having standards for excellence and being hard on yourself are two different things, but oftentimes we just lump them together.the greats have standards, but they don't beat themselves up more than they have to.if you want to work with yourself to achieve anything in life, you must be fair. you must be able to look into your habits and lifestyle and truly acknowledge if you're doing enough.sending you all lot's of love and peaaaaaaaace!https://stan.store/thezurkieshow
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isn't being hard on yourself a good thing isn't that what we've been taught to think is what builds champions and people who do incredible things it seems like everyone all the time is telling you you're not good enough you need to do more you look at somebody online they're doing way more than you are but i'm tired bro i'm tired All the time. This standard. I'm not good enough.
I'm not doing enough. I need to be this kind of man. I need to be this kind of provider. This kind of individual. I need to be the kid that is doing better than his peers. Why? Why? Are you being fair? Are you being fair to yourself? Because I'm not. I'm not. I'm very hard on myself. Honestly, it's very hard for me to find things that I like about myself.
And that is after years of acknowledging that, yes, I am hard on myself and figuring out that, you know what, I need to take a step back and really realize that I'm doing enough. I'm doing enough. And honestly, I am not going to be perfect. And honestly, I am going to have days where I think I am a bad friend. I'm a bad collaborator. I'm behind schedule.
I will have days where I know that I could have done better, but I chose not to. I will have days that I'm not good. But that is because I'm human. And it's a weird pill to swallow, especially when, you know, we've grown up with this standard of perfection and that's what's infected all of our minds. We can't even exist normally because somebody out there is doing better than you.
But that's not being fair. Because we all start at a different point in our lives. We all start with different resources. We all start with a different idea of what life should look like. And for us to compare ourselves to each other, it's kind of foolish. Now, don't get me wrong. You know, there's also a mentality that people have, which is like, you shouldn't have any expectations.
You shouldn't have any kind of standard. And hold on, like, it's good to have standards, right? It's good to have a certain idea of the person that you want to be. But it's bad to just put it in this chokehold that that is the only thing. That is the only thing. I cannot accept that I've had a good day unless I've hit every single part of my routine. And guess what?
When I put that standard on myself, I hit none of it. I do none of it. I'm not being fair. And that expectation trickles onto other people. You start to put this kind of pressure on other people and you think that that's okay. And it's not. It's not because it's not fair. We've done that now with dating.
A lot of us have super high standards and it's like half the things we don't even do ourselves. We just demand it from other people because we think we can demand it from other people when in reality, when you point your finger, you got three pointing right back at you. Shout out Terry. Terry taught me that one. A homie from the gym. It's not fair. It's not fair.
And I think in times where I'm the most frustrated, that's when I'm honestly the least fair to myself. And I don't like it. I don't like it. And recently I had something happen in my life where I got...
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