Therapy Brothers

#121: What Is Brannon's Perspective On The Betrayed, The Addicted, And The Expert?

07 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

For those that aren't aware, Brannon had another podcast called the Betrayed, The Addicted, And The Expert where he cohosted the podcast with a marrie...

#120: How Do I Have Healthy Boundaries And Keep A Good Relationship With My Child?

03 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Jeff's Question: "I have had some short sporadic visits with my son and mostly when he wants something. The other day he came over and wanted t...

#119: Is It Healthy For My Kids To See That I'm Not Perfect?

28 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The Therapy Brothers discuss healthy vs unhealthy parenting. So many of us are working hard to create a perfect world for our kids to grow up in. That...

#118: What Is A Healthy Disclosure?

23 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Brannon & Tyler talk about some of the work they do as therapists and delineate the dos and don'ts of healthy disclosure. Our Radiant Dawn Women's Co...

#117: How Does My Enmeshed Relationship With My Mother Affect My Recovery?

21 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Austin's Question: "Could my relationship with my mother (mother enmeshment) be one of the driving factors of my relationship with shame and ad...

#116: Why Are We So Afraid Of Our Sexuality?

16 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The Therapy Brothers are amped up for a discussion around the topic of fear and individual sexuality. Why Are We So Afraid Of Our Sexuality? Tyler Pa...

#115: Why Is It A Problem If I'm Always Trying To Please My Partner?

14 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week the Therapy Brothers answer a question that has been surfacing in their therapy groups: Why Is It A Problem If I'm Always Trying To Please M...

#114: My Partner Is Using Sex To Cope With His Anxiety. How Do We Move Forward?

09 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Rachel's Question: "My husband has PTSD and has been using sex as a coping mechanism. The last 2 years have been traumatic and we are on a verg...

#113: Why Is Courage Required For Recovery?

07 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The 2 brothers discuss Why Courage is Required For Recovery. Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com),...

#112: What Works And What Doesn't Work In Treating Betrayal?

02 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week the 2 brothers talk about what works and what doesn't work when treating betrayal.  Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founde...

#111: How Do We Navigate A Mixed Faith Marriage And Betrayal Trauma At The Same Time?

31 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Sarah's Question: "My husband disclosed 3 months ago that he has been using (and blatantly lying about using) pornography for the entirety of our 10-y...

#110: How Do I Deal With My Partner's Denial?

26 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Rahul's Question: "I'm listening to your episode right now about how to rebuild trust and I'm really struggling with that issue. I have a specific que...

#109: We Both Have A History Of Betrayal. Where Do We Begin?

24 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Amanda's Question: "I am a betrayed wife by a porn addict who crossed over into child porn about three or four years ago. He shared with me many years...

#108: How Do I Distinguish Healthy Behavior VS Unhealthy Behavior With My Partner In Recovery?

19 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Crystal's Question: "My partner and I are 6-ish months into treatment for porn addiction and betrayal trauma. I know very little about his triggers an...

#107: Can I Be Too Informed About Recovery?

17 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Courtney: "Is there such a thing as being to informed? I’ve been doing recovery work for a year….. listening to countless podcasts, reading...

#106: I Am Frequently Exposed To My Partner’s Affair Partner. How Do I Handle The Triggers?

13 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Susan: "I had never heard of Betrayal Trauma before listening to your podcasts. Four months ago I discovered my partner was in an emotional aff...

#105: How Do I Balance Showing Empathy And Humility While Maintaining Masculinity?

10 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The 2 Brothers dive into the dialectic of masculinity and where many people get hung up. We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to r...

#104: How Can I Be More Empathetic To My Wife?

03 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Byran's Question: "After listening to the "How do I break my walls down and trust him again" episode I would like to ask a question... In mine and my ...

#103: How Long Should I Wait For My Partner's Recovery?

27 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Question: "My question is about intimacy avoidance. My husband and I have been separated for 16 months now and 12 months of that has been in se...

#102: How Do You Move Forward If Your Partner Doesn't Acknowledge The Depths Of Your Pain?

20 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Question: "How do you move forward in your relationship when the SA tries to compare their addiction to your mental health struggles and make y...

#101: I'm Worried That My Husband's Femininity Is Attractive To Other Women

13 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Question: "I just listened to your latest episode, and I was left with a question. My husband had a pretty in-depth emotional affair. To the po...

#100: My Husband Is Acting Out With Other Men. How Do I Get Past That?

06 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Question: "My husband has acted out with men in the past, does that mean he is Gay? How can I move past the “ick” feeling that comes with t...

#99: My Partner Has Lusted After My Friends. How Do I Manage Those Relationships Now?

29 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Question: "My husband disclosed three months ago that he is a sex addict. Specifically pornography and masturbation. We are in the thick of the...

#98: My Partner's Words Don't Meet Up With His Actions. What Do I Do?

22 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Question: "Hi. I am struggling with this concept. If my husband really wanted to change and stop looking at porn/ talking to women, wouldn't he...

#97: Is Fear Holding Me Back From Doing The Thing That I Know Is Right?

15 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Question: "I am in the process of filing for divorce. I feel it was the right decision, however now that I have been out of the situation that ...

#96: I Feel Like I Want To Avoid. Is This Due To Sex Addiction and Betrayal Trauma? (W/Guest)

08 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Danielle's Question: " In sex addiction, can you and your partner's attachment style be mislabeled? I have several women that I know that think they a...

#95: How Do I Break My Walls Down And Trust Him Again?

01 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Question: "My husband just got back from your Rising Son conference and it’s feeling like he’s changing and becoming the man I’ve always ...

#94: As A Couple, How Do We Handle Relapse?

25 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Question: "What is the best way to handle a relapse, both for the person struggling with addiction and for their partner? What is the best way ...

#93: How Do I Live In Reality When I've Spent My Whole Life Trying To Avoid It?

18 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Caller David reached out to the Therapy Brothers to ask them about issues related to avoidance that stem from video games and pornography at a very ea...

#92: As A Betrayed Spouse, How Am I Supposed To Be Okay With My Partner Being Sexually Attracted To Other Women?

11 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Caller: "Hi! Betrayed partner here (porn addiction). I'm a new listener & I just listened to E58-is it ok to be attracted to more than 1 person. I hav...

#91: I'm In Limbo Land And I Don't What To Do

04 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

?I don't feel like i have a really clear question to ask, i've just been in limbo for 3 years. Knowing God will bring me and my spouse back together a...

#90: How Do I Handle My Partner With Love When They Treat Me Like A Monster?

27 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Question: "I loved the Podcast I listened to on Boundaries. So much great info, tools and principles discussed. I appreciated the podcast yeste...

#89: Do We Manufacture Addicts?

20 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Question: "Does society manufacture Lust addicts through shame? i'm seeing more in myself and my fellows in SAL how damaging shame is to recove...

#88: How Can I Be A Sex Addict...And Really Not Want Sex?

13 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Question: "How can I be a Sex Addict and a Sexual Anorexic? In a recent podcast about increasing sex drive, sexual anorexia was mentioned, and ...

#87: How Do We Navigate The Messy Middle of Recovery?

06 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Scott & Melissa join from Canada. They allowed us to dig into some of the ups and downs of their journey in recovery. The hard parts including D-day, ...

#86: How Do I Overcome The Effects Of Bullying That Still Show Up In My Life?

30 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Question: How do I overcome residual lack of self confidence and catastrophizing after childhood bullying?  I still struggle with lack of conf...

#85: What Does Healthy Masculinity Have To Do With Recovery?

23 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Question: "What Does Healthy Masculinity Have To Do With Recovery?" Brannon and Tyler talk with guest Jon about his recovery and the different ...

#84: What Am I Missing About Healthy Boundaries?

16 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The Therapy Brothers focus on the need for healthy boundaries and define a little more clearly what that is by playing out some real world scenarios f...

#83: How Do I Increase My Sexual Desire?

09 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Question: "How Do I Increase My Sexual Desire While I'm Working My Recovery?" We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realt...

#82: What Is Scrupulosity?

02 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"How can I determine whether it's scrupulosity or if I am in denial again? A few years ago, I was diagnosed with scrupulosity. During my upbringing, m...

#81: Is There Such A Thing As Healthy Masturbation?

26 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"Masturbation. Ive heard both of your episodes on it. As well as one from sex for saints podcast. I dont deny theres a change in the church about mast...

#80: How Do I Learn To Trust Myself To Keep My Commitments?

14 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"I'm committed to addiction recovery, but I struggle with consistent effort on my dailies and I still have some infrequent relapses. I think what I'm ...

#79: Did We Answer the Question Wrong About Modesty?

12 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"I typically love everything you guys have to say, but the part about modesty in your last episode was disappointing. We are trying to teach our kids ...

#78: I've Worked So Hard To Find Peace After Betrayal. Why Can't I Keep It?

04 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"I have been listening to Brannon for about 3 years and he talks about radical acceptance. I am a betrayed wife who is stuck at this point. I have got...

#77: Does My Life‘s Purpose Affect My Weight?

04 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Tyler and Brannon chat with special guest, Joan, about the connection between life's purpose and our weight! We would love to have you as a guest on ...

#76: Does God Want Me To Be Sexual?

28 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"I was raised in a religious conservative home. Pornography was sin, sex outside of marriage was sin and only for the marriage bed. My dad never talke...

#75: How Do I Support My Adult Child Who Struggles With Addiction?

21 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"I run a recovery group that consists mostly of parents with grown adult children who struggle with addiction. What are some principles and tools you ...

#74: How Do I Teach My Sons About Healthy Sexuality and How to Be a Good Man?

14 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Brannon and Tyler discuss teaching healthy sexuality and being a good man with special guest, Farron Dozier: retired army officer, advocate for arthri...

#73: Can My Happiness Really Be Just As Simple As Changing My Beliefs?

09 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How does changing our beliefs affect our happiness? Listen in as Tyler shares his thoughts! We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go t...

#72: What Is Empathy... Really?

07 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Brannon and Tyler discuss the true meaning of empathy. We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your...

#71: I’ve Experienced Betrayal In My Marriage… Should I Attend Group?

31 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Overcoming betrayal - is it more helpful or hurtful to have group therapy for betrayal trauma? This episode features Daniel A. Burgess, MA, LMFT who s...

#70: My Spouse Is Guilt-Tripping Me To Break Down My Boundaries... What Do I Do?

17 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"Love your enemy. Do good to those that spitefully use you, turn the other cheek, and go the extra mile. I would love to hear your thoughts on these C...

#69: What Is Emotional Abuse and How Do I Know If I'm Being Abused?

12 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Tyler and Brannon dive into what emotional abuse is and how to know if you're a victim.  We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to ...

#68: How Do I Live a Life of Abundance and Freedom When I Feel Trapped in My Day-to-Day Life?

03 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Brannon and Tyler discuss how to live a life of abundance and freedom, despite the day-to-day waves.  We would love to have you as a guest on the po...

#67: Why Is It So Freaking Hard To Forgive?

28 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Tyler talks about why it feels so hard to forgive!  We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your q...

#66: Why Am I So Afraid of What Other People Think of Me?

26 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Alongside special guest Bevan, Brannon and Tyler share their insights on why we are so afraid of what others think! We would love to have you as a gu...

#65: How Do I Know When To Stand and Fight and When To Let Go?

21 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Tyler and Brannon discuss fighting the balance and cues to stand and fight and when to let go!  We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast....

#64: Why Do Men Love Porn, Video Games, and Mountain Dew So Much?

19 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Brannon and Tyler dive into why men are so drawn to porn, video games, and Mountain Dew!  We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to...

#63: Is It Okay To Have a Relationship With My Ex In-Laws, Even If My Ex Hates It?

15 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"Is it ok to maintain a relationship with you ex-in-laws after you marriage ends? Even if it upsets your ex? My husband and I were recently married a...

#62: Why Are So Many of Our Friends Calling Us?

12 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Ty and Brannon discuss why so many of our friends are calling us! We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to ...

#61: How Does Church and Sex Contribute to Shame?

07 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Brannon and fellow therapist Valerie Hamaker discuss how church and sex contribute to shame. You can hear more from Valerie in her podcast, "Voices Ab...

#60: How Do I Know If I'm Getting Good Therapy?

05 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Ty and B discuss what to look for to know if you are getting good therapy!  We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go...

#59: How Do I Support a Loved One With Anxiety?

31 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, B and Ty discuss the mindset and tools needed to help loved ones with anxiety feel understood and supported. We would love to have y...

#58: How Do You Know If You're Dealing With Sex Addiction/Porn Addiction?

29 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"I absolutely love your podcast! It truly is free therapy for me. Y’all make me laugh and cry and I learn so much from listening. I have gone back t...

#57: Is It Okay To Be Attracted To More Than Just Your Spouse?

24 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Ty and B tackle attraction! Is it okay to be attracted to people other than your spouse? Listen for their answers! We would love to ...

#56: How Do I Navigate Intimacy When I Don't Feel Sexy?

22 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The Therapy Brothers' are answering their first-ever voice question from a guest! Here, B and Ty respond to a woman's inquiry of navigating intimacy a...

#55: Video-Gaming is Causing Conflict in My Marriage... What Now?

15 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"I am triggered by my husband’s video gaming. He denies it’s an addiction, yet in our 15 years of marriage, unless he’s totally abstinent he’s...

#54: How Can I Find Victory Through the Principle of Surrender?

08 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Ty discusses surrender and finding triumph through this principle.  We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to real...

#53: Why Do So Many Men Lack Confidence?

02 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode Brannon dives into some thoughts on masculinity and problems the men face.  We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go ...

#52: Should We Schedule Sex?

22 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"My question has to do with trauma around scheduling sex. My husband of almost 15 years (in June) has struggled with a pornography compulsion since hi...

#51: Love Triangles and Betrayal Trauma

15 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"In an episode Tyler referred to a consummate love triangle. I'm wondering if it's possible for one person to feel that love without the other person ...

#50: "I Have Experienced Sexual Trauma In My Marriage... Now What?"

08 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"I was wondering if you could help me. My husband and I have been on the road of recovery for over a year now. We have really been progressing and we ...

#49: What is the Relationship Between Past Trauma and Current Betrayal Trauma?

01 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"I understand that you started out working in psychiatry. In my family of origin we experienced several psychiatric traumas (brother diagnosed as schi...

#48: How Do I Stop A Bad Communication Spiral?

18 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"Shut down! My husband had an affair, d-day was 14 months ago, and he is still in what I call shut down. We have the classic semi toxic codependant re...

#47: I'm Trying To Heal From Betrayal Trauma. Why Is My Marriage Getting Worse?

11 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

My husband says he is working recovery. He even speaks recovery. But I am seeing no change in his habits or our daily life. Lots of talk and no action...

#46: Everything In My Life Is Good. Why Do Things Seem So Hard?

06 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Everything In My Life Is Good. Why Do Things Seem So Hard? We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit ...

#45: It Feels Like I'm Doing My 50% But My Partner Isn't + How Do I Help My Adult Child With Failure To Launch?

28 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Q1: "We know that our significant other is not responsible for our happiness, our choices etc. What are some healthy things we are responsible for in ...

#44: How Can I Become More Emotionally Healthy To Become More Physically Healthy?

21 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

"I can see the pattern of resentment and victimization that I have fallen into over my lifetime. The reality I am accepting is that I have developed p...

#43: How Do I Show My Spouse That I've Changed? Triggers VS Intrusive Thoughts?

14 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Q1: "How do I show my spouse my change of heart if we are living separated at the moment? How do I stop thinking about worse case scenario that she wi...

#42: How Do I Actually Know What Truth And Reality Are?

07 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

How do you discern truth from confirmation bias? What are self-checks that one can rely on to hopefully see truth instead of just seeing things that g...

#41: How Do I Rebuild Trust In My Relationship?

25 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Brannon is flying solo this episode while he waits for his comrade to heal up from a bout with COVID. Brannon digs into the nature of trust and why i...

#40: How Valuable Is Group Therapy?

10 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This podcast episode was actually recorded on Brannon's other podcast ("The Betrayed The Addicted The Expert"). It was a profound conversation and we ...

#39: Our In-Laws Are Toxic... How Do We Handle That?

02 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

"My husband and I are not sure how to handle a family situation. My in-laws are good parents and grandparents. Physically, they are wonderful--they al...

#38: Bad Marriage Advice Debunked

26 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we break apart some of the most common tips and advice given to couples before marriage. Some of them are down right foolish but many ...

#37: How Do I Handle Getting Ghosted?

22 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

"Hi, I started seeing this guy at the end of July and was seeing him for a month, nearly every week. The last time I saw him was on the 6th September,...

#36: How Do I Change Unhealthy Family Patterns?

19 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

"How can I heal wounds inflicted by my father? When I was around 11 years old, I caught my dad looking at pornography. At the same time I was in the b...

#35: Should We Shame Joel Olsteen? Is My Partner Having An Emotional Affair?

12 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

"Chivalrous Shaming!?!? Is it EVER okay to shame someone? Like when Joel Olsteen didn't offer his mega church for Hurricane Katrina victims, he was pu...

#34: What Does Death Teach Us About Life?

08 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

After attending a funeral for a childhood friend, the Therapy Brothers share some poignant thoughts and decisions they've made throughout the years. T...

#33: What if your spouse avoids sex with you?

05 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

"My husband and I have been married for about 16 years. About 5 years ago some infidelities were discovered. We started going through the process of h...

#32: How Do I Feel Comfortable Naked After Betrayal?

28 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

"Basically, how do you feel comfortable naked again after knowing your partner was into pornography? After he has made fun of your body cause he was s...

#31: How Do I Forgive When I've Been Betrayed? How Do I Handle Disclosure!?

21 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Ty answers 3 core questions about betrayal in a relationship. #1:  "Help for the betrayed! How to forgive the spouse who is working to change after d...

#30: What Do Church Leaders Need To Know To Help A Betrayed Spouse | THERAPY BROTHERS PODCAST

14 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Husband: "I've had a problem with pornography most of my growing up life... I thought that the problem would go away when I was married... I hid it fo...

#29: How Do I Not Depend On My Relationship Status To Feel Like I Am Enough?

11 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

"Ever since I was a kid, I wanted a girlfriend. I always had stress about who I would marry one day. It's been on my mind since I was about 4. Growing...

#28: How Do I Bring Up Hard Things Without Shaming My Spouse!?

07 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

"What if your honesty triggers their shame? How do you share honesty when they can't handle it?" "Like many couples health is always a big topic in m...

#27: How Do I Tell My Family Something That Will Be Hard For Them To Hear?

31 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

"I was raised conservative christian and now my views are very much not what they were, but my family still thinks they are the same. I struggle with ...

#26: What Is REAL Femininity?

17 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

"I recognize within myself that when the topic of femininity comes up, it hits me sideways. It is just kind of triggering. That word. I don't know wha...

#25: My Spouse Has Secrets. What Do I Do Now?

10 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

"My husband and I are trying to rebuild our marriage after his emotional affair. I believe the emotional affair was also physical, but he can't bring ...

#24: What Is A Battle Plan? How Do I Make One?

03 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

I've heard of something called a Battle Plan? What is it and How Do I Make One? I'm trying to stop a pornography addiction that started in my life at ...

#23: What Is REAL Masculinity?

27 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

With so much of society shaming men into some weakened form of masculinity, the question is what is real Masculinity?   Ty has a few things that dri...

#22: How Do I Talk To My Kids About Sex? After Becoming Recovered From Addiction, What Can I Do To Help Others In Recovery?

20 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

How Do I Talk To My Kids About Sex? My experience growing up left much unanswered and made it feel awkward and taboo. I don't want that for my kids, e...