, completel...
Damien Rider — From a childhood of abuse to Guinness World Records.
30 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Spending seventeen days at sea, surrounded by sharks, is an interesting way to start a healing journey. When we see successful people, it is almost im...
How to develop more confidence with Traver Boehm
23 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Confidence is a muscle. While some people may be born with it, many of us had to earn it. In this solo episode I dive into easily applicable ways to b...
Arjuna Dharmadas — Living life on the spiritual path
16 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When we stop living under other people's expectations, we become the only writers of our history and builders of our paths. Today's guest is Arjuna Dh...
Acknowledging the wildness in men w/ Traver Boehm
10 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
There’s a wildness in men that we as a society don’t acknowledge — to the detriment of us all. When a man has space for his wild expressions and...
GS Youngblood — The art of embodiment for men.
02 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you live in the past, present, or future? Joining again for another episode of the UNcivilized Podcast, today's guest is GS Youngblood. He is h...
An initiation idea for teen boys — with Traver Boehm
25 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this solo episode, I share a quick story of an initiation experience I got to be a part of years ago as my buddy’s son turned 13. It was powerful...
Seerut Chawla — The truth about cancel culture and online mobs.
18 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Should social media have warning ads like cigarette packs? We all know the bright side of social networks where we share memes, tell stories, upload p...
To slap or not to slap — with Traver Boehm
11 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I’m throwing my hat in the ring of the Will Smith, Chris Rock Oscar’s incident and challenging you all to investigate your own val...
Unni Turrettini — Mass shootings and the epidemic of male loneliness
04 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
How can a person with no criminal record become a mass murderer, killing seventy-seven people and injuring hundreds more? This story captured the atte...
What the hell is men’s work with Traver Boehm
28 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this solo episode I break down the ever present question of, “What the hell is men’s work?” Let’s dive into it, make it simple, and dispe...
No one f*cking cares about men? With Traver Boehm
21 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this solo episode I want to rewrite the current, inaccurate narrative that no one cares about men. This narrative keeps men stuck, hurting, and lea...
Zark Fatah — When you have it all but know there’s more.
14 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I know how interesting it is to hear the typical story of the man who had everything and lost it all due to his vices. However, this story has an unex...
Being dangerous but not a danger with Traver Boehm
07 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this solo episode I dive into the power of creating and disciplining yourself to have a daily practice. When a man has this, his whole life change...
Steve James — Men and money, what we need to know.
28 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Imagine the idea of becoming a millionaire overnight. Incredible, right? Now—would you know how to manage all that money? As today's guest, we w...