What if the relationship you thought was love was actually anxiety, attachment, or an old wound being triggered?This week on Unlocked, I’m joined by relationship expert Sabrina Bendory for a conversation that honestly made me look at relationships in a completely different way. We talk about trauma bonds, why we can become addicted to the chaos of a relationship, and why the calm, healthy person can sometimes feel boring when dysfunction is what we’re used to.Sabrina opens up about her own toxic relationship and how it shaped the work she has spent more than 17 years studying. We get into choosing someone versus being chosen, knowing your standards, being needed versus being valued, and why you can’t love someone into becoming the person you want them to be.We also talk about how our childhood can shape what we believe love is supposed to feel like, why we sometimes repeat the same relationship patterns over and over, and how to finally start rewiring those patterns.And because I know so many of you are in a season of wondering when it’s finally going to be your turn, Sabrina leaves us with a reminder we could all use: you did not come this far to only come this far.Thank you to our sponsors for supporting our show!- SmileSet: Listeners of our show get an additional 35% discount when they go to https://www.smileset.com/unlocked! With this discount, you can get the smile of your dreams for under 12 hundred bucks!- Rula: Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Head to https://www.rula.com/ to find a therapist the easy way.- Progressive: Join the over 28 million drivers who trust Progressive. Visit us at https://www.progressive.com! Thank you to Progressive for sponsoring the show! (Restrictions apply. Not available in all states and situations.)- GoodGirlRX: Visit https://www.goodgirlrx.com and use code UNLOCKED15 to get 15% OFF at checkout!LET'S BE SOCIAL:Follow Savannah Chrisley:Insta: (https://www.instagram.com/SavannahChrisley)TikTok: (https://www.tiktok.com/@SavannahChrisley)X: (https://www.x.com/_itssavannah_)Follow Sabrina Bendory:Insta: (https://www.instagram.com/sabrinabendory/)TikTok: (https://www.tiktok.com/@sabrinabendory)Website: (https://www.sabrinabendory.com/)Get one of Sabrina's books today! (https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B0184LOZ34?ccs_id=4dab40f4-725a-4f9b-ae54-22f3a4f02376)Follow The Unlocked Podcast:Insta: (https://www.instagram.com/UnlockedWithSavannah)TikTok: (https://www.tiktok.com/@UnlockedWithSav)See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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