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Do I even like this person? There's a question not a lot of us ask. Usually in my personal life, when I've had someone give me attention, immediately I like them. I'm like, wait a minute. This person is validating me. This person is giving me attention, even though they're kind of rotten from the inside, but they like me. It must mean I should date them.
But it isn't until we go on a few dates, it isn't until we actually begin to see the cracks of the facade that we realize something about them and about ourselves. You don't like them. You don't like them. And that is a weird thought to have because it is a guilty one. It is a guilty one after you go on a date to Chili's for $60 to realize, oh, I don't like this person.
They are not very awesome to me. They might be beautiful to somebody else, but to me, I don't like them. But that isn't a wrong thought to have. It isn't a bad thought to have. What if I told you that you realizing that you don't like them actually will save you so much time. It will save you so much energy. I see it a lot with dating. Some people will go on a second, third, fourth, fifth date.
Even though they already know. They don't like them. Well, but maybe they're going to be different. Nope. Chances are they're not going to be very different. You can always give a second chance. I'm not saying that you shouldn't go on a second date or a third date. If you like your date and you like the time you spent together, you should do more of those things.
But if you go on the first date, the second date, you hang out with them and you just get this feeling. You know the feeling I'm talking about, this like uncomfortability that just tenses your body and you're like, oh, that's cringe. Why did you just say that? I did not need to hear that. Or if they start talking about their ex that they haven't gotten over. Why are we still doing that?
Why are we still talking about our exes? If you're going on a date, leave your ex at home. It's over. You're going on a date for a reason. It's a new date with a new person. Yeah, you know, but my ex was like really important and they're like, no! Shut up. This person, that's who you're focused on.
Because you can tell very quickly when someone isn't over their ex and it's just like a waste of time. And if someone isn't over their ex, you don't like them. I'll save the thought for you. You don't like them because they're not over their ex. And their ex is going to come back knocking. Hello, I'm back. Oh, my ex is single again. Bruh. You don't like them. What do you do?
If you know you don't like them, you got to break it to them that you don't like them. You have to be honest. You have to tell him. Nah. Would you like to go on another date with me? Nah. Why? Because I'm not interested. I'm sorry. I don't want to pursue anything romantically with you. I just am not interested. And there's a difference between not liking somebody and just being nitpicky.
Because sometimes we become self-destructive and we just look for anything to not like somebody because we don't want to receive that love. And if that's the case, you got to look inward. Inward. Because you have to be open to receiving love and you have to love yourself first in order to get that, right? So if you don't want that, it's not time for you to date.
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