Why are we so uncomfortable with grief? In this episode of Top of Mind, we explore America’s fear of grief and mourning and what we lose when we rush people to “move on.” Writer Jacqueline Dooley shares how she keeps her daughter’s memory alive years after her death. Historian Brandy Schillace takes us back to Victorian mourning rituals when grief was public, visible and communal. And grief expert Lisa Athan offers clear, compassionate advice on what to say (and not say) to someone who’s lost a loved one. We’ll also hear stories of miscarriage, pet loss, and the unexpected ways people find healing when they finally let grief in. GUESTS Jaqueline Dooley, writer and essayist (https://jacquelinedooley.medium.com/) Brandy Schillace, author of “Death's Summer Coat: Our Strange, Unsettled History of Mourning” (https://brandyschillace.com/deaths-summer-coat/) E.B. Bartels, author of "Good Grief: On Loving Pets Here and Hereafter" (http://www.ebbartels.com/good-grief/) Katie C. Reilly, writer and attorney (https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2020/jul/09/pregnant-after-miscarriage-emotional-pain) Lisa Athan, founder of Grief Speaks (http://griefspeaks.com/index.html) CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction 03:25 Cultural Perspectives on Grief 11:42 The Victorian Era: Mourning Rituals and Practices 17:00 Modern Grieving 21:11 Disenfranchised Grief 22:50 Pet Grief: A Missed Opportunity for Learning 31:36 Katie Riley: A Skilled Griever 32:13 Katie's Journey with Miscarriage 35:09 Why We Should Talk About Miscarriage 38:20 How to Support Grievers 46:35 Encouraging Healthy Grieving 47:40 Self-Care During Grief 51:19 Conclusion (This episode was originally released in September 2022)

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