The Unplanned Podcast with Matt & Abby
Love on the Spectrum: Why Abbey Romeo wants to get married
Wed, 05 Mar 2025
Abbey Romeo stole hearts on Love on the Spectrum, and today, she’s opening up about growing up with autism, her dream of getting married, and why she’s never having kids. She reflects on feeling isolated as a child, finding love with David, and how she sees marriage as becoming a princess. Plus, Abbey’s mom gets emotional as she shares her biggest fear for Abbey’s future. This episode is sponsored by Wildgrain, Needed, Liquid IV and BetterHelp. Wildgrain: Get $30 off your first box plus free croissants in every box when you go to https://Wildgrain.com/unplanned or use promo code UNPLANNED at checkout. Needed: Head to https://thisisneeded.com and use code UNPLANNED for 20% off your first order. LiquidIV: Get 20% off your first order of Liquid I.V. when you go to https://LiquidIV.com and use code UNPLANNED at checkout. BetterHelp: Visit https://BetterHelp.com/unplannedpodcast today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Chapter 1: What is Abbey's biggest fear for her future?
In Love on the Spectrum, season one, they're interviewing me and they said, what is your fear for Abby's future?
And I said, my fear is that the world will be mean to her and hurt her when I'm gone.
As a kid, I felt left out in the cold. I felt isolated and alone. And I used to identify with Ariel. She wanted to be where the people were, just like how I wanted to be, where the typical kids were.
The way you have mothered Abby so selflessly for 26 years, you've done so much work for her.
Thank you.
Tell me a little bit about your autism.
The type of autism I have is where you have autism communication disorder. I had 22 years of speech therapy and 15 years of occupational therapy to get where I am today to be able to talk just like this.
Wow. Look at me now. You're excellent at talking. I've had such a good time talking to you and I'm excited to talk to you more. So your autism, that is really a big motivation that Love on the Spectrum wanted to have you on their show. What was it like filming Love on the Spectrum? Did you enjoy it? Was it a lot of work?
The first day they came and filmed, I filmed in my room with me sitting still and I was completely zoned out and I had a hard time focusing. So luckily, another day they came back and they finally get to let me walk around so I could focus better. No way.
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Chapter 2: How did Abbey feel growing up with autism?
You didn't?
Well, I did care. Because I never knew I was going to be on TV until now.
And now you're kind of like a celebrity in a way. Yeah, I would say so. Well, I don't want to be too conceited. Oh, I think it's fair. A lot of people probably recognize you and enjoyed watching you on the show. Do people ask for pictures?
Yes, fans do.
So when people want to take a picture with you, how does that make you feel?
Very happy. Successful. I mean, accepted for who I am.
And that's a big deal because I remember you sharing about how when you were a kid, you didn't feel that way so much.
As a kid, I felt left out in the cold. I felt isolated and alone. And I used to identify with Ariel.
because ariel was a mermaid living in a world alone under the sea she wanted to be where the people were just like how i wanted to be where the typical kids were and when ariel finally became human she couldn't talk that's how i felt wow that really is that's why mermaids and ariel are still even important to me today wow and your hair clip kind of reminds me of ariel too yeah did you do that on purpose
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Chapter 3: What was Abbey's experience filming Love on the Spectrum?
And is this person that co-wrote the song with you, is that what she does for her job is like write music and stuff?
Not necessarily. I mean, she has a different job.
She just does it for fun, and she happens to know Abby, and she's very talented and patient, and she has worked with Abby on a couple songs to get the feelings, the imagery onto the paper, the words, and then they kind of do it together. It's been amazing to watch the process. That is so fun.
I also love music, and I got my feet wet with that whole world of music last year, and it blows my mind how...
many talented people there are you know and how much work go like you hear a song you don't realize how much work goes into one song so i know you put a lot of work into that song yeah yeah it takes like a year for her to really get it done and all that sort of stuff yeah it's not easy people think oh music like that's that oh these people that are big artists they you know they're they're famous for no reason no these people are very talented and they work so hard so that i mean you should be very proud of yourself that you put out your own original song how cool
And it's always been about the love of music. It's never been about wanting to be touring the U.S., although if anyone wants to know, but it's just about the love of music because, Abby, why don't you tell everybody about how you could sing before you could talk? I could sing before I could talk.
No way. I started singing when I was two years old. When I turned three, I did something called music therapy with a woman named Casey. She'd come in with a guitar. She'd play the guitar, and I can remember a note.
Wow. No way. Did you grow up doing theater?
I was in a play called The Miracle Project when I was in junior high for people on the spectrum.
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Chapter 4: How has Abbey's perception of herself changed over time?
No, now I'm her plus one.
I mean, seriously, I'm like... Oh my God, Abby, can I go with you to this thing? And I'm going, did I die? And I'm in some sort of coma. Right. And I'm just imagining all this because there were days when it feels like that. But besides that stuff and people recognizing her and being so kind and amazing, like the fans are... So great. And she does. She gets recognized all the time.
We've been driving down the street and someone will roll down. I'm just going to say this. I'll never forget this girl in Chico, Chico, California. She rolls down and she goes, holy shit. It's Abby. She's like, what the fuck? I'm seeing Abby right now. And that girl I just fell in love with.
I think I took a picture of her in that moment of the band because I thought it was the funniest thing ever. And I was just so filled with gratitude and love for that girl. And it was so amazing. And so there's that part. In Love on the Spectrum, season one, they're interviewing me, and they said to me, what is your fear for Abby's future? And no one had ever asked me that.
And it's the director asking me that. And I just, at that time, I said, you know, I'm not going to live forever.
And I said, my fear is that the world will be mean to her. and hurt her when I'm gone. And I know that's what so many parents think. So I speak for them when I say that.
And so I think now, and I'm like, I'm your plus one. How did this happen? And it's so great because I think that we're looking at neurodiversity differently. We're looking at autism differently. I've been so happy to be part of Love on the Spectrum. I don't know why Tanner comes to mind from season two. But he's so absolutely lovely as a human being.
He is so adorable and sweet and kind and brings so much joy to people. And we embrace that. And before, people may have looked at that as weird or strange. Right. And I don't think people are doing that anymore that have seen the show.
And that's what I hope for all people with differences, whether it's more of the antisocial autism or a different kind of autism that people just have a little bit more kindness to people with all disabilities too.
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Chapter 7: How did Abbey's love for Disney influence her life?
Then they called back about a month later. We Zoomed again. Still didn't know what it was. Third time they called back again. And then they say, we were kind of sitting next to each other because I still didn't know what it was. And the guy says, can we have a moment alone with Abby? Okay.
go in the other room I'm sort of standing by like our washroom but I can kind of see her and so she's zooming with Keon that's right I am and you were zooming with him and then you turned in the middle of the interview to me off-camera and you said mom when you're driving you call everyone an asshole And I don't know who these guys are.
I go, Abigail, that is, keep focused to the question that is being asked of you. And they asked her, at the very end, they said, you know, we want you to be part of this project. And I'm like, okay, what is this project? I had never heard of it because it hadn't come out yet. Maybe their season one had just come out, is what I think. I think maybe. Cool.
So he said it's going to be on this little network called, starts with the letter N. Yeah, just a little one. It's not NBC, and I said Netflix. It's Netflix. They said Netflix. I was like, oh my gosh. Okay, so then I watched the season one and the season two, or season one of Australia's Love on the spectrum.
And I'm just going to tell you the truth from my point of view, which was when I watched those individuals on the spectrum, I saw a man driving a city bus as his job, a couple traveling Europe on their own, uh, people that didn't need aides or helpers and people with no expressive language problem. Yeah. And I truly said to the producers, I love your show. I laughed. I cried.
These people are lovely.
Yeah.
She's not right. Yeah. I said, those people have what we formally called Asperger's.
Yeah.
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