The Zachary Stockill Podcast

5 Relationship Green Flags When Choosing a Wife or Girlfriend [VIDEO]

16 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Zachary Stockill: In today’s video, I want to talk about something you don’t hear about nearly enough when it comes to dating and relationships: g...

Rejection and Retroactive Jealousy: Why It Hurts So Much [VIDEO]

10 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Zachary Stockill: In today’s video, we’re talking about a powerful trigger for a lot of people struggling with retroactive jealousy: rejection. If...

Retroactive Jealousy or Wrong Relationship? How to Know [VIDEO]

03 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m answering a question I hear all the time from people dealing with unwanted intrusive thoughts about their partner’s past: ...

Guys: AVOID This Bad Habit for Retroactive Jealousy [VIDEO]

17 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Zachary Stockill: In today’s video, I want to talk to the men in my audience who struggle with retroactive jealousy, and ask a simple question: Coul...

People Who Beat Retroactive Jealousy Fast Do THIS [VIDEO]

10 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

The Common Characteristics of People Who Beat Retroactive Jealousy Fast You can watch the full video version of this article here: Zachary Stockill: W...

Is Retroactive Jealousy About YOUR Past? Consider This [VIDEO]

03 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I respond to a viewer who wonders “Is retroactive jealousy about my past?” Read or watch below to learn more about the connect...

“Why Did My Partner Have Flings?” A Few Thoughts [VIDEO]

27 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I respond to a viewer who wonders “Why did my partner have flings?”. Read or watch below to learn more about how to deal with ...

How To Start Letting Go of Jealousy In Your Relationship [VIDEO]

20 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss how to beat jealousy in your relationship. Zachary Stockill: Many of the people in my audience are not only dealing with...

Self-Care and Retroactive Jealousy: This Helps [VIDEO]

13 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss self-care and retroactive jealousy in relationships. Read or watch below to learn strategies for managing self-care and ...

“Why Is She Friends With Her Ex?” A Few Thoughts [VIDEO]

06 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I offer a few thoughts on why she might be friends with her ex. Read or watch below to learn strategies for dealing with feelings ...

“Take Her OFF the Pedestal:” A Message for Men [VIDEO]

16 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss how men can “take her off the pedestal.” Read or watch below to learn strategies to take her off the pedestal. Zacha...

Getting Unstuck With Retroactive Jealousy: Here’s How [VIDEO]

09 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss how to handle getting unstuck with retroactive jealousy Read or watch below to learn strategies for getting unstuck with...

PROJECTING Retroactive Jealousy Onto Your Partner [VIDEO]

25 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss how to handle projecting retroactive jealousy onto your partner. Read or watch below to learn strategies for dealing wit...

“Regular Jealousy” versus Retroactive Jealousy: Differences? [VIDEO]

18 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss regular jealousy versus retroactive jealousy. Read or watch below to learn strategies for dealing with regular jealousy ...

Retroactive Jealousy Destroying Relationship? Consider This [VIDEO]

11 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss how to handle retroactive jealousy destroying relationship. Read or watch below to learn strategies for dealing with ret...

COST Of The Red Pill: Guys, Consider This [VIDEO]

04 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss the cost of The Red Pill in relationships. Read or watch below to learn strategies for understanding the true cost of Th...

CHANGE Your Perspective on the Past: How to Do It [VIDEO]

28 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss how to change your perspective on the past. Read or watch below to learn how to change your perspective on the past so y...

Wrong Relationship or Retroactive Jealousy? A Few Thoughts [VIDEO]

07 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss how to handle the question: Are you in the wrong relationship or is it retroactive jealousy? Read or watch below to lear...

Avoid Love to Avoid Retroactive Jealousy? My Thoughts [VIDEO]

16 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss what it means to avoid love to avoid retroactive jealousy—and whether that mindset truly helps you heal Read or watch ...

“Anxiety About Partner’s Past… What to Do?” [VIDEO]

09 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss how to handle anxiety about a partner’s past behaviours. Read or watch below to learn strategies for dealing with anxi...

“WHY Does She Talk About Her Past?” A Few Thoughts [VIDEO]

19 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I address the question: “Why does she talk about her past?“ Read or watch below to learn “Why does she talk about her past?”...

“Boyfriend Struggles With Retroactive Jealousy… What to Do?” [VIDEO]

05 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Zachary Stockill: If you’re someone who struggles with retroactive jealousy—meaning you’re dealing with unwanted, intrusive thoughts about your ...

After I Beat Retroactive Jealousy: What Came Next? [VIDEO]

22 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I share how dating changed after I beat retroactive jealousy and set boundaries Read or watch below to learn how I navigated relat...

“Videos Of My Girlfriend And Her Ex… How to Forget?” [VIDEO]

08 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I respond to a viewer who is concerned about “videos of my girlfriend and her ex.” Read or watch below to learn more about how...

How Roberta Overcame Retroactive Jealousy (Incredible Story) [VIDEO]

24 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to go into the story of how Roberta overcame retroactive jealousy and turned her relationship around. Read or watch be...

“Girlfriend Told Me Her Ex Was Better… What to Do?” [VIDEO]

17 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I respond to a reader who writes “My girlfriend told me her ex was better.” Read or watch below to learn strategies for dealin...

Coaching for Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy: Paul’s Story [VIDEO]

10 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss coaching for overcoming retroactive jealousy, and share a remarkable story from a recent client. Read or watch below to ...

“INDIFFERENT to My Partner’s Past… Is That The Goal?” [VIDEO]

03 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss whether overcoming retroactive jealousy means being “indifferent to my partner’s past.” Read or watch below to lea...

“Being Apart Makes Retroactive Jealousy Worse… What to Do?” [VIDEO]

20 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I respond to a reader who writes “being apart makes retroactive jealousy worse,” and how to handle it in a long-distance relat...

How Men Can Increase Attraction in Relationships [VIDEO]

13 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I share some thoughts on how men can increase attraction in relationships. Read or watch below to learn strategies on how men can ...

Should You Accept Retroactive Jealousy Triggers? [VIDEO]

06 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I respond to the question: “Should you accept retroactive jealousy triggers?“ Read or watch below to hear my response to: Shou...

Retroactive Jealousy Mistakes to AVOID: Listen to This [VIDEO]

06 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss common retroactive jealousy mistakes to avoid. Read or watch below to learn about retroactive jealousy mistakes to avoid...

“Retroactive Jealousy Flaring Up When I Consider Proposing…” [VIDEO]

29 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss how to handle retroactive jealousy flaring up around the topic of long-term commitment. Read or watch below to learn str...

“What If She Is Comparing Me to Her Ex? Help!” [VIDEO]

22 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I respond to a viewer who writes “What if my wife is comparing me to her ex?” and what to do when these thoughts take over. Re...

Hidden Cost of Retroactive Jealousy: Consider THIS [VIDEO]

15 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about the hidden cost of retroactive jealousy. Read or watch below to learn more about the hidden cost of retr...

How To Overcome Regrets In Life: My Thoughts [VIDEO]

08 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I speak about how to overcome regrets in life. Watch below to learn about how to overcome regrets in life. Zachary Stockill: If yo...

Retroactive Jealousy and Religion: Connection? [VIDEO]

01 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss the connection between retroactive jealousy and religion. Read or watch the video below to explore further. Zachary Stoc...

“Is Retroactive Jealousy A Real Thing?” My Thoughts [VIDEO]

25 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss whether retroactive jealousy is a “real thing,” and address common misconceptions about it. Read or watch below to h...

“Is Marriage Necessary In The Modern Age?” My Thoughts [VIDEO]

18 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I respond to a viewer question asking whether is marriage necessary in our modern world. Read or watch below to learn more about t...

Putting Your Partner On A Pedestal: Why It’s a Problem [VIDEO]

11 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss the issues that come with putting your partner on a pedestal and how it can affect your relationship. Read or watch belo...

Your Beliefs And Retroactive Jealousy: Time to Change? [VIDEO]

04 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss how your beliefs and retroactive jealousy are connected and what you can do to address them. Read or watch below to lear...

How To Escape The Red Pill: Watch This [VIDEO]

25 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss how to escape the red pill and why it’s important to find balance in your perspective on relationships Read or watch b...

Concerns About Your Partner’s Past: What to Do [VIDEO]

18 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss concerns about your partner’s past and how to manage these feelings for a healthier relationship. Read or watch below ...

“Do NOT Want Details About Her Past… Still Retroactive Jealousy?” [VIDEO]

11 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I address a viewer question: “I do not want details about her past… Is this still considered retroactive jealousy?” Read or ...

Dead Bedrooms And Retroactive Jealousy: Here’s My Take [VIDEO]

04 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about dead bedrooms and retroactive jealousy. Read or watch below to discover how dead bedrooms and retroactiv...

AVOID This Retroactive Jealousy Blunder [VIDEO]

28 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss how to avoid a common retroactive jealousy blunder. Read or watch below to learn more about how to avoid this common ret...

My Strangest Retroactive Jealousy Advice Is… [VIDEO]

21 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to share my strangest retroactive jealousy advice. Read or watch below to learn more about my strangest retroactive je...

How to STOP One Vicious Cycle Of Retroactive Jealousy [VIDEO]

14 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about one vicious cycle of retroactive jealousy and how it can impact relationships. Read or watch below to le...

Retroactive Jealousy With An Oversharing Partner: My Thoughts [VIDEO]

07 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss how to handle retroactive jealousy with an oversharing partner. Read or watch below to learn strategies for dealing with...

Breaking Up Because Of Your Partner’s Past? [VIDEO]

17 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss breaking up because of your partner’s past Read or watch below if you’re considering breaking up because of your par...

“Should I Know My Girlfriend’s Number?” My Thoughts [VIDEO]

10 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s article, I respond to a reader question: “Should I know my girlfriend’s ‘number’?” “Should I know my girlfriend’s number?”...

Is The ‘Red Pill’ Making Men Bitter? Listen To THIS [VIDEO]

03 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I speak about the ‘Red Pill’ making men bitter,’ and how it is affecting their relationships and outlook on dating. Read or ...

ESSENTIAL Advice for Beating Retroactive Jealousy: Listen to This [VIDEO]

26 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss essential advice for beating retroactive jealousy. Read or watch below to learn more about some essential advice for bea...

Vetting For A Long-Term Relationship? DON’T Do This [VIDEO]

19 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I want to discuss one of the main mistakes guys make when vetting for a long-term relationship. Read or watch below to learn more ...

BIGGEST Mistake With Retroactive Jealousy: Beware [VIDEO]

12 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I want to talk about the biggest mistake I made when I struggled with retroactive jealousy. Read or watch below to learn more abou...

Retroactive Jealousy and Questions About Values: Listen to This [VIDEO]

05 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I will discuss retroactive jealousy and explore questions about values in relationships. Read or watch below to learn about retroa...

How To Cope When Your Partner’s Past Intrudes: 4 Tips [VIDEO]

29 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about how to cope when your partner’s past intrudes on daily life. Read or watch below to learn more about h...

The BIGGEST Dating Secret For Men (Controversial) [VIDEO]

22 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about what I see as the biggest dating secret for men. Read or watch below to discover the biggest dating secr...

Getting Back With an Ex With Retroactive Jealousy [VIDEO]

15 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about what it’s like getting back with an ex and dealing with retroactive jealousy. Read or watch below to l...

How One Man Overcame Retroactive Jealousy: Listen to This

01 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, we delve into a compelling narrative of how one man overcame retroactive jealousy, revealing his transformative journey. Read or w...

What Are “Good” Problems? A Few Thoughts [VIDEO]

24 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about “What are good problems?,” a concept that can transform the way we perceive challenges in our lives....

Overcoming LIFELONG Retroactive Jealousy: Simon’s Story [VIDEO]

17 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to share insights on overcoming lifelong retroactive jealousy from a RJ survivor. Read or watch below to discover Simo...

How To Discover Your Girlfriend’s Values: Listen To This [VIDEO]

03 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to tell you how to discover your girlfriend’s values and start understanding her on a deeper level.  Read or watch ...

Limiting Beliefs And Retroactive Jealousy: A Few Thoughts [VIDEO]

27 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today, I want to speak to men who are having issues with both limiting beliefs and retroactive jealousy. Today, I will address an audience that suffer...

Zachary Stockill Interview for The Vitor Vicente Podcast

13 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Recently, I appeared on The Vitor Vicente Interview for a wide-ranging conversation on retroactive jealousy, relationships, men’s issues, The Red Pi...

When Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy Is Impossible [VIDEO]

30 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I tackle the issue of ‘when overcoming retroactive jealousy is impossible’ and offer a fresh perspective on it. Read or watch ...

Retroactive Jealousy And Relationship Damage: How to Fix It [VIDEO]

23 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’ll talk about retroactive jealousy and relationship damage. Read on or watch below to learn more about retroactive jealousy an...

Retroactive Jealousy At Work: How to Deal With It [VIDEO]

16 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I speak about retroactive jealousy at work, and maintaining productivity and focus on your professional responsibilities. Read or ...

How To Beat Intrusive Thoughts: Listen To This [VIDEO]

09 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I want to talk about how to beat intrusive thoughts. Read or watch below to learn more about how to beat intrusive thoughts.  Za...

Relationship Trade-Offs: How to Strike The Right Balance [VIDEO]

24 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about relationship trade-offs. Read or watch below to learn more about relationship trade-offs. Zachary Stocki...

My Personal Experience With Retroactive Jealousy: 10+ Years Later [VIDEO]

17 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’ll talk about my personal experience with retroactive jealousy. Read or watch below to learn more about my personal experience...

DANGER of The Red Pill: Listen to This [VIDEO]

11 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to discuss the danger of the Red Pill online men’s movement. Read or watch below to learn about the danger of The Re...

How To CONQUER Retroactive Jealousy: Listen to This [VIDEO]

04 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about how to conquer retroactive jealousy. Read or watch below to learn more about how to conquer retroactive ...

How To Stay Present With Retroactive Jealousy [VIDEO]

28 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about how to stay present when you’re struggling with retroactive jealousy. Read or watch below to learn mor...

“Anti-Role Models”: Try This To Gain Clarity and Motivation [VIDEO]

21 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about “anti-role models,” a subject often overlooked in discussions in personal development. Read or watch...

How To Break The Retroactive Jealousy Cycle: Hear This [VIDEO]

14 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I share my view on how to break the deadly retroactive jealousy cycle. Read or watch below to learn how to break the retroactive j...

The Best Dating Advice, Period: Listen To THIS [VIDEO]

30 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to offer the best piece of dating advice that I have encountered. Read or watch below to discover the best dating advi...

How To STOP Seeking Reassurance: Listen To This [VIDEO]

23 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to tell you how to stop seeking reassurance and start building confidence in yourself and your relationships. Read or ...

“My Girlfriend’s Past Bothers Me… What Should I Do?” [VIDEO]

16 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today, I will address guys who tell me ‘My girlfriend’s past bothers me’ and explore ways to process these concerns. Read or watch below if you ...

How To Improve Your Self Talk: Listen To This [VIDEO]

09 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I share some crucial tips on how to improve your self-talk. Read or watch below to learn more about how to improve your self-talk....

“Wife’s Number Of Sexual Partners Is Higher Than Mine…” [VIDEO]

02 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I discuss the touchy topic of a ‘wife’s number of sexual partners,’ and a new way to think about it. Read or watch below to ...

How Eric Overcame Retroactive Jealousy: Listen To This [VIDEO]

26 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’ll share a story of how Eric overcame retroactive jealousy. Read on or watch below to learn more about the story of Eric, a st...

“Comparing Myself to My Boyfriend’s Ex?” Q & A [VIDEO]

19 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to attempt to answer a viewer question: “How do I stop comparing myself to my boyfriend’s ex?” Read or watch bel...

How To Build Trust In A Relationship: Listen to This [VIDEO]

12 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I want to talk about how to build trust in a relationship. I’ll share my perspective on this important topic and offer some sugg...

Your Vision For The Future: Ask Yourself THIS Question [VIDEO]

27 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to share a crucial question that I think every retroactive jealousy sufferer should ask themselves. Read or watch belo...

“Is Dating For Western Men Getting WORSE??” Q & A [VIDEO]

20 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to tell you why it’s a great time for men in the West to be dating. Read or watch below to hear my response to a com...

Difficult Moments with Retroactive Jealousy: Try THIS [VIDEO]

13 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to share a technique that’s going to help you power through difficult moments with retroactive jealousy. Read or wat...

Retroactive Jealousy Tip: Consider THIS… [VIDEO]

06 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to share a little retroactive jealousy tip that you’ve almost certainly never considered before. Read or watch below...

Living True To Your Standards Without Anger or Bitterness [VIDEO]

30 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about living true to your dating standards without anger and bitterness. Read or watch below to learn more abo...

How to PREVENT A Retroactive Jealousy Relapse: Try This [VIDEO]

23 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I talk about how to prevent a retroactive jealousy relapse at any point in the future. Read or watch below to learn more about how...

“Alpha Widows” and Retroactive Jealousy: My Thoughts [VIDEO]

16 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I offer my thoughts on the notion of “alpha widows” as it relates to “The Red Pill,” and retroactive jealousy. Read or wat...

“I’m NOT Her First Love… And She’s Mine. What To Do?” Q & A [VIDEO]

09 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I respond to a viewer who wonders what to do about an imbalance of experience in his relationship. Read or watch below to hear my ...

“EXPOSING Myself to Retroactive Jealousy Triggers..?” Q & A [VIDEO]

02 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I offer my opinion on exposing yourself to retroactive jealousy triggers. Read or watch below to hear my answer to the question, “...

Mindfulness for Retroactive Jealousy: Try THIS [VIDEO]

19 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to tell you how mindfulness for 5 minutes a day will help you start beating retroactive jealousy. Read or watch below ...

DON’T Make Your Woman Your World: What I Mean [VIDEO]

12 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about why it’s so important to “not make your woman your world.” Don’t make your woman your world… h...

What Beating Retroactive Jealousy Feels Like (Listen to This) [VIDEO]

05 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today, I will talk about what beating retroactive jealousy feels like and what keeps me motivated after 10 years of being a retroactive jealousy coach...

What I Look For In A Therapist Or Coach [VIDEO]

28 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I share my thoughts on what I look for in a therapist or a coach. Read or watch below to learn more about what I look for in a the...

The SECRET of Meditation: Listen to This [VIDEO]

21 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I talk about the secret of meditation, and discuss the misconceptions many people have about this ancient mindfulness practice. Re...

Unwanted Retroactive Jealousy Thoughts: Try THIS [VIDEO]

14 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I share a technique for dealing with unwanted retroactive jealousy thoughts. Read or watch below to learn more about overcoming un...

How to Achieve Emotional Control: Listen to This [VIDEO]

07 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about one of those skills that will improve every area of your life: emotional control. Read or watch below to...