Breakups are a part of life. Even if it’s not a romantic breakup, friendships end, family connections change over time. There’s simply no escaping the grief that comes from the loss of a relationship.But why does that loss devastate some people more than others? Why are some of us gutted and barely able to function while others seem hardly impacted? In my first episode of We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy, I explain why we’re neurologically predisposed to feel immense pain when we lose a loved one. And how our unique attachment style, coupled with the type of breakup we have, dictates the level of pain and devastation we experience. My guest today suffered the trifecta of breakups.And I chose her as my first guest because I experienced her breakup with her. She is not a client. She is my niece, Ashtyn Tardif. Whether you’ve wondered if something was wrong with you for feeling traumatized by a breakup — or you know someone who’s felt that way — this episode is for you.Frankly, I think it should be required listening.I hope by the end you understand that regardless of how wounded a breakup has left you, you are not alone.REFERENCESJournal of Couple & Relationship TherapyInnovations in Clinical and Educational InterventionsVolume 21, 2022 - Issue 2CriminologyBREAKING UP IS HARD TO DO: ROMANTIC DISSOLUTION, OFFENDING, AND SUBSTANCE USE DURING THE TRANSITION TO ADULTHOOD*MATTHEW LARSON, GARY SWEETENFirst published: 30 March 2012BRAIN IMAGING AND BEHAVIORBrain regions associated with psychological pain: implications for a neural network and its relationship to physical painEsther L. Meerwijk, Judith M. Ford & Sandra J. Weiss Brain Imaging and Behavior volume 7, pages 1–14 (2013).CREDITSThis episode of “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” was produced by Darcy Sterling, Glen Freyer and Vicki Vergolina. Editing by Darcy Sterling, Bart Migal and Stephanie Sterling. Our theme music is by Bart Migal and Amanda Droste.Special thanks to Emma Budakçı, Emma Martens and Amanda Cristiani. “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. #Breakups #RomanticBreakups #TraumaticBreakups #Dating #Relationships #HeyGirl #WeNeedToTalkWithDrDarcy #WeNeedToTalk #Therapy #CouplesCounseling #CouplesTherapy #AttachmentStyle #AttachmentStyles #AttachmentTheory #DrDarcySterling #DoctorDarcySterling #DrDarcyInstagram:@drdarcysterling Facebook:Dr.Darcy SterlingTik Tok:@doctordarcysterling Twitter:@DrDarcySterling YouTube:@DarcySterling Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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