In this episode of Thrive While Loving an Addict, KL Wells sits down with Lauren Fay to explore the hidden emotional landscape of addiction, particularly when it is shaped by perfectionism, secrecy, and the pressure to maintain an image. Lauren shares her experience of appearing put together on the outside while quietly struggling with alcohol and mental health challenges behind closed doors.As Lauren reflects on her path to sobriety, she speaks to the moment she chose to be seen and how that shift allowed her recovery to begin. This conversation also offers insight for families, highlighting the complexity of learning the full story all at once and the time it can take for healing to unfold on both sides.Key Discussion PointsThe role of perfectionism and image management in addictionHow secrecy and shame can delay recognition and supportWhat it can mean to choose openness after years of hidingThe emotional experience of early sobriety and identity uncertaintyWhy families are often unaware until much laterThe distinction between the person and the behavior shaped by addictionHow comparison can keep individuals from seeking helpThe role of willingness and choice in the recovery processRecovery as a shared experience that can involve both individuals and familiesSome Questions I AskWas the voice keeping you stuck your own, or something shaped by addiction?What was it like to begin sharing your story publicly?What messages feel most important for both those in recovery and their families?How can families begin to separate the person they love from the behavior they are seeing?In This Episode, You Will LearnHow perfectionism and the need to maintain control can influence addictive patternsWhat early recovery can feel like when identity begins to shiftWhy families may need time to process what they learnHow separating the person from the behavior can support compassionWhy comparison can delay recognition of a problemHow willingness can become an early step toward changeWhy healing may involve both personal work and relational repairResourcesBlurred Lines: My Reclamation of Power from Alcohol Addiction — You Are Not Powerless by Lauren Fayhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FL12GQP6Learn more about Lauren Fayhttps://laurenfay.co

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