why didn't you say anything? it's because you were scared.
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Why did I not say anything? It's because I was scared. Have you ever gotten the text that says, hey, let's grab coffee from someone you haven't spoken to in a few months or even a few years? Yeah, I got that the other week. So me and a friend decided to go grab this coffee. And within the first couple of minutes of talking, I'm reminded as to why she's my friend. She's funny.
She has an infectious smile. She's just the best. And as the minutes of our conversation turn into hours and we both look at our phones, we kind of have a silent agreement that it's probably time to wrap things up. But I couldn't leave that conversation until I told her the secret. The reason why it was hard for me to keep in touch for the past three years.
I look to her and I say, I need to tell you something. She looks back at me and she says, what? And I say, I had a big crush on you. Silence. She kind of looks away and looks at me back and she's like, when? And I say immediately throughout high school, I really liked you. I really liked you. We were friends, but I just couldn't get it out of me to tell you. I just, it wasn't the time and place.
I don't know. I just couldn't do it. She's looking out the window and she looks back at me and she says, I wish you would have. I say, why? Because I had a crush on you too. Oh my gosh. Generational fumble. Atlanta Hawks at the Super Bowl level fumble. In the end, we laughed about the whole thing. I mean, she has a partner of three years. I have a partner of none.
But in the end, I really reflected on that whole situation and I thought, why did I not say anything? It's because I was scared. You should tell him. Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, Zerky. You just told us that you were scared of saying that you liked this girl. I was. So then if you're scared of something, I mean, doesn't that mean like we shouldn't do that? No. You should.
Because it's easier to deal with the pain of rejection than it is to deal with the pain of regret. rejection is temporary it comes and goes hey i like you i think you are ugly that really hurt my feelings but it is what it is and that probably won't happen but you get what i'm saying versus 10 years later hey i i like you i have a husband and kids whoa that's gonna feel some type of way
It's better to just say it. To just tell them. You like somebody. They're in your class. They sit across from you. You guys have chemistry. What are you doing? Not saying something. Well, it might be weird. Yeah, it might be weird. What's weirder though? You seeing them down the line and being like, dang, I should have said something. That's a whole lot weirder.
Sitting in that coffee shop was weird because I knew I should have said something. And that doesn't just go for relationships too. It goes for friendships. It goes for opportunities. It goes for ideas that you have in your life that you just wish you would have shared, that you would have told someone. When you don't say it, when you don't express how you feel, it bottles up.
And you become bitter. It starts to rot inside of you. Because there's nowhere for it to go. So if you just keep it in, it starts to churn and churn and churn. And that's how people become bitter. There are a lot of people...
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