In this episode of The Worst Girl Gang Ever, Mäela shares her story with honesty, courage, and a depth that stays with you long after the conversation ends. She opens up about experiencing multiple miscarriages, the quiet devastation that so often gets minimised, and the way women are expected to carry on as if nothing happened.Mäela takes us through the moment her pregnancy changed forever, when she received a life-altering diagnosis for her unborn child - complete AVSD - and the impossible reality of making a decision no parent should ever have to face. She speaks candidly about termination for medical reasons, the layers of grief that followed, and the added weight of societal judgement that so often surrounds these experiences.Alongside her personal loss, Mäela reflects on returning to work as a midwife, where holding space for others while tending to her own grief was both deeply challenging and unexpectedly grounding. She also names the impact of systemic racism within maternal healthcare, and how being a woman of colour intensified the barriers she faced - from pregnancy care to accessing mental health support after loss.This episode is a powerful reminder of why these conversations matter. It’s about resilience, about being believed and supported, and about the absolute necessity of compassionate, inclusive care. Above all, Mäela’s story speaks to the importance of community - of finding people who understand, who don’t judge, and who will sit with you in the hardest moments.We are The Worst Girl Gang Ever Foundation. We’re all about bringing people together who are going through the tough stuff — baby loss, infertility, and everything in between — and making sure no one has to face it alone. Our community is full of honesty, compassion, and real talk, offering support, understanding, and hope when it’s needed most. You can find out more and connect with us over at www.theworstgirlgangever.co.uk

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