Therapy Brothers

#221: What If I Don't Have Enough Time To Rebuild Trust?

29 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Bob: is 82 and hid his addiction from his wife for about 40 years. They have both been trying to work recovery from the addiction and betrayal....

#220: Is This A Trauma Bond Or Is This Love?

27 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Nikki: Nikki had been married to a man for eight years, living a life of oppressive control, psychological and emotional manipulation and physi...

#219: How Long Do I Hang On?

22 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Donna: Meet Donna, a 62-year-old woman who has been through a lot in her life. Donna joined the Navy at the age of 18, became an RN as a single...

#218: How Do I Build A Relationship With God When I feel Like He's Broken My Trust?

20 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Brian: has been in a form of recovery for the past 12 years, but has got into real recovery and trauma work for the past 2 years. After experie...

#217: Why Is Narcissism Over-Diagnosed In Recovery?

15 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The Brothers Discuss: an interesting question about narcissism and how ADHD or ADD is always diagnosed, especially in school. A common theme is a diag...

#216: My Husband Has Legal Charges, Am I Crazy To Stay?

13 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Callers Devin and Jen: are a couple who have experienced both sides of addiction and recovery. After Devin spent two years in jail for his addiction, ...

#215: My Sex Addiction Is Under Control, But My Attachment Wounds Keep Resurfacing

08 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Joe: explores identity and worthiness in a journey of deep self-reflection and inner healing. For Joe, a 43-year-old former West Point cadet, B...

#214: How Do Men And Women Experience Shame Differently?

06 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The Brothers Discuss: how women experience shame through a web of mixed messages. Men experience shame through the pressure to be a strong provider an...

#213: How Do I Get Past This Emptiness From Hurting My Wife With My Addiction?

01 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Chris: was a good baseball player with a big heart, but was struggling with a long-term addiction to porn. Although he was in recovery, his add...

#212: How Do I Heal After Infidelity?

27 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Our Guest, Dr. Wyatt Fisher is a licensed psychologist and Ph.D. in Boulder, Colorado. Dr. Wyatt shared his six steps for couples to consider when exp...

#211: Gender Identity Is Affecting My Marriage, Where Do I Go From Here?

22 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Brie: Has been married for 16 years and after her first year of being married, she discovered her husbands behaviors. She struggled with being ...

#210: I'm Trying To Be Perfect And It's Burning Me Out. What Can I Do?

20 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Caller David: Struggling with some perfectionism, David races to build a life of recovery, integrity, and family - only to discover the true key to su...

#209: Do I Need To Fire My God?

15 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The Brothers Discuss: the power of God's grace, challenging the protagonist to question their long-held beliefs about an all-punishing, transactional ...

#208: I Was Sexually Molested By My Father, How Do I Navigate That Relationship?

13 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Jay: grew up in Arizona in a family of 10 with a father who had a sexual addiction and masked it by using his mother's credibility. Despite thi...

#207: When We Try To Have Sex We Both Freeze Up. What Do We Do?

08 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Kat's Question: "My husband has been in recovery from porn addiction for about 4 years now. His addictive behavior has affected me and our rela...

#206: How Can My Relationship Heal When My Partner Is Not Attracted To Me?

06 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Ashley's Question: "How can you approach recovery/continued commitment or deal with your addict's extramarital attraction in a scenario where t...

#205: Why Do I Keep Acting Out When Things Are Going Good?

01 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Caller David: had struggled with an addiction to pornography since he was seven. After years of shame and guilt, he finally hit a breaking point and d...

#204: We Both Have Trauma, We Both Have An Addiction. How Do We Find Recovery?

30 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Chadwick: Chadwick is a common law spouse of 6 years who has recently started formal therapy to address his childhood trauma, addiction, and re...

#203: How Can I Find Passion In Life?

25 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Moises: has been struggling to find purpose and passion in life, numbing his feelings to survive. Through talking with Tyler and Brannon, he le...

#202: What Is The Line Between Undersharing And Oversharing?

23 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Austin: is a former only child and grandchild who has experienced the pressure of performing for his family in order to receive love. He is now...

#201: How Does Reclaiming Who I Really Am Give My Relationship A Chance?

18 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Steve: is a 35 year old man in a committed relationship with his fiance. He is working to reclaim his true self and heal from the trauma of his...

#200: Why Are Cycles And Seasons Good For Us?

16 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Therapy Brothers Discussion: Do you ever feel like you can't seem to get a grip on your life? Do you battle with yourself trying to stay afloat while ...

#199: What Steps Do I Need To Take To Be Ready For A New Relationship?

11 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When Caller Shea, a woman desperately trying to escape the trauma of an abusive upbringing and a deceitful marriage, discovers the power of her own re...

#198: My Toxic Relationship Just Ended. How Do I Reclaim My Life?

09 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Emily: After four years of an emotionally toxic relationship and numerous affairs, Emily is desperately trying to reclaim her life and trust in...

#197: How Do We Keep Our Marriage A Priority?

04 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Callers Brent & Robyn are a married couple navigating the effects of past trauma on their relationship. They are committed to each other's individual ...

#196: I Have Everything You Could Want In Life. Why Am I Still Empty?

02 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Therapy Brothers Discussion: The brothers talk about reclaiming your purpose and how to overcome the void and emptiness that can come with achieving t...

#195: My Family Is So Dysfunctional. How Do I Enjoy Being Around Them For The Holidays?

28 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Brannon and Tyler have a conversation about Setting boundaries with family. I learned that setting expectations that are not based on reality can caus...

#194: How Do I Stay Motivated to Help People When They Are Not Motivated?

26 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Therapy Brothers Discussion: Cody Parker is a 38 year old therapist and recovery coach who has struggled with sexual addiction, alcohol and drug abuse...

#193: Let's Talk About The "F" word

21 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Therapy Brothers Discussion: "Forgiveness is about freedom and liberation from the burden that we get dumped on through no fault of our own." A woman...

#192: If You Had Broken Trust, What Would You Do To Rebuild It?

19 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Therapy Brothers Discussion: After years of hiding his addiction and breaking his wife's trust, a man must face his demons head on to rebuild any chan...

#191: How Can My Wife And Children See Me For Something Other Than The Things I've Done?

14 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Larry's Question: "We’re almost a year since D-Day why do I continue to lie and gaslight my wife when all she wants is honesty?" Larry is ...

#190: I Feel Like A Burden To Others. Why Can't I Receive Their Love?

12 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Jared's Question: "Why does recovery work stress me out? Doing things like daily work, connecting to God, avoiding slips are all still hard for...

#189: I'm Realizing How Unseen I've Been In Our Relationship. What Now?

07 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Brooke's Question: "I have been with my husband for 10 years since I was 17. We have 4 kids. I so deeply love the life we have built. I recogni...

#188: What's Challenging Tyler And Brannon With Doing Therapy?

05 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Therapy Brothers Discussion: Brannon and Tyler process some of the obstacles they're facing in doing therapy with their clients. "I'm a therapist, ...

#187: How To Face The Beast And Slay It!

30 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Therapy Brothers Discussion: How do Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART), Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR), and experiential thera...

#186: My Husband Is A Good Guy But Does Relapse Ever Stop?

28 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Madison's Question: "My husband and I have been going through our recovery journey for the last 4 years. We’ve done a lot of therapy, listeni...

#185: Let's Talk About Masculinity And Femininity

23 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Therapy Brothers Discussion: We love talking about these themes and two different styles of energy: "Masculinity empowers femininity, and femininity e...

#184: There's So Much Trauma. I Don't Feel Safe. Now What?

21 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Heather's Question: "My husband and I have been married 22 years together 26. We have a complex relationship, and to be honest, I’m not even ...

#183: How Do I Know I'm Working Recovery For The Right Reasons?

16 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Brad's Question: "I’ve struggled with sexual addiction since childhood. Now I’m married and have kids of my own. Several times I’ve start...

#182: How Do I Show Up Healthy With My Family Of Origin?

14 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Ryan's Question: "I am a husband, father of 2, soon to be 3, and am a man who is working on identifying the false agreements that I have built...

#181: How Do I Navigate The Process Of Divorce?

09 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Kathryn's Question: "I’m scrambling to finish the separation agreement and meeting with mortgage companies and legal services and financial s...

#180: How Much Baggage Is Too Much Baggage And Will It Halt Recovery?

07 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Jacqueline's Question: "Hello and foremost thank you for your podcast. My husband (second marriage for both of us of 5 years) has been using P...

#179: How Can I Trust That My Wife Actually Loves Me?

02 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Chase's Question: "How do I trust my wife enough to let her love me? Through all of my addiction and now into recovery, one of the beliefs I ke...

#178: What Is Recovery Really And How Do I Get There?

31 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Collin's Question: "How do you heal from sex addiction?" Have you been struggling to recover from addiction or mental health issues, but feel ...

#177: How Do I Deal With My Ex?

26 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Toni's Question: "How do I differentiate between the man that he was and that I loved for so long with vs the man he is now? Even though he hur...

#176: When Should I Report My Spouses' Illegal Activity?

24 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Mia's Question: "I haven’t heard any other recovery podcast address this yet, but I would really like to talk about child pornography and hav...

#175: Is God Really There?

19 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode of the Real Talk Recovery podcast, Brannon and Tyler discuss the idea that addiction is an attempt to find Jesus Christ. In this ep...

#174: How Do I Take What I'm Learning And Actually Implement It Into My Recovery?

17 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Austin's Question: "How do I get all of this head knowledge about recovery into my heart? How do I make that shift?" // SUBMIT A QUESTION...

#173: We're A Couple That's Stuck. Help Us!

12 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Dave's Question: "In one of your recent podcasts you requested couples who might want to be on the podcast that are stuck. My wife Janel and I ...

#172: I Think I'm Addicted To A Cycle Of Suffering How Do I Break It?

10 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Mele's Question: "I used to attend Brannon’s betrayal trauma group. I’ve spent a lot of time trying to heal but have found myself in anothe...

#171: Is This Topic Blasphemous?

05 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Brannon and Tyler discuss some controversial topics around sex, church, and Jesus. They talk about how shame is utilized within church settings to tea...

#170: My Trauma Is Causing Problems With Connection. What Do I Do About It?

03 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Adam's Question: "I know I need to rely on my higher power, but an overwhelming recent trauma keeps me from wanting to trust and surrender my ...

#169: Is There Life After Divorce?

28 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Brannon and Tyler host a special guest, Ashlynn Mitchell. Brannon co-hosted The Betrayed, The Addicted & The Expert podcast with Ashlynn which ran for...

#168: I'm Confronted With My Partner's Affair Partner Every Single Day. How Do I Overcome The Anger?

26 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Holly's Question: "Podcast 133 was so powerful for me. Rachel spoke to my heart and your responses were so relevant. I’ve listened to so many...

#167: Am I Now At Fault For The Way That I've Responded To His Addiction

21 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Anne Question: "I’m desperate for some support or advice. I feel so alone. I’m losing myself to insanity and I am not sure if I’m at faul...

#166: Am I A Bad Person Or Is It Just My Addiction

19 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Andrew's Question: "My behavior regarding my addiction was so different than the rest of my life. How do I tell what was addiction/avoidance at...

#165: How Is Our Past Guest Glenn Doing? Let's Follow Up

14 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Our friend Glenn was one of the first caller's on the podcast. He showed up in a big way that day and we're happy to reconnect with him. If you'd like...

#164: What Do I Do If My Partner Refuses To Own Their Own Stuff

12 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The 2 brothers talk about the power of self-reflection and what to do when your partner is not accountable to themself. Brannon Patrick, "The Expert"...

#163: Why Do I Look For Proof That My Spouse Is Not Trustworthy

07 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Allie's Question: "Why do I look for proof my husband isn’t trustworthy? Porn addiction hides in the background of my marriage. Things will b...

#162: I Hold Prominent Positions At Church And At Work, I Have A Pornograpy Problem, And The Shame Is Eating Me Alive

05 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The 2 brothers discuss the shame cycle that can come from having a problem with pornography, especially for those who have an expectation of being per...

#161: How Do I Be Honest With My Wife About My Desire For Sex And Not Trigger Her?

31 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Kevin's Question: "As a recovering addict to pornography and masturbation, I struggle with communicating with my wife about my sexual desires b...

#160: How Can Sex Addiction And Recovery Create An Unhealthy Power Dynamic In Our Relationship?

29 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The 2 brothers talk about how sex addiction and recovery can affect the power dynamic in a relationship.  Brannon Patrick LCSW (@brannon_patrick), i...

#159: Why Is Mentorship So Important In Life And In Recovery?

24 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The 2 brothers discuss the importance of a good mentor, especially in life and recovery.  Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Ut...

#158: To Share Or Not To Share? That Is The Question!

22 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Sam's question: I have been in recovery for the past 3.5 years. I am 41 with a wife and 5 kids. I was in a very dark place before finding recov...

#157: How Do I Keep Working My Recovery When It Is So Depressing Every Time I Fail?

17 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Tyler Patrick discusses how to not give up on recovery, even when failure can be depressing. Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy ...

#156: What Is Covert Incest And How Has It Affected My Addiction?

15 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Claire's Question: "I am 8 months into recovery and doing really well. Can you discuss the difference between PTSD, anxiety and shame and how t...

#155: Is My Co-occuring Mental Health Disorder Affecting My Recovery?

10 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Daxton's Question: "I am a man in recovery from addiction and I am also learning how to manage ADHD in my adult life. I was diagnosed with ADHD...

#154: I Feel Like My Recovery Is Improving But My Relationship Is Struggling. What Now?

08 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Ben's Question: "How do I hold space for my betrayed partner when they continue to respond with anger and distancing?" Tyler Patrick, "The Wan...

#153: Is It Ever Healthy Not To Disclose Some Things In Your Relationship?

03 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The pendulum can swing from zero disclosure to 100%, but is that the right balance for a healthy relationship? How do you determine what to share as t...

#152: What Valuable Lesson Did Garth Brooks Teach Brannon About Life?

01 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Brannon shares some stories and background about how Garth Brooks has impacted his life in a positive way. This one might seem squirrely but has some ...

#151: How Do I Learn To Stand Up For Myself When I Feel So Much Shame Over The Things That I've Done?

27 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Scott's Question: "How Do I Learn To Stand Up For Myself When I Feel So Much Shame Over The Things That I've Done?" Tyler Patrick, "The Wander...

#150: How Do I Break The Chain And Not Raise Addicts Myself?

25 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Jesslyn's Question: "How do I stay healthy and make good boundaries, as well as stop unhealthy mentality and cycles during family, get together...

#149: If My Partner Has Intimacy Anorexia, What Do I Do?

20 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Crystal's Question: "Can we talk about Intimacy Anorexia? What is it? How does it show up with sexual addiction? Does it change the impact on t...

#148: Are There Certain Ideologies In Addiction Treatment That Are Barriers To Recovery?

18 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Adam's Question: "Hey! I'm a recovering SLA and by day I'm a physiotherapist. I was really intrigued when listening to an episode and B got rea...

#147: As A Therapist, What Is My Responsibility?

13 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Brannon and Tyler have a discussion about some boundaries between where a therapist should be and should not be. These lines often get crossed. Tyl...

#146: How Do I Live Day To Day But Still Visualize Change For The Future?

11 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Brannon and Tyler discuss the dialectic of Being vs Becoming and how to find the proper balance between the 2.  Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therap...

#145: How Do I Hold My Partner's Pain While Maintaining Safety For Myself?

06 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Cody's Question: "Unique situation; my wife had a couple of affairs that she disclosed, about 2 years later, she discovered my porn and sex add...

#144: What Is A Bid For Connection And How Do I Meet It In My Relationship?

04 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The Patrick brothers talk about ideas to answer the question: What Is A Bid For Connection And How Do I Meet It In My Relationship? Tyler Patrick, "T...

#143: What Is The History Behind Betrayal Trauma And Sex Addiction?

29 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The Patrick brothers discuss The History Behind Betrayal Trauma And Sex Addiction. Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love St...

#142: As A Man In Recovery How Do I Integrate My Masculine and Feminine Parts?

27 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller James' Question: "As A Man In Recovery How Do I Integrate My Masculine and Feminine Parts?" Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-fo...

#141: I Am My Partner’s Addiction. What Do I Do Now?

22 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Mckenna's Question: "What if I AM my husband's addiction? This is the simplest version of my question, but obviously there is SOOOOO much more ...

#140: How Can Trauma Be Good For Us?

20 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The Patrick brothers discuss How Can Trauma Be Good For Us. Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), ...

#139: My Partner Is Showing Signs Of Recovery. Why Is There A Part Of Me That Doesn’t Like That?

15 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Emily's Question: "I just listened to episode #57 and episode #92 my question is: what do you do when your partner tells you “you’re just n...

#138: I’m Full Of Anger And Resentment. How Do I Let It Go?

13 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Tami's Question: "A couple of mths ago I'd responded to a podcast where you'd role played, mentioning that I felt the "betrayer" seemed they we...

#137: I’m Finally Ready For A Divorce And Now My Partner Wants To Work Recovery. What Now?

08 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Madison's Question: "I am living with an addict and he is not working a program. I have been working a program for 6 years. I have finally deci...

#136: What Are Some Seemingly Good Beliefs That Actually Harm Your Recovery?

06 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The Patrick brothers discuss answers to the question: What Are Some Seemingly Good Beliefs That Actually Harm Your Recovery? Tyler Patrick, "The Wand...

#135: How Do I Know When It’s Time To Rebuild Trust Or Say That It’s Enough?

30 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Beth's Question: "How do I process, heal, and trust my husband again after there has been a betrayal that has devastated our family and our liv...

#134: My Marriage Started With Trauma And Has Continued To Be Traumatic What Do I Do?

23 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Kathryn's Question: "Married 41 years. Separated 3.5. On New Year’s Day, he said he wanted to show me sobriety ( from fantasy and masturbatio...

#133: We Are Finding Recovery. What Does That Look And Feel Like?

16 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Rachel's Question: "I’ve been in Alanon since 2006, Sanon since 10/26/21. My husband has been sober for almost 4 years. We have been together...

#132: I Know It’s Right To Let Go Of My Relationship... But How Do I Actually Do It?

09 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller LuAnn's Question: "I am having difficulty in letting go. My husband of 7 years was “found out”. He has hooked up with men, online, met 4 di...

#131: How Do I Stay Out Of Shame When My Partner Needs Me To Just Listen?

02 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Dave's Question: "I attempted to have an affair and was caught. My spouse and I have been working through my addiction recovery and her betraya...

#130: Does Addiction Increase The Intensity Of Abuse?

25 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Adriene's Question: "This question is for your last podcast regarding what works and doesn’t work in betrayal trauma recovery. I do agree wit...

#129: Why Does It Feel Like When I Got Better My Partner Got Worse?

18 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Pam's Question: Why does it feel like when I got better my partner got worse? Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Stron...

#128: Does Will Smith Lack Masculinity?

11 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

With the recent ridiculous scene from the Oscars, Tyler and Brannon break down the absurdity and talk about where toxic masculinity was showcased inst...

#127: My Partner Is Sober But My Relationship Is Not Healing. Now What?

04 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Emily's Question: "I’ve been through most of the models over the past 15 years. I agree that the model needs constant growth… are you famil...

#126: I'm Miserably Safe In My Marriage. Help!

28 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The 2 Brothers meet this week to talk about "safe" marriages where there is no fulfillment or growth within the relationship. Tyler Patrick, "The Wan...

#125: Should I Tell My Children About My Partner's Past?

23 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Lucy asked: "I was married to my husband for 40 years when he passed away from cancer. Three weeks before he passed I found out he was having a...

#124: Can It Be Betrayal Trauma Even If It's Not Sex Addiction?

21 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Chelsea, "My husband has used some porn as a form of escapism, but never really an addiction. His real addiction has been alcohol. He is curren...

#123: As A Woman, How Do I Know If I Struggle With Sex Addiction?

14 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caller Claire's Question: "My husband and I have been listening to your podcast for a couple of weeks now and appreciate your insight into this diffic...

#122: Why Is Navigation More Important Than Destination?

09 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Brannon & Tyler have a deep dive into the way we view the process we're in.  Our Radiant Dawn Women's Conference is coming up soon and we have a few...