as a chronic over thinker, I've learned that sometimes its better to do something, make a mistake, and then learn from it. not everything will be perfect. not everything needs to be perfect. you got this. https://linktr.ee/thezurkieshow
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I've always been an overthinker. I've always been that person that overcooks and thinks, well, what if what I'm saying is bad? What if the person is not going to understand what I'm trying to get across? What if me sending this meme to my crush is actually going to result in her blocking me and telling all of her friends? What just happened? No, not really.
I mean, listen, when you send somebody a chopped chin video or a Magusta face or a troll face, it's kind of like the litmus test. I've realized that that's like, you know, it's like accounting. If you're a business major, accounting a lot of the times is the class that will just destroy your GPA if you're not, you know, careful. Thankfully, I didn't take accounting because hell no.
But I've realized over the years that That overthinking, obviously, is not a good thing. It's an important thing. Thinking is very, very important. But something that helps me curb my overthinking, especially, man, when it comes to just like existing, talking to new people, when it comes to making things, that's a huge thing for me. I just remind myself that it's not that deep.
It's never been that deep. What really opened my eye to this was actually learning to be more social when I was in college. I used to think that anyone I spoke to saw every bit of my flaws.
If I had a pimple on my face, if I, you know, was feeling self-conscious about my weight that day or if I even felt like, man, I'm ugly, they were going to notice and that was going to impact the way that they were going to treat me. And I remember like having a conversation with somebody who, you know, I knew in college we were homies and they were a very attractive person.
And I remember being like, man, it's just like it must be so easy to like talk to people and just be social because like you're like a very good looking, attractive woman. And I'm, you know, whatever. And she was like, no, no. What do you mean? And I was like, I mean, hello, like you, you could be in Vogue. You could literally be invoked.
You could be living in Paris, eating a baguette and a cigarette for breakfast, and you would be fine. And she's like, Zerky, I deal with the same insecurities as anybody. And I'm like, what? I mean, some days I feel like that girl, but other days I feel fat, I feel ugly, I feel worthless. And most of the time, when people come up to me, it's a good change of pace.
I welcome it because I'm too scared to do that myself. It's interesting when you start to view people as people. You start to view your actions not through the lens of what other people will think, but of what you would think of yourself. And it's a very sobering reality that a lot of us don't act, don't do things because of fear. We're afraid. Right? Like, you don't go up to your crush.
You don't DM that person and ask them to go get coffee with you at an overpriced latte shop that sells art to. Which, I mean, that's cool. But, like, why is my coffee $20? It can be $7. And I would still be like, bruh. But, like, at least, okay. But... It really does humanize the other person and it makes you realize that we all we all have insecurities. We all are stressing about us all the time.
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