yes is an awesome word. but be careful with how you use it.
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Yes is an awesome word, but be careful with how you use it. Let me guess, you did it again. You had an idea, you had goals of what you wanted to do today, this week, this weekend, this month. And suddenly, someone came knocking. Or someone came calling. And they said... Hey, you know that thing that you want to do? What if you just didn't do that and instead you helped me out?
And you looked at yourself and you said, I really should lock in. I really should not do this. But you said yes. And now time has passed. And that thing you wanted to do, that self-help book you wanted to read... that place you wanted to go to, that idea you had that you wanted to finally sketch out in your journal and get to it, you didn't do it. Just say no! It's not that easy.
It's not that easy, trust me. I was a chronic over-committer. In college, I wanted to be everywhere all at once. I wanted to do everything. Hey, there's this awesome event happening over at the quad. You should be there. I'll be there. Hey, there's this incredible event that's happening at this place and this club is recruiting. You should go. I'll be there.
I said yes so much that I didn't even know how to say no anymore. And I had all these things I wanted to do for myself. I wanted to go to the gym. But I got a club meeting at 7, so I can't really do that. I wanted to play soccer. I am soccer. Dude, I'm a boss at midfield or striker. Come on. Oh, but I got this exam for this class that I got recruited for. I wanted to film a video.
But I said yes to going to this Friendsgiving, and I really don't want to go to this. Just say no. This is a life skill that once you master it, you will be in awe of how much time you actually have. And it is the hardest thing to do if you are someone who cares. And let's be real, right? You're a people pleaser. Let's be so real. You're a people pleaser. You like to make people feel good.
And sadly, for some reason, saying no has been equated with a bad thing. Yeah, he said no to this opportunity like I can't even believe it. It just didn't work. It wasn't meant to be. It's not anything against you. Like, I would have loved to go to that Friendsgiving that would have had mid-food and I probably wouldn't have eaten it and I would see people that I don't even talk to.
I would have loved to go to that. But I said, no, I don't want to because I want to read a book that I've been meaning to read. When you start saying no, you realize the power of yes. Yes. Was du aus deiner Zukunft auch machst? Wir können alles, was kommt. Das Handwerk.
When you start saying no, yes has so much more value. Because when you're dishing out nos, the yeses that you dish out, they matter. Hey, do you wanna go and hang out on this date? We're having a little bonfire, yes. Yes, I do, I wanna be there, I'll be there. Simple as that. How do you say no? How do you say no? Cause let's be real. Okay.
I'm not someone who's going to be like, you just, you go up and you say no. Like let's, okay. Let's be honest. Sometimes no is hurtful. Sometimes it is. So I'm going to give you two options. One, you can be honest. You can say, listen, I really appreciate the invite. I know it'd be a great time, but I just, I have another plan. I'm going to go through with that plan.
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