Episode Highlights With Dr. ShefaliWhy she wrote this parenting book and how this one is the how-to for parentsHow we can move away from control and into connection with our kidsThe chaos and nonsense we can create as parents without realizing itHow parents accidentally create the cycle of dysfunction in familiesNo human being likes to be controlled and how this control backfires with childrenHow to depersonalize interactions with our kids to calm the situationAnytime you perceive it as a loss of control, you are going to lose controlWhy kids aren’t trying to be disrespectful and when we fail to understand what is going on under the behavior, we create more of their behaviorLooking for Signs: Something inside gone negativeThe three reasons children misbehave: lack of skill, lack of life experience, lack of worth and how to help each of theseWhat a savior complex is and how it harms our relationship with our childrenHow showing up as the savior disempowers them and makes things tougher in the long runWays to teach our children to carry to oars of their own savingDevelopmentally appropriate ways to nurture this in our childrenWhy she claims that our children don’t owe us respect (and I agree)How punishment and learning are opposed and how to actually help them learnWhy not to have outcome focused parenting (trying to raise happy, successful children) and how this can keep them from being in touch with their feelingsTeach your children to be authentic instead of teaching them to be happyCreating successful children is an unhealthy goal, and what to do insteadHow to navigate this method of parenting when parents disagree on method of parentingWhat to do when kids are angry, disrespectful, unmotivated, or lie and how to build better connection in these instancesIt’s about being more conscious not perfectResources We MentionThe Parenting Map: Step-by-Step Solutions to Consciously Create the Ultimate Parent-Child Relationship by Dr. Shefali TsabaryThe Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children by Dr. Shefali TsabaryThe Awakened Family: How to Raise Empowered, Resilient, and Conscious Children by Dr. Shefali TsabaryDr. Shefali - WebsiteThe Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

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