In this candid and timely conversation, Robert and Kay Lee sit down with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo, co-hosts of the top-ranked One Extraordinary Marriage Show, to tackle a topic many couples think about—but few openly discuss: sex, intimacy, and connection in marriage. Drawing from nearly 30 years of marriage and over a decade of coaching couples worldwide, Tony and Alisa reframe intimacy as far more than a physical act. At its core, intimacy is about closeness, safety, and emotional connection—and when those are missing, sex often becomes the symptom, not the root issue. The conversation explores the "chicken and egg" tension many couples face: one spouse needs emotional intimacy before sex, while the other needs sex to feel emotionally connected. Rather than choosing sides, Tony and Alisa explain why both emotional and sexual intimacy must be strengthened together, a concept they outline in their best-selling book The Six Pillars of Intimacy. For entrepreneurial couples—especially those who work together—this dynamic can be further complicated by stress, blurred boundaries, exhaustion, and over-familiarity. The result? Desire fades, communication stalls, and intimacy becomes an afterthought. Throughout the episode, listeners receive practical, judgment-free strategies to rebuild connection: how to talk about sex without pressure or shame, why those conversations should not happen in the bedroom, and how tools like shared calendars, intentional planning, and even a "vision" for sexual intimacy can transform a marriage. From breaking taboos and starting small conversations to reigniting anticipation and creativity, this episode offers married entrepreneurs a refreshing, hopeful path toward deeper connection—without adding more strain to already full lives. Website: https://oneextraordinarymarriage.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/oneextraordinarymarriage [FREE] 6 Pillars Of Intimacy: https://6pillarsofintimacy.com Intimacy Mastery: http://intimacymastery.com/ Key Takeaways Intimacy ≠ sex alone: True intimacy is closeness and connection; sex thrives when emotional safety is present. It's not either/or: Emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy reinforce each other—and both must be nurtured. Normalize the conversation: Talking about sex is emotional intimacy and removes unnecessary tension and assumptions. Change the environment: Don't discuss sex in the bedroom—protect it as a sacred, pressure-free space. Start small: Short, low-pressure conversations build confidence and momentum over time. Entrepreneurial marriages need structure: Clear roles, shared calendars, and intentional boundaries reduce friction that kills desire. Anticipation matters: Surprise, creativity, and intentional planning reignite excitement—just like in business. Enhancement, not replacement: Tools and toys can support connection when used together, intentionally, and without shame. Vision creates momentum: Couples who plan and prioritize intimacy are far more likely to experience growth, not drift. Bio As co-hosts of the top marriage podcast in Apple Podcasts, the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show, Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo speak to a worldwide audience about sex, love & commitment, and challenge every listener to make their relationship a priority. Their best-selling book, The 6 Pillars of Intimacy®, has transformed countless marriages around the world. This framework is simple, practical, and powerful. You'll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Want to live a better balanced life and win in marriage AND business at the same time? Purchase our (audio) book Tandem: The married entrepreneurs' guide for greater work-life balance. https://www.thetandembook.com/ Download the 5 Daily Habits to Thrive in Tandem https://marriedentrepreneur.co/5-daily-habits-download Need some insight into how to balance it all? Schedule a free discovery call. https://marriedentrepreneur.co/lets-talk

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