TOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships
Episodes
What If Your "What Ifs" Were Wrong EP 133
10 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
You know that voice in your head—the one that takes a missed text or a sideways glance and turns it into a full-blown crisis? That's your What ...
Secure People Just Think Differently EP 132
24 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
We're on YouTube - Join us there.In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn explores one of the most confusing and isolating experiences for anyone who...
What It Means When The Spark Is Gone EP 131
10 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Enroll Today for 30 Days to DifferentDoes your relationship feel… quieter lately? The butterflies are gone. The texts are shorter. Affection feels ...
3 Lies Insecurity Tells You Ep 130
03 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
🦋. 30 Days to Different is starting soon - ENROLL TODAYInsecurity doesn’t always scream. Sometimes, it whispers lies that keep us stuck.In this s...
Get It Out Of Your Jealous Head W/ Annette Furio EP 129
30 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you’ve ever felt stuck in a mental loop, replaying conversations, spiraling into insecurity, or feeling something is wrong but you can’t quite ...
Calm You vs. Anxious You. Who's Telling The Truth? EP 128
23 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn breaks down a question so many people quietly struggle with—especially this time of year:Why do I feel calm and...
How To Keep Your Reactions From Being Bigger Than the Moment EP 127
16 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn breaks down why small moments in your relationship can trigger huge emotional reactions.If you’ve ever felt emb...
Why Your Anxious Attachment Picks Terrible Partners EP 126
02 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you've ever thought "I'm too much," felt shame around your jealousy, or struggled with feeling "needy" in relationshi...
You're Not a Jerk, You're a Genius EP 125
18 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
🦋 Join the experience - enroll in 30 Days to Different today!In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn flips the script on what it means to be “the...
Do You Need to Change Your Partner or Your Patterns EP 124
28 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Schedule your Discovery Call hereIn this episode of Top Self, Shanenn dives into one of the most exhausting relationship cycles—when you keep second...
What Would Your Life Be Like If You Weren't Jealous EP 123
21 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Schedule your FREE Discovery CallIn this powerful solo episode, Shanenn cracks open a question many of us quietly carry:“If I weren’t jealous… w...
Is Alcohol Making Your Jealousy Worse EP 122
14 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Schedule your FREE 30-Minute Discovery Call hereIn this episode of Top Self, Shanenn gets real about a silent habit that so many listeners can relate ...
What Does It Mean If Your Partner Flirts EP 121
07 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Schedule your FREE Discovery CallIn this solo episode of Top Self, host Shanenn dives deep into one of the most anxiety-triggering scenarios in relati...
Why Your Brain Needs To Talk It Out EP 120
23 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Enroll in the Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp starting soon!In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn shares a deeply relatable scenario: it’s 10 p.m.,...
This Is Why Your Partner Is Not Meeting Your Needs EP 119
16 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn breaks down one of the most common communication traps in relationships: expecting your partner to read your mind...
Is This What You Needed To Hear EP 118
05 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this powerful episode of Top Self, Shanenn Bryant delivers something your inner child may have never received: acknowledgment, validation, and the ...
This Childhood Shame Is Holding You Back EP 117
22 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Schedule Your Free Discovery Call TodayIn this episode of Top Self, Shanenn gets deeply personal, sharing the origin of the podcast and a powerful rea...
When Safety Feels Scary EP 116
01 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Book your FREE Discovery CallEver started pulling away just when things got good? If calm, consistent love feels boring—or even threatening—you’...
Tapping Into Emotional Freedom W/ Amy Vincze EP 115
24 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Book Your FREE Discovery Call With ShanennWatch on my Youtube Channel hereIn this episode of Top Self, Shanenn welcomes tapping expert Amy Vincze to e...
3 Stages of Jealousy Management EP 114
10 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Book your FREE Discovery Call to see how I can help.🎧 In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn breaks down the 3 stages of jealousy that sabotage emoti...
A Nervous System Reset For Jealousy EP 113
27 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn unpacks one of the most misunderstood truths about jealousy: it doesn’t start in your mind—it starts in your ...
Unhealthy Thought Patterns And How To Spot Them w/ Amy Kemp EP 112
20 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with thought habit strategist and author Amy Kemp to unpack one of the most damaging patterns women str...
5 Daily Gratitude Habits to Quiet Anxiety and Reclaim Joy w/ Dr. Peggy DeLong EP 111
13 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with clinical psychologist and gratitude expert Dr. Peggy DeLong known as The Gratitude Psychologist to...
Detach From These If You Want Love, Peace, And Clarity w/ Bob Rosen EP 110
22 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with psychologist, leadership advisor, and author Bob Rosen to explore what it really means to let go—...
Are You Guilty Of This Common Habit That Destroys Relationships w/ Jessica Higgins EP 109
15 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with relationship and communication expert Dr. Jessica Higgins to unpack one of the sneakiest relations...
You Can't Control Others But THIS Question Will Change Everything w/ Leah Lemberg 108
01 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this powerful episode of Top Self, host Shanenn Bryant sits down with Leah Lemberg, who shares her remarkable journey from growing up in an alcohol...
Uninstall Your Triggers w/ Dr. Greg Stewart EP 107
18 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with Dr. Greg Stewart, counselor, executive coach, and author to explore why insecurity might be the mo...
Reframing Friction For Relationship Growth w/ Dr. Rachel Glik EP 106
04 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with Dr. Rachel Glik, a licensed professional counselor with over 30 years of experience as a couples a...
The Jealousy Scale - From OK to No Way: A We're Not Fine & Top Self Collaboration EP 105
18 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
🤣 🤣 Get ready to laugh your way through relationship real talk! In this episode, we're joined by the hilarious duo from the "We&apo...
The Sneaky Way Your Past is Picking Your Partners w/ Dr. Christie Kederian EP 104
13 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
❤️ The Date Doctor is Here!In this episode of Top Self, we sit down with Dr. Christie Kederian, renowned relationship therapist, former eHarmony m...
Get Rid Of This Survival Skill EP 103
04 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this powerful episode, Shanenn opens up about childhood trauma and how it shapes our relationship behaviors through hypervigilance.Episode Highligh...
How To Be Happy w/ Tia Graham Ep 102
28 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Wanna know the science behind being happier? Check out this week's episode with Tedx speaker and happiness expert Tia Graham.Tia Graham shares ...
Who Can You Trust? Ep 101
21 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever caught yourself having a meltdown or giving your partner the cold shoulder because you're feeling insecure? (Been there, done that!) In t...
Stop Acting Like His Mother w/ Dr. Brittany McGeehan Ep: 100
14 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is fire! 🔥In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn talks with Dr. Brittany McGeehan, who dropped a major truth bomb that made her stop eve...
The Next Chapter EP 99
07 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Shanenn understands how deeply our patterns are embedded in every corner of our existence. It turns out that relationship anxiety isn't just an i...
New Year, New Thoughts EP 98
31 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What will you be thinking ONE YEAR from now?Will it be the same thoughts you're having today? Will you're focus be on the same things?In t...
Why Shame Is Sabotaging Your Relationship (and what to do instead) EP 97
26 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
🎁 Only a few days left to claim your "Pay-What-You-Can" Coaching Session with me.This episode talks about the crucial difference betwee...
The Connection Formula: Are You Wasting Your Time Worrying? Ep 96
17 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you enjoy how you're currently spending your time? Do you feel like you use your time wisely? When I am insecure and jealous, I don't...
Why Your "Everyone Cheats On Me" Story Might Be More Fiction Than Fact Ep 95
10 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever felt like you're starring in your own personal soap opera where every relationship ends with infidelity? Host Shanenn Bryant unpacks her own...
The 'Just So You Know I Know' Protection Strategy EP 94
26 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever catch yourself saying "just so you know, I know what you COULD be doing" to your partner... even when you're pretty sure they&apos...
Why You Control And How To Let Go Of It w/ Joanna Kleinman EP 93
19 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
🎙️ Where my freaks at? Control Freaks that is. In this episode, we dive deep with psychologist and author Joanna Kleinman to unpack why t...
The #1 Question To Ask Yourself: Am I Being Honest? EP 92
12 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn's guest, award-winning psychologist Dr. Courtney Warren opens up about her own struggles with relationship i...
How To Recover With Your Partner Quickly After A Jealous Meltdown EP 91
05 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Feel like your relationship is hanging on by a thread? Do you wonder if too much damage has been done to the relationship? I was there too but you...
Break Free From The Identity Of Jealousy EP 90
29 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
🎉 Special Announcement:Join our FREE Two-Day Self-Discovery Workshop!Dates: November 4th & 5th at 1:00 pm ETRegister at: topself.com/workshopI&...
How To Know What You Need EP 89
08 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Feeling needy? Do you feel like you're high-maintenance and your constantly asking for things from your partner to make you feel better?It has ...
Why Your Friends Don't Freak Out Like You w/ Jessica DaSilva EP 88
01 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
How we attach in relationships is everything! That's why we talk about it so much on the podcast and this episode is full of attachment style n...
What You're Doing Isn't Working and Here's Why EP 87
24 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you've been feeling like you are not strong enough to conquer this jealousy thing or you just dont have what it takes to change your life arou...
Why Your Relationship Hasn't Changed w/ Abby Haverman EP 86
27 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever been caught in the whirlwind of 'should I or shouldn't I?' when it comes to relationships? This episode takes a deep dive into the...
You Don't Deserve This EP 85
13 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The one thing I hear so much is how ashamed you are about being jealous, it actually even affects the growth of this podcast because you don't sh...
Recognizing Your Patterns Through Body Talk w/ Michelle Brown EP 84
06 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Top Self podcast, I talk with Michelle Brown, a functional nutrition and lifestyle practitioner with a specialty in the biology...
Financial Trust and Transparency w/ Coaches Shana & Vanessa EP 83
30 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, master financial coaches, Shana and Vanessa, who co-host the Financial Coaching for Women podcast, which ranks in the top 1.5% worldw...
From Rock Bottom To Recovery EP 82
09 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you are someone who is a recovering alcoholic or thinking about getting sober, you're in the right place my friend. Addiction is tough and I...
Behind Your Cheating Mind EP 81
02 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today is heavy and you may feel called out a bit and it just might feel uncomfortable. Just like jealousy, this topic may feel shameful too but you ...
Do You Still Love Me EP 80
25 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I am flying solo in today's episode and wanted to discuss just a few takeaways from my last guest Topaz Adizes and our conversation about the que...
Ask Your Partner Better Questions w/ Topaz Adizes EP 79
18 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Feel like your asking the same questions over and over again to your partner? Does it seem like you already know what you want the answer to be? W...
What's Behind Your Jealous Mind w/ Thais Gibson EP 78
11 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This episode includes LIFE CHANGING information from Thais Gibson, that years from now, you're going to remember listening to it and know it was ...
It Makes Perfect Sense You Feel This Way EP 77
04 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I absolutely can't stand it when I hear people say "you have to just get over it". Or especially things like.. you're crazy, or yo...
The Myth Of Positive Thinking w/ Dr. Eddie O'Connor EP 76
28 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.You've been told to "Think Positive" so many times in your life and ...
How To Get What You Need Instead Of Nagging For What You Want w/ Dr. Abby Medcalf EP 75
21 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Every time you catch yourself nagging from here on out, you're going to remember this episode.I have such a FIRE guest today. Dr. Abby Medcalf,...
3 Reasons You’re Not Taking This Step >> BONUS EP 74
14 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The Trust Building Bootcamp is starting soon and if you haven't joined yet, you want to listen to this episode.I had in my head that if there had...
The Most Important Relationship You Can Have w/ Katarina Polonska EP 73
07 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Trigger Warning.... sorta.... Not only is she Oxford trained smart, she's beautiful as well. The talented Katarina Polonska is my guest today a...
Beauty Beyond Skin Deep w/ Dr. Mary Alice Mina EP 72
16 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In a world constantly bombarding us with images of youth and perfection, navigating getting older can sometimes feel quite frankly... sad. Dr. Mary ...
Baby Mama and Ex Drama EP 71
09 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Sizzle, sizzle! This is a hot topic and one I hear a lot of drama around and it makes perfect sense of why the ex or mother of your partner's c...
3 F's to Dressing and Feeling Confident w/ Jessica Papineau EP 70
02 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you remember the last time you got ready to go somewhere, an event, or to work or to church, or just to hang out with your friends and you felt rea...
Overcoming Overthinking And How To Calm Your Anxiety w/ Heather Lillico EP 69
26 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I know you have a million thoughts going on in your head right now so before you click "play" on this episode really commit to listening to ...
Give Yourself A Break And Your Partner Some Space Ep 68
19 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
A couple weeks ago, my guest Dr. Corey Allen dropped 2 mind-shifting, bombs on the podcast and I was worried that maybe you were in anxiety mode with ...
Ok, So You've Got Trust Issues w/ Shannon Sauer-Zavala EP 67
12 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I have a major crush on what today's guest is doing. She is working on a treatment module for trust. Thank goodness for people like clinical ...
When The Hot And Heavy Turns To Just Heavy w/ Dr. Corey Allen EP 66
05 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
As most of us Jealousy Junkies are clinging on to our partners. Marriage and Sex Therapist Dr. Corey Allen says... a couple's problems could b...
Meltdown Metrics: Evaluating the Before, During, and After EP 65
27 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It's so good to be back in the swing of things and to do a solo episode with you. The exercise I share with you in today's episode is one ...
Trust, Communicating, and Couples Therapy w/ Dr. Bruce Chalmer Ep 64
20 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wanted to get inside the mind of a couples therapist and ask questions? Well, in today's episode, I took full advantage of having the grea...
Facing Your Fear of the Unknown and Unpredictable w/ Dr. Jisunny Fisher Ep 63
13 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today I interview bestselling author, psychologist and happiness coach, Dr. Jisunny Fisher about how to face the fear of the unknown and unpredictable...
Why You Feel All Over the Place: Female Physiology w/ Jenny Swisher EP 62
06 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Did you know, a women's body follows infradian rhythm? Well, better late than never on me getting this episode out but this is the final episod...
The #1 Thing Between You and Change EP 61
23 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode I share a recent personal journey that intertwines physical health and emotional wellbeing, using my own 10-day detox diet as ...
How to Stabilize Your Jealousy and Your Blood Sugar Level w/ Dr. Ben Galyardt EP 60
09 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
He's a social media phenomenon and and author of the book "Blood Sugar Doesn't Lie", Dr. Ben Galyardt is my guest today. We shar...
Your Anxious Mood Could be Amplified By Your Food w/ Tina Hong EP 59
02 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Did you know your food can affect your mood? I thought I was just in a bad mood. Turns out, it could be the food I ate. :)Go beyond your typical...
How to Differentiate Fear and Intuition for a Better Life EP 58 [REPLAY]
19 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What if you could decode the mysterious signals your body and mind send you every day? Together with mindset coach, Dr. Ashley Greer, we'll discu...
Why You're Emotionally Dependent on Your Partner and the Relationship EP 57
12 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Your emotions drive your actions, especially in relationships? In our latest episode, we sit down with Martina Booth, a relationship visionary and emo...
The #1 Thing You Need to do to Overcome Extreme Jealousy EP 56
05 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are you tired of being held hostage by jealousy and insecurity? Join me this week as I talk about the #1 thing you need to do to overcome your extreme...
Unraveling Imposter Syndrome and Overcoming Self-Doubt w/ John Mollura EP 55
28 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever felt like a fraud, despite your clear success and achievements? This week I'm joined by a leader of global test operations for NA...
Transforming Fear into an Ally for Growth w/ Adam Hill EP 54
21 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's episode I am joined by Adam Hill. A CEO, triathlete, speaker, and author who generously shares that the opposite of fear is not ...
The Hidden Toll of Jealous Control on Your Relationship EP 53
14 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Ever felt burdened with an overdeveloped sense of responsibility, trying to control your relationships and often leaving you drained? In this episode...
Reframe Your Approach to Anxiety w/ Dr. Martin Seif EP 52
07 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Struggling with intrusive thoughts and anxiety? You're not alone. Join us this week for a great conversation about anxiety and intrusive thoughts...
How Community Can Support Your Jealousy Journey EP 51
31 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever wondered how insidious jealousy can creep into our lives and relationships, causing havoc and distress? This episode opens the door to a...
Celebrating Fifty Episodes (Special Edition) EP 50
24 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Join me on a heartfelt journey as we celebrate not only my birthday but a significant podcasting milestone — our 50th episode! It's a poignant ...
3 Wrong Places You're Looking for Love EP 49
10 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Needing constant reassurance is something very common in those who suffer from relationship jealousy issues and when we don't get it, we start se...
Navigating Life with Strength and Grace w/ Andrew Anderson EP 48
05 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
International #1 best-selling author of "Strength of the Oak, Strength of the Willow", Andrew Anderson shares his approach in navigating lif...
What If You Make The Wrong Decision EP 47
03 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Ever found yourself stuck at crossroads, unable to decide which path to take? The reality is, every day we are faced with decisions - some small, some...
Identity Shifts Through Self-Discovery w/ Nichole Lee EP 46
26 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Self-discovery can happen with just small minor shifts and this week, Nichole Lee, an identity + life transition coach AND holistic practitioner share...
What's Good for the Jealous Goose Should be Good for the Gander Too EP 45
19 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wondered why you don't trust your partner as much as yourself? Curious about the double standards you set in your relationship, often withou...
How to Self Comfort Using Your Inner Masculine Energy w/ Amy Lee Westervelt EP 44
12 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are you ready to reignite the tingly energy of your inner masculine lover? That's precisely what this episode is all about, with our guest, Amy ...
Building True Confidence w/ Dr. Tony Dufresne EP 43
29 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today, we're thrilled to bring you Tony Dufresne, PhD, a voice of wisdom in the arena of women's empowerment and confidence. With his unique...
Being Self-Centered Can Help With Your Jealousy EP 42
22 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you're someone who's insecure, you may be self-centered in a way you haven't thought of before. You may think everything is about ...
How to Stop Wondering About the Past and Worrying About the Future EP 41
08 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
As someone who has personally experienced the crippling effects of anxiety and insecurities, I'm sharing the importance of being present and in t...
Controlling and Judging Without Mercy EP 40
25 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It's time to stop judging without mercy and stop trying to control unpredictable events.Reflecting on the "Adult Children of Alcoholics"...
Why You Stir Sh*t Up In Your Relationship EP 39
18 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you know you might even be controlling when you argue with your partner? I know it may seem hard to believe because your first thought is probabl...
Why You Feel So Out of Control w/ Dr. Catherine Pittman EP 38
11 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
You know when you feel like you can't control your actions? Your in a massive jealous rant and it seems like some one or some thing has taken o...
Overcoming Jealousy with a New Prospective EP 37
04 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes to get out of a rut, you have to shake things up a bit and changing your perspective on the way you think and communicate about your jealous...
Shedding the Shame and Embracing Powerful Emotions w/ Joli Hamilton EP 36
27 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Dr. Joli Hamilton, a relationship coach and research psychologist, known for her expertise in the field of jealousy joins the show today.Her research ...
4 Steps to Change and Transformation EP 35
20 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today's episode is all about change and I have an exciting announcement of changes coming to the podcast for you.In this episode, I talk about ...
Why You Feel The Way You Feel w/ Reneau Peurifoy EP 34
13 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Guest Reneau Peurifoy shares a fascinating look at emotions, exploring their nature and impact on our lives which he has been researching for over the...