Why is it so hard to follow through on the habits we know would make us feel better?In this episode, Beth and Jen explore the surprisingly complex psychology behind everyday habits — from the walk you keep promising yourself you’ll take… to the late-night regret spiral when you realize you didn’t. If you’ve ever told yourself “I’ll start tomorrow,” this conversation will feel very familiar.Instead of talking about discipline or willpower, Beth and Jen dig into something deeper: the habit loop, nervous system regulation, and the role shame plays in keeping us stuck.You’ll learn why your brain often chooses predictable discomfort over uncertain change — and why habits are often not failures, but strategies your nervous system created to protect you.This episode is the first in a two-part conversation about how habits form and why change can feel so difficult, especially when self-criticism enters the mix.If you’ve ever struggled with motivation, self-talk, or the pressure to “do better,” you’re not alone — and there may be a gentler way forward.In This EpisodeWhy habits are not moral failuresThe habit loop: discomfort → relief → repetitionHow the nervous system chooses safety over changeWhy shame actually reinforces unhealthy habitsThe surprising role of triggers and comparisonWhy starting something new feels emotionally riskyThe difference between self-compassion and enablingA powerful question: What is this habit serving?Listener ReflectionAsk yourself:What’s your version of “the walk that never happens”?What habit do you keep promising yourself you'll start tomorrow?How do you talk to yourself when you don’t follow through?Awareness is the first step toward change.Coming NextThis is Part 1 of a two-episode conversation.In the next episode, Beth and Jen explore how real habit change actually happens — not through force or shame, but through nervous system safety and small shifts that stick.Connect With Us🎙 https://two-in-the-closet-podcast.kit.com/1b29e00b66Follow the podcast and share this episode with a friend who’s ever said, “I’ll start tomorrow.”If you appreciate our efforts and want to show your appreciation, you can "buy us a coffee" here: https://buymeacoffee.com/bethodell

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