The Virtual Couch

Alexa Lovell - One Year After a Devastating Accident, Surviving Setbacks and Diving into the Details

29 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Alexa (Overbay) Lovell survived a near-fatal accident a little over one year ago. She dives into the details of what the past year has been like, incl...

Entrepreneur, Podcaster, Writer or D) All of the Above - Zlatko Bijelic On Taking What Life Gives You

23 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Zlatko "Z" Bijelic is an entrepreneur, podcaster, app developer, dog dad, former college soccer player, and foodie. He has now journaled daily for ove...

The Power of Community to Combat Addiction - Chandler Rogers on How the Relay App Repels Porn

22 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Tony gives a "state of the union" address on working with people struggling with turning to pornography as a coping mechanism. He then interviews Chan...

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife on Modeling Healthy Relationships, Trust, ADHD, Narcissism, and EFT vs. Differentiation

15 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Tony welcomes Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife back to The Virtual Couch for the 5th time! They discuss a variety of topics, including ADHD, the challenge ...

If You Aren't Willing to Have It (Anxiety, Fear, Doubt, Depression et al.) You Will - Understanding Acceptance

08 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Stephen Hayes, the founder of the groundbreaking therapy technique Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), says, “If you’re not willing to ha...

What if I Don't Like Marshmallows? Revisiting the "Marshmallow Test" and other Pop-psychology "Myths"

01 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Does smiling make you happier? Can you truly predict the long-term success of an adult based on their love, or lack thereof, of marshmallows in their ...

Habit, Addict or Unconscious Response? The Latest Research on Why We Do What We Do!

22 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Did you know that more than 40 percent of everything you do is habitual? Are you addicted to your phone or social media? Or are you simply responding ...

Dealing with Discomfort In Relationships...and Life!

15 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Tony dissects a couple's potentially destructive conversation, examining discomfort and anxiety's role in our relationships. He also talks about the c...

Listen to Your Gut: What Your Tummy Tells You About Your Anxiety - Camila Smith, LCSW

08 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Tony welcomes Camila Smith, LCSW, to the Virtual Couch. Camila is a psychotherapist, educator, and the Chief Clinical Officer of Bekome (http://joinbe...

McKinley Overbay - When Your Moment of Insane Courage Leads to Big Change…and a Little Bit of Throw Up

02 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Virtual Couch favorite, and Tony's daughter, McKinley "Mackie" Overbay joins the podcast to talk about some big changes happening in her life, and how...

Eating Chocolate - An Emotional Control Strategy or a Way to Stay Present?

01 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Exercise, meditation, prayer, and eating good food all sound like wonderful, emotional-baseline-raising activities. But depending on how you're doing ...

You Say Faith Crisis, I Say Faith Journey - Understanding Both Sides of the Fence of Faith

25 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Tony shares new information from a recent speaking event addressing the challenges of navigating a faith journey. He talks about how difficult it is t...

10 Predictors of a Bad Romantic Relationship Explained

18 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Tony shares and responds to the article “The 10 Best Predictors of a Bad Romantic Relationship” by Seth Gillihan, PhD https://www.psychologytoday....

Tackling Trauma - More Lessons from "The Body Keeps the Score"

11 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

"If you feel safe and loved, your brain becomes specialized in exploration, play, and cooperation; if you are frightened and unwanted, it specializes ...

The Psychology of the Churro - 8 Mental Health Lessons Learned from a Disneyland Christmas

04 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Tony shares 8 mental health lessons learned from a Christmas spent at Disneyland. 1) You’ll never really know something until you experience it. 2) ...

BONUS - The ONLY Goal Setting Episode You'll Ever Need w/Neal Hooper, Creator of The Achievement Tribe

01 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Happy New Year! Whether or not you may be thinking about setting New Year’s resolutions or goals, or you absolutely detest the entire concept around...

The Fun Habit - An Examination of Modern Approaches to Happiness w/Michael Rucker Ph.D.

29 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Tony interviews Michael Rucker, Ph.D. In 2016, Michael experienced a series of serious setbacks that caused him to challenge the tools he had built ov...

Whether You Can or Can't You Are Correct! Exploring the Expectation Effect w/Nate Christensen APCC

20 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Henry Ford once said, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.” Tony Overbay, LMFT, welcomes Nate Christensen, APCC, back ...

The Very Most Bestest Way to Change - aka Cognitive Flexibility

14 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Tony tackles an essential skill needed for lasting change, "cognitive flexibility," from the book ACT Made Simple - Second Edition by Russ Harris http...

Hold Up, I Can't Do That...Says Who? Losing our Limiting Beliefs

07 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You can't run marathons after 50! You can't change your career after you've invested so much time and energy into it! Dads don't get all up in their f...

ACT Helps You Do Life Better - Period! Dr. Michael Twohig on Anxiety, OCD, Trauma, and More

30 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Michael Twohig joins Tony to talk about his early involvement in the then “new kid on the psychology block,” acceptance and commitment therapy...

Gratitude Makes You Poop!

23 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The science is solid; gratitude makes you poop! We often hear that we need to be more grateful to truly be happy. Is gratitude simply born of pop-psyc...

Waving the White Flag Against Violent Communication - A Waking Up to Narcissism Crossover Episode

16 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Thanks for a slight error in uploading the correct file on Tony's "Waking Up to Narcissism" podcast; he shares the correct episode as a "crossover" on...

Reaction vs. Response - How to “Slow Your Roll”

09 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

When met with an unexpected situation, do you react or respond? And what is the difference? According to Dr. Matt James, while some people use the wor...

The Benefits of Being Authentic, Healthy Ego vs Narcissism, and Non-Violent Communication

02 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How do you know what you don’t know? Tony shares an example of what it feels like to speak to a group of people when you seek validation versus spea...

Preston Pugmire on Discovering Your Mission, Values, and Purpose

26 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Preston Pugmire is the host of the Next Level Life podcast, an award-winning life coach, and co-creator of The Magnetic Marriage couples communication...

Attention ALL Parents! Part 2 - Navigating the "Family System," the Role of "Presence and Radiance" and You Really Are Trying Your Best!

19 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Part 2 Tony discusses the challenges of modern-day parenting youth who have grown up with technology at their fingertips from birth. He reads a questi...

Attention ALL Parents! Parenting IS More Difficult These Days - Here's Why and What to Do (Part 1)

12 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Tony talks about the challenges of parenting modern-day youth who have grown up with technology at their fingertips from birth. He discusses the infor...

Stop Being So Clingy! Why Anxiously Attached People Can Be Exhaustingly Amazing!

05 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Tony explains what it means to be anxiously attached and how emotionally draining it is to be in a relationship with someone who has an anxious attach...

Exploring a Better Way to Think About Your Thoughts

28 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Tony shares his thoughts on how to think better about how you think. You think the thoughts you do because you're the only version of you ever to walk...

Monica Tanner on the "Secrets of Happily Ever After" in Marriage

22 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Monica Tanner, the host of the Secrets of Happily Ever After podcast, joins Tony to talk about the secrets of achieving "happily ever after" in your m...

Therapy, Narcissistic Leaders, and Healthy Ego - Kurt Francom Interviews Tony Overbay on Leading Saints

13 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Tony Overbay, LMFT, was interviewed by Kurt Francom, executive director of LeadingSaints.org and the Leading Saints podcast host. They covered the top...

Don't Go to Bed Angry, A Penny Saved is a Penny Earned, Don't Judge - Debunking Modern Day Proverbs

08 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Is it truly better to stay up until all hours of the morning while reaching the depths of sleep deprivation to "work things out" with your spouse, or ...

Finally THE Blueprint for Happiness (part 1 of 2)

31 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Tony shares part 1 of a 2-part podcast on his "blueprint to happiness." Tony goes back to the beginning, YOUR beginning, as he starts from birth in de...

What it Feels Like to Be YOU (And Why So Many People Think They Know YOU Better Than YOU!)

25 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

YOU are truly one-of-a-kind, the only version of YOU that ever walked the face of the earth. And because of that, you truly feel, think and behave the...

The Secret to Emotional Growth and Maturity w/Nate Christensen, APCC

17 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Tony welcomes Nate Christensen, APCC and host of the podcast "Working Change," with his wife Marla https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/working-chang...

Alana and Luke Gordon On Navigating Betrayal Trauma - Love, Honesty and Control (You Can Only Pick 2)

10 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Alana Gordon and her husband Luke share their story of the highs and lows of navigating a marriage after discovering Luke’s pornography and sex addi...

Examining 4 Marriage Myths - From Russ Harris's Book "ACT With Love"

03 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Tony talks about his "aha" moment when attending a wedding over the past weekend of why marriages begin with a lot of pressure and unrealized expectat...

You Are What You Think...Or You Think What You Are? Looking at Implicit vs Explicit Memory

28 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Does it really matter what you do throughout the day concerning your mental health? Tony tackles the impact of implicit memory and how the "flow of ex...

The Positive Aspects of Negativity - Why Dissatisfaction is Hardwired

21 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

With all of the amazing advances in technology, the increased awareness of our mental health, and apps, shows, programs, and therapists at our fingert...

Therapy Tips For When You Can't See a Therapist (featuring The Angry Therapist)

13 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Tony shares his thoughts on John Kim's, aka "The Angry Therapist" article "7 Tips for Dealing with Life if You Can't Afford a Therapist," https://www....

Why It's Important to Forgive but Not Necessarily to Forget

08 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We've all heard the old adage, "you need to forgive and forget." But how hard is it to try to forget something that someone has done to you that cause...

Creating Intimacy vs. Seeking Validation in Marriage, Exploring our “Shadows” and Narcissism or Emotional Immaturity w/ Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

30 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife makes her 4th appearance on the Virtual Couch podcast! Tony and Jennifer discuss the difference between coaching and thera...

13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do - Amy Morin, LCSW

21 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Tony discusses Amy Morin, LCSW's article "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do." https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-mentally-strong-peo...

How To Turn Big Emotions into Healing - Taming Your Trauma

16 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes we don't realize how childhood trauma can show up in adulthood. Even the most supportive parents often tell children "not to worry about it,...

Understanding Emotional Invalidation - Why Some People Don't Feel Safe in Conversations

09 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Understanding Emotional Invalidation - Why Some People Don't Feel Safe in Conversations. Tony refers to the article What Is Emotional Invalidation by ...

Doomscrolling! When You Just Can't Stop Scrolling Through The Ick!

02 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Tony explains "Doomscrolling," or when one feels like they can't break loose from continually scrolling through newsfeeds, or social media despite the...

Sorry...I'm Probably Saying This Wrong! Understanding Rejection Sensitivity

26 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever felt like you were anticipating rejection as you approached a person, or situation that you believed truly mattered to you? If so, you m...

Shame, Shame Go Away...And Don't Come Back Another Day!

17 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Why do we often default to shame? Tony Overbay, LMFT, often says that in working with individuals trying to overcome addiction or trying to be the ver...

Virtual Couch Bookclub - Tony and Nate Christensen, APCC Review "Dopamine Nation," by Anna Lembke

03 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Nate Christensen, APCC and host of the Working Change podcast, joins Tony to discuss "Dopamine Nation, Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence" by An...

How to Improve Your Marriage in 45 Minutes or Less - Understanding Influence vs. Control

27 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What is the difference between influence, control, and love? Is there room in a relationship to influence your partner, or do you simply need to let t...

Stop Trying to Think You're Way Out of a Thinking Problem

20 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Is it better to try and think your way out of, or through your problems or are you only making things worse? How can simply acknowledging your issues,...

Do You Want Advice, or Do You Want Validation?

13 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Tony asks the question, are you really looking for advice or validation? Tony reads Hunter S. Thompson's iconic "Letter on Finding Your Purpose and Li...

Hope in Healing - Working w/Couples Through Betrayal, Pornography and Shame w/Sam Tielemans LMFT

06 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Tony welcomes therapist and friend Sam Tielemans, LMFT, to the Virtual Couch. They cover topics from shame's role in furthering addictive behaviors to...

Alexa's Road to Recovery - My Daughter Alexa Shares the Struggles of Recovering from a Devastating Accident

30 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On Saturday, February 5th, my daughter, Alexa, drove to the gym after completing a week in the externship of her dreams. She was just a few months shy...

BONUS Discussing Depression with Professional Comedian Paul Gilmartin - Host of the Mental Illness Happy Hour

24 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Paul Gilmartin, comedian, and host of the Mental Illness Happy Hour podcast talks about his own struggles with depression, what led him to start his p...

Sure You're Cute, But Can We Talk? - Rediscovering the Levels of Intimacy

23 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Tony revisits the "Levels of Intimacy." Physical attraction may be enough to bring a couple together initially but is it enough to sustain a relations...

Analysis Paralysis - When Not Making a Choice is the Choice You Make

16 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by the number of options in front of you? Whether it is what show to begin on Netflix, Hulu, Prime, or HBO, what major...

A Marriage Therapist's 11 Tips for a Happier Marriage

09 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

After working with well over 1,000 couples as a marriage therapist, Tony Overbay, LMFT, gives his top 11 tips to a happier marriage. If you are intere...

Have You Ever Wondered if YOU Have ADHD? Exploring the 7 Types of ADD/ADHD

03 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Tony gives an update on his personal journey with Attention Deficit Disorder. Tony discusses the 7 types of ADD from Daniel Amen's book "Healing ADD -...

Tony's Pre-Therapy Check List w/Bonus "Why Are Relationships Complicated?"

22 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Recently, Tony had a couple of clients return to his couch after a several-year gap. One client asked Tony if he could sum up everything that the clie...

Why We Need People - The Rules for Constructive Communication

17 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Tony dives into the research of why we need connection with others from Sue Johnson's book "Hold Me Tight." And he then shares his Rules Of Constructi...

Lessons Learned Through Tragedy (At Least Until a Time Machine is Invented)

09 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Is tragedy necessary for growth? Tony shares his personal experience of trying to navigate the complex emotions around a car crash involving his daugh...

Dealing With Things You Don't Want To Deal With - Psychological Flexibility

02 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you often find yourself in situations or circumstances that you never asked for? If so, a) you are a human being, and b) there are tools available ...

Right? Wrong? It's All About Context!

26 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Tony shares how understanding context can help one understand others. Tony references the article "The Importance of Context when Diagnosing Mental Di...

Let's Have a Positive Discussion about Voldemort...I Mean Pornography (part 1 of 2)

19 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Tony shares his thoughts on how to best talk about a topic that carries with it so much fear, guilt, and shame...pornography! In part 1 of 2, Tony tal...

The Dangerous Dance of the Avoidant/Anxiously Attached Couple

11 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Over time, many couples find themselves in a familiar pursue/withdrawal relationship. One partner may feel like they are doing everything in the relat...

The Need for Self-Care w/Suzanne Falter - Podcast Host and Author of "The Extremely Busy Woman's Guide to Self-Care"

04 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Tony interviews award-winning author and podcast host Suzanne Falter. They discuss the importance of self-care and the touching story of Suzanne's dau...

What Have We Learned in 2021? Communication, Differentiation, and You Don't Know What You Don't Know!

30 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Tony shares 4 of his top takeaways from another year of podcasting, including a quick review of his 4 Pillars of a Connected Conversation, how importa...

The ONLY Goal Setting Episode You'll Ever Need w/Neal Hooper host of The Happiness Playbook

21 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Neal Hooper, the host of The Happiness Playbook podcast and creator of The Achievement Tribe, a comprehensive goal achievement experience, joins Tony ...

All Up in Your Feelings? One Simple Tool to Get Out of Your Head and Back into Your Life!

15 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever found yourself all “up in your feelings?” Or how often do you feel angry, frustrated, depressed, or anxious? One of the most benefic...

Why Wanting to Be Happy May Backfire

07 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Happiness, as one client shared, is like the carrot at the end of a stick, and you’re holding the stick. The more effort you take in trying to reach...

Night Owl vs Morning Lark - When Is the Best Time to Make a Decision?

29 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What is the best time of day to make a decision? And what are the differences between morning “larks” vs night owls when it comes to decision maki...

Seeing is Believing? No, it’s the Other Way Around! Plus Many More Fascinating Facts About Our Minds w/Nate Christensen, APCC

22 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nate Christensen, APCC, makes his record fourth appearance on The Virtual Couch to talk more about our minds and the stories they tell us to try and m...

Why Opposites Don't Attract PLUS Tony's New Parenting Course is Part of Nate Bagley's Relationship Mastery Pack!

17 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Tony shares why opposites don't attract in the long run and why ultimately we like people who are more similar to us. PLUS Nate Bagley, relationship r...

Why We Care What Others Think - The Need for External Validation

10 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Tony explores why where the need for external validation comes from. Why do we care what others think? And why the need for external validation is the...

Now It Makes More Sense! How Context Creates Connected Conversations

02 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Each of us is a unique mixture of life experiences, and we bring all of those experiences into our conversations with others. In today's episode, Tony...

Am I the Narcissist? Exploring Narcissistic Traits and Tendencies (from the Waking Up to Narcissism podcast)

28 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Tony introduces his latest podcast, "Waking Up to Narcissism." In this crossover episode, Tony shares that narcissistic tendencies or traits can come ...

Hey, I Love The Way You're Reading The Title of This Episode - Why We Need More Compliments in Our Lives

26 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Are compliments ever a bad thing? And how important is the delivery of a compliment? Are people genuinely going over your compliments with a spell che...

Did You Hear the Latest? Psychologists Say Gossip is a Social Skill!

20 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Tony talks about gossip as a social skill. According to the article, "Psychologists say that gossiping is a social skill. Here's how to know if you're...

How Certain Are You? Exploring Memory Through Popular Myths

12 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How certain are you about the facts of your experiences? Better yet, does it truly matter to be certain? Would you rather be right, or would you rathe...

Tony Speaking at Leading Saints LIVE October 16, 2021 - Narrowing the Gap w/God, Mental Health, Faith Journeys, Communication and More!

07 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Tony will be speaking at the Leading Saints LIVE event on October 16th, 2021, from 1:00 PM to 5:00 PM at the Wallsburg Town Hall, 70 W Main Canyon Roa...

To Be Heard Is To Be Healed - Connecting the 4 Pillars of Communication

05 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Tony describes in detail how his "4 Pillars of a Connected Conversation" works, including how to apply the 4 Pillars in any conversation where you fee...

Give Yourself A Little Grace, Change Takes Time!

28 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Despite what you hear from the self-help world change takes time, so it is important to give yourself a little more grace. If beating yourself up was ...

The Need to Finish Things Meets Procrastination - How the Ziegarnik Effect Impacts Mental Health

22 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Tony talks about why unfinished tasks take up so much emotional energy and why, even with this knowledge, it can be so challenging to begin even the m...

What's Stopping You? Discovering the "You" in Be-You-Tiful w/McKinley Overbay

14 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Tony welcomes his daughter McKinley (Mackie) back to The Virtual Couch. Mackie talks about what it took for her to shed the “shoulds” in her life,...

How to Be Happy...Scientifically Speaking

08 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Tony breaks down Douglas Kenrick, PhD's article "7 Scientifically Supported Steps to Happiness," https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sex-murder-a...

How to Rebuild Trust w/ Geoff Steurer, LMFT Host of From Crisis to Connection

31 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Geoff Steurer, LMFT talks with Tony about how to rebuild trust in a relationship even after situations that couples believed they would a) never stand...

Why Am I the Last Person to Know What to Do with My Life?

25 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

If you want to know what you need to do with your life, ask somebody close to you. Chances are they'll immediately have an opinion. But when they do s...

Take Control Of Your Own Life w/Preston Pugmire Host of Next Level Life

17 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Tony welcomes Magnetic Marriage co-creator Preston Pugmire, host of the Next Level Life Podcast, and award-winning life coach, onto the show to talk a...

Let Your Values Guide You to Happiness, Purpose, and Connection

11 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Tony shares why values are so important, and how a thought truly is simply a thought...thoughts do not always lead to action. He also describes the mo...

Putting the Light Into Gaslight - Exploring the 4 Types of Gaslighting

04 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The phrase "gaslighting" is making the rounds lately, and with the increased awareness around the term, many people are accusing their spouses, parent...

All You Need is Love...But What Kind of Love? Simplifying Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love

28 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In English, we use the word love to describe a variety of emotional states. Are we talking about passionate love, intimate love, committed love, uncon...

What I Did During My Summer Vacation (aka A Therapist's Take on Disneyland)

21 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Tony talks about the mental health and life lessons learned on a recent trip to Disneyland, including the brain’s fascination with anticipation vs...

Your Brain Doesn't Have a Delete Button - A Thought is a Thought, a Feeling is a Feeling

14 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What do you do with those pesky unwanted, irrational, and sometimes downright inappropriate or scary thoughts? Hint - trying to stop them, push them a...

You Can Have Control, or Love...Pick One

06 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In adult relationships, you can have control or love, but not both. In today’s episode, Tony takes a look at the concept of control. While control m...

The Super Power of Struggle! Modeling a Growth vs. Fixed Mindset Sets Your Kids Up for Greater Success

30 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Want to help your kids succeed? Let them see you struggle, let them see you fail, let them know you are human! Tony talks about a fascinating study ou...

Healing From Betrayal Trauma with Brannon Patrick, Host of The Betrayed, The Addicted and The Expert

24 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Tony talks about processing betrayal trauma with Brannon Patrick. Brannon Patrick is an expert in the field of Betrayal Trauma, and he plays the role ...

Whose Life Are You Really Living? A Deep Dive into Differentiation

22 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Tony discusses the 4 Steps of Differentiation from the article "Psychological Differentiation" from https://www.psychalive.org/psychological-differen...

How Attachment Styles Effect Relationships, Addiction, and more w/Nate Christensen APCC

15 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nate Christensen, APCC, joins Tony to discuss attachment styles and how they relate to addiction, and how attachment shows up in marriage. Out of the ...